The Susan Winter Show

Hot and cold isn't always what it seems. Though we're savvy to this dating game, what if we're wrong? Could our partner be having a reaction to our reaction? And could two loving people become distanced simply due to fear? Here's how to discern between your partner caring, and one who's only playing a game.

Jelena Gavranovic writes, “Dear Susan, Nearly all men I date send out a strong signal that they want to take me to bed. I'm sometimes at a loss in finding the balance between taking time to get to know someone, or the instant attraction (happened once) where it all went too quickly and after 3 months he said he wasn't ready to commit. Must attraction be there from the very beginning? And if so, at what level?”

Viewer Lola writes, “Hi Susan! How do you move on from rejection and not let it affect your self worth?”  Though your ego is bruised, one person doesn't determine your worth. Here's how to process what occurred and move forward.

We'll never be free to love when our focus is the fear of getting hurt. That outlook negates happiness as it keeps our guard up and locks love out. Here's how to make smart choices and trust yourself.

Marlena writes, “Hi Susan. Hope all is well. I've been watching your videos and you're really awesome!My question is; I'm in a 9-year relationship off and on. My partner told me he needed time to see other people this year in order to make a decision at the end of the year to formalize our relationship. How would you handle a situation like this??! I am frustrated and confused....”

Viewer Maryam writes, “How to deal or empower yourself when you finally find someone you think you deserve, but you keep doubting yourself and your ability to secure happiness?” Thanks Maryam! Here's the technique I use to eradicate limiting thoughts and rewrite my inner directives.

Viewer Erica K writes, “Hi Susan. Thanks for sharing your knowledge with us:) I have been dating a guy from Tinder for 8 months now and he recently asked to be exclusive and ”more serious”. I asked him if he still uses Tinder, he said no.(I deleted my profile a long time ago) Yesterday I found out that he still is on Tinder and it really is bugging me and I feel really sad. How do I confront him without being needy?”

We've all heard the phrase, “Love conquers all.” That can be true — when both partners are unified in their goals and dreams. Love is not enough when the price you pay is compromising your own goals and dreams. Here's how to know when you've given too much.

Viewer Torrie T writes, “Hi Susan. I've held this question in my heart for many years and would love to hear your advice. How do you move forward in dating/relationships after a history of sexual trauma (any type). I know this is a touchy subject, but I believe that you give wise, insightful counsel. I would truly appreciate your input. Thanks!”

Has your partner become complacent? Are they taking you for granted, bored or losing interest? Here's how to reboot your relationship and reactivate their passion, interest and desire.