The Recovery Room

By Tim Tedder

What's The Recovery Room about?

"The Recovery Room" is a podcast focussed on affair recovery discussions and interviews hosted by author and licensed counselor Tim Tedder, creator of AffairHealing.com resources.

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The Recovery Room episodes:

11.05.2020
#503 Gaslighting - You Make Me Crazy
Counselors Tim Tedder and Sharon Tedder talk about gaslighting. What is it? How does it show up during infidelity? During affair recovery? What should you do if someone is gaslighting you? * Episode Resouces: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcast503.html
10.05.2020
#502 Dealing with Multiple Affairs
Counselors Tim Tedder and Jenn Gingras discuss unique issues to consider when dealing with someone who has had multiple affairs. Is there hope for recovery? What difference does it make to the betrayed partner? What does it mean to the...
04.11.2020
#501 Satisfying Choices, Lasting Change
Tim Tedder talks about what influences the choices and changes we make, with particular focus on decisions made in the aftermath of an affair. In the introduction, Tim and Sharon discuss life shifts resulting from COVID-19. * Episode notes and resources...
08.16.2019
#408 Stuck On A Feeling: The Power of Limerence
Counselors Tim Tedder and Sharon Tedder interview a neuroscientist to learn more about the limerence experience. What's going on in the brain of someone who is caught up in the powerful emotions often experienced in an affair (a condition sometimes...
05.30.2019
#407 Infidelity Choices: Compromise, Indecision, Recovery
Three counselors discuss affair choices as they result in compromises (crossing the line into infidelity), indecision, and recovery. * Episode notes and resources available at AffairHealing.com/podcast407
05.08.2019
#406 Infidelity Responses: Anger, Children, Forgiveness
Three counselors discuss affair responses related to anger, children, and forgiveness as they review their earlier conversations about these topics. * Episode notes and resources available at AffairHealing.com/podcast406
03.21.2019
#405 Check-In: What do they remember about the affair?
Three counselors respond to a callers question about the veracity of her husband's claims that he doesn't remember any of the details about his recent affair. * Episode notes and resources available at AffairHealing.com/podcast405
03.02.2019
#404 Why Did You Cheat?
Tim Tedder and others discuss the various issues related to why someone has an affair in order to gain insight into the past and define changes necessary for rebuilding trust. The entire "Understanding Why" course is available at AffairHealing.com. *...
02.16.2019
#403 Check-In: Sex struggles after an affair?
Counselor Tim Tedder respond to the question: "Is it normal to have sex struggles in your marriage after an affair?" * Episode notes and resources available at AffairHealing.com/podcast403
01.29.2019
#402 Check-In: How do I help him heal from my affair?
Three counselors respond to the question: "What can I do to help my husband heal after my affair? He's stuck." * Episode notes and resources available at AffairHealing.com/podcast402
01.08.2019
#401 Post Betrayal Transformation
Tim Tedder interviews Debi Silber to find out more about the five stages of Post Betrayal Transformation. Debi is the founder of PBT Institute (pbtinstitute.com), focussed on helping women move from betrayal to breakthrough. * Episode notes and resources available...
12.14.2018
#306 "Trauma of Betrayal" Pt 2
Counselors Tim Tedder & Sharon Tedder address the trauma of betrayal in two podcasts. In Part 2, they focus on "Recovering From Trauma." This episode includes a consideration of the unique challenges of betrayal trauma, therapeutic approaches that help in...
12.07.2018
#305 "Trauma of Betrayal" Pt 1
Counselors Tim Tedder & Sharon Tedder address the trauma of betrayal in two podcasts. In Part 1, they focus on "Understanding Trauma" especially as it is experienced by those who have been injured by a partner's affair. * Episode Info...
09.24.2018
#304 "Affair Recovery Q&A #2"
Tim Tedder, Sharon Tedder and Jennifer Gingras answer callers' questions regarding healing from infidelity: What can I do to help my husband who is struggling since finding out about my affair? My wife's affair revealed new things about her. How...
05.25.2018
#303 "State of Affairs 2: Telling & Exploring"
Tim Tedder and Jennifer Gingras, affair recovery counselors, discuss Esther Perel's book, The State of Affairs. In part 2, they talk about whether or not to tell about an affair and what issues need to be explored by couples who...
04.22.2018
#302 "State of Affairs 1: Meaning & Roles"
Tim Tedder and Jennifer Gingras, affair recovery counselors, discuss Esther Perel's book, The State of Affairs. In part 1, they talk about understanding the meaning behind an affair and the role of each partner in the recovery process. * Episode...
03.29.2018
#301 "Affair Recovery Q&A #1"
