The Confidence Podcast: Mindset Coaching and Tips to Overcome Self-Limiting Beliefs, Self-Doubt, Perfectionism, Overthinking, Impostor Syndrome and Insecurity

By Trish BlackwellReligion & Spirituality Christianity Education Self-Improvement

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The Confidence Podcast: Mindset Coaching and Tips to Overcome Self-Limiting Beliefs, Self-Doubt, Perfectionism, Overthinking, Impostor Syndrome and Insecurity episodes

February 13, 2015 98__EATING_DISORDER_AWARENESS.mp3
46 min
February 11, 2015 97__ACTIVATE_YOUR_DREAM.mp3
47 min
February 11, 2015 #96: LOVE YOURSELF
LOVE YOURSELF
EPISODE #96
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
-1 Corinthians 13:13

In this episode:

A special announcement about Ellie’s arrival that I promise you’re going to want to hear!
50 ways to love yourself
How #loveisyours with Lindsey Richardson

ELLIE’S ANNOUNCEMENT:
As most of you know, I am now 38 weeks pregnant. My little Eleanor Lucia Synan, or Ellie as we will be calling her, will be arriving any day now. To celebrate, I am extending a (literally) once-in-a-lifetime website-wide sale to celebrate the date of her birth!

Full disclosure, the next few weeks of Confidence on the Go are pre-recorded – I have been busting my buns to be ready for Ellie as a first time mom and I wanted to make sure that no one in the Be More Community missed a beat from me being in the hospital or from the inevitable sleepless nights I have ahead of me. That being said, I have an AWESOME CELEBRATION OPPORTUNITY FOR YOU. But to partake in it you MUST follow my social media platforms in order to know what’s going on. Here are the details:

You will get a site-wide discount on EVERYTHING – that is the Breakout program, coaching sessions, my CD sets – based off of Ellie’s date of birth. So, if she is born on 2.15, you will receive a 30% discount (2x15). If she’s born on 2.20, you’ll get 40% (2x20).

The site-wide sale lasts 72 hours – and you need the discount code that will be posted on my social media sites to be able to participate.

The social media sites the promotion and announcement will be posted are:

www.facebook.com/trishblackwellfitness

@trainerTRISH on Twitter

@growthwithgod on Instagram

@trainthetemple on Instagram

@gardeningthemind on Instagram

Pintrest: www.pintrest.com/trishblackwells

50 WAYS TO LOVE YOURSELF

Stop comparing yourself to others.
Build in more “white” space.
Invest in yourself.
Exercise
Read more.
Spend time alone without an agenda or to-do list.
Take a bath.
Let go of the past.
Forgive yourself.
Eat a good breakfast.
Treat yourself to something you want but don’t need.
Take control of your finances.
Laugh at yourself.
Speak kind words of encouragement to yourself.
Get outside and drink in a sunset.
Let go of trying to please everyone.
Spray aromatherapy on your linens before turning in for sleep.
Refuse to use the label “perfectionist” for yourself anymore.
Don’t take yourself too seriously.
Pray and meditate more often.
Listen to your feelings and acknowledge them compassionately.
Choose to put yourself around loving, uplifting people.
Find work that you love.
Indulge in hobbies that make your heart sing.
Make a list of reasons why you are loveable.
Stretch every morning.
Stop trying to fit in and instead just be you.
Put lotion on your body before you go to bed at night.
Turn off your phone and social media for an afternoon.
Ask for help when you need it.
Get a pedicure.
Have a day of arts and crafts – indulge your creative side.
Go out to lunch with a friend you don’t get to see often.
Dance in your kitchen with a glass of wine.
Change the song / sound of your alarm clock to something you enjoy hearing.
Throw away your scale.
30 min
February 11, 2015 96__LOVE_YOURSELF.mp3
30 min
February 03, 2015 #95: NEVER SETTLE
NEVER SETTLE
The biggest human temptation is to settle for too little.
–Thomas Merton

EPISODE #95

In this episode, we will cover

The 10 reasons why people settle
The number one secret to not settling in life, with anything
3 ways to invest in that secret so you never settle again in your life

Never settle for less than you can be, do, share or live.
Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. –Steve Jobs
If you are not willing to risk the unusual, you will have to settle for the ordinary. –Jim Rohn

SHOUT OUT OF THANKS:
Angela Charlie Weeks

WOOPS FROM LAST WEEK:
I never told you the final third thing I promised you! … the awesome learning tool I just discovered…OYSTER...https://www.oysterbooks.com

NEVER SETTLE CONCEPT:
Remember, you are the master of your mind, and therefore the master of your destiny.

