The Mark Groves Podcast

This is a very personal episode for me, this is my own journey with codependency. Throughout our lives we all become part of widely accepted social contracts through our childhood, religion, community and family. This is my story of breaking some of the social contracts that did not align to my own truth or integrity. It took a lot of vulnerability to break those social contract and also to open up on this topic, so I truly hope it resonates.

Episode Highlights:

1min - My own personal story and learning about codependency in my own life.

2 mins - My relationship to alcohol.

4 mins - How I’d kept one foot in and out foot out with my commitments to change.

5 mins - What unspoken agreements do you hold onto that you don’t truly believe?

10 mins - If i loved myself what would i do?

16 mins - The addiction to trying to save others.

19 mins - I don’t “have it all together”, the power of compassion for self.

22 mins - Where have you been taught to hide your truth?

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In this episode, Kate Horsman shares her personal story with an eating disorder. Kate shares her ‘fall into grace’ as she left the harsh, competitive world of ballet and made her way through hospitalisation and the life long task of healing. In a world where disordered eating and negative body image are so normalized, Kate’s voice cuts through the pain experienced by so many to offer compassion and hope that we can finally come home to feel safe in our own bodies. As Kate so warmly describes, the way out is to nourish ourselves. Whether you believe you have a healthy relationship with food and your body, there are so many gems offered by Kate in this episode.

Episode Highlights:

2 mins - Intro, the teacher arrives when the student is ready.

8 mins - Breakup Recovery Course.

10 mins - Please leave a written review if you enjoy this episode!

11 mins - Kate Horsman introduction, background in ballet and childhood.

19 mins - How Kate’s body communicated her needs.

25 mins - What caused Kate to drop it all and leave.

30 mins - Male eating disorders and the pathway into eating disorders for boys and girls.

34 mins - How do you become safe in your body?

38 mins - The normalization of unhealthy eating.

46 mins - Committing to healing and nourishing yourself.

53 mins - Finding your voice in your healing.

57 mins - Movement as healing.

1hr 2mins - Surviving the present moment.

1hr 4mins - Kate’s current work supporting others in healing, the power of compassion.

1hr 17mins - Kate's new course coming soon.

Episode Notes:

Kate Horsman Instagram

Kate Horsman.com

Kate Horsman is a Nutritionist, Counsellor and Mindfulness Leader in Vancouver BC. Her training through both professional counselling and nutrition, provide the bridge between the mind-body connection which lends greatly to her specialization in Eating Disorders and Mental Illness. Allowing food and the brain as a medium for embodied change.

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Sam Skelly is a dear friend of mine that has truly changed lives with her work on loving ourselves, loving our bodies and using breathwork to meet our pain with love. Whatever pain you might be experiencing in your life and whether you know the root cause of your pain or not, Sam walks you through how to meet pain with love. Sam specializes in loving our bodies and our relationship with food, but also with using breathwork as the bridge to meeting our pain. When we meet our pain with love, finally the pain can transform. Sam walks us through a practical example of how to use breathwork in everyday life. If you think that the idea of breathwork isn’t for you, then this episode is most definitely for you!

Episode Highlights:

2 mins - Intro to episode.

10 mins - Intro to Sam Skelly, how Mark and Sam met, the mission of hungry for happiness.

15 mins - The link between the body and emotions.

20 mins - Childhood messaging around bodies and eating.

28 mins - The game of life if the ultimate goal of happiness.

30 mins - Meeting pain with love.

36 mins - Meditation and breath work.

43 mins - Breathwork with Pause, how we stop ‘doing’ and learn to just be, why are we addicted to our phones?

48 mins - 20 second breathwork example.

53 mins - Breathwork as a metaphor for life.

55 mins - Pain that is preverbal, how breathwork sessions can give rise to intergenerational pain.

Episode Links:

Hungry for Happiness Pause Audio

Samantha Skelly on Instagram

Samantha Skelly Website

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*Ghosting* it's a phenomenon! One of the most common questions I am asked is 'how do I respond to this person who has just suddenly disappeared?' In this video we unpack the phenomenon of ghosting. Why is is happening? What is behind it? How should we respond, if at all? If you've ever ghosted someone, or been ghosted, this episode is for you!

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John Kim (aka The Angry Therapist) has made his mark on Instagram, sharing authentic, raw and unfiltered views on life, love and everything in-between. This week I was honored to discuss his approach and in particular we go deep on the difference between young love and healthy love. If you are wondering how to step into healthy love and beyond the highs and lows of superficial dating, then John Kim is your man!

Episode Highlights:

1 min - Intro to episode.

2 mins - Being authentic online.

5 mins - Being a therapist vs being a coach.

12 mins - Starting over and having nothing to lose.

16 mins - Healthy love vs unhealthy love or young love.

24 mins - Relationships are built, not found.

29 mins - The bad boy and the codependent.

35 mins - False beliefs and limiting beliefs.

41 mins - Why don’t we study relationships?

45 mins - Accepting that not all relationships are meant to last.

Episode Links:

The Angry Therapist Website

The Angry Therapist Instagram

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Jamie Elizabeth Thompson is a holistic intimacy and sex specialist and we had the most amazing conversation about awakening our sexual selves. Sex and sexuality is such a difficult topic for so many people. Whether it be via our culture, familial upbringing, or religious conditioning, there is still so much shame wrapped up in our sexual selves. Jamie and I discuss how we can move through our conditioning and use our vulnerability to empower and explore our sexual selves. Jamie brings so much understanding and knowledge on the power of the erotic to this episode and I’m so excited to bring you this important conversation, whatever your sexuality, relationship type or gender this episode is for you.

Podcast Highlights:

1 min - Introduction to the episode on sex and sexuality.

6 mins - Please leave a review where ever you listen!

6.30 mins - The ‘Create The Love’ course discount, ends soon!

8 mins - Intro to Jamie Thomson’s work with sex and sexuality.

12 mins - Sexual energy and using it in your life as well as the bedroom.

16 mins - Puritanism vs hyper-sexualisation.

20 mins - Narratives around female sexual repression and male sexual shame.

27 mins - The shadow side of sex.

30 mins - Erotic intelligence and the erotic actualization pyramid.

32 mins - How we can have great sex and how we can break our conditioning.

40 mins - Breaking down our sexual shame and repression.

47 mins - The feminine sexuality and giving women permission to ask for what they need.

49 mins - Erotic love languages.

60 mins - Asking for what you want and the ways to ask.

1hr 03 mins - Integrating our hearts, minds and genitals.

Podcast Links:

Create The Love course starting soon!

Jamie Elizabeth Thompson Facebook

Jamie's Instagram

Jamie's Website

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I’m so excited to introduce you to Leah Brathwaite. She is a dear friend of mine and I have had the honour of watching her life transform as well as now seeing her write about her personal transformation in her new book. This week we breakdown what life transformation can feel like, from undoing old, traditional or religious scripts for life, to writing new ones based on our deepest truths. Leah’s story will resonate with so many of you, so I can’t wait for you to hear this.

1 min - Mark’s trip to Calgary and it’s serendipity of life.

3 mins - The life we “should” have had.

7 mins - The new ‘Create The Love’ course.

11 mins - Intro to Leah Brathwaite and her book.

15 mins - The “I’ll be happy when” life and how to reclaim your own true life.

20 mins - Peeling back the layers of your conditioning, Leah’s story, ‘performing’ for love.

25 mins - When you look around and don’t recognize your own life.

30 mins - Moments of awakening.

35 mins - When we wake up but just dig deeper.

50 mins - Are you a victim or living through choice?

64 mins - Getting confident with allowing life to move through you.

Episode Links:

Leah Brathwaite Instagram

Leah’s book: A New Way of Life: A Guide for Transformation from Living a Lie to Freeing Your Soul

My new Create The Love course! bit.ly/createthelove

Leah Brathwaite

Leah is a Soul Advisor, author of 'A New Way of Life: A Guide for Transformation from Living a Lie to Freeing Your Soul', speaker, and a woman who is deeply committed to helping others reach their full potential, live a meaningful life and make their dreams a reality. In short, Leah helps women connect to their soul so they can live the lives they dream of. Through her writing, workshops and group mentorship program, she offers guidance to better understand and live in alignment with who you really are, what you really want and what you're meant to do.

