The Susan Winter Show

We're all afraid of being hurt. But the unbelievable remorse of staying silent is to miss the opportunity to experience love with the person who also loves you. Here's how to speak your truth and embrace the love that is awaiting you.

Charles Belfort writes, “HI Susan, could you please make a VIDEO on the logic behind "it's just and doesn't mean anything", while the person is holding back with someone they date and like in all sorts of ways? In other words whatever has the potential of turning into something meaningful and romantic is put on hold, while casual sex here and there is fine - up until the actual dating started or even kept going on while the dating continued. Have heard of both cases.”

Stella writes, “Hello Susan. I have been dating a man 11 years older than me for 2 years. Both divorced. I'm 40. He has had past failed relationships. I have ddated, nothing serious. He told me from beginning he wasn't boyfriend material?? He acts like a boyfriend when we are together. He won't commit to anything. My gut tells me he's the one and he's afraid of being hurt. Am I kidding myself?”

Shanewrites, “Dear Susan, Enjoying your videos and website, finding your perspective refreshing and insightful. I have a question that's recently crossed my mind. For us younger men who are attracted to and/or seeing an older woman what would you say is the most common mistake we make with an older woman?”

Viewer Fiona writes, “How do you date when your career is in shambles or ‘in process?' It's not ideal, but if the career is not a 6 month fix, should you abstain from the dating market?I have met interesting men in the past two years. Despite an initial attraction, all evaporate. I've been very unsuccessful on the career front and wonder if the two are related? Is my disappointment with career acting as a repellent?”

Future Faking is a form of mental/emotional seduction that lures a dater in the gate. It's the bait of what's wanted; exclusivity, a future together, family, children, lifestyle… whatever it is that rings your bell will be offered in lip service only. Learn the red flags of this specific dating game to be one step ahead of the manipulation.

Marko writes, “Hi Susan, greetings from Europe.What is your opinion on male-female friendships when in a relationship?To give it more context, how are you suppose to react to your partner spending time in private, late at night, with friends from an opposite sex? Especially when you have never been introduced to them in a relationship that's lasted for more than 6 months. Wish you all the best, thanks!”

Viewer Lana writes, “Dear Susan.Thank you so much for your helpful videos. My friends claim that a man knows very quickly whether the woman is girlfriend material or not. Perhaps just after few dates. Could you make a video about this topic? I was seeing a guy who played hot and cold on me, and my friends explained that it is because he knew from the beginning that I am not girlfriend material. Thanks a lot. XX.”

As a self-empowered dater, you may seem ‘too good to be true.' Honest, open and real, your demeanor may throw off a new partner. Here's why being real looks like a game to the disempowered, and how you can remain calm while they warm to your truth.

Viewer Gary H writes, “In your opinion, when is it the best time to let someone know that you like them. Can it ever be too early to do so?Thanks, Gary.“  Here are several options to let someone know you're interested, with the proper timing.