Women are turned on by emotionally strong men — they crave rugged masculinity.

But if you’re going through the therapeutic process, you have to lower the gates to the castle. In short, you need to be vulnerable. And during your process of healing and growing, it might be too much for your significant other. There’s a possibility she’ll think you're an “emotional basket case.”

Worst part?

If you don’t include her in your transformation, there’s a real chance she’ll feel threatened and alienated by your progress — and the relationship could terminate because of it.

That’s the bad news.

The good news?

I reveal how to undertake the therapeutic process — without alienating your significant other.

Today’s also a special episode, because for the first time, we have a guest. Today’s guest is Brandon, and we have an on-air, live chat about how to figure out exactly how vulnerable he should be in front of women. We also delve into exactly WHY he feels vulnerable, as well as the coping strategies he unknowingly implements.

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• Ever ask yourself, “why did I say that?!?” and feel horribly image conscious? Brandon and I discuss this at (4:17)
• How to unlock supreme security in your self-image by teaching others jiu jitsu (even if you have no experience with jiu jitsu) (5:27)
• The shocking degree to which your parents unknowingly installed positive—or negative—traits in your life (without IFS therapy, you have very little control over how you react in certain situations) (9:33)
• How to tap into the deepest parts of your psyche by holding a small, fragile puffer fish with delicate care (12:26)
• Ever feel an uncontrollable urge to argue with others—even when normal people would consider your actions “over-the-top”? The answer is at (15:43)
• Your pre-installed “mischievous little brother” part which forces you to shut down and ignore others (sabotaging your relationships because of it) (18:45)
• Ever crave for an older brother, father, or male-mentor in your life? We discuss why at (33:08)
• The “unblending” strategy to stop a flurry of overwhelming emotions (and finally be able to settle down into a long-term relationship) (37:22)
• Why attending therapy with your significant ensures you don’t become an “emotional basket case” in front of her (39:18)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

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“Hi David,

Why do we crave women we’ve only just met? And why are we depressed when we get rejected when asking for a longer relationship? What's behind it, and how do I tackle this situation?

When I meet a new girl, I’m happy and I jump around — my life is full of joy. I think about her all the time, and I’m in a needy state… even though the chances for a long-term relationship at this point are still miles away.

So, how do I control my feelings in a healthy way? A way so I don’t get destroyed if she rejects or friendzones me?

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That question came in from Listener Ronnie.

And in today’s episode, I reveal how to eliminate the feelings of anxiety and neediness when dating women. I also share WHY you crave women you’ve just met, and a few unconventional methods to overcome your pre-installed traits.

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• How learning to seduce a 9 or 10 by giving her “the look” still leaves you needy and anxious for her approval (2:54)
• Why believing a girlfriend will “complete you” sabotages your long-term happiness and fulfillment (3:21)
• Ever crave for a woman you’ve only met for a short time? Why is that? The answer is at (6:43) Do you feel depressed when rejected by a woman—even one you’ve only known for a couple of weeks? The answer is also at (6:43)
• How to feel unending bliss—and live a life full of joy—by left-swiping women on Tinder who are spontaneous (and add fun to your life) (7:20)
• Why the “Twin Terrors” force you to self-sabotage on a date—and act like an emotionally manipulative victim. Most men suffer from this their entire life… do you? (9:26)
• Over 40 and feel like you have to perform in order to feel worthy of love? The answer is at (11:07)
• The 4 different “attachment styles” which points out why we need to constantly check if she’s replied back (20:40)
• How to terminate neediness when meeting a woman by using a depth gauge and a compass (authorized by the Navy Seals) (24:59)
• The “abundance theory” superpower which eliminates neediness with one tap of a button on your phone (and here’s why this mindset will obliterate any hope of a successful long-term relationship) (26:50)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Few people know their true purpose in life and even fewer follow their purpose on a regular basis.

Most people lack hope, joy, and meaning. It robs them of any happiness they used to have in life.

