What happens when society changes faster than young people can adapt?

I’m joined by psychologist Jamie Maserow to explore the hidden impacts of lockdowns, remote learning and technology on young people’s wellbeing. We unpack how the disruptions of recent years have shaped mental health, learning, and relationships, and why connection needs to come before correction.

We also talk about why many traditional parenting approaches might not meet the needs of young people today, and what it looks like to build resilience through strong, consistent relationships.

Key takeaways:

• How early learning gaps during lockdowns created lasting impacts
• The rise of ADHD and autism diagnoses post-pandemic
• Why online connection doesn’t replace real-world relationships
• The risks of mislabelling distress as a mental illness
• Why healthy boundaries and parental consistency are critical
• How social media affects young people's sleep, stress and self-esteem
• When therapy helps and why forcing it can backfire
• Practical ways parents and carers can reconnect meaningfully

Resources:

• 📚10 Things I Wish You Knew About Your Child's Mental Health by Bill Garvey
• 🎧Pop Culture Parenting Podcast
• The Therapist in Therapy - Jamie Maserow

Contact Jamie Maserow, Psychologist, Author, Yoga Teacher

Website: jamiemaserow.com 

IG: @the.therapist.in.therapy

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If you’re a parent, educator, or anyone supporting young people and you're wondering why things feel harder than they used to, this episode is for you. It’s not about getting everything right, it’s about showing up, staying connected, and being willing to have the conversations that matter.

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What if one partner wants to work on the relationship and the other isn’t sure they want to stay?

In this episode, I talk with therapist Anne Carter about discernment counselling, a structured and supportive process for couples where one or both partners are ambivalent about staying together.

We explore what makes this approach different from traditional couples therapy and how it helps couples make intentional, informed decisions,with whether that’s to repair the relationship or separate with clarity and respect.

Key takeaways:

• What discernment counselling is and who it’s for
• The difference between traditional couples therapy and discernment counselling
• What often brings couples to this crossroads
• The three pathways couples might take after discernment counselling
• How to recognise if discernment counselling is right for your relationship
• Why ambivalence needs space, not pressure to shift
• What therapists should consider when working with mixed agenda couples

If you’re feeling stuck in your relationship or navigating mixed intentions about staying or leaving, check out this episode. Whether you’re the one leaning out or leaning in, this conversation offers thoughtful insight into what comes next and how to move forward with clarity.

Resources:

• https://www.gottman.com/

Contact Anne Carter, Certified Gottman Therapist and Certified Discernment Counsellor.

Email: [email protected]

Website: http://www.welloflife.com.au

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Wondering if your relationship should involve more sex or comparing yourself to what you think is normal? You're not alone. Many couples quietly struggle with mismatched desire, emotional disconnection or unclear expectations about what intimacy should look like.

In this episode, I talk about what it really means to not be having enough sex, how responsive desire plays a role in long-term relationships, and why connection doesn’t always come from frequency.

This one is honest, awkward in all the right ways and full of practical ways to start talking about sex in a way that brings you closer, not further apart.

Key takeaways:

• Why mismatched desire is more common than you think
• What the difference is between spontaneous and responsive desire
• How shame, stress, and resentment affect libido
• Why “not enough sex” often isn't about sex at all
• How to talk about desire and initiate without pressure
• The myth of “normal” frequency in relationships
• The dual control model: brakes, accelerators, and context
• What couples can learn from Emily Nagoski’s work?

If this episode sounds like something you or your partner need to hear, share it with them. Sex is just one way we connect but the conversation around it can be the most meaningful part.

Resources:

Emily Nagoski – Come As You Are

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What happens when love meets change? In this episode we explore the unique challenges and strengths of queer and gender diverse relationships, especially when one partner is transitioning. Therapist Jani Forest Wyatt joins me to unpack the myths, the moments of growth, and the importance of inclusive and affirming couples therapy.

Jani shares insights from both professional and personal experience, from working with Gottman informed couples therapy to challenging stigma in broader social systems. This one’s thoughtful, grounding and full of truth bombs that might change how you think about love, identity and connection.

• How Jani’s early experiences shaped her path to supporting transgender clients
• What Gottman informed therapy looks like when working with queer couples
• The unique stressors queer and trans couples face in therapy
• Myths about relationships “not lasting” after a partner transitions
• The impact of societal judgement on trans individuals and their relationships
• Why acceptance and emotional safety are key to relationship success
• How clinicians can better support trans clients in intimate relationships
• The power of personal motivation in shaping professional practice

• The Gottman Institute
• Australian Association of Social Workers
• Rainbow Health Australia

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www.brilliancecounselling.com.au 

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There’s a lot of advice about what to do to build a strong relationship. But what about the things emotionally healthy couples don’t do?

Join me, Marie Vakakis, a therapist, mental health, and relationships educator. In this episode, I explore six common habits that can damage trust, connection, and communication—and why avoiding them can make a big difference.

Key takeaways:

• Sarcasm, eye-rolling, and small put-downs erode trust over time.
• Name-calling and labelling create emotional distance.
• Venting to friends instead of addressing issues can reinforce resentment.
• The silent treatment damages trust and communication.
• Forgetting milestones isn’t about the big gestures—it’s about showing care.
• Expecting one person to meet all emotional needs puts too much pressure on a relationship.

If any of these sound familiar, you’re not alone—and it’s never too late to shift unhelpful patterns.

If this episode resonates with you, share it with someone who might find it helpful. I’d love to hear your thoughts—reach out and let me know what stood out to you!

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Ever caught yourself thinking, "They should just know what I need"? Unspoken expectations are one of the biggest sources of frustration in relationships. When our partners don’t automatically meet our needs, it can leave us feeling unheard, unloved, or even resentful. But here’s the thing—expecting someone to read your mind rarely works.

Join me, Marie Vakakis, and my guest, psychotherapist Tracy Proud, as we explore why we struggle to express our needs, how childhood experiences shape our relationship patterns, and what happens when we expect our partners to "just know."

Key Takeaways:

• Many of our expectations in relationships are shaped by early experiences, often without us realising it.
• Assuming our partners should "just know" what we need can lead to frustration and resentment.
• Open, honest communication is essential for expressing needs and strengthening connection.
• Conflict isn’t usually about the surface issue—there’s often a deeper meaning behind it.
• Understanding each other’s perspectives helps break unhealthy patterns and fosters emotional intimacy.

Resources:

• The Gottman Institute – Research-backed insights into relationship dynamics.
• Growing Yourself Up by Dr. Jenny Brown – A key resource for anyone looking to deepen their understanding of themselves and their relationships through the lens of family systems theory.

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In tough times, joy can feel out of reach. But sometimes, a single shared laugh has the power to lift the weight of the world—even in a hospital room, a funeral, or a difficult conversation.

In this special episode, I’m adding my voice to Podcasthon , a global movement of over 1,600 shows across 47 countries. Instead of just mentioning a charity at the end, I wanted to go deeper and dedicate this episode to the incredible work of Clown Doctors—specially trained performers who bring laughter into hospitals to ease anxiety and pain.

Together, we’ll explore what laughter does to our bodies and our relationships, why it matters so much in hard moments, and how we can all make space for more playfulness in everyday life.

Episode Summary

This episode is a warm and science-backed reflection on the power of laughter—how it supports our mental health, deepens connection, and even has physical benefits. I talk about the inspiring work of Clown Doctors in Australia, how humour can be a tool for emotional repair, and why laughter belongs in even the most serious spaces.

Key Takeaways

• Laughter triggers feel-good chemicals like endorphins, dopamine, and oxytocin, reducing pain and improving connection
• Scientific research shows laughter can reduce cortisol (our stress hormone) by up to 32%
• Humour can strengthen relationships, ease conflict, and build trust, especially with teens and in families
• Clown Doctors Australia use laughter as a tool in hospitals to reduce anxiety and support healing
• Laughter helps us regulate our emotions and reconnect with others, especially in high-stress moments
• Sharing a laugh can shift the tone in difficult conversations and promote closeness
• We can intentionally create more opportunities for laughter in everyday life
• Playful moments—even small ones—can offer relief, connection, and a sense of hope

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/37220157/

https://humourfoundation.org.au/clown-doctors/

https://www.podcasthon.org/

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Ever feel like you and your partner are just co-existing rather than truly connecting? Maybe your conversations revolve around schedules, bills, and logistics, rather than shared experiences and meaningful moments.

Join me, Marie Vakakis, therapist, mental health and relationships educator, as I share why friendship is the foundation of a strong relationship, how couples drift apart over time, and most importantly, how to rebuild connection and intimacy when you feel like housemates rather than partners.

• Friendship in a relationship creates trust, emotional safety, and longevity.
• Couples often drift apart due to stress, routine, and lack of prioritisation.
• Rebuilding connection starts with curiosity, shared activities, and appreciation.
• Conflict is inevitable, but handling it as teammates rather than opponents strengthens relationships.
• Small moments of connection—like humour, deep conversations, and prioritising fun—can reignite friendship.

If your relationship feels more like a routine than a partnership, this episode is for you. Tune in to learn how to shift from housemates back to best friends.

Resources:

• Bids for Connection – Recognising and responding to bids for connection in relationships.
• The Gottman Institute – Research-based insights on building strong relationships.

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Couples therapy isn’t just about fixing relationship problems—it can also play a huge role in improving mental health. Many people think of therapy as a last resort when things are falling apart, but research shows that relationship support can also help with anxiety, depression, trauma, and emotional regulation.

I’m joined by Trish Purnell-Webb, a clinical psychologist, certified Gottman therapist, and trainer for the Gottman Institute, to discuss how couples therapy strengthens connection and supports mental well-being.

• Couples therapy can lead to better mental health outcomes than individual therapy in some cases.
• A strong, supportive relationship can help regulate emotions and ease stress.
• Many people with mental health struggles feel isolated—even in relationships.
• Learning skills like emotional attunement and validation can reduce distress.
• Therapy teaches couples how to navigate challenges together rather than suffering alone.

• The Gottman Institute’s research on couples therapy effectiveness – www.gottman.com
• Emotionally Focused Therapy by Sue Johnson

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Contact Trish Purnell-Webb:

www.trishpurnell-webb.com.au 

www.relationshipinstitute.com.au

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Ever had a small disagreement spiral into a huge argument? Maybe it started with an eye-roll, a forgotten text, or a messy kitchen bench. Suddenly, it’s not about the dishes—it’s about feeling unheard, unappreciated, or disconnected.

Join me, Marie Vakakis, a therapist, mental health, and relationships educator. In this episode, I unpack why small fights often mask deeper issues, how to tell the difference between healthy and unhealthy conflict, and ways to handle disagreements that strengthen connection rather than push you apart.

• Conflict isn’t just about the argument—it’s about the deeper needs and emotions underneath it.
• Small issues left unresolved can build into resentment and disconnection.
• Healthy conflict strengthens trust, while unhealthy conflict creates emotional distance.
• The Four Horsemen—criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling—can erode trust if left unchecked.
• Repairing after a disagreement is more important than avoiding conflict altogether.
• The way we handle fights can bring us closer or push us further apart.

If you’re interested in how to approach conflict in a way that builds connection rather than breaks it down, check out Episode 52 – It’s Not About the Fight—It’s How You Fight.

• The Gottman Institute – www.gottman.com

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