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I am so excited to introduce an author whose work has impacted my work so significantly. Dr. Christopher Ryan wrote the epic book ‘Sex at Dawn’ in 2010, and he has gone on to continue researching and writing on human evolution. We discuss it all - human evolution, sex and connection, modernity, the agricultural revolution and how it shifted our sexual behaviour, the internet revolution today, and what all of it means for our lives and our happiness. His work is truly fascinating and I am so honoured that he has shared this work with us today.

Episode Highlights:

7 mins - Introducing the book ‘Sex at Dawn’.

13 mins - Sex. What is it all about? How much are we doing it and WHY?

15 mins - The science and research behind ‘Sex at Dawn’.

19 mins - The intention and the truths behind the book.

22 mins - Monogamy and it’s challenges.

24 mins - Sex education around the world today.

28 mins - The modern world and our lack of connection, how does this compare to our evolution?

36 mins - The evolution of civilization from hunter-gathers to today's modern age. What went wrong?

39 mins - The age of the internet, what has social media done to us?

43 mins - The economic system - what has the modernity meant for humankind, what has the agricultural evolution done for us?

53 mins - The history of polygamy in earlier societies.

55 mins - Micro-biomes - what are they, how are they exchanged and how do they affect us.

Episode Notes:

Sex at Dawn - The Book

Dr. Christopher Ryan’s Podcast

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Do you throw yourself into your career, or fitness, or diet - so that you can pretend that your relationships aren’t a problem? Do you feel like your always needing to resolve some problem? Today’s episode with Sheri Salata is for you. Sheri leads us in understanding that we are not problems waiting to be solved. We make the mistake of thinking we are broken and everyone else is living an ‘instagram life’. The fact is that we are all our own experts, none of us have it all ‘figured out’ but we all know the recipe to love ourselves home.

Episode Highlights

5 min - Connection to self, consciousness of self, and Sheri’s new book.

8 min - Sheri’s role with Oprah Winfrey.

10 min - Finding alignment and when we get ‘distracted’ from true alignment.

14 mins - Loving yourself. Love yourself first. Love yourself most. And how does this relate to any relationship?

21 mins - Do you really want to live the life of your dreams, or do you want to continue to skip out? Do you seek from your wounds or from your light?

28 mins - love as both the path and the destination

31 mins - Its never too late to live the life of your dreams.

35 mins - Having your own back everyday.

41 mins - What is the ‘beautiful no?’

44 mins - Not wasting time, how to not waste another day out of alignment. We are not too old and it is not too late.

Episode Notes

The Beautiful NO: And Other Tales of Trial, Transcendence, and Transformation by Sheri Salata

Sheri Salata on Instagram

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Standing up for yourself with love. Terry Real is leading the revolution of breaking down the patriarchy one relationship at a time. He is an internationally recognized Family Therapist, Speaker and Author of four acclaimed books on relationships. Terry founded the Relational Life Institute (RLI) offering workshops for couples, individuals and parents around the country. Terry's approach is about 'Straight Talk to Difficult People', he has no time for the traditional heirarchical patraichal approach in relationships. He argues that through standing up for yourself with love, not only can relationships be saved, but society can also be transformed from patriarchy to loving equality.

Episode Highlights

3 min - The gaps in traditional couple therapy approaches.

5 mins - The grandiosity and superior complex in relationship.

6 mins - Moving beyond patriarchy and traditional gender roles.

8 mins - The ‘Grey Divorce’ revolution - the end of women caretaking men.

11 mins - Men aren’t unhappy in marriage, women are.

12 mins - Connection, hierarchies and winning in relationship.

17 mins - The negating of women’s voices in couples therapy.

21 mins - The traditional and newer masculinities.

24 mins - The difference between personal empowerment and relational empowerment - breaking the back of patriarchy. Standing up for yourself with love.

27 mins - Terry's personal experience in confronting the power broker.

29 mins - The use of sex in place of connection.

42 mins - Your partners CNI - what is it and how to use it.

47 mins - We all marry our unfinished business. We are attracted to what needs to be healed.

Episode Links

Terry Real's Website

The 20 Practices text: 202 517 2151

Terry's Books

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