The Susan Winter Show

Emmy writes, “I'm 25 and have gone on many dates with wonderful men. There is attraction, great conversation, but always seems to be something missing. Is it possible to be so happy, independent and comfortable being alone that even if you meet a great guy it will always be stagnant?  I'm emotionally available and fully appreciate the benefits of being in a relationship but am confused by my constant dilemma!”

Emotional meltdowns can be observed, honored, processed and packaged. Here's to reroute an internal upset in real time so that you can move forward and get back to a positive mindset.

Christopher writes, ”Hi Susan. I have admired your work here helping others find confidence in relationships. And I do have a question. Is it true to say that most women want rich successful business type man or ones with good prestigious career pathways? Would it be true to say that as a man who has neither of those (not a good job and not running a successful business) does that mean that I may as well give up b4 starting?”

A ‘Band Aid' relationship is neither good nor bad. It's a get-by type of romantic construct that demands little of its participants. One or both partners are marking time and treading water. The point is to identify if you're in a ‘Band Aid' relationship, just in case you're the partner who wants forward movement.

Lawrence writes, “Hi Susan. My wife and I have separated and she's sleeping around and meeting men off dating sites. She suffers from alcohol abuse stemming from a traumatic childhood. I'd love her to fix this and us be a family my heart keeps wanting to reach out. Is there anything I can do to get her to realise and her tackle her problems and issues or is that something she must see alone?”

You're ready to walk, so why not experiment by enacting 'new ways of being' while you remain with your partner? This is the ‘golden time' to break the negative patterns and try something novel.

Salvatore writes, “Hello Susan, could you explain the psychology or behavior/reasoning behind "haunting"? It's basically the follow up of ghosting. I was ghosted almost a year ago by a girl I went on a date with and she has ignored me up until now, where she popped up watching my Instagram stories. She is currently in a relationship as well. What could this mean?”

Charlotte writes, “Hi Susan. Thank you for all of your wonderful, wise advice in your YouTube videos. You clearly have a gift in understanding human nature. Please may I ask - if you meet a guy that you feel inexplicably drawn to in less than ideal circumstances and with clear obstacles in the way, is this the Universe's way of telling you're way off the mark and that it's a “no-no?” Thanks so much!”

Johnny writes, “Hello Susan. First I wanted to thank you for all your precious advice. My relationship with a man I'm dating is moving forward and my insecurities are coming to the surface. I'm a young man and the guy I'm dating is older than me, very attractive and put together, and I still feel very uneasy around him. Do you have any pieces of advice for me to try to overcome my personal anguish? Thank you”

Wondering why your partner's taking so long to trust you? Here's how to figure out if it's something you're doing to create this situation, or if it's an underlying issue that belongs to (and benefits) your partner.