In this first episode of a new season, counselors Tim Tedder and Sharon Tedder give their responses to four questions asked by callers: (1) What should I do to save my marriage when my husband seems minimally involved in the...
12.11.2017
#214 "Healing Alone After an Affair"
Counselors Tim Tedder and Sharon Tedder discuss various issues to consider when healing from an affair means leaving the marriage as they consider the choices of both the injured partner and involved partner. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast214
10.21.2017
#213 "Crossing the Line: When Does Infidelity Begin"
Counselor Tim Tedder considers the line between fidelity and infidelity and examines two affair stories to gain insight into when and how the lines are crossed. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast213
09.30.2017
#212 "Affair Recovery Myths"
Counselors Tim and Sharon Tedder talk about common affair recovery myths including: affairs are evidence of a bad marriage; the first step in affair recovery should be marriage counseling; hiding painful information is better than causing more hurt; forgiveness requires...
09.03.2017
#211 "Loveable"
Counselors Tim Tedder, Sharon Tedder, and Jennifer Gingras talk about affair healing issues of worthiness, shame, and grace in their discussion of the book Loveable by Kelly Flanagan. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast211
08.20.2017
#210 "7 Things Your Betrayed Partner Wishes You Knew"
Three counselors, Tim Tedder, Sharon Tedder, and Jennifer Gingras, discuss eight truths about affair recovery that betrayed partners wish their partners understood. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast210
07.16.2017
#209 "A Reconnected Marriage"
Affair recovery counselor Tim Tedder explains the steps necessary for couples who, after an affair, want to experience intimacy and trust in their marriage again. He interviews Ryan and Jen who talk about their satisfying marriage seven years after Ryan...
06.01.2017
#207 "The Cooperating Couple"
Continuing in the Relationship Renewal strategy for couples building a new marriage after infidelity, Tim Tedder explains the fourth stage of Cooperation in which couples form a cooperating partnership to work toward agreed goals. (Relationship Renewal Stage. For earlier stages...
04.18.2017
#205 "8 Affair Counseling Cautions"
Counseling is often an important part of affair recovery, but not every counseling choice or experience is a good one. Tim Tedder and Jennifer Gingras, counselors who specialize in affair recovery issues, discuss eight important issues to consider when seeking...
04.03.2017
#204 "Needing To Ask About The Affair"
After an affair, betrayed spouses often find themselves wanting to ask countless questions about the affair while the unfaithful spouse responds with resistance or anger. Counselors Tim and Sharon Tedder talk about each partner's role in affair recovery when it...
02.20.2017
#203 "Thank God for Wellbutrin"
Counselors Tim Tedder and SharonTedder discuss the potential benefits of prescription medication in helping in the affair healing process and consider reasons some people are hesitant to consider using them. This episode includes comments from listeners who share their experience...
01.28.2017
#202 "Forgiving Infidelity"
Counselors Tim Tedder and Jennifer Gingras talk about forgiveness following an affair. What is forgiveness? What is it not? What gets in the way of forgiving infidelity? What are steps to help you move toward forgiving an unfaithful partner? Episode...
01.03.2017
#201 "Hope for Change"
Discussion of a recent survey asking people who'd experienced an affair in their marriage to describe the past year and their hope for the next. Counselors Tim Tedder, Sharon Tedder, and Jennifer Gingras give their perspective and talk about how...
12.21.2016
#123 "Handling the Holidays"
Counselors Tim Tedder, Sharon Tedder, and Jennifer Gingras discuss the difficulties often experienced when trying to navigate holiday celebrations while recovering from the trauma of an affair. They also share advice from members of our Community forum. Episode Info & Resources...
11.15.2016
#122 "Healing Advice for Wounded Couples"
Tim Tedder interviews Linda MacDonald, author of the book, How To Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair. They discuss affair counseling and her advice for both partners after an affair. For podcast notes, episode resources, and information about the Relationship...
11.11.2016
#122 "Healing Advice for Wounded Couples"
Tim Tedder interviews Linda MacDonald, author of the book, How To Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair. They discuss affair counseling and her advice for both partners after an affair. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast122 [The following song, available...
11.01.2016
#121 Convo: "How Did She Really Feel About Her Affair Partner?"
