The One You Feed | Personal Growth, Emotional Resilience & Purpose

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May 17, 2016 Robbie Vorhaus
This week we talk to Robbie Vorhaus about following your heart Robbie Vorhaus is widely recognized as one of the top three reputation and crisis experts and advisors in the world. Robbie’s path is fascinating: On the outside, renowned crisis expert and communications strategist, Robbie Vorhaus’ life appeared ideal: a New York City Park Avenue apartment, a home in the Hamptons, two adoring children in world-class private schools, and a thriving PR agency representing world leaders, celebrities, sports stars, entrepreneurs and Fortune 500 companies. Privately, though, his life was falling apart. A marriage in trouble, jeopardized health, and financial pressures culminated on vacation when his family asked: “Dad, are you really happy?” Realizing he was in peril of losing everything he held dear, Robbie courageously followed the advice he had given clients for decades: Follow your heart. Choose to be happy. And consciously make everything better than you found it. The result: Vorhaus closed his agency, moved his family to their small Sag Harbor home, started a leadership and crisis consultancy, and began anew. Now transformed, healthy, happy, and celebrating a marriage of more than 25 years, Robbie drew on his life’s work and experience to write a column for his local newspaper, The Sag Harbor Express, outlining a step-by-step plan for following your heart and being happy, which, after going viral, became the basis for his next seven years writing. His book is called One Less. One More. – Follow Your Heart. Be Happy. Change Slowly. In This Interview, Robbie Vorhaus and I Discuss: The One You Feed parable The choice we face in every moment How if we feed our ego we are always alone, if we feed our heart we are always connected How you have to start now The math of One Less, One More Add one more good thing to your life each day and do one less thing negative thing Why we fail at major life transformation when we try to do too much at once The uniqueness of every human Doing less of what is no longer working for you Facing the fork in the road How there will always be resistance to our dreams. Committing to being our own person Following our heart The process of becoming How much choice do we have in our mood? The power of curiosity The power of small changes The crying Zen Monk If you think you are enlightened spend a weekend with your family Dealing with the perception of others How we tend to judge people by their worst moments Not allowing others to define us Do we want to be dust or ash? How wealth and fame do not necessarily bring happiness Committing to being our own person and being authentic For more notes visit our show page Learn more about the new coaching program. The window is open until 11:59 May 25th to sign up
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51 min
May 17, 2016 127: Robbie Vorhaus
This week we talk to Robbie Vorhaus about following your heart Robbie Vorhaus is widely recognized as one of the top three reputation and crisis experts and advisors in the world. Robbie’s path is fascinating: On the outside, renowned crisis expert and communications strategist, Robbie Vorhaus’ life appeared ideal: a New York City Park Avenue apartment, a home in the Hamptons, two adoring children in world-class private schools, and a thriving PR agency representing world leaders, celebrities, sports stars, entrepreneurs and Fortune 500 companies. Privately, though, his life was falling apart. A marriage in trouble, jeopardized health, and financial pressures culminated on vacation when his family asked: “Dad, are you really happy?” Realizing he was in peril of losing everything he held dear, Robbie courageously followed the advice he had given clients for decades: Follow your heart. Choose to be happy. And consciously make everything better than you found it. The result: Vorhaus closed his agency, moved his family to their small Sag Harbor home, started a leadership and crisis consultancy, and began anew. Now transformed, healthy, happy, and celebrating a marriage of more than 25 years, Robbie drew on his life’s work and experience to write a column for his local newspaper, The Sag Harbor Express, outlining a step-by-step plan for following your heart and being happy, which, after going viral, became the basis for his next seven years writing. His book is called One Less. One More. – Follow Your Heart. Be Happy. Change Slowly. In This Interview, Robbie Vorhaus and I Discuss: The One You Feed parable The choice we face in every moment How if we feed our ego we are always alone, if we feed our heart we are always connected How you have to start now The math of One Less, One More Add one more good thing to your life each day and do one less thing negative thing Why we fail at major life transformation when we try to do too much at once The uniqueness of every human Doing less of what is no longer working for you Facing the fork in the road How there will always be resistance to our dreams. Committing to being our own person Following our heart The process of becoming How much choice do we have in our mood? The power of curiosity The power of small changes The crying Zen Monk If you think you are enlightened spend a weekend with your family Dealing with the perception of others How we tend to judge people by their worst moments Not allowing others to define us Do we want to be dust or ash? How wealth and fame do not necessarily bring happiness Committing to being our own person and being authentic For more notes visit our show page Learn more about the new coaching program. The window is open until 11:59 May 25th to sign up
44 min
May 17, 2016126: Robbie Vorhaus
This week we talk to Robbie Vorhaus about following your heart
Robbie Vorhaus is widely recognized as one of the top three reputation and crisis experts and advisors in the world.

