The Susan Winter Show

Joey writes, “Dear Susan, thanks — the way you advocate authenticity is so refreshing. You've talked about people having you in reserve/place card, and how you should get up and move on. My question is what is the best way to do this? How much of a conversation should there be? I've been seeing a guy I really like for a while and would like more but I feel that I'm stuck as an option not a priority.”

Amber writes, “Hi Susan, What do you think about contacting an ex to call them out for being cruel upon breaking up? To get some things off my chest after about a month of no contact and since it's become obvi he's back together with his ex (he tried to play it off like he'd met someone new and told me I just "didn't have it"). I know this isn't true, but it keeps ringing in my ears and I'm still w/an obsessed mind.”

Your partner's the one who urged you to move ahead in your relationship. Now, they're the one who's backed away. Why? Here's what happened and here are your options.

You may be savvy on decoding hot and cold patterns in dating, but narcissists play a whole different game. Learn how to insulate your heart from needless pain and avoid the emotional tension by being one step ahead of your narcissist.

Laura writes, “Your videos are true pearls of wisdom. Could you talk about sensible, practical tips for ladies to avoid or handle persistent or unwanted attention?  Any red flags you have experienced and how to deal with pushiness etc. Much love, Laura”

Roger writes, “Dear Susan, I am dating a mother of two right now and she is 35 and I am 25. Anyway, she really wants to enjoy life at the moment because she left a relationship of 10 years about 6 months ago. We had sex recently, but she starts to resist it now. I really get the feeling that she starts to get too attached and is afraid of that feeling. I really want a future with her how do I pace this? Xxxxxx”

Not sure what's required in order to take your summer fling through to the fall? Here are two solid tips that create the greatest possibility for your partnership to continue through cuffing season and beyond.

Heather L writes, “Hi Susan! I am gaining so much value and clarity from your content. It's helping me improve my relationships with other people, and helping me improve my self-esteem. In one of your videos, you discuss a client that had an inner dialogue of "If I am really, really good... maybe you will like me back." I find myself falling into this pattern. How can I tip the teeter-totter, as you discuss? Thanks!”

Viewer Ger R writes, “Hi Susan. Please do a video about bringing up the topic of being exclusive. How long before wanting this is reasonable? And, with that conversation, I would think that removing our profiles is appropriate to be part of the discussion. I can understand not dismantling it but it can be kept off of circulation. If your partner never asks to be exclusive and you feel the relationship is at that point, how does one handle this? Thank you, Susan! You take what seems to be big issues in our lives and simplify the thought solving process.”

Furious with your partner? Though you want to lash out in a text message, this isn't the place to start an argument. Learn the amazing power of ‘waiting' to construct the perfect message, and why that choice creates a favorable outcome for you.