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Staring at your tax forms with dread after divorce?

In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I break down the tax implications of divorce that no one warns you about. I explain how your filing status changes immediately after your divorce is finalized, who gets to claim the kids on taxes, and the different tax treatments for alimony and child support. I also share some hidden costs of divorce you might not be thinking about, including potential tax penalties on splitting assets like retirement accounts and capital gains taxes on selling your marital home.

As someone who's been through this myself, I understand how overwhelming financial stability can feel post-divorce, which is why I'm giving you practical advice on how to stay ahead of the game—from hiring your own CPA (especially if your ex handled the taxes before) to adjusting your withholdings to avoid surprises next year.

Resources Mentioned:

• TurboTax

• Qualified Domestic Relations Order (QDRO) for retirement account transfers

• Sign up for ReNewU waitlist to get early access: https://products.ambershaw.com/signature-waitlist

• Nail Your Niche: https://ambershaw.samcart.com/products/nail-your-niche

What I Discuss:

• How your filing status changes after divorce (single vs. head of household)

• Tax implications for claiming children as dependents

• Alimony and child support tax considerations

• Hidden tax costs: retirement accounts, home sales, and capital gains

• Why your tax refund might shrink (or disappear) after divorce

• Practical steps to prepare for your first post-divorce tax season

Key Takeaways:

"If your ex was handling all of the taxes before, please get a CPA and have them review everything."

"Remember divorce isn't the end. It's your fucking launch pad, girl."

Find more from Amber:

Instagram: @msambershaw

Website: ambershaw.com

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@msambershaw

Feeling totally invisible in your marriage, even though divorce was the last thing you wanted?

In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I chat with Gina Conover, a coach who helps women heal from divorces they never saw coming after years of feeling unseen in their marriages. We dig into that painful mind-twist many women face—feeling like a ghost in their own relationship while still desperately wanting to make it work. Gina breaks down her concept of "the orbiting effect," where we end up circling our partners like satellites, losing ourselves completely in a desperate attempt to be noticed.

Gina shares some game-changing strategies for breaking free, including a simple technique to flip those obsessive questions into statements that actually help you process emotions (instead of spinning in circles). We talk about rebuilding trust in yourself, how to know when you're actually ready to date again (hint: being okay alone is key!), and creating a healthy co-parenting situation—even with someone who made you feel invisible for years.

Resources Mentioned:

• Sign up for ReNewU waitlist to get early access: https://products.ambershaw.com/signature-waitlist

• Nail Your Niche: https://ambershaw.samcart.com/products/nail-your-niche

• Higher Infrared Sauna Blanket use code AMBER 15: https://higherdose.com/products/infrared-sauna-blanket

What We Discuss:

• Why women struggle to let go of painful marriages

• Understanding "the orbiting effect" and how it keeps you stuck

• The emotional toll of invisibility in a relationship

• How anxious attachment manifests after divorce

• Rebuilding trust in yourself and learning to be okay alone

• Navigating co-parenting while still healing

Key Takeaways:

"If I need them to step in and make me feel okay versus I'm okay on my own and I want to share my life with someone."

"It's okay that it's hard. It's okay that you're hurting. It's okay that you're heartbroken and feel betrayed."

Find more from Gina Conover:

Website: confidentlydivorced.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/confidently_divorced/

Find more from Amber:

Instagram: @msambershaw

Website: ambershaw.com

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@msambershaw

Feeling overwhelmed by emotional and physical clutter after your divorce?

In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I break down how to use the spring season as a catalyst for renewal in your post-divorce life. I share my proven two-step approach to spring cleaning both your mental and physical spaces, starting with clearing emotional clutter through a simple brain dump exercise that helps you separate fact from fiction in your thought patterns. I then explore how to reclaim your physical space through intentional changes—from redoing entire rooms to simple updates like changing bedsheets and pillows that can transform how you feel in your home.

Resources Mentioned:

• Sign up for ReNewU waitlist to get early access: https://products.ambershaw.com/signature-waitlist

• Nail Your Niche: https://ambershaw.samcart.com/products/nail-your-niche

What I Discuss:

• How to identify and reframe limiting thoughts that keep you up at night

• Why decluttering unexpected spaces can be surprisingly therapeutic

• Budget-friendly ways to make your space feel like yours again

• The power of putting away sentimental items until you're ready to address them

• Setting up a manageable decluttering schedule

Key Takeaways:

"Sometimes the biggest transformations really just start with opening up one door, opening up one cabinet, or moving one picture frame."

"You get to choose what you keep and what you leave behind."

Find more from Amber:

Instagram: @msambershaw

Website: ambershaw.com

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@msambershaw

Curious about finding empowerment after a major life change (a.k.a. divorce)?

In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I sit down with Julia Haart, fashion entrepreneur and star of Netflix's "My Unorthodox Life." Julia shares her incredible journey from leaving her ultra-orthodox religious community to becoming a powerhouse in the fashion industry and now as the founder of BODY by Julia Haart. We dive deep into confidence, spirituality after divorce, and her innovative approach to women's fashion that prioritizes both comfort and beauty.

Resources Mentioned:

• BODY by Julia Haart: https://www.instagram.com/bodybyjuliahaart/

• Brazen by Julia Haart: https://brazenbook.com/

• My Unorthodox Life: https://www.netflix.com/title/81175724

• Save your seat for the 1K Blueprint Workshop: https://ambershaw.samcart.com/products/1k-blueprint-workshop

• Sign up for ReNewU waitlist to get early access: https://products.ambershaw.com/signature-waitlist

• Higher Infrared Sauna Blanket use code AMBER15: https://higherdose.com/products/infrared-sauna-blanket

What We Discuss:

• The surprising definition of confidence that changed Julia Haart's life

• How spirituality became Julia's lifeline after divorce

• The manifesting mistake most women make without realizing it

• Why your shapewear shouldn't make you cringe when undressing

• Creating a family business that thrives through crisis

• The simple first step to breaking free from feeling trapped

Key Takeaways:

"If something doesn't make sense to you, it's probably because it's senseless and it needs to be changed."

"Confidence is faith in yourself."

Find more from Julia Haart:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/juliahaart/

Find more from Amber:

Instagram: @msambershaw

Website: ambershaw.com

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@msambershaw

Feeling lost about what to post (or not post!) on social media after your divorce?

In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I break down how to navigate social media after divorce, whether you're just keeping friends updated or building a coaching business from your experience. I share my real-talk guidelines for what's cool to share and what's probably better kept private, with practical advice for finding your authentic voice while protecting yourself, your kids, and your co-parenting relationship with your ex.

Resources Mentioned:

• Save your seat for the 1K Blueprint Workshop: https://ambershaw.samcart.com/products/1k-blueprint-workshop

• Sign up for ReNewU waitlist to get early access: https://products.ambershaw.com/signature-waitlist

What I Discuss:

• The importance of being intentional with what you share on social media

• Why focusing on personal growth rather than "dirty laundry" creates better connections

• The 24-hour rule for emotionally charged posts

• The "trigger test" to avoid posting from anger

• Three action steps for sharing your divorce story

• How to transform negative narratives into growth-focused content

Key Takeaways:

"You're the CEO of your damn life. You can share whatever you want to share."

"Share scars, not wounds."

"Your story is powerful, but so are your boundaries."

Find more from Amber:

Instagram: @msambershaw

Website: ambershaw.com

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@msambershaw

Are you ready to rebuild your relationship with food post-divorce?

In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I sit down with Phoebe Lapine, author of "Carbivore," to talk about something many of us struggle with after divorce: making peace with food and our bodies during major life transitions.

As the queen of "healthy hedonism," Phoebe explains why traditional diet rules (like avoiding all carbs) might be doing more harm than good, especially during high-stress periods like divorce. She shares practical strategies for rebuilding a healthy relationship with food, from understanding blood sugar and stress hormones to simple food pairings that can help you feel more energized and balanced. Plus, she offers specific advice for women in midlife dealing with hormonal changes and digestive issues that often surface during major life transitions.

Resources Mentioned:

• Save your seat for the 1K Blueprint Workshop: https://ambershaw.samcart.com/products/1k-blueprint-workshop

• Cured Nutrition use code AMBER for 15% off: https://www.curednutrition.com/

• Carbivore Cookbook by Phoebe Lapine: https://www.carbivorecookbook.com/

• The Wellness Project: https://www.thewellnessproject.com/

• Phoebe's recipes and resources: https://feedmephoebe.com/

What We Discuss:

• The truth about Italian pasta and why it's different from American versions

• Understanding slow carbs versus low carbs

• Why fiber is your friend and how it affects blood sugar

• The relationship between stress, hormones, and carbohydrates

• The problem with intermittent fasting for women

• How to reintroduce carbs when dealing with digestive issues

Key Takeaways:

"It's more important how you eat certain things than what you eat."

"You can't make healthier choices until you know what choices are healthy for you."

"The strategies that stick are the ones we genuinely enjoy."

Find more from Phoebe Lapine:

Website: https://phoebelapine.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/phoebelapine/

Find more from Amber:

Instagram: @msambershaw

Website: ambershaw.com

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@msambershaw

Are you tired of posting on social media without seeing real growth for your coaching business?

In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I break down the three biggest mistakes that keep coaches stuck when trying to grow their social media presence. From lacking clarity about your offer to posting without a strategic plan, I share exactly what's holding you back from turning followers into paying clients.

Resources Mentioned:

• Save your seat for the 1K Blueprint Workshop: https://ambershaw.samcart.com/products/1k-blueprint-workshop

What I Discuss:

• The three key questions every coach must answer for their business

• Why being "cutesy" with your messaging is hurting your growth

• The three things your content must do to be effective

• How to turn followers into clients through relationship building

• The importance of strategic content planning

• Why solutions alone won't sell your services

Key Takeaways:

"Social media is not a business—it's a tool to get leads."

"People don't buy based on solutions, they buy based on connection."

Find more from Amber:

Instagram: @msambershaw

Website: ambershaw.com

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@msambershaw

Are you letting fear keep you from taking control of your financial future?

In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, financial expert Phil Weiss from Apprise Wealth Management shares how divorced women can take charge of their financial independence. From understanding basic money management to navigating retirement planning, Phil shares practical strategies that can help you feel more confident about your financial future, even if you're starting from scratch.

Inspired by his personal story of helping his mother through financial hardship, Phil explains why traditional financial planning often falls short and introduces the concept of life planning—a holistic approach that aligns your money with your values and life goals. He breaks down complex topics like stock market investing, retirement accounts, and tax planning into digestible steps that anyone can understand and implement.

Resources Mentioned:

• Join The Divorce Revolution Podcast rebrand giveaway: bit.ly/tdrrebrandgiveaway

• Save your seat for the 1K Blueprint Workshop: https://ambershaw.samcart.com/products/1k-blueprint-workshop

• The Psychology of Money by Morgan Housel: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/41881472-the-psychology-of-money

• Financial assessment tool: https://apprisewealth.com/assessment/

• Cured Nutrition use code AMBER for 15% off: https://www.curednutrition.com/

What We Discuss:

• Understanding the basics of financial planning post-divorce

• The 50/30/20 rule for budgeting and saving

• Smart strategies for retirement planning

• The difference between traditional financial planning and life planning

• Critical steps for protecting your assets after divorce

• Common mistakes women make with money and how to avoid them

Key Takeaways:

"Pay yourself first; set up automatic savings so you never see the money hit your checking account."

"It's never too late to start saving for retirement, but it's also never too early."

"Make sure you update beneficiary designations after divorce—they override anything in your will."

Find more from Phil Weiss:

Website: https://apprisewealth.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philip-weiss

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AppriseWealth/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/phweiss11/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCdxgFt2cD1r5WP0-Y6LqMDg

Find more from Amber:

Instagram: @msambershaw

Website: ambershaw.com

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@msambershaw

Amber Show Notes

Ready to turn your divorce into your comeback story?

In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I share why I'm pivoting The Wellness Revolution podcast into a new direction focused on helping divorced women not just survive, but thrive.

From my own journey through divorce at 40 to building a six-figure business as a single mom, I explain how this transformation reflects my deeper mission to help divorced women achieve financial independence, rediscover their identity, and create their best life.

Drawing from my experience of going from a successful 18-year corporate career to building my own coaching business, I share how this pivot will serve divorced moms who feel isolated, overwhelmed, and ready for their next chapter.

Resources Mentioned:

• Join The Divorce Revolution Podcast rebrand giveaway
• Save your seat for the 1K Blueprint Workshop: https://ambershaw.samcart.com/products/1k-blueprint-workshop
• Join the ReNewU waitlist: https://products.ambershaw.com/signature-waitlist
• Listen to Episode 344: Online Coaching is the Perfect Business For Divorced Moms: https://ambershaw.com/podcasts/twr-344-online-coaching-is-the-perfect-business-for-divorced-moms/
• Listen to Episode 346: Surprising Signs You're Qualified to Start A Coaching Business in 2025: https://ambershaw.com/podcasts/twr-346-surprising-signs-youre-qualified-to-start-a-coaching-business-in-2025/

What I Discuss:

• The journey from Wellness Revolution to Divorce Revolution
• How divorce became the catalyst for my own transformation
• Why divorced moms need targeted support and community
• The importance of financial independence after divorce
• My vision for helping women turn setbacks into comebacks

Key Takeaways:

"Divorce isn't the end of your story—it's your launch pad."

"You can turn your setback into your comeback."

"Financial independence is crucial for thriving after divorce."

Find more from Amber:

Instagram: @msambershaw

Website: ambershaw.com

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@msambershaw

Welcome to The Divorce Revolution with your host, Amber Shaw—THE business coach for divorced women who's been exactly where you are. After my own divorce, I was lost, broke, and had no idea what came next. But instead of letting my circumstances define me, I turned my own post-divorce journey into a path of financial freedom and reinvention. Now, I'm here to help you do the same.

This podcast is for moms who are ready to turn "moving on" into moving UP. Divorce isn't the end—it's your launchpad. Whether you're rediscovering who you are, taking control of your money, or even exploring how to start an online coaching business, this space is here to help you build a life that's fully yours.

Each episode dives into mindset, money, relationships, co-parenting, identity, personal power, and building financial independence—because this isn't just about starting over, it's about leveling all the way up.

If you're ready to reclaim your life, create financial independence, and step into your most powerful chapter yet—welcome to the revolution. Let's do this.

Find more from Amber:

Instagram: @msambershaw

Website: ambershaw.com

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@msambershaw