Robbie’s path is fascinating: On the outside, renowned crisis expert and communications strategist, Robbie Vorhaus’ life appeared ideal: a New York City Park Avenue apartment, a home in the Hamptons, two adoring children in world-class private schools, and a thriving PR agency representing world leaders, celebrities, sports stars, entrepreneurs and Fortune 500 companies. Privately, though, his life was falling apart.

A marriage in trouble, jeopardized health, and financial pressures culminated on vacation when his family asked: “Dad, are you really happy?” Realizing he was in peril of losing everything he held dear, Robbie courageously followed the advice he had given clients for decades: Follow your heart. Choose to be happy. And consciously make everything better than you found it. The result: Vorhaus closed his agency, moved his family to their small Sag Harbor home, started a leadership and crisis consultancy, and began anew.

Now transformed, healthy, happy, and celebrating a marriage of more than 25 years, Robbie drew on his life’s work and experience to write a column for his local newspaper, The Sag Harbor Express, outlining a step-by-step plan for following your heart and being happy, which, after going viral, became the basis for his next seven years writing. His book is called One Less. One More. – Follow Your Heart. Be Happy. Change Slowly.
In This Interview, Robbie Vorhaus and I Discuss:

The One You Feed parable

The choice we face in every moment

How if we feed our ego we are always alone, if we feed our heart we are always connected

How you have to start now

The math of One Less, One More

Add one more good thing to your life each day and do one less thing negative thing

Why we fail at major life transformation when we try to do too much at once

The uniqueness of every human

Doing less of what is no longer working for you

Facing the fork in the road

How there will always be resistance to our dreams.

Committing to being our own person

Following our heart

The process of becoming

How much choice do we have in our mood?

The power of curiosity

The power of small changes

The crying Zen Monk

If you think you are enlightened spend a weekend with your family

Dealing with the perception of others

How we tend to judge people by their worst moments

Not allowing others to define us

Do we want to be dust or ash?

How wealth and fame do not necessarily bring happiness

Committing to being our own person and being authentic

For more notes visit our show page

Learn more about the new coaching program. The window is open until 11:59 May 25th to sign up
44 min
May 14, 2016 The #1 Mistake People Make When Trying to Change Behavior
The #1 Mistake Most People Make When Trying to Change Behavior Starting Too Big The key to making lasting change is to break things down into really small steps. Most people want to start at point A and jump to Point Z but you don’t get there overnight. Break the new habit down into the smallest possible increments and be specific when planning each step along the way. In the beginning the most important part of behavior change is to be successful. This increases your motivation and makes you want to do more. If you start small it is much easier to “succeed” and build from there. For example, let’s say you want to take up a meditation practice. Instead of trying to meditate for 30 minutes a day, start with 3 minutes. Then once that becomes a daily habit increase it to 5 minutes, etc. As Leo Babuta of Zen Habits says “Make it so easy you can’t say no.” On one of our earlier episodes Dan Millman discussed the importance of “starting small and connecting the dots”. You will be amazed at what a series of small steps done consistently over a period of time will accomplish. The Tale of Two Wolves A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other. One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear. The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?” The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feed The Tale of Two Wolves is often attributed to the Cherokee indians but there seems to be no real proof of this. It has also been attributed to evangelical preacher Billy Graham and Irish Playwright George Bernard Shaw. It appears no one knows for sure but this does not diminish the power of the parable.
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9 min
May 11, 2016 Mary O"Malley
This week we talk to Mary O'Malley about awakening to the world around us Mary O’Malley is an author, teacher, and counselor whose work awakens others to the joy of being fully alive. Her inspired and transformative approach to compulsions offers a way to replace fear, hopelessness and struggle with ease, well-being and joy. Through her individual counseling and coaching, books, classes, retreats and ongoing groups, Mary invites people to experience the miracle of awakening. Acknowledged as a leader in the field of Awakening by many Mary clearly sees both the big picture and the details of human patterns and conditioning. She possesses an extraordinary ability to understand and connect with people. And she is skilled in empowering people to work with difficult mind states resulting in greater inner awareness and presence and a greater capacity for joy. Eckhart Tolle says, “Thank you, Mary, for your contribution to the evolution of human consciousness.” Her latest book is called What’s In the Way, Is the Way: A Practical Guide to Awakening. In This Interview, Mary O'Malley and I Discuss: The One You Feed parable The intertwining of good and bad, the yin and yang Dealing with eating problems How what we fight, we empower Creating a relationship with the dark side The impact of the early years of our lives The conditioned self How we are addicted to struggle Being present to life instead of thinking our way through life The "low-grade suffering" that permeates our lives The storyteller in our minds The Four Let's- Let Life, Let it Be, Let it Go, Learning to not listen so closely to the storyteller in our mind The difference between being here for life and being in a conversation about life For more show notes visit our website
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1 hr 1 min
May 11, 2016125: Mary O"Malley
This week we talk to Mary O'Malley about awakening to the world around us
Mary O’Malley is an author, teacher, and counselor whose work awakens others to the joy of being fully alive. Her inspired and transformative approach to compulsions offers a way to replace fear, hopelessness and struggle with ease, well-being and joy. Through her individual counseling and coaching, books, classes, retreats and ongoing groups, Mary invites people to experience the miracle of awakening.

