Men feel like they lack true purpose and meaning in their relationships.

Why?

Dating apps and most dating advice promote short-term dating strategies that only work on immature women. These strategies leave men without meaning, purpose, and true connection when they try to settle down. That’s if they can even settle down at all…

When you’ve spent years programming these short-term strategies into your mind, it’s near impossible to break these habits.

When that happens, you become a repellant for women who are seeking a long-term relationship.

Now, if you don’t care about having a 50-year long relationship, true life partnership, or unconditional love in a committed relationship, then this episode isn’t for you. But if you are, then what I’m going to share will be the most exciting podcast you’ve ever listened to.

In today’s episode, I reveal how to be in a loving and committed relationship by deleting this specific app off your phone (it’s not Facebook, Instagram, or Tik Tok.) You’ll also hear my take on Andrew Tate (and how he’s actually battling sexual shame in himself.)

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• The counter-intuitive reason why having poor self-image makes you more attractive to women who are in it for the long haul (4:50)
• Why you have a greater chance of finding meaning and purpose in a relationship compared to that kid in middle school who got girls whenever he wanted (15:28)
• How showing up to the bar dressed in tattered clothes, a spluttering 94’ Honda Civic, and a wingman who looks like Brad Pitt will help you find unconditional love (16:24)
• This secret technique allows you to tap into the mind of women (and get her turned on by your mere presence) (22:16)
• Why receiving a text saying “I’m not into you” is actually a surefire sign that she’s into you (23:09)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ 

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Women.

Can’t live with them, can’t live without them.

This is definitely true, and there are certain types of women you must avoid like the plague (unless you like dealing with suffering, feeling helpless, and an empty bank account.)

Before you think, “Oh yeah, I’ll just avoid the clubs and meet someone with morals,” I have to stop you right there.

There’s proof that shows there are women who are “fake, good”, and merely pretend to be moral. And there’s also proof that women who hit up clubs are the best option for a long term relationship.

So how do you avoid wasting countless years of your life speaking to toxic bimbos?

On today’s episode, I reveal how to find the exact type of woman who’s a perfect fit for a successful, long term relationship. 

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• How to only date women who’ll make you happy (and avoid draining countless years of your life speaking to toxic bimbos) (0:39)
• Why dating insufferable women establishes negative programming into your brain (3:19)
• How Andrew Tate and FreshandFit deceive you into pursuing unsuitable, immature women who are not ready for long term commitment (10:44)
• Why executing your inner nice guy with a 12 gauge shotgun will open up your mind to the reality of how women think (especially the reality of how women are with their sexuality) (13:48)
• Think you should protect your little sister from “bad boys”? Think again! Your little brother is at more risk of being taken advantage of from predatory single women (15:23)
• How to live a life of sexual abundance by not being a blatant hypocrite (18:55)
• 3 key traits every woman must have if you want to seriously consider a long term relationship (if your pursuing a woman, and she doesn’t have these 3 key traits, move on) (21:56)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ 

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

There are two big myths most people believe—my former self included—about therapy which sabotage their results. Especially over the long-term. 

Even if you have initial success on your therapeutic journey, believing in one of these myths can undermine your progress. The result? You're back to square one, and believe therapy just can’t work for you.

But it’s the myths, not the therapeutic process itself, responsible for you snapping back into your old patterns. 

That’s why in this episode, I’m peeling back the curtains and revealing more about my personal therapeutic journey, so you can duplicate my success. Plus, I reveal three examples of how my early IFS therapy process (as a client) fills me with joy to this day. 

It won’t be easy, especially at first. But nothing worthwhile ever is. 

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• Why therapy feels impossible for you (and how to make it feel effortless) (5:02) 
• The cold, hard truth about why people revert to their old patterns after leaving therapy (and the single best way to prevent this) (7:24) 
• Why picking a therapist who has a therapist themselves enhances your success with therapy (8:25) 
• The “Here and Now” secret for unlocking the best results from therapy (10:04) 
• How having a heated argument with your wife can actually improve your experience with the therapeutic process (11:54) 
• Why resisting your extreme emotions unleashes pain throughout your body (and how to feel extreme emotions without pain) (16:46)
• How focusing too much on the model of therapy can sabotage your results (and how to succeed with any model you use) (24:28) 
• The sneaky way you can neglect your parts even after unburdening them (35:08) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ 

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Sadness is something most guys struggle with. But it’s the one emotion they repress the most. And this repression leads to increased stress, anxiety, and depression. Not only that, the increase in cortisol associated with stress can lead to changes in heart rate, motivation and sleep. 

Worst part?

Men who repress their emotions are more likely to visit McDonalds, drink Jack Daniels on a Wednesday, and smoke a pack a day — which leads to women finding them unattractive. 

This creates a vicious cycle. 

In today’s episode, you’ll discover exactly how to deal how to overcome your sadness (even if you’ve tried everything before.) You’ll also discover why getting a girlfriend or wife won’t make you happy. 

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• If your answer is to disown, repress, or wish away your sadness, then you’ll never be able to feel happy (2:20)
• Why integrating your sadness unlocks fulfillment and satisfaction (and why you’ll be finally able to experience the love flowing from within you) (3:14)
• How embracing your sadness is the one key to opening up your natural attractiveness and start magnetizing attractive women (4:20)
• Feel like getting a girlfriend will solve all your problems? Here’s why that’s not the case (and what will provide fulfillment, satisfaction, and happiness) (4:53)
• Why feeling lonely isn’t sadness (and how the “loneliness text” that’s biologically programmed within you forces you to reconnect with your friends) (7:12)
• How to win friends and influence people (8:36)
• Under 30 and didn’t have sex in 2022? Don’t worry, at (10:21) you’ll discover how 1/3rd of people (men and women) under 30 didn’t have sex for the whole year

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Last week we covered how “pain is not an emotion.”

Ok, great. But what do you do about an emotion that feels painful?

In today’s episode, you’ll discover exactly how to deal with painful emotions (even if you’ve been to an IFS therapist before and it didn’t work.) You’ll also discover three emotions that immature people consider to be painful. 

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• How to murder the feelings of anger, fear, shame, inferiority, and anxiety by mastering these 4 emotional skills (our society and schools actively avoid teaching 95% of men these critical skills) (3:10)
• Why standard therapy is a great way to flush $5,000 of your precious cold, hard cash down the toilet if you can’t be “present with your emotions” (5:28)
• The most common pitfall affecting most intellectuals when going through the therapeutic process that sabotages their progress (6:57)
• Sick of feeling paralyzed with fear? Check out this free, gentle meditation that instantly soothes stress, anxiety, and calms your nerves (works even if you’ve tried other “traditional” meditation exercises) (11:42)
• The “float-back” secret that eliminates your fears (19:08)
• Why listening to this piece of advice from Jordan Peterson could make your son feel isolated, excluded, and left out of society (28:32)
• How “guru-worshiping” stunts your intellectual capability (and in a sneaky way, turns you into a snowflake who can’t disagree with other people's opinions) (29:55)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Pain is not an emotion. 

Bold statement, I know, but emotional pain actually comes from resisting the emotion that you consider to be painful.

In other words, it’s not the pain that’s hurting you, it’s the emotion you find painful. And only when you locate the specific emotion will you be able to achieve emotional resilience, endurance, control, regulation, and become an antifragile man.

Locating the specific emotion is obviously easier said than done.

But you’re in for a treat.

In today’s episode, you’ll discover how to make a simple shift in your thinking that makes you stronger as a result of your pain (or what you consider to be negative emotions.) You’ll also discover how to locate the specific emotion which is causing you pain. 

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• How thinking “it’s just pain” chokeholds personal growth and maturity (which leads to a vicious cycle of women not wanting to be around you) (5:57)
• You’ll be able to heal and unburden yourself only when you specify exactly which emotion you’re feeling (7:23)
• Debilitating anxiety before a date? Here’s why your “unconscious repression” forces you to become nervous and awkward before a date (11:07)
• The effortless way to “flip-the-switch” and enjoy a pump at the gym (or approach women) (13:34)
• How Elon Musk lives with inner conflict on a day-to-day basis (and explains why the myth of Genius doesn’t exist) (16:38)
• You have philosophical parts, a part that loves to sing, a part that loves to be with your kids, and sexy parts. Knowing how to balance them is key for a happy life (22:05)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Ted Bundy, Jeffrey Dahmer, and John Wayne Gacy. Without a doubt, some of the sickest individuals to roam America in the 20th century. But according to IFS Therapy & Richard Schwartz’s book, “No Bad Parts”, they aren’t pure evil. 

But hang on, if they aren’t pure evil, then who is? — and does the concept even exist?

In today’s episode, you’ll discover the answer to this question at (5:42). You’ll also discover the concept of “blending” to understand the forces behind evil intentions and actions.

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• If you’re researching the therapeutic process, then you need to add this rare book to your collection (it’s stood the test of time, is a best seller, and is a must-read) (1:00)
• How having a cup of coffee at Starbucks with a serial killer could prevent future slayings (6:21)
• The insidious way your parents potentially sabotage your relationships with women because of passing on “LB” (7:23)
• How IFS therapy provides clear steps to overcome even the most demonic and brutal fantasies (and is considered “radical” when compared to the psychiatric establishment) (8:58)
• Why the Church is dead wrong about it’s proclamations of “pure evil” (9:50)
• How the drill instructor from Full Metal Jacket is tyrannizing your thoughts when you try to quit smoking weed cold turkey (11:18)
• In order to understand instances of evil, you need to understand the concept of “blending” (14:46)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Shadows are repressed parts of you that have been exiled, disowned, and thrust into your unconscious. In other words, they’re still there — and causing you untold amounts of pain and suffering. The worst part? You might think you killed it off, or you might not even be aware these shadows are still a part of you.

But if you know how to encounter, understand, unburden, and integrate your shadows, it will result in lasting happiness and unconditional love. In fact, taking these 4 steps are required to fulfill your potential for success in this life.

If you want to discover your potential talents and gifts in other areas of your life, and the potential lives you could leave, you need to encounter, understand, and integrate your shadow parts. And in today’s episode, David reveals that and more!

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• How watching YouTube reviews of Black Panther: Wakanda  Forever pollutes your mind with the exact thoughts drop-dead gorgeous women find repulsive (8:26)
• The simple way to “automatically program” your iPhone to force feed you helpful tips and tricks on women’s psychology (12:43)
• How much do genes matter for dating? (24:21)
• 4 steps to integrate your unconscious shadows to lead a fulfilling life full of unconditional love and happiness (26:37)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Socially awkward guys don’t get girls, that’s the cold, hard truth. But hiding your social awkwardness and anxiety isn’t the answer either. When you repress, exile, and cut out your social anxiety in order to feel good about yourself, you force it further into your subconscious.

And when you cram it into the depths of your brain? it’s still active, and it’s still there sabotaging your success, but now you’re no longer aware of it. 

That’s the bad news.

The good news?

You can leverage your social anxiety and awkwardness to meet and date women in your life. You just need to know how to tap into it. And in today's episode, David reveals a few strange and unique ways to free yourself from crippling shyness.

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• The weird way shouting from the peak of a mountain you’re a nerdy comic book fan frees yourself from crippling shyness and debilitating social anxiety (1:55)
• How following the “normal solution” to inner conflict pollutes your subconscious with negative thoughts that sabotage your ability to have a loving relationship (2:34)
• Unable to find fulfillment? Here’s how to unlock the subconscious, repressed parts of your brain (and discover how to let go of the things you can’t change) (3:36)
• The outdated, and backward idea that “ego is the enemy” (and how to never rely on stress, anxiety, pressure, and deadlines in order to get things done ever again) (5:29)
• How proudly displaying your superiority complex magnetizes unconditional love, approval, and security in your self-worth (17:58)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Immature boys subscribe to the belief of “pure evil.” These boys need to seek out the hero’s journey. They need to seek out “good” vs. “evil.” So they can categorically define somebody as a hero or a villain.

But guess what?

Clinging onto this worldview in your 30’s and 40’s is the best way to live a life devoid of passion, unconditional love, and sex.

Believing in this outdated ideology causes tremendous heartache. Your protective forcefield gets deployed, physically and psychologically. Because of this forcefield, it blocks unconditional love, genuine emotional connection, and prevents you from accessing the vulnerability required for love, including love for yourself.

So, it begs the question: if “pure evil” doesn’t exist, then does the concept of evil even exist at all?

On today’s episode, David discusses the Psychology of The House of the Dragon and reveals the insanity behind believing in the pervasive myth of “pure evil”, and how it scrubs you dry of a loving relationship. 

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• How ragging on third wave feminists, cultural-marxism, and the Tinder algorithm could repel all beautiful women within a 10-mile radius (8:50)
• The weird way the Facebook algorithm is actually biased (and how its forcing you to stay in an “incel echochamber” devoid of sex and a loving relationship) (10:04)
• How to analyze and understand the biggest things men get wrong about women by “training the algorithm” (13:18)
• Why thinking evil is self-perpetuating is one of the most dangerous myths you could hold (and how it’s blocking your access to unconditional love and genuine emotional intimacy) (13:59)
• The common “teenage boy” trait 95% of men subconsciously possess (and how it stifles your ability to psychologically align with women) (23:30)
• Why not understanding the “emotional wavelength” every single woman has is a curse to your performance in the bedroom (26:50)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum