This week on TOWTW Podcast, Chelsea sits down with therapist Carolina Vilalva to explore a client story that'll make you rethink everything about control, punishment, and what betrayal really means. Carolina shares the raw reality of working with a couple where the betrayed wife's quest for control became more destructive than the infidelity itself—controlling finances, social media, even access to his children from a previous marriage. Together, they dive into the uncomfortable truth that connection and control cannot coexist, why punishment never equals healing, and how the ultimate betrayal isn't always what we've been conditioned to believe. They get real about how men and women negotiate freedom in relationships, the dangerous fantasy that we can control outcomes, and why the reaction to infidelity often causes more trauma than the affair itself. This conversation challenges the rigid narratives we've been sold about cheating and invites us into the messy, complex space where real transformation happens—because sometimes the person you're controlling the most is yourself.

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This week on TOWTW Podcast, Chelsea sits down with Dr. Diane to tackle the question every woman in an affair has asked: "Why does sex with my affair partner feel so different than sex with my husband?" Dr. Diane—who holds two doctorate degrees in naturopathic medicine and acupuncture—breaks down the real reasons: new relationship energy, novelty, how female arousal actually works, and why boredom in marriage isn't inevitable. They explore what your affair is really revealing about unmet needs, the role your nervous system plays in desire, and practical ways to bring that chemistry back into long-term relationships. This isn't about shame or fixing what's broken—it's about understanding your body, reclaiming playfulness, and discovering that passion doesn't have to die just because you've been together for years. Because the affair isn't the answer; understanding your desire is.

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This week on The Other Woman And The Wife Chelsea sits down with Katarina Polonska, a High-Performance Relationship Coach who frequently encounters clients dealing with infidelity. Having personally experienced betrayal, Katarina brings a nuanced perspective to the conversation, offering insights from both her professional expertise, which is vast, and personal journey as someone who has been on the receiving end of infidelity.

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Katarina is a high-performance executive relationship coach and the founder of the Successfully in Love ® Method (University of Oxford M.St, ICF ACC). She helps successful executives and entrepreneurs decide whether to stay or go in their romantic relationship, and become as accomplished in their romantic relationships as they are in their careers. Using her proven 3 phase process based on the behavioural science of attraction, disheartened executives can create their ultimate relationship fast - and become successfully in love.

This week on TOWTW Podcast, Chelsea sits down with Paul Keable, Chief Strategy Officer at Ashley Madison, for a conversation that flips everything you think you know about infidelity. Paul reveals the uncomfortable truth that men are actually seeking emotional validation while women are outsourcing their sexual needs, explores why toxic male fragility creates dead bedrooms, and explains how affair partners might be the most honest online daters. They dive into compassionate affairs for caregivers, why discretion isn't about shame but empowerment, and how the judgment we heap on complicated humans like us creates the very underground behaviors we claim to despise – because sometimes going into our pain rather than around it is exactly what transforms relationships.

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Paul Keable is the Chief Strategy Officer at Ashley Madison, the world’s leading married dating platform. With over 20 years of experience in communications and strategy, he has helped shape the company’s global direction for more than a decade. Paul is known for his insights on love, monogamy, and how technology is transforming modern relationships, and he frequently speaks about creating safer, more authentic spaces for connection.

In this announcement, Chelsea shares her decision to take a summer break from the podcast to focus on personal growth, family time, and self-reflection. While the show pauses, the community's safe space continues, and Chelsea promises to return in early September with fresh perspectives and new stories about love, loyalty, and authenticity. She encourages listeners to use this hiatus as their own opportunity for self-discovery and self-care.

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This week on TOWTW Podcast, Chelsea sits down with integrative bodywork and somatic therapist Joshua Marable for a serendipitous conversation about the messy realities of human connection. Joshua challenges us to go into our pain rather than around it, exploring how synchronicity, self-awareness, and somatic healing intersect with relationships. They dive deep into maintaining your sense of self within partnerships, the real talk about sex and intimacy, conflict resolution beyond surface fixes, and why infidelity is often about unmet needs rather than simple betrayal. This raw, unfiltered discussion transcends judgment and approaches relationships with the kind of radical honesty that transforms pain into growth – because sometimes the conversation you're avoiding is exactly the one you need to have.

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Joshua Marable is Somatic Therapist at WellessenceMD

With over 20 years of experience in the somatic-related fields of integrative bodywork, therapeutic massage, mindfulness coaching, and personal training, Joshua Marable brings a wealth of expertise and dedication to WellessenceMD. 

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This week on TOWTW Podcast Chelsea is joined by guest Kara Nance to explore the unconscious nature of desire, attachment styles, and the three key instinctual energies that drive human behavior—self-preservation, social, and sexual. Together, they delve into the delicate balance required in partnerships, how unmet trauma can perpetuate cycles of pain, and the ongoing challenge of maintaining sexual energy in long-term relationships. They also emphasize the critical importance of authenticity, personal growth, and facing difficult truths in relationships.

Guest Bio: Kara Nance is an MD who has navigated multiple long-term relationships while raising four children. After becoming disillusioned with the traditional healthcare system, she left to create her own practice, bringing a unique perspective to both medicine and relationships.

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Sometimes the harshest critics become the most profound teachers. In this follow-up episode of TOWTW Podcast, Chelsea reconnects with one of her original TikTok trolls. Avid listeners might remember him from Episode 35—”From Trolling To Dialogue”. He spent months processing his wife's infidelity by trolling her in the comments. Nearly a year later, he's back with a completely different perspective, sharing his journey from anger to healing and proving there really is life after infidelity for everyone involved. This isn't your typical "happily ever after" story—it's a real look at how our biggest critics are often fighting battles we can't see, and how transformation happens when we choose growth over grudges

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This week on TOWTW Podcast, Chelsea flips the script and puts Ann Marie in the hot seat. You know that familiar voice who's been weaving through our episodes? Time to meet the woman behind it. Ann Marie opens up about her own messy, beautiful journey with infidelity and reveals how she went from podcast listener to now co-conspirator in creating this safe harbor for complicated humans like us. 

This isn't just Ann Marie's origin story – it's a love letter to everyone who's ever felt like they needed permission to be human. If you're still reading remember: You don't need permission, but you deserve to feel less alone. Welcome to the messy, transformative world of finding your voice.

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This week on TOWTW Podcast Chelsea sits down with returning guest Carolina Vilalva. Together they discuss how to move from the drama triangle (where we play hero, villain, or victim) into the empowerment triangle where we claim our personal power as creators, facilitate self-empowerment as coaches, and provoke positive action as challengers. If you’ve been feeling ‘stuck’ in your circumstance this episode is for you!

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Carolina is a certified Executive and Life Coach from Columbia University with over 11 years of experience specializing in life transitions for couples, executives, teenagers, and parents. She holds a B.A. in Clinical Psychology and International Relations from Tufts University and a Master’s in International Education.

Her training includes EFT, IOPT, DISC assessments, and she is pursuing licensure in Neurofeedback. A Third Culture Kid and part of a blended multicultural family, she has lived on four continents and is currently based in Maputo, Mozambique, where her husband serves as a diplomat.