Acknowledged as a leader in the field of Awakening by many Mary clearly sees both the big picture and the details of human patterns and conditioning. She possesses an extraordinary ability to understand and connect with people. And she is skilled in empowering people to work with difficult mind states resulting in greater inner awareness and presence and a greater capacity for joy. Eckhart Tolle says, “Thank you, Mary, for your contribution to the evolution of human consciousness.”

Her latest book is called What’s In the Way, Is the Way: A Practical Guide to Awakening.
In This Interview, Mary O'Malley and I Discuss:

The One You Feed parable

The intertwining of good and bad, the yin and yang

Dealing with eating problems

How what we fight, we empower

Creating a relationship with the dark side

The impact of the early years of our lives

The conditioned self

How we are addicted to struggle

Being present to life instead of thinking our way through life

The "low-grade suffering" that permeates our lives

The storyteller in our minds

The Four Let's- Let Life, Let it Be, Let it Go,

Learning to not listen so closely to the storyteller in our mind

The difference between being here for life and being in a conversation about life

For more show notes visit our website
54 min
May 04, 2016 Dan Harris and Oren Sofer
This week we talk to Dan Harris and Oren Sofer about
mindful communication
Our guests this week are Dan Harris and Oren Sofer.

Dan was a previous guest and we discussed his great book, 10%
Happier. In addition, Dan is the current anchor on the weekend
edition of Good Morning America as well as Nightline.

He has begun creating a series of courses based around 10%
Happier. One of those courses features Oren Sofer.

Oren is a teacher and practitioner of Buddhist meditation,
Nonviolent Communication (NVC), and Somatics. Oren is a specialist
in the role of mindfulness in creating better conversation.

This conversation was recorded in Dan's office in the ABC
Studios in New York.

Our Sponsor this Week is
Casper Mattress
Visit casper.com/feed and use the promo code
“feed” to get $50 off!!

In This Interview, Oren Dan and I Discuss:

The One You Feed parable
Why mindfulness is useful in communication
The
10% Happier app
Learning to see confrontation as an opportunity to improve the
relationship
How our cultural conditioning teaches us the Win/Lose
paradigm
How we have a strong negative conditioning against
confrontation that becomes hard-wired
How mindfulness allows us to slow down and monitor our
emotional reactions in conversation
The role of curiosity in communication
How to become more curious
Learning to ask "What matters here" when listening to
others
Learning to say that we don't feel like talking instead of just
pretending
The minor discomfort of being real
How to say things in a way that the other person can hear and
understand
Learning to hold our tongue in certain situations
How being silent can lead to its own challenges
The importance of timing in choosing when to address
issues
Context sensitive communication
The two criteria of good communication: does the other person
understand and does it lead to connection

Dan Harris Links
10% Happier Homepage
Twitter
Facebook

Oren Sofer Links
Homepage
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57 min
May 04, 2016124: Dan Harris and Oren Sofer
This week we talk to Dan Harris and Oren Sofer about
mindful communication
Our guests this week are Dan Harris and Oren Sofer.

