Shadows are repressed parts of you that have been exiled, disowned, and thrust into your unconscious. In other words, they’re still there — and causing you untold amounts of pain and suffering. The worst part? You might think you killed it off, or you might not even be aware these shadows are still a part of you.

But if you know how to encounter, understand, unburden, and integrate your shadows, it will result in lasting happiness and unconditional love. In fact, taking these 4 steps are required to fulfill your potential for success in this life.

If you want to discover your potential talents and gifts in other areas of your life, and the potential lives you could leave, you need to encounter, understand, and integrate your shadow parts. And in today’s episode, David reveals that and more!

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Show Highlights Include:

• How watching YouTube reviews of Black Panther: Wakanda  Forever pollutes your mind with the exact thoughts drop-dead gorgeous women find repulsive (8:26)
• The simple way to “automatically program” your iPhone to force feed you helpful tips and tricks on women’s psychology (12:43)
• How much do genes matter for dating? (24:21)
• 4 steps to integrate your unconscious shadows to lead a fulfilling life full of unconditional love and happiness (26:37)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Socially awkward guys don’t get girls, that’s the cold, hard truth. But hiding your social awkwardness and anxiety isn’t the answer either. When you repress, exile, and cut out your social anxiety in order to feel good about yourself, you force it further into your subconscious.

And when you cram it into the depths of your brain? it’s still active, and it’s still there sabotaging your success, but now you’re no longer aware of it. 

That’s the bad news.

The good news?

You can leverage your social anxiety and awkwardness to meet and date women in your life. You just need to know how to tap into it. And in today's episode, David reveals a few strange and unique ways to free yourself from crippling shyness.

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Show Highlights Include:

• The weird way shouting from the peak of a mountain you’re a nerdy comic book fan frees yourself from crippling shyness and debilitating social anxiety (1:55)
• How following the “normal solution” to inner conflict pollutes your subconscious with negative thoughts that sabotage your ability to have a loving relationship (2:34)
• Unable to find fulfillment? Here’s how to unlock the subconscious, repressed parts of your brain (and discover how to let go of the things you can’t change) (3:36)
• The outdated, and backward idea that “ego is the enemy” (and how to never rely on stress, anxiety, pressure, and deadlines in order to get things done ever again) (5:29)
• How proudly displaying your superiority complex magnetizes unconditional love, approval, and security in your self-worth (17:58)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Immature boys subscribe to the belief of “pure evil.” These boys need to seek out the hero’s journey. They need to seek out “good” vs. “evil.” So they can categorically define somebody as a hero or a villain.

But guess what?

Clinging onto this worldview in your 30’s and 40’s is the best way to live a life devoid of passion, unconditional love, and sex.

Believing in this outdated ideology causes tremendous heartache. Your protective forcefield gets deployed, physically and psychologically. Because of this forcefield, it blocks unconditional love, genuine emotional connection, and prevents you from accessing the vulnerability required for love, including love for yourself.

So, it begs the question: if “pure evil” doesn’t exist, then does the concept of evil even exist at all?

On today’s episode, David discusses the Psychology of The House of the Dragon and reveals the insanity behind believing in the pervasive myth of “pure evil”, and how it scrubs you dry of a loving relationship. 

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• How ragging on third wave feminists, cultural-marxism, and the Tinder algorithm could repel all beautiful women within a 10-mile radius (8:50)
• The weird way the Facebook algorithm is actually biased (and how its forcing you to stay in an “incel echochamber” devoid of sex and a loving relationship) (10:04)
• How to analyze and understand the biggest things men get wrong about women by “training the algorithm” (13:18)
• Why thinking evil is self-perpetuating is one of the most dangerous myths you could hold (and how it’s blocking your access to unconditional love and genuine emotional intimacy) (13:59)
• The common “teenage boy” trait 95% of men subconsciously possess (and how it stifles your ability to psychologically align with women) (23:30)
• Why not understanding the “emotional wavelength” every single woman has is a curse to your performance in the bedroom (26:50)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Here’s a true story: James was at a party with his girlfriend. There was a hilarious, tall, and handsome dude who kept making her laugh — obnoxiously loud. 

She was giving him attention and practically ignoring James. And the jokes he made? They fell flat on their face — she didn’t laugh at all.

At first, he started to think, “Damn, I suck.” But after a while, his mind began to race with questions:

Is he actually funny, or is she laughing way too hard to get his attention? Should I bring this up with her? Should I work on my own humor and social competence? Should I let go of my jealousy somehow? Or maybe I should just hit the gym and become a 21st century Arnold?

Stop.

There are 3 big issues with this type of thinking. These issues potentially lead to you being emotionally manipulative — and sabotaging your relationship because of it.