Counselors Tim & Sharon Tedder answer a caller's question about how his wife describes her feelings for the affair partner, and recommend a recovery resource for betrayed spouses. Podcast Shownotes: affairhealing.com/podcast121 Phone Coaching with Tim or Sharon: affairhealing.com/coaching Leave a question or comment on our...
10.28.2016
#121 "How Did She Really Feel About Her Affair Partner?"
Counselors Tim & Sharon Tedder answer a caller's question about how his wife describes her feelings for the affair partner, and recommend a recovery resource for betrayed spouses. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast121
10.19.2016
#120 "Reaction-Clarity" (Relationship Renewal Stages 2-3)
Tim Tedder, an affair recovery counselor, discusses stages 2 and 3 of relationship renewal after an affair: REACTION and CLARITY. He is joined by his wife and co-worker, Sharon, to further discuss some of the issues couples face during these...
10.15.2016
#120 "Affair Reaction and Clarity"
Tim Tedder, an affair recovery counselor, discusses stages 2 and 3 of relationship renewal after an affair: REACTION and CLARITY. He is joined by his wife and co-worker, Sharon, to further discuss some of the issues couples face during these...
08.03.2016
#118 "Exposing the Affair"
Tim Tedder, an affair recovery counselor, introduces the five stages of relationship renewal after an affair and discusses the first stage of EXPOSURE, the uncovering of the affair. This program includes a discussion with his wife, Sharon, and stories that...
06.20.2016
#114 "Mark's Story: One Man's Account of His Affair"
Originally written under the pseudonym of Mark, Tim Tedder wrote a detailed account of his affair experience. It became the most popular resource on AffairHealing.com. This story, now presented in audio format, includes these chapters: Unexpected Unfaithfulness (2:00), A Vulnerable...
06.09.2016
#113 "Affair Questions & Answers" (June 2016)
Counselors Tim & Sharon Tedder answer affair related questions submitted by listeners. This episode includes questions about staying healthy with a spouse who is openly cheating, how to deal with an affair partner, how to deal with the strong feelings...
06.06.2016
#112 "He Said He Didn't Love Me Anymore"
Counselor Tim Tedder interviews Robin, whose husband announced one day that he wanted a divorce. As she tells her story, we discuss finding out about an affair, Trickle Truth, snooping, forgiving, trusting, and change. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast112
06.05.2016
#113 "Affair Questions & Answers" (June 2016)
Counselors Tim & Sharon Tedder answer affair related questions submitted by listeners. This episode includes questions about staying healthy with a spouse who is openly cheating, how to deal with an affair partner, how to deal with the strong feelings...
05.22.2016
#111 "Are Cheaters Broken People?"
Counselors Tim & Sharon Tedder discuss whether an affair reveals a deep brokenness or a temporary crack and recommend an online resource for growth and recovery. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast111
05.20.2016
#110 "Signs of Real Affair Recovery"
Counselor Tim Tedder discusses the evidences to look for in determining whether healthy recovery is happening in a marriage after an affair and talks to a betrayed husband about his part in their marriage healing. [Note: This is a combined...
05.16.2016
#109 Convo: "Needing Affair Closure"
Counselors Tim & Sharon Tedder discuss one betrayed spouse's desire for her husband to send a final message to the affair partner nine months after the affair ended and consider the pros and cons of doing so. They also recommend...
05.09.2016
#108 Convo: "Reality vs Fantasy"
A conversation between husband-and-wife counselors Tim & Sharon Tedder as they discuss a recent forum post about the euphoric feelings in an affair and recommend a good book to read. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast108
04.22.2016
#107 "Children and Affairs"
A unique conversation between a father and his children in which they about their experience of being in a family torn apart by his affair. A frank discussion about pain, consequences, healing, and forgiveness. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast107
03.30.2016
#105 "One Couple's Affair Healing Story"
Tim Tedder interviews Tim & Lori about their current journey of recovery from Lori's affair. Each shares a unique perspective of marriage on the other side of infidelity. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast105
03.21.2016
#104 "Ping Pong Effect: The Unfaithful Partner's Indecision"
Tim Tedder discusses the pattern of indecision often experienced by a partner who has been unfaithful, swinging back and forth between choosing their spouse or the affair partner. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast104
03.14.2016
#103 "Dealing with Anger After an Affair"
Tim Tedder, counselor and founder of AffairHealing.com, talks about ways destructive anger can be changed to lead toward healing and connection instead. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast103

