The Susan Winter Show

One of the most excruciating transits in a romantic relationship is the time period between hoping for the best, while fearing the worst is about to happen. Sometimes the need to believe in the positive can work against us— keeping us locked in a spiral of non-movement and agony. Here’s how to know when there’s still hope and when you should face your losses with dignity and move forward.

Laetitia writes, “Hi Susan,Thank you for all your fabulous advice. So helpful! Here is my question: how to know when to give a chance to some one?”Is there someone you're considering dating? Here are the questions you need to ask yourself in order know if this person is someone you'd like to know more intimately. This worries me lots! We talked about both wanting something serious.”

Have you made it easy for your partner to devalue your worth? If so, here's what you did wrong and here's how to make it right. Learn the inner workings of person who takes their partner for granted, and how the non-prioritized partner gets stuck in the loop of believing their false promises.

Dustin writes, “Hi Susan. I got out of a very toxic relationship 6 months ago. My ex broke up with me. She has bpd. I've been through a lot emotionally post breakup. I know for my salvation I need to move on from her but I still find myself painfully longing this person. How do I move on? I'm terrified that my next relationship will be just as painful if not worse. How do I feel good again and trust again?”

External factors can collide with your inner world to set you up for emotional obsession — even when you're a rational person.  This creates insecurity, and a heightened dependency on a partner. Learn what those situations are, and how to avoid this negative loop.

Tanya writes, “Should previous relationship history matter? I met this guy on tinder and we had such an awesome first date! We clicked right away and I felt comfortable. One of my good friends knows him. My friend did a bit of a background check for me and found out from a source he's been in and out of many relationships and might be a player. This worries me lots! We talked about both wanting something serious.”

Petter Fagerlund writes, “Should you try to resolve an ambivalent situation, that might be characterized as hot and cold, by being open or are you jeopardizing the relationship by doing so?”

Is your spiritual practice weakening your romantic boundaries and making your ‘go blind' to an unhealthy partnership? The overwhelming love that occurs from devoted spiritual awareness is magnificent, but may leave you confused as to how to integrate self-esteem and boundaries in the real world. Here's your guide to that integration.

Anna writes, “Hi Susan. Hope all is well. I've been improving myself so much, thanks to all of your break up videos. I have one question: What should I do if my partner has "The grass is greener" syndrome? He broke up with me out of the blue, turned into a different person. He has a girlfriend now, but begs me to talk to him whenever I cut the cord. But when I mention commitment, he pulls away? Thank you so much.”

Jessie Magliocco writes, ”Do people run hot and cold when they're on the rebound or when an ex is trying to get back into their lives?”Here's the answer to that question and how to handle hot and cold in general.