The Susan Winter Show

Alika writes, “Hey Susan, I'm a big fan of yours! My question is about taking chances. Is it a good idea to "shoot your shot" as Millennial's often say? I find myself wanting to interact with people I see at school or the gym, or even messaging them on social media, but I don't have the guts for it. Even further, I can't tell if I'm being reasonable talking myself down, or if that feeling is actually insecurity?”

Julie writes, “Dear Susan, how can you tell if you and your partner are on the same page regarding the future if your partner is a more reticent, cautious person? I know that my partner loves me a lot, is kind and consistent. However, unlike me, who would love to dive straight in to a life together, he is taking things much more slowly and warily. I sometimes take this for a lack of commitment. Thank you! J”

Some partners need to create a false reality in their minds so that they can play the victim. By repeating and embellishing ‘alternative facts,' you're always at fault. Here's the best way to stop this dating game, and your need to defend yourself against false accusations.

The first phase of any growth process is the realization that a change must be made. That's a good thing. While recalibrating to our new and improved selves, we can temporarily look worse (even though we're getting better). Here's how to handle this uncomfortable transition while dating and mating.

Do you feel like you're losing faith in finding love? Here's the good news. Celebrities are leading the new trend towards commitment by pulling the trigger on engagement. What does that mean for you? That the hookup culture is becoming passé as partnership gains momentum.

Dominik writes, “Hi Susan, I‘ve watched all of your videos and they are so helpful, thank you! Before I found you, I used to follow coaches that said things like “Don't give compliments, otherwise it will make you look anxious, ” etc., but after I found you I realized that with those rules one cannot find love. One can only find love if he shows up. But what do you do if you show up but the other person doesn't?”

Just when you thought you'd handled your heartache, it comes raging to the surface. A delayed response to a painful event or situation can put us into a tailspin. Here's how to handle that emotional onslaught and move through the process of healing.

Viewer Katia writes, “Hi Susan, I love your videos! You are helping me to find my true self and heal after a breakup. My question is about tolerating differences in a relationship. How do you know when something is a deal breaker versus something that you should compromise on? I'm not sure if I was focusing on the bad or if that one trait was intolerable for me. Thank you!”

R Baker writes, “Brilliant video, and Nikka was an adorable addition. Can't wait to see the ‘why did you pick someone who was so difficult?' video, Susan! I've realised that, age 40, if all my boyfriends have been disappointments then the basic common denominator is me. Not them. I really want to change who I gravitate towards. Pretty much guaranteed - if I find myself liking someone, I reckon I should run away as they are guaranteed to be complicated and cause confusion and disappointment in my life.”

Debbie writes, “Could you perhaps do a video on how to handle it when your partner doesn't give you the attention you need, whether it's at the start of a new relationship or in a longer-term relationship. I.e. how do you speak to them about it without seeming clingy and how do you handle your own emotions of needing that much attention from them. Thank you.”