The Loving Truth

“Anger gives us courage… but courage is not the same thing as clarity.” – Sharon Pope

The renowned sociologist and life coach Martha Beck taught me to ask a very important question when I’m feeling unclear about my next steps. 

In this episode, I’ll share the question, the brain science, and the first step to take if you feel unclear about a decision in your relationship. I’ll also talk about the difference between courage and clarity and explain why the story of my first marriage has nothing to do with your own… 

Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

You’ve just told your partner how you’re feeling disconnected and unhappy… and they respond, “Oh, we’re just fine!” Why do we invalidate our partner’s feelings like this? (Why do we accept invalidation as enough?)

In this episode, I’ll explain how to face this communication challenge head-on.

“When one of us isn’t fine, we’re not fine as a couple.” – Sharon Pope

Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

How can two opposing viewpoints both remain “true”?

We often think in binaries: “Everything is all good or all bad. I’m right, so you’re wrong.” But this isn’t reality: Human relationships are complex. So how can we allow for the nuance of holding two truths at the same time? 

In this episode, I use my difficult relationship with my dad as an example for how we might expand our thinking to envelop non-binary perspectives of truth. I’ll even give you 10+ examples of “opposing” truths to consider. 

As ever, it’s a deep look into the human psyche and behavior… simplified and put to practice.

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Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Are the men in your life a “life-long project?” 

In this episode, I’m talking about why it seems your husband is a “man-child” and what you can do to change this. I’ll dig into topics of co-dependency, the different expectations we have for men and women, and how this impacts our sons and daughters, too.

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Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Too many women never leave their partners solely because they’re afraid of being alone later in life.

In this episode, I’ve invited fellow Relationship Coach and the Chief Love Officer of Last First Date, Sandy Weiner, to break down the myth that “late love” is anything less than True Love. Sandy details both the challenges and opportunities of finding love later in life (or post-divorce) from lived experience and through the stories of her real-life clients.

(Maybe you’re married and you just want to find love in your current relationship… this episode will speak to you, too!)

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Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

“You can always find your way back to each other… should you both want that.” - Sharon Pope

Your marriage will evolve through several important stages of relationship, and this episode we examine each one. 

You’ll learn why you can’t think straight before you get married (and why you find your partner annoying soon after), the major neurological change that happens to women who have kids, and which stage people most commonly struggle with affairs. 

I’ll also explain the “ideal” time in your relationship to create structure around building connection and desire with your partner. 

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Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

If you have any kind of relationship at all, you and your partner will surely argue… but will you repair your relationship afterwards?

In this episode, I’m explaining why it’s important to repair the connection with your partner after you’ve had an argument or disagreement, plus 6 ways to get started (even if your partner doesn’t have any “relationship tools”).

You’ll also hear me explain the 70/30 Rule for relationships (backed by neuroscience!)

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Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

We look for safety and security at the beginning of our relationships… so why do we end up resenting these same things in our marriages? Let’s get curious about this 180° turnaround with a real-life example from one of my clients. 

Vicki built her life around feeling secure, but then she started to feel restless and even oppressed by the predictability of her marriage. She started wondering - 

“Who’s to blame when we get what we want… but we’re unhappy? What happens when we feel buried by the stability of the lives we’ve created? What if we feel utterly lost after the kids leave home… and we’re not sure where to put our energy and focus?” 

In this episode, I answer these questions with an explanation of The Relationship Pyramid. Tune in for a deep dive into the purpose of safety, security, and predictability in our most intimate relationships.

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Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Jennifer discovered that her husband has been cheating for two years - and bringing his affair partner to their home. She’s struggling to reconnect (with herself and her husband) when she knows that his betrayal happened in the space they share. 

In this episode, I offer some advice to help Jennifer prioritize her own healing and avoid the re-traumatization of her husband’s affair.

To anyone who’s ever been cheated on, I want you to know: You’re not alone. You’re not the first person to walk this path. And while healing this deep and painful wound is a long, hard journey, it’s possible - if you start right here.

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Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

How do you know if you’re in a “semi-happy” marriage? What’s the solution to a marriage that’s just “fine”? In this episode, I explain what you need to know about “low conflict, low passion” relationships, how to escape “the comfort zone” of a semi-happy marriage, and why you can’t wait for your partner to ignite your passion. 

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Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.