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Today, we’re talking about two of the reasons why weight loss may feel hard.

The good news is these two things that hold you back are totally within your control. They come from your thinking, and your thoughts can be changed to whatever you want to think.

When you shift how you think about these reasons, you will be able to move forward and make progress.

Once we take these reasons apart together, it will be easier. That is my promise to you.

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Do you eat because conflict is scary? Are you one of those people who will do just about anything to avoid a conflict, including and especially, eat something when you’re not hungry?

Today, we’re getting and giving a dose of the truth: and here it is: As long as you are connected to other humans, you will experience conflict.

We’ll talk about what conflict is and how it affects you. We’ll also discuss options for choosing how to view conflict, managing your thoughts and feelings about it and how to get through conflict and stressful times without turning to food.

It’s time for a new perspective about conflict in your life.

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Today we are talking about how to comfort yourself without food.

So many of you think about and talk about comfort food like it’s the answer to feeling better.

The world we live in promotes this… we have tv ads on all the time that show us snuggling up in a couch eating mac and cheese or having a cup of coffee and cookies. And they sure do make it look appealing, right? If we want to feel better, we should eat these things.

And we get that idea and do it.

So, let’s look at this subject today and take it apart together, and figure out how to get the comfort you need and want. Truly.

We’ll talk about:

Remember, there’s no such thing as comfort food. Comfort is a feeling and feelings come from your thoughts so, let’s work on those thought patterns. Food is only good for one thing: to satisfy physical hunger. Food cannot comfort you!

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Do you go through your life from mood to mood, and feel like how your days go is determined by luck?

Do you know what causes all the moods you have? And how important it is to understand them?

That’s what we are going to talk about today.

Moods don’t just come upon us. They don’t come from other people, our hormones, or how long our to-do lists are.

Moods are created by you. Some are helpful, some are neutral, and some are negative. Some are fleeting and some last for days.

Enough said! Now, let’s figure out this whole subject of moods, so you can get back in charge of getting what you want, whether it’s being a more peaceful eater, losing weight, or just being happier.

Mentioned in this episode: The Happiness Trap by Russ Harris

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Think about the last time you slipped and went off your eating plan. We’re not about diets here, but we are talking about making a plan for yourself and then keeping your promise to yourself. Your goal is to honor your plan.

And when you don’t keep your promise to yourself, that is considered a slip.

So, what happens when you slip? Essentially you are enjoying the moment, and conveniently putting your goals in the way back part of your mind.

And, you are conveniently forgetting how bad you felt on the last overeating episode.

Now remember in Episode 171, How to Hold Yourself Accountable, we talked about making sure you didn’t move on from a slip without learning from it. No self-beating, but definitely learning from what you did.

What we’re talking about here today is why it’s important to keep the memory of the pain you felt when you slipped… in the front of your mind.

Do I want you to feel bad? Of course not. But sometimes we need to remember our pain, so we learn from it. So we know what we don’t want again. And we use it to help ourselves keep our promises.

So, before you let the pain of your latest overeating episode slip into the back of your memory, write it down. Let’s remember while it’s fresh. I want you to be sure to have some ammunition the next time you think: “Oh, what’s the big deal? I can always start again tomorrow.”

We are focusing on the pain. So that you can stop creating the pain. Go back and listen to Episode 171 so you can put all this together. Hold yourself accountable. Get clear on the pain you’re creating when you allow your brain to talk you into a slip. And let’s prevent it from happening again.

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Are you in the habit of falling down and not getting up? I mean when you are trying to accomplish a new thing, and it’s hard. You fail. You feel bad. And then you talk yourself out of doing it at all.

Today we are going to talk frankly about what it really takes to change. To transform yourself. From where you are now and from how you eat and care for yourself now, to where you want to be.

Change takes time, yes. But it also takes a lot of failures. Yes, painful, humbling, uncomfortable failures. It takes going through them and getting back up and keeping on keeping on.

It does not take quitting, giving up, and licking your wounds.

In order to create real change, you need to expect to fail and keep going. Without stopping.

Does that sound harsh? It doesn’t have to sound harsh or feel harsh. It’s just reality.

Doing something new means you will fail often. If you take those fails as a signal to stop, you are going to stay exactly where you are. And I know you, my friend. You want more. You want better. And you want to be the best version of you.

So, are you ready to stop stopping? Let me help you with this in this coaching session. As you listen, think about something you really wish was different for you. And I will show you how to keep going until you get what you want.

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Are you frustrated because the scale is not moving? You are not alone! And you’re not alone in thinking that you have no idea why you can’t lose weight.

But I am here today to show you how to figure out EXACTLY what you are doing, or not doing, that is contributing to your current weight.

You might remember that in Episode 98, The Math of Weight Loss, we looked at this concept. Here, I am elaborating on how thinking of your weight as the end of an equation will help you make adjustments so you can get the result you want.

I want you to think of your weight as part of a big but very simple math equation. On one side are all the things you do or don’t do.

And so on.

All these things add up to the right side of the equation. And that is your weight.

So, if you want to change that number on the scale, I want you to sit down, leave the mind drama behind, do the math, and figure out exactly what needs to be adjusted, so the number on the right is a number you want.

Are you ready to tweak all the things you do to get the weight you want? I’m here to help, so grab a comfy chair and listen in.

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What do you do when you slip? When you promise yourself that you will do something or not do something, and it doesn’t work? You don’t keep that promise sometimes, right? Are you accountable to yourself?

If you’re like most of the people I’ve worked with you probably veer between hating yourself when you slip and letting it go without examining what happened.

In this coaching session, you know I’m going to strongly recommend against beating yourself up. Of course.

But I’m also not an advocate of saying: “Oh well. No big deal.” And just moving on.

It’s not a big deal. But it’s a learning experience if you allow yourself to look at what happened. What you thought. What you felt. What you did or didn’t do. And what the end result was.

This is loving accountability.

Want to grow? No more beating, and no more sweeping it under the rug.

Be accountable, learn from your mistake and THEN move on.

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Do you want something different than what you have today? Do you want to feel different? To do different things? To get different results?

I hear you! Of course, you do. And that doesn’t mean you don’t appreciate what you have and who you are today. It means you want more. You want growth. You want to live as a better version of who you are.

That means allowing yourself to feel good now, even while you are going through a really challenging time. I want you to prioritize taking good care of you and your loved ones. And once you are safe and healthy, it’s okay to feel good now. It’s okay to move between fear and worry and back to gratitude and peace.

In addition to feeling good now, it’s also okay and even good to keep moving toward what you want most. After your needs are taken care of, now is the time to take steps in the direction of your dreams.

Time marches on, life marches on, and so do you. In the moment when you know you are okay, allow your good feelings to be present AND allow yourself to take steps toward what you wish for. Remember that someday is not real. Someday is a concept in the future, an easy way to let your brain stop worrying about today, but never really getting where you want to go.

I’d love to be your support and your guide to help you get through this big challenge.

Learning to manage your mind during a crisis is such a valuable skill. Let’s come through this together, better than we were before.

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