The Art of Pre-Selling

What if being a great mom wasn't about giving everything, but about finally giving some of that love back to yourself?

In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I'm getting real about mom guilt—especially how it shows up after divorce. I share why guilt runs so deep for single moms, how we've been conditioned to believe that being selfless is the gold standard, and why overcompensating for your ex, your choices, or your kids' emotions isn't making you a better mom—it's burning you out.

Resources Mentioned:

• Sign up for ReNewU waitlist to get early access: https://products.ambershaw.com/signature-waitlist

• Nail Your Niche: https://ambershaw.samcart.com/products/nail-your-niche

What I Discuss:

• The unspoken pressure moms feel and why mom guilt hits harder post-divorce

• The cultural messaging that tells moms to be selfless at all costs

• Overcompensating for divorce, deadbeat exes, or emotional fear

• What your kids actually need (hint: it's not a martyr)

• Redefining what being a good mom really looks like

• Small ways to reclaim space, rest, and joy

• Why you need community

Key Takeaways:

"Your kids don't need a martyr—they need a mom who's alive in her own life." – Amber Shaw

"You don't have to prove your love by losing yourself." – Amber Shaw

"Being a good mom doesn't mean giving everything—it means giving from a place that's not empty." – Amber Shaw

Find more from Amber:

Instagram: @msambershaw

Website: ambershaw.com

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@msambershaw

What if the key to not repeating the past isn't finding the perfect partner but healing the patterns that led you to them in the first place?

In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I'm joined by Dr. Becky Whetstone, a licensed marriage and family therapist and author of I Think I Want Out: What to Do When One of You Wants to End Your Marriage. We talk about what no one tells you about remarriage, why the divorce rate for second marriages is over 75%, and the subconscious patterns that make us attract partners who reinforce our unhealed wounds.

If you've been divorced and you want to do it differently next time, this episode is for you.

Resources Mentioned:

• I (think) I want Out: https://marriagecrisismanager.com/i-think-i-want-out/

• Sign up for ReNewU waitlist to get early access: https://products.ambershaw.com/signature-waitlist

• Nail Your Niche: https://ambershaw.samcart.com/products/nail-your-niche

• Cured Nutrition use code AMBER for 15% off: https://www.curednutrition.com/

What I/We Discuss:

• Dr. Becky's background and the 75% second divorce rate

• Childhood trauma, emotional immaturity, and subconscious patterns

• Why we attract partners who reinforce our old wounds

• Boundaries, love languages, and the martyr mom trap

• Self-responsibility vs. self-blame after divorce

• The five stages of marital deterioration

• The power of preventative therapy in healthy relationships

• Triggers, abandonment wounds, and the power of awareness

• Blended family dynamics and the hidden emotional costs on kids

• Step-parenting, discipline, and parenting style clashes

Key Takeaways:

"You don't attract what you want—you attract what you are." – Dr. Becky Whetstone

"Most people don't need a new partner. They need a new level of emotional maturity." – Dr. Becky Whetstone

"If you don't heal the wound, you'll keep choosing people who trigger it." – Dr. Becky Whetstone

Find more from Dr. Becky Whetstone:

Website: https://marriagecrisismanager.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/relationshipcrisismanager/

X: https://x.com/DoctorBecky

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctorbecky/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/becky-whetstone-ph-d-33866211/

Medium: https://medium.com/@doctorbecky

Find more from Amber:

Instagram: @msambershaw

Website: ambershaw.com

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@msambershaw

What if this summer didn't have to feel like a logistical nightmare but a chance to reset?

In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I'm sharing the practical tips and mindset shifts that have helped me survive (and actually enjoy) summer break as a co-parenting single mom. From shared calendars and go-bags to loose meal plans and low-effort activities, I walk you through how to make this summer smoother for both you and your kids—even if the schedule feels chaotic or communication with your ex is less than ideal. If you've been feeling that summer dread creeping in, this episode is for you.

Resources Mentioned:

• Sign up for ReNewU waitlist to get early access: https://products.ambershaw.com/signature-waitlist

• Nail Your Niche: https://ambershaw.samcart.com/products/nail-your-niche

What I Discuss:

• Shared calendars, flexible parenting plans, and getting organized

• Low-effort activities and planning for boredom

• Why you matter this summer too

• Mindset shifts for single moms navigating summer break

• How to create pockets of rest and joy

• Why solo time, date nights, and meal planning are essential

Key Takeaways:

"Summer doesn't have to be a sprint. You're allowed to slow down." – Amber Shaw

"Your peace matters just as much as your kids' fun." – Amber Shaw

"You don't need to entertain your kids 24/7. You need to protect your energy." – Amber Shaw

Find more from Amber:

Instagram: @msambershaw

Website: ambershaw.com

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@msambershaw

What if the reason you keep attracting the same pain is because you're still living from the same old lie?

Today in The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I'm joined by Karen Bartholomew, life coach and creator of the Pause Method. Karen opens up about her personal journey through divorce, infidelity, and deep healing and how she transformed her life by unraveling the subconscious programming that told her she didn't matter. We talk about how these invisible beliefs get wired in childhood and show up in relationships, boundaries, emotional triggers, and even your ability to take care of yourself.

If you've been repeating the same relationship patterns, questioning your boundaries, or feeling disconnected from yourself, then this episode is for you.

Resources Mentioned:

• Sign up for ReNewU waitlist to get early access: https://products.ambershaw.com/signature-waitlist

• Nail Your Niche: https://ambershaw.samcart.com/products/nail-your-niche

• Cured Nutrition use code AMBER for 15% off: https://www.curednutrition.com/

What We Discuss:

• Karen's personal story and how the Pause Method began

• Why women stay stuck in patterns that feel familiar but hurtful

• Subconscious programming, emotional triggers, and what keeps us from healing

• How to start taking small daily pauses to check in with yourself

• Boundaries, resentment, and how to shift the relationship with your ex

• Why childhood beliefs shape your adult relationships

• The role of intuition, forgiveness, and feminine healing post-divorce

• How to model healing for your children and break generational patterns

Key Takeaways:

"If you don't pause, your pain will run the show." – Karen Bartholomew

"Most of us aren't living from truth—we're living from old programming." – Karen Bartholomew

"You can't change the pattern until you see the pattern." – Karen Bartholomew

Find more from Karen Bartholomew:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karenbartholomew

Stan Store: https://stan.store/karenbartholomew

Find more from Amber:

Instagram: @msambershaw

Website: ambershaw.com

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@msambershaw

What if you could be a great co-parent without pretending to be friends?

In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I break down one of the biggest misconceptions about healthy co-parenting: the idea that you have to be friends with your ex. Spoiler: you don't. In fact, forcing a friendship that doesn't feel safe or authentic can leave you exhausted, resentful, and second-guessing your boundaries.

I share what healthy co-parenting actually looks like (hint: it's not curated for Instagram), how to define your role without compromising yourself, and why emotional neutrality is the real gold standard—not forced closeness.

Resources Mentioned:

• Sign up for ReNewU waitlist to get early access: https://products.ambershaw.com/signature-waitlist

• Nail Your Niche: https://ambershaw.samcart.com/products/nail-your-niche

What I Discuss:

• Do you actually need to be friends with your ex?

• The pressure to perform peace and the rise of curated co-parenting

• Why friendship is optional (and functional is enough)

• What social media doesn't show you about co-parenting dynamics

• How to define success as a co-parent without overextending yourself

• Boundaries, guilt, and knowing when you're doing too much

• Why emotional neutrality, not closeness, is the goal in co-parenting

Key Takeaways:

"You don't have to be friends with your ex to be a great co-parent." – Amber Shaw

"Emotional neutrality is the goal—not forced closeness." – Amber Shaw

"Just because it looks peaceful on Instagram doesn't mean it's healthy in real life." – Amber Shaw

Find more from Amber:

Instagram: @msambershaw

Website: ambershaw.com

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@msambershaw

What if success isn't what makes you powerful but the freedom to finally feel satisfied?

In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I'm joined by Alanna Kaivalya, Ph.D., spiritual teacher and author of The Way of the Satisfied Woman: Reclaiming Feminine Power.

