The Adult Chair Podcast with Michelle Chalfant

Anxiety, ruminating thoughts, stress and negative impulses can make us feel like we are imploding! When we implode, it feels like our world is collapsing and we have no way out. In today's show, I help you find your way out of imploding and even stop yourself before you collapse with 10 easy tips. The great news is that it only takes minutes to change your emotional state with these, and you don't even have to do all of them to feel better!

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We are born with a divine connection and guidance system. This part of us is the spiritual aspect of who we are, the part of us that is wise, all-knowing and always connected with us, that is always guiding us and illuminating our life path. We have the ability to connect with this part and deepen the connection. Let us now awaken and connect to this divine part: the higher self. Enjoy the journey.

People change and relationships end. This can be such a painful time but also a time of great change, perhaps positive change. In the episode today, I talk with you about how we can go through the ending of relationships in a new way, a conscious way, from our Adult Chair. Sitting here can change how you navigate the end. In today's show, I offer 6 "Truths" for relationships and how and why they may be ending. It may offer some new insights about relationships and change how you feel about things being over.

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We use statements like, "I'm so in the flow today, everything fell perfectly into place." We also hear, "I was so out of the flow today, it was the worst day." Does this "flow state" randomly happen to us or can we choose it? I believe we can access this state and ride it like a wave! In today's show, I explain how we do this, with a 4-step process to access and harness your own flow state.

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"How do I find my way out?"

What are you in? That doesn't matter! If you're in a situation that is painful, scaring you, causing you discomfort, no matter of external advice is going to help you get yourself out of it. To dig out, you have to go inside, to find the parts of you that that you don't understand that keep you locked into a cycle of pain, that prevent you from finding clarity, from freeing yourself from the ego of your Adolescent Chair!

I've had so many people come to me stuck in struggle and pain lately so on today's show I have four tools to offer that will help you on the road back to peace and into your Adult Chair!

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I could not be more excited about today's show! Dr. Dan Siegel joins me to talk about his new book Aware, and the work he's been doing that can radically accelerate our journey toward learning to live in the present moment. This is an amazing partner to all the work each and every one of you are doing to learn to live in your Adult Chair — I know you're simply going to love this!

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About Dr. Dan Siegel

Dr. Siegel is a clinical professor of psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine and the founding co-director of the Mindful Awareness Research Center at UCLA. He is also the Executive Director of the Mindsight Institute which focuses on the development of mindsight, which teaches insight, empathy, and integration in individuals, families and communities. Dr. Siegel has published extensively for both the professional and lay audiences. His four New York Times bestsellers are: Mind: A Journey to the Heart of Being Human, Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain, with Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D: The Whole-Brain Child, No-Drama Discipline, and the upcoming The Yes Brain (2018). His other books include: The Developing Mind (2nd Ed.), Mindsight, The Mindful Brain, and The Mindful Therapist. Dr. Siegel also serves as the Founding Editor for the Norton Professional Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology which contains over fifty textbooks.

We're back! I'm thrilled to be back to the podcast after our summer break, a break that's been filled with much emotion for me personally. I share that experience with my friend Karen Campion on the show this week as we talk about the true power of letting go to move forward. Karen is wonderful and I'm sure her insights will resonate with you, just as they do with me!

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Unfortunately, we all experience shame at some point in our lives, some of us more than others. In this guided meditation exercise, you will be guided through a process from the Adult Chair model that releases and transforms shame.

How do I live authentically?

If you find yourself asking that question, you're not alone. I hear this from clients practically daily, each feeling a connection with the concept, knowing they're disconnected from their true, authentic selves, but at the same time struggling to move into that place of living their own lives authentically. To help us answer this question and better understand the practice of living authentically, Sandra Rojo is with us to share her expertise. Sandra is founder of Journey to Authentic living and her practice is dedicated to helping others find their authenticity through her practice in the healing and therapeutic arts.

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About Sandra Rojo

Sandra Rojo is the Founder and President of Journey to Authentic living (JTAL). JTAL is a Coaching, Training and Consulting Company.

Sandra has more than 15 years of hands-on experience working with clients to achieve positive lifestyle and behavioral changes. Sandra lived in Northern Italy for many years where she served as a teacher, interpreter, and coach for young women.

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Pain can feel heavy, like a dark cloud that won't go away. We often times don't realize that we are carrying our pain with us from the past, in hopes that something or someone will make it magically go away. Today, Rea Wright and I offer 5 ideas for relieving the darkness of pain and living a lighter more peaceful life.

Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at audibletrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: Molecules of Emotion: Why You Feel the Way You Feel by Candace B. Pert!