Reasons I think people settle:

We don’t see our true potential
We are afraid of taking a risk and rocking the status quo
We see everyone else settling around us
We think, “Who are we” to be anything special or to expect more
We have been around too many toxic, negative influencers
We have convinced ourselves that we are lazy
We don’t understand just how much is actually out there for us
We haven’t yet accepted the weight of our responsibility to make a difference in this world
We aren’t reading enough and exposing ourselves to great inspiration
We get “busy” with distraction and find life passing us by

The KEY to not settling is to have CONFIDENCE.
“Confidence is the ability to hear someone say no.” –Brandon Synan

People will say no.
Doors will close.
You will have setbacks.
The plan won’t always work.

But looking back it’s always better to have tried than to have lived in fear and in regret. As Brandon so wisely said, you are choosing to be a confident person, so you therefore have the ability to hear someone say “no” and the ability to have a setback without it setting you back completely.

3 WAYS TO INVEST IN THE SECRET OF CONFIDENCE

Make sure you have a copy of the Roadmap to Confidence (www.trishblackwell.com/roadmap)
Speak confident words of life to others – and it will increase the words that you speak to yourself.
Start your Insecurity Detox – the opposite of insecurity is confidence

ANNOUNCEMENTS:

Don’t settle with “love month” of February – invest in yourself and in your confidence by starting the 7-day Insecurity Detox. For just $6/day -> the cost of having a cup of coffee with me in person as your friend <- you can awake that inner confidence that you have within so that you can truly love yourself this month. (Because remember, unless we love ourselves, we cannot successfully love others – you can’t give out what you don’t yet have).

Get it here: www.trishblackwell.com/insecurity-detox

LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:
Meghan Stark

Hi Trish-

I am really excited to be apart of the Be More community! I have purchased the UNSTUCK CD SET and also the INSECURITY DETOX. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with the podcast community your are inspiration!
34 min
February 03, 2015 95__NEVER_SETTLE.mp3
34 min
January 27, 2015 #94: THE WORKAHOLIC SOLUTION
THE WORKAHOLIC SOLUTION
Being insanely busy all the time is not only bad for you;
it also prevents you from discovering the human being you were meant to be.
–Andrew Smart

EPISODE #94
In this episode we will be covering:

How slowing down can help you make meaning out of experience and ultimately help make you more productive, maximizing your impact, influence, and legacy
7 ways to break your workaholic tendencies
The latest personal growth tool I stumbled upon and you deserve to know about!

INSPIRED BY….
My babymoon relaxation weekend in Myrtle Beach

THE WORKAHOLIC SOLUTION
Autopilot, by Andrew Smart

Quotes from Smart:

Our long-standing “idlephobia” has lead inexorably to our current near-obsession with busyness.
In the short term, busyness destroys creativity, self-knowledge, emotional well-being, your ability to be social – and it can damage your cardiovascular health.
True insight, whether artistic or scientific, emotional or social, can really only occur in these all-too-rare idle states.
Allowing the brain to rest opens the system to exploiting these mechanisms of nonlinearity and randomness, and amplifies the brain’s natural tendency to combine percepts and memories into new concepts.
Doing nothing actually makes your brain function better.
Western society has instilled in us a belief that every moment of every day must be filled with activity. Indeed, it is almost a moral obligation in the US to be as busy as possible. I will try to show that for certain things the brain like to do you may need to be doing very little.
Modern technology can literally make us dumber.
On the contrary, when you leave important parts of your brain unattended by relaxing in the grass on a sunny afternoon, the parts of your brain in the default mode network become more organized and engaged.
If you knew being idle (preferably while lying down on a blanket under a tree with an ice bottle of wine) for more hours of the day could add years to your life, what would you do?
The common sense notion about ‘workaholics” is that they find idleness and inactivity to be unbearable because they are escaping emotional pain through constant work.
In our hysterical rush to make money, gain status, compete for scarce jobs, jockey for promotions, make our kids athletic and intellectual geniuses, and organize our lives down to the second, we are suppressing our brain’s natural ability to make meaning out of experience.