Alanna shares her perspective on why today's women are burned out, emotionally depleted, and carrying an invisible weight of expectations. We talk about the lies women are sold in marriage, motherhood, and the workplace and how to begin untangling from them so you can live on your terms. This episode is a must-listen for any woman ready to soften, heal, and reclaim her power.

Resources Mentioned:

• Alanna's book: https://www.thesatisfiedwoman.com/book

• Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Alanna-Kaivalya/author/B00GU54W3A?ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_8&qid=1730677121&sr=1-8&isDramIntegrated=true&shoppingPortalEnabled=true

• Alanna's Starter Kit: https://www.thesatisfiedwoman.com/empowerme

• Sign up for ReNewU waitlist to get early access: https://products.ambershaw.com/signature-waitlist

• Cured Nutrition use code AMBER for 15% off: https://www.curednutrition.com/

What We Discuss:

• Alanna's story and why her message is so timely for divorced moms

• The number one myth women are sold in marriage

• What patriarchy gets wrong about feminine energy

• Why the supermom narrative is destroying women's health

• Navigating masculine vs. feminine energy after divorce

• Redefining success through the lens of satisfaction

• How to tell if you're operating from the masculine

• Practical ways to reconnect with your feminine energy

• Boundaries, self-care, and the power of saying "no"

Key Takeaways:

"We've been taught to man up to survive, but our real strength is in softening." – Alanna Kaivalya

"Saying no is one of the most radical things a woman can do." – Alanna Kaivalya

Find more from Alanna Kaivalya:

Website: https://www.thesatisfiedwoman.com/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheSatisfiedWoman

Blog: https://www.thesatisfiedwoman.com/blog

Podcast: https://www.thesatisfiedwoman.com/podcasts/the-satisfied-woman

Find more from Amber:

Instagram: @msambershaw

Website: ambershaw.com

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@msambershaw

What if Mother's Day didn't feel like a celebration but something you had to emotionally prepare for?

In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I get real about what it's like to navigate Mother's Day as a divorced mom. Whether you're not with your kids this year, not being celebrated the way you used to be, or just feeling off, this one's for you.

I talk about the identity shifts, the unmet expectations, and the quiet grief that can creep in on a day that's supposed to be joyful. I also share tangible ways to take your power back. From starting new traditions to planning solo time to asking for what you need (instead of waiting to be recognized), this episode is your reminder that you deserve to be celebrated even if you're the one doing the celebrating.

Resources Mentioned:

• Sign up for ReNewU waitlist to get early access: https://products.ambershaw.com/signature-waitlist

• Nail Your Niche: https://ambershaw.samcart.com/products/nail-your-niche

What I Discuss:

• Why Mother's Day can feel complicated after divorce

• Identity shifts, loneliness, and grieving what used to be

• When you're not with your kids and it feels heavy

• Why you're allowed to want acknowledgment (and how to ask for it)

• Planning something for yourself—even if it's small

• Reclaiming the day and redefining celebration

Key Takeaways:

"You deserve to be celebrated even if you're the one doing the celebrating." – Amber Shaw

"Mother's Day can be beautiful and complicated at the same time." – Amber Shaw

"You're allowed to ask for what you need. You don't have to wait to be recognized." – Amber Shaw

Find more from Amber:

Instagram: @msambershaw

Website: ambershaw.com

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@msambershaw

What if the parenting plan you're handed is the very thing that's keeping you stuck?

In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I'm joined by Samantha Boss, high-conflict divorce coach, mediator, and founder of The Ugly Truth of Divorce. Samantha shares how her own eight-year legal battle, toxic co-parenting dynamic, and expensive missteps led her to create a business helping women avoid the same fate. From diapers to diplomas, she now helps moms draft rock-solid parenting plans that reduce stress, prevent courtroom chaos, and give them their power back.

Resources Mentioned:

• Sign up for ReNewU waitlist to get early access: https://products.ambershaw.com/signature-waitlist

• Nail Your Niche: https://ambershaw.samcart.com/products/nail-your-niche

• Higher Infrared Sauna Blanket use code AMBER 15: https://higherdose.com/products/infrared-sauna-blanket

What We Discuss:

• Red flags, parallel parenting, and recognizing high-conflict dynamics

• Radical acceptance and letting go of courtroom warfare

• Why parenting plans should be created before hiring an attorney

• What every plan should include (but usually doesn't)

• Getting the most value out of your attorney relationship

• Financial inequality, extracurriculars, and when to go back to court

• When to let go of toxic money and create your own abundance

• How starting her business changed her life (and income)

• Using your story to build something that matters

• Why pivoting is normal and necessary

Key Takeaways:

"Your parenting plan is a business contract. It's not about feelings, it's about clarity." – Samantha Boss

"The courtroom is not the place to heal your emotional wounds." – Samantha Boss

"You don't have to win in court to win in life after divorce." – Samantha Boss

Find more from Samantha Boss:

Website: www.samanthaboss.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theuglytruthofdivorce/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theuglytruthofdivorce

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TUTODwithsamboss

Find more from Amber:

Instagram: @msambershaw

Website: ambershaw.com

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@msambershaw

What if the time you spend alone could be the thing that changes everything?

In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I share why every divorced mom needs a solo trip—not just as a luxury, but as a radical act of self-healing and personal power. I open up about my own post-divorce journey from emotional dependence and overdoing to discovering the peace, strength, and confidence that came from intentionally choosing to be alone.

Resources Mentioned:

• Sign up for ReNewU waitlist to get early access: https://products.ambershaw.com/signature-waitlist

• Nail Your Niche: https://ambershaw.samcart.com/products/nail-your-niche

What I Discuss:

• Why I stayed at my ex-husband's beach house for my solo trip

• My post-divorce struggle with being alone

• How emotional dependence and numbing showed up in my life

• Learning to love being alone and setting new dating standards

• The magic of solo vacations: freedom, presence, and total reset

• Why moms say they "can't leave the kids" (and what's really behind that)

• Tips for planning a stress-free solo getaway

• What to do when you're there: rest, reflect, talk to strangers, unplug

Key Takeaways:

"Being alone wasn't the hard part—facing myself was."

"Solo travel wasn't selfish. It was the most healing thing I've ever done."

"You don't need permission to rest. You just need to choose yourself."

Find more from Amber:

Instagram: @msambershaw

Website: ambershaw.com

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@msambershaw

What if your divorce was never meant to break you but to build the version of you that you were always meant to become?

Today, I'm joined by Rochelle Moffitt, founder of the Tickled Pink Agency, who shares her story of going from a stay-at-home mom with no income to building a thriving, soul-led personal branding agency. We talk about what it really takes to start your own business after divorce, especially when you're starting from scratch, facing financial stress, and second-guessing whether you have what it takes.

If you're wondering how to build something of your own while raising kids, navigating co-parenting, or juggling all the things, this episode is for you.

Resources Mentioned:

• Join my signature coaching program, ReNewU, for divorced moms who want to create an online coaching business and make $2,000 - $5,000 per month (even if you have no idea where to start!): https://products.ambershaw.com/renewu

What We Discuss:

• Starting messy, ditching perfection, and choosing speed

• Turning dyslexia into a business superpower

• How Rochelle built a business around motherhood and flexibility

• Simple branding tips for early-stage entrepreneurs

• Why done is better than perfect (especially when you're a new entrepreneur)

• How to balance business with being a single mom

• Rochelle's secret to managing time and avoiding burnout

• The mindset shift from business owner to CEO

• SOPs, delegation, and getting out of your own way

• Revenue streams, retainer clients, and real money talk

• Why mentorship and community are non-negotiable

Key Takeaways:

"I didn't have a choice. I had to figure it out—and fast." – Rochelle Moffitt

"Perfection was never the goal. Momentum was." – Rochelle Moffitt

"Your story is the brand. The business grows from there." – Rochelle Moffitt

Find more from Rochelle Moffitt:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rochellemoffitt/

Website: tickledpink.agency

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rochelle.was.here/

Find more from Amber:

Instagram: @msambershaw

Website: ambershaw.com

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@msambershaw