Dan Drake is well known in the sex addiction space for his workbook that men and women use during the “Full Therapeutic Disclosure” process.

A full therapeutic disclosure is a process where the cheating partner discloses a full history of their sexual behavior. The betrayed partner can choose what it is that they want to know and what they do NOT want to know.

This episode will be different than many of the other podcasts you have listened to about disclosure. I ask Dan a variety of common questions that couples have when approaching the disclosure process.

If you want to purchase Dan’s workbook, you can find it here: https://a.co/d/f6wR0X0

Also! My book was just released last week! You can find it here on Amazon: https://a.co/d/41whYp7

If you are a high-achiever struggling with sex and porn addiction, visit our website at successfuladdict.com

We provide men with a deeply connected recovery group using 4-day retreats, weekly calls, and daily accountability.

Your wife has the right to be mad about whatever she wants to be mad about. Comparing your acting out to another guy’s acting out is irrelevant. The issue is the deception.

Being married to a liar sucks. That’s what she’s mad about.

It’s the lack of trust that will torture your wife the most. If you are deep into recovery, you probably already know this. But, keep it in mind as you continue to heal the marriage.

**Announcement** My book is now available on Amazon! “The High Achiever’s Guide to Sex Addiction Recovery: A Proven Blueprint For Successful Professionals to Overcome Sex and Porn Addiction. 

Use the link here to get your copy: https://a.co/d/49F2wpE

All wives wish they could help their husbands feel the pain of being betrayed. Unfortunately, it can be very difficult to imagine the hurt that infidelity brings.

In this episode, Vanessa Cardenas and I discuss “her experience” to help sex addicts better communicate during the painful phases of betrayal recovery.

Vanessa is a relationship coach who has been personally affected by sexual betrayal. She and I share our experiences navigating relational recovery and how other couples can do the same to heal their marriages.

There is hope! Couples who put in the work will come out stronger! Take my word for it, it’s worth the wait!

You can visit Vanessa’s website here: https://understandingear.com/

If you’re a high-achiever in recovery, my book just became available last week! You can get your copy on Amazon: https://a.co/d/aB52YuU

If you are looking to attend our next sex addiction retreat, visit our website at: successfuladdict.com

Sobriety and Recovery are totally different things. Sobriety is protecting yourself from unwanted behavior. Recovery is getting to a place where you no longer need protection.

To me, most men are working a sobriety plan, not a recovery plan.

The focus is on NOT doing things rather than changing their brain.

Remember, this is a process addiction. To truly recover, you need to change the thought processes that allow the behavior to occur.

Yes, you need to get sober. But, sobriety alone isn’t enough to go the distance. Relapse is a real thing. Those who are sober and have not recovered are at a higher risk.

Recovery is a return to self. Your true purpose before life got in your way. It’s your calling to get back there. Addiction is just a symptom of you being off track.

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If you’re a high-achiever looking for a recovery group, visit our website at successfuladdict.com

Has your wife asked you the dreaded question: “Are you even in good recovery?”

Geoff Steurer is one of the most well-known names in the sex addiction and infidelity space. His podcast is one of the top podcasts in the field. 

In this episode, Geoff and I talk about the sex and porn addiction recovery process and how guys can gauge if they are actually “doing everything they can.”

We also talk about what your wife will want to see in your recovery and how you can prove to her that you are working a plan that has been proven to work.

If you are married and have not yet listened to Geoff’s podcast, From Crisis To Connection, you can find it here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/from-crisis-to-connection-with-geoff-jody-steurer/id1290359940

You can find out more about Geoff and his offerings at https://www.geoffsteurer.com/

If you are a high-achiever looking for a recovery group full of like-minded men, visit my website here: successfuladdict.com

To overcome a sex addiction you need:

Here’s the problem… it’s hard to get all three recovery aspects listed above.

This is sad… because the lack of all three is what often leads to relapse/divorce.

