As many as 90% of loving relationships transform into cold indifference. This is true even in intimate, long-term relationships. 

In fact, the more intimate your relationship becomes, the more likely you are to sabotage it. 

Why?

Because intimacy triggers your buried inner child parts—and they wreak havoc when they surface. 

But don’t worry. In this episode, you’ll discover the 3 requirements for a successful long-term relationship. 

Want to be one of the lucky 10% whose relationship grows each day, year, and decade? Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• Why only 10% of people can succeed in a long-term, modern relationship (and how to join the 10%) (3:54)
• How to increase the hot, sexy passion in your relationship over time instead of watching it fade (8:26)
• The counterintuitive way intimacy in your relationships triggers your exiled neediness buried deep in your psyche (15:27)
• How heated arguments with your significant other are a good sign for your relationship (16:23)
• Why most loving marriages transform into cold friendships (and how to prevent this) (17:47)
• The insidious “Tor-Mentor” trap long-term relationships fall into which can poison them from the inside out (18:56)
• The weird way to ensure the success of a long-term relationship by playing with toddlers (34:22) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

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Finding a healthy, intimate relationship isn’t as easy as downloading a dating app or watching pick-up artists on YouTube. In fact, these routes can lead you down a dark path which amplifies your neediness. 

But you know what? 

Finding a healthy, intimate relationship isn’t as difficult as you’re making it either. There are simple steps you can follow which help you magnetize love, happiness, and fulfillment into your relationships. 

In this episode, you’ll discover 4 simple steps that will help you naturally find a loving relationship. 

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• Why becoming more masculine and successful doesn’t mean you’ll attract a loving relationship (1:26) 
• How your desire to become more masculine backfires and feeds your neediness (2:43) 
• The 10 universal human needs you must meet or you’ll sabotage ant relationship you get into (7:42) 
• How to find women with similar interests in a natural and organic way (even if you’re shy and awkward) (9:23) 
• The cold, hard truth about why red pill guys get cheated on (and how to avoid making this mistake) (20:48) 
• Why long-term healthy relationships trigger your burdened, exiled parts which can ruin it (30:56) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Most men who are unsatisfied with their dating lives turn to online dating gurus to fix them. But this is a fatal mistake. 

Why? 

Because the advice peddled by online dating gurus actually fill you with insecurities and anxiety. In other words, it makes you needier and less able to find true love. 

And you know what? 

The vast majority of online dating gurus don’t even have good relationships with the women in their lives (even if they’re married). 

In this episode, I’m exposing the truth about online dating gurus, so you don’t fall for their lies. 

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• The counterintuitive way online dating gurus heighten your insecurities and anxiety (without you even realizing it) (1:05) 
• How following advice from pickup artists gives you a robotic personality (even if it helps you pick up women) (5:44) 
• Why approaching women like they’re numbers in a video game repels true love (11:35) 
• The insidious “Reality TV” effect used by dating gurus that ruins your chances of finding a loving relationship (29:57) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Most dating advice for men is not only incorrect, but it’s downright lethal to your happiness, fulfillment, and dating life. 

Why? 

Because other insecure men prey on your insecurities. And their “advice” actually makes you needier — which repulses women even further. 

Here’s the truth: 

You don’t need to be “masculine,” a pickup artist, or a social butterfly to attract a loving relationship. And you don’t even need a relationship in order to be happy. 

In this episode, you’ll discover the most effective solution for finding unconditional love. 

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• The weird way being “good with women” actually makes it harder to find a loving relationship (0:23) 
• How red pill culture brainwashes you into repulsing women away (5:42)
• Why simply having fun is the single best way to attract more women (and how to have fun if you’re socially awkward) (9:28)
• The insidious “Fetishizing Masculinity” trap men fall into which wrecks their relationships (12:29)
• How to save a marriage from the brink of divorce by becoming selfish (18:35) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Since females were a young age, they’ve become masters at sniffing out neediness. Most men don’t discover this fact about life until they’ve sabotaged their dating life.

But here’s the good news:

There’s a proven system for overcoming your neediness. It won’t happen overnight, but it will free you from the sadistic grip neediness has over you. 

In this episode, you’ll discover the 7 steps to obliterate your neediness for good. 

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• How your fear about relationships dupes you into making relationship-ending mistakes (even if you don’t realize it) (2:40) 
• The counterintuitive reason becoming wealthy skyrockets your neediness (3:04) 
• Why women can see through your inauthentic attempts to get to know their personality like Swiss cheese (4:41) 
• The 9 fundamental human needs that help you exterminate your neediness (9:03) 
• Why having an agenda of picking up women when you go out subconsciously repels them from you (13:27) 
• The 7 experiential steps to meet your own needs and obliterate your neediness (20:30) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Most guys don’t know what true love is. This warps their ideas about love and morphs them into a needy, unattractive version of themselves.

That’s the bad news. 

The good news?  

Thor: Love and Thunder, despite its silliness, teaches you about true love — and helps you become the most attractive version of yourself. 

In this episode, you’ll discover 3 ways watching Thor: Love and Thunder will help you attract more women. 

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• Why labeling your enemies as “evil” makes it harder to attract women (8:27)
• How Thor’s understanding stopped Gorr’s revenge tour in its tracks (and how to give yourself Thor’s level of love) (11:23)
• The insidious way demonizing your parts imprisons you in anxiety, depression, and self-disgust (and how to break free) (14:08)
• The weird way having a comfortable life stunts your emotional maturity which can sabotage even the healthiest relationships (17:35) 

Why resisting sadness transforms you into a misery-manufacturing machine (and how to accept sadness — even after something as heartbreaking as a divorce) (22:25) 

How learning love from romantic relationships distorts your meaning of love and wrecks your future relationships (30:23) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Every guy knows that neediness is the #1 most unattractive quality to women. But why then are so many guys still needy? 

Well, it’s hard for men to detect their own neediness. Women have evolved to detect neediness. And they’re experts at detecting it from your body language, your text messages, and even the tone of your voice. 

In this episode, you’ll discover the “hidden” neediness tells you’re using without even realizing it. 

Listen now and obliterate your neediness for good! 

Show Highlights Include:

• Why women can detect your neediness before speaking one word to them (5:46) 
• How the sound of your voice alone can either attract a horde of women or repulse them (7:34) 
• Why your body language and tone of voice make up 93% of your attractiveness to women (11:33) 
• How to land more dates with beautiful women by learning to read people better (14:30) 
• 3 “secret” ways women detect your neediness (without you even realizing you’re being needy) (16:42) 
• The weird way staying at your high-paying and high-static job demonstrates your neediness (18:59) 
• The insidious “Do More Trap” needy guys fall into at the bar which nukes their chances of attracting women (20:57) 
• How “red pill” dating tips actually make you needier (even if you think they make you more attractive) (24:13) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Many men transform themselves to become more attractive to women: They excel in their careers, drive flashy cars, dress well, and get fit. Yet they stay lonely and only attract women for short-term flings or one-night stands.

If you’re struggling to build successful, lasting relationships, you don’t need to upgrade your lifestyle, wardrobe, or career, though those can help.

What you need the most is to become less needy.

Once you stop being needy, 99% of your dating problems evaporate and pave the way for a long-term relationship with a loving woman.

In this episode, you’ll find out exactly how to remove neediness from your life and create a lasting relationship.

Ready to attack your relationship struggles at the root? Listen now!

Show highlights include:

• Why merely dressing better, getting fit, or growing your wealth won’t attract women if you’re still needy. (1:55)
• How pickup tactics and seduction strategies are based on neediness (and will never create loving relationships) (4:08)
• The evolutionary reason neediness is more unattractive than poverty, ugliness, and low status combined. (6:52)
• The “stone age” reason you only attract gold diggers and shallow women (12:55)
• Why pickup artists try to “bypass” neediness by pretending to be attractive (and how to eradicate neediness for good) (18:08)
• How you signal your neediness to attractive women without saying a word (21:18)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Most men believe they’ll finally be worthy of love if they achieve more. It’s easy to believe you’ll find love once you get that promotion, once you drive that fancy car, or once you’re only wearing luxury brands. 

But if that were true, why are there so many rich, high-achieving people with failed relationships, while there are “normal” people with regular cars but happy, loving relationships? Here’s the truth: No amount of achievement “unlocks” self-worth and love.

Those things only happen when you can take care of your own needs. In this episode, you’ll find out exactly how to do that. And once you’re emotionally self-sufficient, you’ll attract more loving women than you can imagine. 

Want to take care of your own needs and feel deserving of love, no matter which car you drive? Listen now!

Want to 

• Why being richer, higher status or better looking doesn’t make you more worthy of love (2:25)
• The self-development lie that makes you dislike yourself and keeps you unhappy (and the simple way to fix it) (7:01)
• How a hidden fear of failure makes you chase achievement and keeps you away from love and connection (14:31)
• Feel like you’re burnt out? How to respond to build a healthier emotional life (22:02)
• The “Conan the Barbarian” analogy that makes you work endless hours in pursuit of love. (27:29)
• How leaving a lucrative tech job for a low-paying culinary career can make you more confident and attract more loving women. (31:28)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

We treat our exiled parts of our psyche like an untrained puppy: 

When we’re young, we love them and play with them—until they pee on the couch, chew our mom’s shoes, or tear up the furniture. Then we shame, scold, and neglect them. 

But you can never be complete without accepting these exiled parts of yourself. Not to mention, accepting them unlocks more happiness, fulfillment, and love than anything else you could try. 

In this episode, you’ll discover how to know, understand, and heal parts of yourself you disowned in the past. 

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• How to feel love, worthiness, and happiness every single day (without running the endless treadmill of self-improvement) (10:42) 
• The insidious way self-improvement creates a background level of anxiety you always feel (12:20) 
• The “Untrained Puppy” secret that explains why you shame your most vulnerable parts (and how accepting them makes you as happy as a loved puppy) (14:30) 
• How your parents accidentally brainwashed you into loathing parts of yourself (even if they did so out of love) (14:49) 
• Why making more money won’t fulfill you like you think and actually leads to a wicked form of depression (19:50) 
• How self-therapy sabotages your confidence and happiness (especially if you think you’ll be successful with it) (26:36)
• Why hanging out with toddlers makes you more attractive to women than years of self-improvement work (35:29) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum