To 50 and Beyond | Midlife and Alcohol-Free Lifestyle

Episode 106

What it Means to Live a Sober Lifestyle

In this episode, I talk about how to make a sober lifestyle work for you and how to decide if sobriety is something you would like to explore.

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Bonus Episode

You Are Not Alone

In this episode, I talk about a moment I had this week where I ugly cried and said "I am all alone." What happened next, helped me and it will help you too!

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Episode 105

Life at 50 with Amy Dresner

In this episode, I talk with Amy Dresner, author, writer, former comedian, and recovery advocate about turning 50, ageism, dating, money, and aging parents.

Topics include:

• Getting sober in her forties
• Amy's story of recovery
• Aging parents and illness
• Gratitude for aging
• Amy's writing career + book My Fair Junkie
• Dating and aging
• Dating apps
• Celibacy
• Ageism
• Financial worries
• Epilepsy from drug use and crystal meth
• Sex addiction
• Drug addiction

Amy Dresner is a former comedian, as well as a recovering addict/alcoholic and epic, fuck up. She's been a writer for the addiction/recovery magazine theFix.com since 2012 and freelanced for Addiction.com, Psychology Today, After Party Chat, Good Men Project, Refinery 29, among others.

Her first book, "My Fair Junkie: A Memoir of Getting Dirty and Staying Clean," was released by Hachette in 2017 to rave reviews by critics and readers alike. She's appeared on the television show The Doctors as well as been a guest on Dr. Drew, Don't Die, Recovering from Reality, Dopey Nation, and many other podcasts and radio shows. She was a speaker at the She Recovers LA Gala in 2018, receiving a standing ovation. Elle magazine compared her memoir "My Fair Junkie" to Carrie Fisher's 1987 autobiographical novel, "Postcards from the Edge" and Mary Karr's 2009 "Lit," calling it "one for the ages." Her book is currently in development for a TV series.

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Bonus episode

Alcohol is Not a Solution

For years I drank to "solve" shyness, sadness, perimenopause, grief, and more midlife experiences.

What I have found after six+ years of sobriety is that alcohol was never the solution to helping me, it only hindered me.

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Episode 104

Becoming Your Own Best Friend with Caroline Hinchliff

In this episode, I talk with Caroline Hinchliff, a holistic nutritionist, author, and wilderness guide. Caroline helps women build unshakable confidence in their bodies and finally feel good about food.

Caroline shares her story of hiking the Pacific Crest Trail for five months to find herself years ago. She talks about the commonality of being your own worst enemy and getting to the point of becoming your own best friend and changing the dialogue with yourself.

Bullet points:

• Binge eating + purging
• Setting out to feel better
• The gift of aging
• Using food for pleasure
• Shifting out of fear and shame and judgment and into a place of exploration, pleasure, and reward
• Having a "good" job but hating it
• Abusive relationships + feeling lonely
• Struggling with food + body image for years
• Redefining the external factors of success
• Simplistic living and living on less than you think you need
• Having an out-loud conversation with yourself
• How to get out of the self- judgment mindset
• Gentle exercise + not pressuring your body
• Struggling with a deep degree with her weight inside
• When we take care of ourselves, we become more loving to everyone around us

The book discussed, Wild, by Cheryl Strayed

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BONUS

Aging with Anxiety and Alcohol

In this episode, I share my story of when I started drinking at 14 to when I quit at 45. The story I told myself was that I needed alcohol to be social and to be liked. I was wrong.

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Episode 103

The Gift of Community with Dawn Nickel

In this episode, you will hear from Dawn Nickel, the founder of SHE RECOVERS.

Dawn talks about turning 60 this year and how she wants to go into her third act of life and she is spending a lot of time in self-reflection.

Also, how she discovered at a young age that there had to be more to life than substance use and addiction. Uncovering what led her to drink and using drugs. Today, Dawn is working on her workaholism. She talks about putting in long hours and catching herself so she doesn't do it every day.

Bullet Points:

• Self-reflection going into 60
• Childhood emotional trauma
• Recovering from perfectionism
• Building She Recovers
• Blacking out from workaholism
• Anxiety and workaholism
• Working 12-15 hours somedays
• Sleeping 8-9 hours a night
• Surviving stage 3 colon cancer
• Where to choose an area in your life to heal first
• Getting connected to stop isolation and get help

Dawn Nickel is a thought leader in the women's recovery sphere and the creator of SHE RECOVERS, currently the largest online platform dedicated specifically to supporting women in recovery from behavioral health issues and related life challenges. Dawn started her own journey of recovery from a substance use disorder and domestic violence in 1987, she is also in recovery from anxiety, grief, trauma, and cancer. She is a strong advocate for the view that every woman in or seeking recovery must be supported to find the tools and pathways that will work best for her as an individual.

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BONUS:

How to Prove Yourself Wrong

It's so simple!

In this episode, I talk about how to prove yourself wrong so you build confidence and vitality in the middle of life.

The drama that you create by living in the past, worrying about the future, and not taking action today. This drama is what keeps you from proving yourself wrong.

It doesn't need to be this way.

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Episode 102

Un-Becoming Codependent

In this episode, I talk with Stephanie Curtis about what it was like to marry young, leave the marriage, and marry again to an alcoholic husband.

Stephanie recounts her days in a marriage where Budweiser was the mistress, and how she made the decision to leave the marriage and work on her own recovery from codependency.

For years Stephanie fought desperately to save her husband, her family, and herself from the overwhelming destructive power of alcoholism, addiction, and abuse. Ultimately, she realized that in her attempts to lift him up, she was burying herself. The only way to find peace and protect her family was to redefine them completely. Now, as a single mom of two, she chips away at the armor she welded on over the years as protection. And hopes her story provides light to those cowering in the darkness of addiction - both the alcoholics and the unseen heroes - the spouses.

Topics include:

• Abusive Relationships
• Getting married at twenty
• Having an affair in her first marriage
• Running away from the relationship because she couldn't take the abuse
• Moving in with someone else quickly after leaving her first marriage
• Married a man who was an alcoholic - Mr. B.
• Seeking help + self-reflection + recovery
• Finding help on Instagram through hashtags
• Justifying the relationship with her alcoholic husband
• Her husband's behavior when drinking beer
• Why you don't "just" leave an abusive relationship with an alcoholic
• Trying to get her husband to recover instead of her own recovery
• Telling her husband to leave the home finally in 2018
• Surrendering as a codependent
• Having the confidence to own who you are
• Narrowing your circle - Quality over Quantity as an adult
• Fitting In vs. Belonging
• Finding Love again on IG

To find Stephanie:

IG: @unbecoming.mrs.b

Podcast: @theresabrightside - releasing on March 1, 2020

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On the first Saturday of every month, I will share what I have learned in working on my money story in 2020.

Topics discussed in this episode:

• Valuing myself + questions that I need to dive deeper into
• Tracking Income + Expense
• What's working for me now
• How I accomplished my Money Time Habit

To learn more about my Money Story:

My Money Story Part One

My Money Story Part Two

Money Shame with Linda Parmar

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