Joining Andy and Tim, our guest Jen shares how complex trauma shaped her identity long before she had words for it. Growing up with ADHD, emotional gaps, and a persistent sense of “badness,” she learned to survive by adapting to others, carrying emotions that weren’t hers, and losing connection to herself. Together with Tim Fletcher, the conversation explores pre-verbal trauma, shame, attachment patterns, marriage strain, nervous system healing, and why menopause can intensify trauma symptoms for women. This episode offers clarity, validation, and hope for anyone who feels like healing hasn’t worked or wonders why things suddenly got harder later in life.

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On this special Christmas Day episode of Time With Tim, Andy brings together members of Tim’s team to talk about why this season can feel tender for so many people. Christmas is often portrayed as magical, yet for many it brings reminders of loss, loneliness, and change. In this episode, you’ll hear honest reflections on grief, chosen family, new traditions, and the quiet hope that grows through connection. The Fletcher family also shares a heartfelt message to close the episode. Wherever you are today, may you feel a sense of belonging. You are not alone.

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In this episode, Tim and Andy dive into one of the most challenging parts of healing from complex trauma: boundaries. Together they explore why boundaries often feel confusing, scary, or “selfish,” and how unhealthy family systems shape the rules we grow up with. Tim explains the difference between internal and external boundaries, why willpower alone isn’t enough, how shame and fawning affect our ability to hold limits, and what loving, sustainable boundary-setting actually looks like in real relationships. If you’ve ever struggled to stand up for yourself, collapsed around other people’s emotions, or felt guilty for having needs, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and practical tools for change.

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NARM® (The NeuroAffective Relational Model®) is a therapeutic approach developed by Dr. Laurence Heller that helps people heal developmental and complex trauma by restoring connection with their authentic self in the present moment. It focuses on shame, survival patterns, and disrupted attachment, offering a compassionate path toward agency, self-trust, and inner coherence. Andy sits down with fellow LIFT coach and facilitator, Gabriel Schüßler, to cover this fascinating modality.

Learn more about NARM: https://narmtraining.com/

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Human trafficking often hides in plain sight. In this conversation, Katelyn Campbell from the Joy Smith Foundation shares how emotional pain, shame, and the longing for love can make people vulnerable to manipulation and exploitation. With Tim and Andy, she explores how traffickers use trust and affection to control, what warning signs to look for, and how awareness and compassion can help protect others and bring hope to those healing from it.

Learn more with the Joy Smith Foundation: 
https://joysmithfoundation.com/
https://www.instagram.com/joy.smith.foundation 

Listen to the Luma and Bloom Podcast:
https://lumaandbloom.com/ ​
https://www.instagram.com/lumaandbloomofficial/ 

00:00 – Katelyn’s Story: From a Good Childhood to Hidden Wounds
13:00 – Emotional Abuse and Vulnerability
44:00 – Understanding Human Trafficking
57:00 – Warning Signs and Prevention
1:27:00 – Healing, Hope, and Taking Action

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After a traumatic childhood, Morag’s life spiraled into judgment, drinking, and searching for validation in all the wrong places. In this episode of Time with Tim, she shares her journey from trauma and addiction to freedom, spirituality, and self-compassion. Morag opens up about the roots of her pain, the moment everything began to change, and what it means to heal the “little girl inside.” Her story is a powerful reminder that healing is possible for anyone willing to face the truth—and that it’s never too late to find what makes your heart sing.

Grow from Within: https://www.growfromwithin.com.au/
Join LIFT: https://www.timfletcher.ca/lift-online-learning

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Troy Koerntjes’ path led from outlaw motorcycle clubs and chaos to recovery and compassion. Through injury, grief, and therapy, he discovered the kind of belonging he’d always searched for and now leads programs that help others find connection, strength, and healing.

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Website: https://completehealthgeelong.com.au/
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Breanne Fletcher joins Andy Carlson for an honest and inspiring conversation about her journey through complex trauma, addiction, and recovery. She shares how inner child work, reparenting, and facing painful emotions became turning points in her healing, and how those experiences now shape her leadership in the LIFT program. This episode explores what it means to step out from behind perfectionism, embrace authenticity, and discover that healing is possible, even when it’s hard.

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Tim and Andy speak with author and embodiment coach Jamie Lee Finch about healing from religious trauma, rebuilding self-connection, and reclaiming identity. Their conversation explores body image, sexuality, shame, and somatic practices like movement and meditation as powerful tools for trauma recovery and personal growth.

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Experiential Anatomy Podcast: http://exanatomy.substack.com/
Use coupon code TIM to join Jamie's Your Body is a Person course for 20% off: https://course.jamieleefinch.com/pages/your-body-is-a-person



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Why is it common for people with Complex Trauma to not know who they are? Are there practical tools that can help them get to know who they are?

This is a lecture originally published on YouTube on Aug 27, 2021 [link]. We are making some of Tim's lectures available as bonus episodes on the podcast so you can listen on the go. To see all of Tim's talks, visit YouTube, where you can find hundreds of his talks both old and new.

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