Why is it common for people with Complex Trauma to not know who they are? Are there practical tools that can help them get to know who they are?

This is a lecture originally published on YouTube on Aug 27, 2021 [link]. We are making some of Tim's lectures available as bonus episodes on the podcast so you can listen on the go. To see all of Tim's talks, visit YouTube, where you can find hundreds of his talks both old and new.

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What does it really mean to be the “problem child” in a dysfunctional family? In this powerful conversation, Andrea Ashley (host of The Adult Child Podcast) joins Tim Fletcher and Andy Carlson to share her story of growing up with an alcoholic parent, being scapegoated, and turning to addiction as a teen. Andrea opens up about the shame that shaped her identity, the turning points in her recovery, and how she transformed pain into purpose through her community. Together, they explore how addiction is often just a symptom, why sobriety alone isn’t enough, and what it takes to heal from complex trauma.

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Andy sits down with LIFT Staff Member Núria to explore her journey of living with both autism and ADHD while healing from complex trauma. She opens up about shame, masking, and the search for authentic connection, sharing how recovery programs, community, and self-compassion helped her break old patterns and begin to truly see herself.

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In this episode of the Time with Tim podcast, Tim and Andy sit down with Dr. Les Carter of Surviving Narcissism to discuss the roots of narcissism, how it develops through trauma, and what healing looks like for those who’ve been impacted. Dr. Carter tells us about the spectrum of narcissism, why we’re drawn to familiar dysfunction, and how recovery begins with self-awareness, boundaries, and connection.

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Tiayrra Bradley shares how art became a powerful refuge after childhood trauma, helping her reconnect with herself and the world around her. In this deeply personal conversation, she explores the role of creativity, safe spaces, and authenticity in long-term healing. Her story highlights the power of art to transform pain into joy, and isolation into community.

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In this episode, Tim and Andy talk with Valerie Rubin about her journey healing from anxiety, trauma, and anxious attachment. She reflects on how childhood, family dynamics, and cultural identity shaped her sense of self and safety. Together, they explore the link between anxiety and shame, the role of spirituality, and how somatic practices like brainspotting support healing. The conversation also touches on boundaries, intuition, and the power of validating lived experience.

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Co-host Andy speaks with Gabriel, a self-described recovering "nice guy", about healing from codependency, reparenting, and shame. They explore how vulnerability, curiosity, and self-compassion support personal growth. Gabriel reflects on German cultural influences on complex trauma, deconstructing ideals, and the importance of inner stability over external validation. This is a grounded and down-to-earth conversation on love, relationships, and the importance of showing up for yourself.

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Psychotherapist and LCSW Vanessa Reiser, shares her powerful personal story of surviving narcissistic abuse and how she helps others break free through her practice. From trauma bonding to radical self-love, Vanessa explains the hidden tactics of manipulation and what true healing looks like. Whether you're recovering from emotional abuse or trying to understand it, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and practical tools.

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In this powerful episode of Time with Tim, we sit down with Alicia—an Indigenous hoop dancer, writer, early childhood educator, and survivor of human trafficking and gang involvement. Alicia shares her raw and courageous story, revealing how she endured years of violence, addiction, and systemic failure, and how she ultimately found healing through culture, community, and inner transformation. From her early years of overachievement and hidden pain to the moment she reclaimed her life, Alicia speaks with honesty and heart. She discusses the role of Indigenous hoop dancing in her recovery, her experience with inner child work, and how rebuilding safety and trust became the foundation for freedom. This conversation is about survival—but more than that, it’s about reclaiming identity, agency, and joy. It’s an episode for anyone navigating trauma, addiction, or the path of healing.

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The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at 

Trauma has a profound effect on the Central Nervous System. It results in the Sympathetic Nervous System and the Para-Sympathetic Nervous System not working the way they were designed to work, which has many negative, far-reaching effects.

This is a lecture originally published on YouTube on Apr 28, 2023. We are making some of Tim's lectures available as bonus episodes on the podcast so you can listen on the go. To see all of Tim's talks, visit YouTube, where you can find hundreds of his talks both old and new.

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