In this episode, I outline what a perfect recovery program should include and why it will accelerate your recovery.

When it comes to sex and porn addiction, delaying your recovery is a mistake that has life-altering consequences. Ultimately, your recovery is on YOU. If you choose to sit back and wait for it to happen… you will probably be waiting for a really long time (if you’re married, your wife will likely tap out).

If you are a high-achiever, executive, sales/business professional, business owner/ entrepreneur making more than $200K/year, you will love our program “The Successful Addict.”

We provide successful men with a sex addiction recovery group full of like-minded men with whom they can relate to. The program includes an accountability/check-in system, weekly Zoom meetings, and 4-day retreats that happen twice a year.

If you are looking for a deeply connected tribe of men to do recovery with, visit our website here: www.successfuladdict.com

Sex addiction is classified as a process addiction. Process addiction is very different from substance addiction as your thoughts have everything to do with how addicted you will become.

What’s the cure… Self-Mastery.

In this episode, Jeremy Lipkowitz and I discuss how we both use self-mastery practices in our own recovery and how other men can implement the same strategies in their recovery.

Jeremy has a porn addiction podcast called Unhooked: Breaking Porn Addiction Podcast.

You can find his podcast here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/unhooked-breaking-porn-addiction-podcast/id1648984850

If you are interested in working with Jeremy, head to https://www.jeremylipkowitz.com/

If you are looking for a sex addiction recovery group exclusively for high-achievers and entrepreneurs, visit my website here: successfuladdict.com

The sex addiction field is largely a copy-and-paste of substance addiction. While the sex/porn addiction field has made a lot of progress recently, a lot of work still needs to be done.

Does abstinence-based treatment work when it comes to sex and porn addiction?

The stats would suggest… NO.

Sex addiction is very different from substance addiction. You do not need drugs and alcohol to survive. However, you do need sex. The human race would disappear without the desire/need to repopulate.

So, can you treat sex addiction with abstinence? Listen to this episode to find out more.

If you are a high-achiever or entrepreneur recovering from sex addiction, visit our website here: successfuladdict.com

Our recovery groups are exclusively for successful men who are trying to overcome their compulsive sexual behavior and save their marriage.

Scott Cone and Chris Inman run a sex and porn addiction coaching program for Christian men. 

In this episode, we discuss the aspect of Christianity as it pertains to sex addiction. We also talk about how sexual compulsivity forms in successful men and how they can craft a recovery program that works for them.

All three of us have been personally affected by sex addiction and I think you will find our experiences helpful as you are crafting your own sobriety and recovery plan.

If you want to learn about Chris and Scott’s coaching program, visit their website here: https://www.sexcessfulmen.com/

And, their podcast here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/we-got-balls/id1681443004

If you are a high-achiever or entrepreneur looking for a recovery program designed specifically for successful men, visit my website https://successfuladdict.com

Relapse is a dreaded word in the sex addiction world. If you’re lucky, your wife will give you another chance. But, typically a second chance is all they will give you. Third or fourth chances are rare and much harder to come back from.

But, relapses don’t have to happen to you… as long as you can identify the processes that you are addicted to and remove them from your life.

Sex and porn addiction are classified as a process addiction. It’s important that you do your research here as process addiction needs to be treated much differently than substance addiction. 

Most of the sex addiction field has been a ‘copy and paste’ from substance addiction and the 12-step philosophy. However, there’s no evidence that suggests this method is effective. In fact, if you look at the 31% relapse rate, one would suggest that the substance addiction approach is not effective when treating process addictions.

Listen to this episode. I will explain what you can do to get a grip on your process addiction so that you can avoid future relapse.

If you are a high-achiever looking for a sex addiction recovery group. Visit our website here: successfuladdict.com

If you want to overcome your sex addiction, you need to uncover the specific brain processes that you are addicted to and implement strategies that have been proven to promote change. Our program can help you get there.