Dear Dr. Tracy

Assertiveness vs. Defensiveness – with Greg Stewart


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In this episode, I sit down with my in-house defensiveness expert and husband, Greg, to unpack the often-misconceived topic of assertive vs defensive communication styles.   


We answer real questions from our community about what it looks like to champion self-respect and a deeper understanding of your partner by lending practical steps to change the defensive patterns in our relationships and implementing assertive and authentic responses.   


In this episode, we discuss: 

  • Important examples of defensive and assertive responses  
  • How modelled communication styles from our personal history effect our present communication styles   
  • The effect that the words we use have on our inner narratives  
  • The ways that adequacy, shame, and self-worth play a part in our responses  
  • How self-respect is a key player in understanding defensiveness  
  • The key differences between the female and male experience in our responses   
  • How assertiveness creates space for your thoughts, feelings, needs, and your partner’s understanding   
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