What's The Recovery Room about?

Download our free app to listen on your phone

The Recovery Room episodes:

#503 Gaslighting - You Make Me Crazy

#502 Dealing with Multiple Affairs

#501 Satisfying Choices, Lasting Change

#408 Stuck On A Feeling: The Power of Limerence

#407 Infidelity Choices: Compromise, Indecision, Recovery

#406 Infidelity Responses: Anger, Children, Forgiveness

#405 Check-In: What do they remember about the affair?

#404 Why Did You Cheat?

#403 Check-In: Sex struggles after an affair?

#402 Check-In: How do I help him heal from my affair?

#401 Post Betrayal Transformation

#306 "Trauma of Betrayal" Pt 2

#305 "Trauma of Betrayal" Pt 1

#304 "Affair Recovery Q&A #2"

#303 "State of Affairs 2: Telling & Exploring"

#302 "State of Affairs 1: Meaning & Roles"

#301 "Affair Recovery Q&A #1"

#214 "Healing Alone After an Affair"

#213 "Crossing the Line: When Does Infidelity Begin"

#212 "Affair Recovery Myths"

#211 "Loveable"

#210 "7 Things Your Betrayed Partner Wishes You Knew"

#209 "A Reconnected Marriage"

#207 "The Cooperating Couple"

#205 "8 Affair Counseling Cautions"

#204 "Needing To Ask About The Affair"

#203 "Thank God for Wellbutrin"

#202 "Forgiving Infidelity"

#201 "Hope for Change"

#123 "Handling the Holidays"

#122 "Healing Advice for Wounded Couples"

#122 "Healing Advice for Wounded Couples"

#121 Convo: "How Did She Really Feel About Her Affair Partner?"

#121 "How Did She Really Feel About Her Affair Partner?"

#120 "Reaction-Clarity" (Relationship Renewal Stages 2-3)

#120 "Affair Reaction and Clarity"

#118 "Exposing the Affair"

#114 "Mark's Story: One Man's Account of His Affair"

#113 "Affair Questions & Answers" (June 2016)

#112 "He Said He Didn't Love Me Anymore"

#113 "Affair Questions & Answers" (June 2016)

#111 "Are Cheaters Broken People?"

#110 "Signs of Real Affair Recovery"

#109 Convo: "Needing Affair Closure"

#108 Convo: "Reality vs Fantasy"

#107 "Children and Affairs"

#105 "One Couple's Affair Healing Story"

#104 "Ping Pong Effect: The Unfaithful Partner's Indecision"

#103 "Dealing with Anger After an Affair"