Tori Benitez of Onyx Arrow Consulting joins me to discuss the realities of the Family Court system and the importance of having a strategy when divorcing a Narcissist. In this episode, Tori and I break down the complexities of the Family Court system and Co-Parenting with a Narcissist.

According to Tori, family Court is like one big game of chess where children are seen as posessions. This is exactly how Judges, and other court professionals, and your abusive ex, sees them. To play the sick game of “winning” you have to not be distracted by how many little pieces your ex “wins” along the way.

Tori is a Divorce Coach and helps empower DV victims by using strategies within the Family Court system. 

You can connect with Tori here:

Website: https://www.onyx-arrow.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/onyxarrow.consulting/

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"How Can I Get Him to Understand Me?" This question came from somebody who emailed me and said: "How do I get them to understand me? Apparently it's rude to have boundaries or just say no."

I hear this question all the time and decided to take this episode to answer the question. 

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I went for Narcissists and assholes because it was more familiar to feel *not good enough* than to feel valued. That was my version of safe. That was what I knew love to be. I pushed away every nice guy that came my way and prioritized going back to hurtful relationships with men who never valued me for me (they valued me so long as I fit in the box they wanted me to fit in).  This podcast unpacks my story. I know you may see yourself in it.

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What is the relationship between Codependancy and Narcissistic Abuse Codependents lack a healthy relationship with themselves as they self-sabotage by putting others first - which is a perfect match for a Narcissist. In this episode, Manjit unpacks the connect

Manjit supports many to figure out who they are dealing with and to move forward with their lives. She offers global service via zoom and work with many throughout the world. You can find her:

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YouTube: https://youtube.com/c/ManjitKaurRuprai

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Kerry Kerr McAvoy returns to talk to us about her book, Love You More, and her journey leaving an abusive relationship with a Narcissistic Sociopath.

When Kerry met her ex, he was everything she wanted in a partner. Yet months after the wedding, she woke up to an unknown woman’s text: “I guess the joke is not just on me but on you too. I’ve been dating your husband.” 

Shocked, trapped, and still in love, she didn’t leave. For the years following, Kerry's life turned into a living hell as she tried to save the relationship and understand how someone could act the way he was.

On this podcast, Kerry and I take a deep dive into her book, Love You More, and how she survived emotional abuse, financial abuse and sexual abuse.

You can learn more about Kerry here: https://kerrymcavoyphd.com/

You can get a copy of Kerry's book here: https://www.amazon.com/Love-You-More-Harrowing-Addiction/dp/0984320598?&_encoding=UTF8&tag=jessicaknig00-20&linkCode=ur2&linkId=98ac41dec5a6f492a033f9254b9c0260&camp=1789&creative=9325

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{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

After growing up in an abusive home, I never 'bought' the theory that Narcissists are Narcissists because of their upbringing. Katherine Kleis' story has many parralels to mine. She joins me to discuss her upbringing, how she left her Narcissistic parents, and how she healed from Narcissistic relationships. 

No matter where you come from or where you have been, it is important to never stop fighting for yourself.

Katherine runs STAND Coaching. Her mission is to help empower clients to take back control of their life. You can connect with her here: https://www.standcoaching.com/

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{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Raven Scott, from the Raven Scott Show, joins me to discuss her journey, her book, The Empath and the Narcissist, and how she uses spirituality to help people heal from Narcissistic Abuse. 

Through grounded and heart centered teachings, Raven elevates the spiritual journey and concepts that you are uniquely magnificent and contrary to your doubts, you are here for a purpose. 

Her unique approach to addressing the souls journey v the ego’s protection mode, gives men and women hope and clarity of their themes they grow from. 

As an international author, narcissist abuse recovering coach, Podcast host of Empath & Narcissist and Human Design Readier, she is dispelling  the  narcissist power one soul at a time. 

You can find Raven here: https://ravenscott.show/

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{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Maybe you are unsure if your relationship is unhealthy.  Maybe you are stuck in a trauma bond. Maybe you feel manipulated, used, lied to. Maybe you are reflecting on past relationships wondering if you were abused. Wherever you are -- if you are stuck in the cycle of Narcissistic Abuse, this episode is a must-listen-to.

Coach Ro joins me to unpack the Rollercoaster of Narcissistic Abuse. Rossana Faye was in an abusive relationship for 14 years. She now helps women heal from Narcissistic Abuse.

You can find Ro here: https://rollercoasteroflove.ca/

Connect with her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_rollercoasteroflove/

Follow her on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@_rollercoasteroflove

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{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse

{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

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{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse

{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

What is trauma bonding? How do we get trauma bonded? How can we recognize the signs? This episode explains what it is and how we get trauma bonded.

If you want to listen to a more detailed episode, listen to this one: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1916632/10022992

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{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse

{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner