The Loving Truth

“Will my partner ever change? Because I really want him to.” What a great question - and it’s one I hear all the time. 

Let me start with this: Yes, people can change. And I can say this with deep humility… the person I was in my first marriage is NOT the person I am now. 

In this episode, I talk about the ways I’ve changed in my own relationships (and the reasons why), plus

• what we really have control over (and what we don’t) 
• what is actually our personal responsibility (and what belongs to our partners) 
• and the greatest teacher of my life (and probably yours!) 

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Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Do you want your marriage… or do you just WANT to want it? This is an important distinction (and something I teach inside my membership program: The Decision). 

In this episode of the podcast, I share the story of Sue: She’s got the “perfect” marriage… but she’s unhappy with it. I talk about why this might be, plus how she can take steps to fix the problem. 

Whether or not you relate to Sue’s problem of the “perfect” marriage, I think you’ll find these clarifying questions VITAL to your own relationship dilemma… listen in to find out!

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Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Most people in the world will never have the marriage they want… but what about you? 

If you’ve been listening to this podcast for any length of time, you know a fair number of things you can do differently. But listening to new information is only part of the equation. 

What’s your next step?

In this episode, I’ll explain why it might be time to embody the tools you’re learning (plus, how to get started!)

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Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Just one generation ago (and even for many of us now), SEX was considered a taboo topic of conversation… even though we’ve all been told to expect less sex the longer we’re married. 

So… what exactly happens to intimacy the longer we stay in committed partnerships? In this episode, I’ll explain why desire wanes the longer we’re married and what to do to prioritize YOUR pleasure.

Because the problem of a sexless marriage does not resolve on its own, and the solution requires effort (from both parties).

You'll Learn:

• 0:30 - What happens to your sex life the longer you’re married
• 6:25 - When having sex feels like betraying YOURSELF
• 10:22 - Women & sexual pleasure within marriage
• 17:46 - If you want to enjoy sex, you have to enjoy yourself
• 20:20 - But there’s no magic equation…

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Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Difficult conversations are bound to happen in your most intimate relationships - whether you’re prepared or not. This episode will teach you how to have PRODUCTIVE conversations about difficult topics. 

You’ll also learn why we avoid conflict in the first place, how to stop pretending things are “fine,” and the three parts to communication you need to know.

YOU'LL LEARN

• 1:26 - How we avoid conflict (and why it doesn’t work)
• 4:27 - What works for women… but not for men
• 9:09 - What might happen if you tell your partner THIS?
• 14:29 - This will change your experience of difficult conversations

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Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Is it time to pump the brakes on your affair relationship? How do you know if your secret partnership can last beyond the affair? 

Whatever happens after your affair relationship, I want you to be prepared - whether you stay with your affair partner or not. 

It starts with recognizing these 4 Red Flags you might be missing in your affair partner.

What You'll Learn

• 0:28 - Why we overlook bad behavior from our affair partner
• 4:50 - Red Flag - Does he feel entitled to you? 
• 7:57 - Red Flag - Is his control & manipulation just hidden? 
• 10:13 - Here’s the reality (for YOU and your affair partner)

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Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

“I had one foot out the door… but pretending otherwise only led to greater disconnection and resentment.” - Sharon Pope

This is a soulful revelation for anyone who’s given up on the evolution of their marriage. I stopped trying when things got hard in my first marriage - and there’s just ONE thing I’d do differently. 

In this episode, you’ll hear me talk about the main reasons women stop trying, what to do if you feel like giving up (OR if you’ve already given up) - plus the root cause of resentment in relationships.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN

• 4:27 - After 10 years, I just gave up trying
• 5:01 - Here’s my ONE regret
• 7:10 - If YOU feel like you’d rather give up than try again… 
• 12:06 - Here’s what I want you to think about

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Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

“How do I compromise with a partner who I no longer respect? How can I increase my respect for him… without lowering my standards?” 

In this episode, I’m answering a question from one of our podcast listeners about what she can do differently or better to build back trust with her partner - after it’s been lost. 

You’ll learn 4 practical steps you can take, including whether and how to compromise, plus where to put your focus as you move forward. 

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Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

If it’s the fear of what might happen on the OTHER side of divorce that’s keeping you stuck, this episode is for you! I’m joined by leading Family Law Attorney & Mediation expert, Susan Guthrie, to discuss exactly what to consider when you’re stuck in the decision to “stay or go.”

And I have to tell you: Susan shared advice that I wasn’t expecting!

You'll Learn:

5:29 - People are often better off in their “beyond”
12:35 - Divorce will be one of the most stressful events in your life, BUT…
16:30 - How to avoid regret on the other side
19:32 - High emotions don’t make the best cocktail for rational thinking
26:20 - The best $$ you’ll ever spend during your divorce
30:21 - You don’t have to villainize your ex-partner - in fact, you shouldn’t
37:03 - Life after divorce is not actually the big black hole of a future you imagine
41:33 - You will become a different person as you heal
50:38 - What will really matter a few years from now…

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Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

If you’ve ever wondered whether your marriage (and your life) would be better if you JUST had the “right” partner… this episode is for you. 

This romantic idea that the “right” person is always easy to love is what’s ruining our ability to thrive within marriage! And I want to talk about it.

In this episode, I’ll explain the problem with our unrealistic expectations, the reason your partner might not be “easy” to love, and why we get stuck in “the honeymoon phase.” 

“Compatibility is an achievement of love; it shouldn’t be its pre-condition.” - Alain de Button

What You'll Learn in This Episode

• 3:06 - Is your relationship transactional OR growth-oriented? 
• 5:54 - THIS is the person best-suited to you… 
• 8:35 - If your marriage feels doomed, consider your expectations
• 10:01 - No one is easy to love… even you

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Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.