Dan was a previous guest and we discussed his great book, 10%
Happier. In addition, Dan is the current anchor on the weekend
edition of Good Morning America as well as Nightline.

He has begun creating a series of courses based around 10%
Happier. One of those courses features Oren Sofer.

Oren is a teacher and practitioner of Buddhist meditation,
Nonviolent Communication (NVC), and Somatics. Oren is a specialist
in the role of mindfulness in creating better conversation.

This conversation was recorded in Dan's office in the ABC
Studios in New York.

Our Sponsor this Week is
Casper Mattress
Visit casper.com/feed and use the promo code
“feed” to get $50 off!!

In This Interview, Oren Dan and I Discuss:
The One You Feed parable
Why mindfulness is useful in communication
The
10% Happier app
Learning to see confrontation as an opportunity to improve the
relationship
How our cultural conditioning teaches us the Win/Lose
paradigm
How we have a strong negative conditioning against
confrontation that becomes hard-wired
How mindfulness allows us to slow down and monitor our
emotional reactions in conversation
The role of curiosity in communication
How to become more curious
Learning to ask "What matters here" when listening to
others
Learning to say that we don't feel like talking instead of just
pretending
The minor discomfort of being real
How to say things in a way that the other person can hear and
understand
Learning to hold our tongue in certain situations
How being silent can lead to its own challenges
The importance of timing in choosing when to address
issues
Context sensitive communication
The two criteria of good communication: does the other person
understand and does it lead to connection
Dan Harris Links
10% Happier Homepage
Twitter
Facebook
Oren Sofer Links
Homepage
52 min
April 27, 2016 Colin Beavan
This week we talk to Colin Beavan about being happy AND
changing the world
Colin Beavan’s writing, speaking, consulting and activism have
encouraged tens of thousands of people to examine their lives to
discover what’s really important to them.
He is among the world’s best-known spokespeople on environmental
issues, consumerism and human quality of life. He was called “one
of the ten most influential men” by MSN, an “eco-illuminator” by
Elle Magazine, a “best green ambassador” by Treehugger.com, and his
blog was selected as one of the top 15 environmental blogs by Time
Magazine.
Colin has appeared on The Colbert Report, Good Morning America,
Nightline and countless other TV and radio shows.
Colin’s latest book is How to Be Alive: A Guide to the Kind of Happiness
that Helps the World
In This Interview, Colin Beavan and I Discuss:

The One You Feed parable
The illusion that we are separate from this world
How to give energy to what is true for you
How to give less energy to what is not true for you
His experience as "No Impact Man."
The martyr, victim, scoundrel, and hero
The four psychological needs we need to satisfy to be
happy
Intrinsic vs Extrinsic goals
The stories we tell ourselves about the world and our
lives
Analogical Thinking
The ukelele approach

For more show notes visit our
website
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44 min
April 27, 2016 124: Colin Beavan
This week we talk to Colin Beavan about being happy AND
changing the world
Colin Beavan’s writing, speaking, consulting and activism have
encouraged tens of thousands of people to examine their lives to
discover what’s really important to them.
He is among the world’s best-known spokespeople on environmental
issues, consumerism and human quality of life. He was called “one
of the ten most influential men” by MSN, an “eco-illuminator” by
Elle Magazine, a “best green ambassador” by Treehugger.com, and his
blog was selected as one of the top 15 environmental blogs by Time
Magazine.
Colin has appeared on The Colbert Report, Good Morning America,
Nightline and countless other TV and radio shows.
Colin’s latest book is How to Be Alive: A Guide to the Kind of Happiness
that Helps the World
In This Interview, Colin Beavan and I Discuss:
The One You Feed parable
The illusion that we are separate from this world
How to give energy to what is true for you
How to give less energy to what is not true for you
His experience as "No Impact Man."
The martyr, victim, scoundrel, and hero
The four psychological needs we need to satisfy to be
happy
Intrinsic vs Extrinsic goals
The stories we tell ourselves about the world and our
lives
Analogical Thinking
The ukelele approach

For more show notes visit our
website
37 min

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