On today’s episode, you’ll uncover why being insecure is actually a subtle form of emotional manipulation. You’ll also discover how falling madly in love with an ugly French bulldog matures your attitude towards women (and magnetizes unconditional love.)

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• An exclusive Facebook group where you’ll uncover the biggest sexual complaints women have about men (1:41)
• Discover the 23 “telltale signs” required for a passionate and loving relationship full of steamy lovemaking (and avoid countless years in a dead end and lifeless relationship) (3:40)
• When is it just a lack of physical attraction or just your jealousy? (not knowing could leave you blind to potential cheating and flirting with other men behind your back) (5:34)
• The harmful vulnerability mindset 95% of men possess that sabotages your relationship by forcing her to “do all the dirty work” (11:34)
• Adopt the “Marlboro Man” attitude to unlock a sensuous bond with your girlfriend (and why seeking praise, approval, and motivation is a surefire way to ruin to a relationship) (13:56)
• How drinking “old wine” may result in a 50 year marriage with 2 kids and 4 grandchildren (14:42)
• Why looking like Brad Pitt and owning multiple Ferraris betrays your loved ones for momentary pleasures (17:00)
• The insidious way trying to be funny creates relationships cursed to fail from the very beginning (22:42)
• Insecure about your attractiveness? Here’s how to flip the narrative on its head — in your favor — by asking her “are you slutty enough?...” (31:23)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Do you struggle to understand modern women? Sometimes, they’re downright confusing. They cry when they read a book. They give hints instead of telling you what’s wrong. And they base their decisions entirely on emotion.

But here’s a reality check: while the other men who figured women out are having a warm, connected, and passionate relationship…

You’re sitting on your sofa at 10:30pm — alone.

If you want to date modern women, you need to understand them.

But don’t worry. 

In this episode you’re going to discover the psychology of women and how they tick. You’ll figure this out on today’s podcast, in which we’ll dissect Marvel’s newest TV Show: She-Hulk. 

Listen now!

Show Highlights:

• The weird way watching “She-Hulk” unlocks the power to read the minds of jaw-dropping women (2:33)
• How you repulse attractive women by dehumanizing them by accident (even if you’re trying to not be a douchebag at the club) (3:33)
• Why studying the lives of peasant women in seventh-century China magnetizes beautiful women to you (4:07)
• The insidious way Tinder deprives 95% of men from finding a loving partner (while boosting the egos of narcissistic women) (29:07)
• How to succeed in the modern dating world by thinking, breathing, and living like a cockroach (34:15)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Have you ever heard “nice guys finish last?” Imagine this: you’re super nice, know how to flirt with women, but after months of talking to an attractive woman, you get rejected. It always seems to go well until you fall in love with her, only to have it spat back in your face.

Most men after years of being the “nice guy” are fed up (and rightly so.) They decide to become an alpha male. They go to the gym, learn “game”, try their hand at pick-up artistry, and for a few dates they’re successful. But most of these alpha males hit rock bottom years into their new identity, only to be a repressed shell of their former self.

So if getting shredded and becoming an alpha male isn’t the answer, then what is?

On today’s episode, you’ll discover how to magnetize women to your presence (without being an alpha male or a nice guy.) You’ll also discover the 8 step process to open the floodgates to lasting happiness and true fulfillment. 

Listen now!

Show Highlights:

• The sneaky trait from “American Psycho” which blocks you from experiencing unconditional love and inner peace (1:51)
• How preventing your girlfriend from putting a knife in the toaster sabotages your relationship with her (2:26)
• If you have this personality trait, discover how dating your mom could be more satisfying than dating Dua Lipa (7:07)
• How dressing up like Jack Black unlocks a harem of women (and why dressing up like James Bond mutilates your chances with the exact same women) (16:53)
• Why adopting the opposite of “Machiavellian gameplay” magnetizes women and worthiness (21:38)
• Why consuming self-development content on YouTube eliminates passionate lovemaking sessions from your life (29:51)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Same age, same high school, same upbringing.

Man 1.0: He’s working overtime, he’s pulling all-nighters, he never sees his kids, and he’s sacrificed his personal life for his professional life. By age 70, he’s clinically depressed, suffering from chronic health problems, and recovering from 3 less than amicable divorces (and disliked by his children).

Man 2.0: He wakes up every day with a sense of purpose, invigorated, vitalised, and looking to attack the day ahead. By age 70, he’s about to celebrate his 40th wedding anniversary with his wife, their 3 children, and their 3 young grandchildren.

Have you ever wondered why these two men with the same upbringing have vastly different lives?

On today’s episode, you’ll discover the exact reason why Man 2.0 has a wholesome, fulfilled, and happy life.

Listen now!