• They don’t feel motivated to do anything
• Struggle to roll out of bed at 10am
• Procrastinate for hours about brushing their teeth
• And it looks like the Tsar Bomba exploded in their room

They’re chained to their desks. Secretly want to strangle their boss. Hang off the edge of their seats, desperate for their Apple watch to hit 5pm.

So, how do you find meaning in life?

In today’s episode, I reveal the “Contemplation” tactic that’s required for discovering your life’s purpose. You’ll also discover why endlessly scrolling through your phone creates a vicious cycle of depression, anxiety, and mental chatter.

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• Why playing a round of bingo with the old folks — instead of watching an Andrew Tate video — enhances your life’s direction by a power of 10:1 (1:36)
• How to uncover fulfillment, happiness, and constant success in life by accessing your “mind’s eye” (no, it’s not meditation or chakra training) (2:46)
• Tune into your subconscious’s deepest thoughts, feelings, desires with the “60:20 Rule” (and achieve a sense of clarity and peace like you’ve never felt before) (5:48)
• Under 30 and lack purpose? Unlock direction in your life by watching commercials from 2006 (6:50)
• How binge watching motivational videos for 6 hours sucks the motivation and energy from your body like a Hoover vacuum (12:14)
• 9 “Introspection Practices” to break free from your constant mental chatter (and eliminate your anxiety and nervous thoughts) (18:39)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Do you want a long-term relationship, or do you want lots of casual, hot sex?

Reason I ask: a “one-size-fits-all” approach when dating women doesn’t work. What’s worse, is mixing up the approaches, and applying the wrong approach. For example, if you optimized your dating life for short-term, promiscuous sex…

Then you’re making it near impossible to find a healthy, happy, and fulfilling relationship.

The opposite is true as well. If you try and optimize for the long-term, then your chances of bedding a woman every week is impossible.

So, what are these approaches I speak of? In today’s episode, I reveal how to hook up with as many hot, college aged girls as you can. And If that isn’t of interest to you, you’ll also discover why being discriminatory to a certain group of people is the key to having a long-term marriage.

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• Why “WPF” destroys your marriage before it even starts (and is especially harmful for men who have no dating experience, but still want to get married later on) (5:37)
• The counterintuitive reason why being a man-whore at 19 “ethically forces” you to be a loving husband (who never cheats on his wife) (6:00)
• Are you interested in hot sex with lots of women? Or are you interested in a long-term relationship? There are 5 different personalities, and you can learn which one you are with the “Truth Tree” (9:21)
• How even butt ugly guys can have a rock solid relationship — one with a 95% success rate — by choosing (this) (12:11)
• Why thinking “I’ll date a couple girls, and I’ll marry the one I like the most” murders your chances of a loving relationship (14:41)
• How to turn on your soulmate by turning her off as quick as possible (18:02)
• [Asian Men] Looking for a long-term, authentic relationship with a white girl? Take her to a sashimi place (20:40)
• Are you palms sweaty, knees weak, and arms heavy when on a date? It’s because of your “toxic shame” (not to be confused with toxic masculinity) (32:03)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

“She stares deeply into your eyes, with a playful smile across her face. She races across to the far right corner of the room, and flicks off the switch with her left hand. Your eyes haven’t adjusted to the new lighting, it’s now pitch black, and you can hear her shifting around near the bed…

She’s getting undressed. 

The nerves start to kick in. Your stomach starts to churn. It’s finally happening — and you’re not prepared. After what feels like an eternity, she’s completely naked, with the sheets off, lying on her back in your bed.

She rolls over to her left, makes full eye contact, slowly raises her hand, and curls her index finger. 

She wants you to come into bed.

What do you do?”

The reason why I wrote this short vignette: Many men have a hard time in the bedroom. Even though we love to fantasize about what we’d do, the reality is, many guys still choke up in the bedroom. And the reason for this is sexual shame. 

Sexual shame is:

• What holds us back from taking the lead role in the bedroom (essential, as research shows the majority of women don’t like submissive guys)
• What stops us from enjoying sex
• Feeling like a “creep” or “monster” for simply being attracted to women
• Guilt over having purely physical desires for sexual contact with someone
• Feeling overwhelming shame for indulging in some kind of sexual activity or self-pleasure

Obviously, sexual shame is a huge burden among men. And in today’s episode, I reveal how to overcome your sexual shame.

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• Why your own sexual shame is one of the biggest burdens preventing you from accessing your natural attractiveness (0:25)
• How the feelings of post-nut clarity psychologically represses you and your ability to find a girlfriend (2:21)
• The “Good Boy” coping mechanism that distracts you from overcoming your shame (which prevents you from falling in love with the “one”) (3:00)
• Enjoy flirting and banter by unburdening yourself from your sexual shame (3:34)
• How to get your girlfriend begging for more by accessing your “Inner-50-Shades-of-Grey” (4:59)
• “If you leave your sexual shame unexamined, it will sabotage your attractiveness as a man” (38:06)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

For men struggling to get a date, dating techniques do nothing but:

• Batter their self-worth
• Make them feel ashamed for not living up to “expectations” of what a man should be
• Ruin their self-confidence
• And sabotage their chances of finding true love

As these men apply dating techniques in the real world…

Their hands tremble, their knees quake, their lips shake, they choke up, and they sweat bullets when talking to a girl.

Why?

Because dating techniques are a bandaid over a gaping wound — the gaping wound being your own subconscious mind. And the only way to overcome your severe anxiety and nerves is through the therapeutic process.

In today’s episode, I reveal why most dating problems are indeed therapeutic problems. I also reveal how to uncover your pre-installed wit, charm, and humor.

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• Feel like a “fake” when trying to appear confident in front of girls? Use the 8’Cs of true-self to melt away your nerves, fears, and anxiety (2:29)
• How to uncover the pre-installed witty, charming, funny, and sexually attractive parts of you by “tricking” your subconscious (works even if you’re a shy or nerdy guy) (4:08)
• Why you’re subconsciously ignoring the parts of you that enjoy being sexy, taking risks, and likes experiencing adventure (5:43)
• “You don’t get to experience your full potential until you go through (this)” (5:59)
• Think dating’s all about good looks, money, or status? Here’s the “martial arts” secret that debunks this popular myth (and enables you to become — at least — a 7/10) (6:18)
• Why you should never listen to the advice of a fat, ugly, short janitor who picks up 9’s and 10’s at the club every weekend (8:20)
• The difference between a “cup of coffee” at her place and sleeping alone is the use of “DT” at the end of your questions (15:27)
• You’re already naturally talented at flirting, banter, humor, and wittiness. You just need to know how to access it (17:55)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

In order to find a loving relationship, you need to become somebody you’re not.

You need to rock a new haircut, fill your wardrobe with designer clothes, and hit the gym 24/7. You need to morph into Sean Connery’s James Bond.

Charming, handsome, seductive, and irresistible to modern women.

Here’s the thing: If you’re seeking a long-term relationship, this is easily the worst advice you could ever listen to!

Now, if you're optimizing your life for a short-term fling, have at it. Be the “player.”

But I’m assuming you're reading this because you want a long-term relationship. And if you are, then what you need to do is unburden the already naturally attractive parts in you.

In today’s episode, I reveal the 7 steps to unleashing the already naturally attractive parts within you.

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• The “BSYANA” myth that sabotages your chances of finding a loving relationship with the “one” (3:28)
• How to unleash the naturally attractive parts of yourself with these 7 steps (9:03)
• Why most men fail to be the man that modern women desire most (hint: it’s not being a macho man like Sean Connery’s James Bond) (16:23)
• The “LASAE” strategy to be sexually attractive in the eyes of hetrosexual women (21:01)
• How to form deeper emotional connections with women by teleporting back to your teenage self (23:33)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

There are 3.9 billion women in the world.

And trying to attract every single one of them is damn near impossible. But when men optimize their Tinder profile for short-term hookups, that’s what they’re trying for — they’re making themselves “mass-market” to attract women.

And this never works.

Instead, they become a commodity — “just another player.” And when their potential soulmate sees them…

She’s physically repulsed — and doesn’t want anything to do with them.

So, if being “mass-market” doesn’t work, then what does?

I propose you “niche down” your personality to attract the ONE girl that truly matters. And in today’s episode, I reveal how to create a loving long-term relationship by being more of who you already are.

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• The “always growing” lie propagated by the so-called “self-help” world (and how it cripples your ability to be unconditionally loved) (1:36)
• Why “shrinking the pool” of women you speak to amplifies your chances of finding “the one” (8:08)
• How clicking pause on an Andrew Tate video ensures a beautiful future with your wife, children, and grandchildren (9:52)
• Why Tinder feeds your inner beast (and makes your soulmate seem irrelevant) (12:28)
• The sobering reality behind your chances of success on Tinder, as explained by The Jordan B. Peterson Podcast (14:00)
• How to get your ex back with the “Intense Connect” strategy (18:15)
• The “Long Tail” method Amazon uses to be positioned as the most successful option (and how you can copy this exact approach to find the love of your life) (22:26)
• Why appealing to every woman’s innate sexual desires is the best way to ruin your chances with the one that truly matters (23:36)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ 

Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Do you want to be ‘the man’, a ‘player’, or a so-called ‘bad boy’?

I’m going to assume a big, fat no. Most guys aren’t looking to bed 50 women every week. They’re looking to settle down with a beautiful, attractive, and mature wife — not endless one-night-stands with club bimbos. 

And this is where Andrew Tate, Fresh and Fit, and other pick up artists are steering you in the wrong direction. Their approach is optimized for these club bimbos. It’s great for when you’ve just left a divorce, and want to make up for lost time, but…

If you’re looking to have a 50-year long relationship, start a family, and feel fulfilled, then this approach is near suicidal to your happiness. 

The pick up artists from the 2000’s are single and unsatisfied. And if they’re married? They often resort to cheating or visiting prostitutes — their marriage has no passionate sex! 

So if listening to these YouTube dating gurus isn’t the answer, then what is?

In today’s episode, I reveal how to optimize your dating life for a long-term relationship. I also reveal why you need to give her the chance to cheat on you. Unconventional thinking, I know, but hear me out.

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• How “being yourself” turns her off before you even open your mouth (0:43)
• Why 50-year long relationships (full of passionate, steamy sex) require you to give her a chance to cheat on you (1:05)
• How to unlock unconditional love with an amazing girlfriend by taking off the “BS mask” (2:09)
• Why participating in “hookup culture” automatically sabotages your chances of finding unconditional love with a beautiful wife (3:23)
• Why the majority of attractive women are immature (22:11)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ 

Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Men feel like they lack true purpose and meaning in their relationships.

Why?

Dating apps and most dating advice promote short-term dating strategies that only work on immature women. These strategies leave men without meaning, purpose, and true connection when they try to settle down. That’s if they can even settle down at all…

When you’ve spent years programming these short-term strategies into your mind, it’s near impossible to break these habits.

When that happens, you become a repellant for women who are seeking a long-term relationship.

Now, if you don’t care about having a 50-year long relationship, true life partnership, or unconditional love in a committed relationship, then this episode isn’t for you. But if you are, then what I’m going to share will be the most exciting podcast you’ve ever listened to.

In today’s episode, I reveal how to be in a loving and committed relationship by deleting this specific app off your phone (it’s not Facebook, Instagram, or Tik Tok.) You’ll also hear my take on Andrew Tate (and how he’s actually battling sexual shame in himself.)

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• The counter-intuitive reason why having poor self-image makes you more attractive to women who are in it for the long haul (4:50)
• Why you have a greater chance of finding meaning and purpose in a relationship compared to that kid in middle school who got girls whenever he wanted (15:28)
• How showing up to the bar dressed in tattered clothes, a spluttering 94’ Honda Civic, and a wingman who looks like Brad Pitt will help you find unconditional love (16:24)
• This secret technique allows you to tap into the mind of women (and get her turned on by your mere presence) (22:16)
• Why receiving a text saying “I’m not into you” is actually a surefire sign that she’s into you (23:09)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ 

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

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