WAYS TO BREAK YOUR WORKAHOLIC NATURE

Set boundaries on your time – don’t work when you don’t have to, even when it’s your passion.
Protect your schedule: set specific parameters on when you will work and when you will not
Take a social media retreat – either a 21-day cleanse or a weekend disconnected
Remove your work email from your phone, unless required by your place of employment.
Set 3-5 daily email check-in times and stick to those only.
Realize that having idle rest time is actually productive and not something to be apologized for.
Say no to more things, know your true worth lies in who you are, not in what you do or what you strive to achieve. Happiness is measured by your ability to actually live life, and when you are a workaholic, you aren’t living life, you are watching life pass you by.

LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:
Kristen Brown

Subject: “I became a runner today.”

Downloaded your app and am starting today!! I'm in 2 weddings, going to 4 others and have a cruise planned this year.
33 min
January 27, 2015 94__THE_WORKAHOLIC_SOLUTION.mp3
33 min
January 20, 2015 #93: MENTAL SLIDE SHIFTS
MENTAL SLIDE SHIFTS
EPISODE #93
In this episode we will be covering:

How a few slight shifts in your mental processes can drastically shift your day
3 major mental slides I believe we all need to be aware of
What happens to you in just a week of saying one magical phrase

THANK YOU:
Ta2yerface
MENTAL SLIDE SHIFTS

Scarcity to Abundance
Failure to Success
Aversion to Ascension

To be honest, most perfectionists live in a scarcity mindset – we are convinced that we will never have enough time, that there is a limited amount of success available and that we live in a world where we have something to prove (thereby something else is lacking) versus a world of abundance and sufficiency.

For the sliding shift of failure / success, it’s important to realize that you are either moving towards one or the other. What is it that your scale slider in your mind is set at? Are you striving to avoid failure or are you striving to be successful? You can’t be doing both.

Aversion is fear disguised. It is fear that keeps us in our comfort zone, that keeps us from action, that convinces us to play it safe. Ascension is the pursuit of being our greatest and fullest selves – of stepping out and rising up to the challenges and blessings of life.

In all of these scenarios, there always lies the temptation of taking the easy way out. Giving into a scarcity mindset, a fear mindset or an aversion mindset is playing chicken, getting scared, staying in your comfort zone, and playing it easy.

I never realized I was taking the easy way out. Learning this about myself was humbling and empowering to make me want to always change and shift my mental sliders to the right setting.

You can shift the sliding scales of your mind.

Figure out what settings you have been mentally set on.
Imagine yourself sliding the slider to the other setting.
Write your new mental setting down.
Repeat your new mental setting out loud 10-15x.
Spend a week consciously focused on re-sliding yourself mentally, reminding yourself of your new setting and your new thought tracks. Act as if you have been reprogramed by a programmer…you may incur some glitches, but you aren’t going to be what you were before.

THE MAGIC PHRASE:
What would happen if you said “I love my life” to yourself multiple times per day? Well, that’s an experiment I took on myself this week and here’s what I experienced:

An increased sense of innate joy
Calmness in mindset as I assessed my to-do list daily
General increase of peace
More natural enthusiasm towards small tasks I typically don’t enjoy
Gratitude and appreciation for the people in my life, more than I usually feel
A desire to reach out and connect with people I love via random text messages
Affection towards my husband over little things that he does that might otherwise be overlooked
Decrease of anxiety or pressure that I sometimes manage on a daily basis
More enjoyment from my workouts – a general enjoyment in the joy of moving my body versus the joy of getting a workout “done” or accomplished
An ability to taste and really savor the moment of the present – not wanting to be anywhere where I was aside from there in that moment.

ANNOUNCEMENTS:
Did you know that I offer Accountability Coaching?

http://www.trishblackwell.com/accountability-coaching/
LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:

Wade Nettles

“Need smaller compression pants now. They don’t compress anymore. #weightlossproblems
32 min
January 20, 2015 93__MENTAL_SLIDE_SHIFTS.mp3
32 min

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