Show Highlights:

• How plowing straight ahead with the “resistance” magnetises women, happiness, fulfillment, and purpose (4:15)
• Why visiting Starbucks daily means you may never achieve self-respect, worthiness, and love (5:02)
• Discover this 5,000 year old psychological technique to calm the non-stop vortex of swirling thoughts (9:27)
• How to open the floodgates of unconditional love by giving birth to an 8 pound, 6 ounce, newborn infant baby (13:50)
• Why having a baby leads to becoming the top dog or el honcho of your company (14:59)
• The simple way searching deep inside yourself unlocks your inner-resistance (and resolves problems without emotional conflict) (15:34)
• How thrashing about in quicksand promotes unhappiness, depression, anxiety, and a lack of purpose (18:22)
• The insidious way not applying dettol to an injured wound handicaps your freedom, long-term fulfillment, and happiness (23:07)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at: https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Do you buy into the myth that success alone brings happiness and fulfillment? The techniques 95% of Americans use to strive for success, growth, and personal development guarantees they won’t be fulfilled in the long run.

There is a completely different and unique way to approach success. And it’s imperative you discover this way to gain personal happiness, success, and insane amounts of growth in your life.

In today’s episode, you’ll discover how to experience success and growth — while also being happy, fulfilled, and not having to wait until you succeed in order to be happy.

Listen now!

Show Highlights:

• The polar-opposite method to build a financial empire comparable to Rome (without stress, anxiety, and depression) (1:20)
• How your parents lied to you about the concept of self-worth (and how this lie keeps you mired in a state of loneliness and poverty) (3:26)
• The counter-intuitive way dreaming of “sipping pina coladas on the beach” will force you to become a desperate workaholic who never spends time with your kids (11:15)
• How immersing yourself in “flow capital” will scientifically unlock a never ending state of high happiness (13:28)
• Why you’ll chain yourself down with concrete in the Hudson River if you wake up with nothing to do on Monday (14:25)

The idea that men need to be fixed is wrong. It results in fake progress, toxic growth, and unnecessary amounts of pain. Men quit because of this outdated concept. Many therapists (even some of the ones in the IFS Therapy Directory) peddle and hold onto this toxic idea.

In this episode, I answer a listener question and reveal how you can alleviate your pain and accelerate your healing and growth through the therapeutic process. You’ll also discover why relying on a bad therapist you found through a perfunctory search online could leave you worse off in the end. 

Listen now!

Show Highlights:

• Show up late, don’t take a shower, drive a red 1994 Honda Civic, and watch as you become a magnet to attractive women (3:04)
• Why fetishizing exile emotions could cause you to have multiple non-stop crying episodes (and spend thousands of dollars on wasted therapy sessions) (15:26)
• How to relieve your sadness and be oozing with positive energy through “emotion titration” (21:16)
• The sneaky way to trick yourself into enjoying grueling tasks (and to attract women and the respect of other men into your life) (22:01)
• Why you’ll never find a woman and stay bitter if you don’t “flip-the-switch” (24:16)
• How to naturally think positively, feel joy, and become an unstoppable go-getter by practicing Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu (28:20)
• Why bawling your eyes out like a child can unlock clarity and make you feel worthy of love (31:06)

Vulnerable guys are ugly. That’s what women think at least. Millions of men around the world have been told to show off their vulnerable side. And when they do? Women judge them ruthlessly, making them get angry and frustrated. 

But it’s not because they’re vulnerable — it’s because they’re being vulnerable in the wrong way. 

Men feel like women don’t respect them for being vulnerable. So if being vulnerable isn’t the answer, then what is?

The right way is definitely not the  “redpilled” crowd or dating gurus. They are fearful of women not responding positively to their vulnerability. 

So it begs the question.

How do you get respect - while still being vulnerable?

In today’s episode, you’ll discover a “gateway” concept that’s required for deeper connection and intimacy but can sabotage your relationship and leave you lonely if you get it wrong. This episode also reveals the 2 greatest myths surrounding vulnerability. 

Listen now!

Show Highlights:

• How getting this “gateway concept” right is required for a successful relationship but if you get it wrong can sabotage your relationship (and leave you bitter and lonely) (0:39)
• Why listening to the “redpilled” crowd and dating gurus leads to a hostile and bitter relationship (1:55)
• How adopting a machiavellian approach prevents you from finding love and happiness (and why adopting this approach attracts unconditional love) (2:59)
• Understand the 2 greatest myths surrounding vulnerability and automatically attract the woman of your dreams (4:05)
• Why seeking empathy from women violates their boundaries (and leaves you miserable) (9:52)
• A “healing way” to be vulnerable that’s required for a growing and loving relationship (15:02)
• How to destroy the cycle of pain and loneliness by getting dumped (16:06)
• The counterintuitive way to destroy your hidden childhood trauma by getting dumped (16:06)
• How spending money on cars, jewelry, watches, and nice cars can actually repulse women (19:16)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum