Beyond Success

Have you ever heard “nice guys finish last?” Imagine this: you’re super nice, know how to flirt with women, but after months of talking to an attractive woman, you get rejected. It always seems to go well until you fall in love with her, only to have it spat back in your face.

Most men after years of being the “nice guy” are fed up (and rightly so.) They decide to become an alpha male. They go to the gym, learn “game”, try their hand at pick-up artistry, and for a few dates they’re successful. But most of these alpha males hit rock bottom years into their new identity, only to be a repressed shell of their former self.

So if getting shredded and becoming an alpha male isn’t the answer, then what is?

On today’s episode, you’ll discover how to magnetize women to your presence (without being an alpha male or a nice guy.) You’ll also discover the 8 step process to open the floodgates to lasting happiness and true fulfillment. 

Listen now!

Show Highlights:

• The sneaky trait from “American Psycho” which blocks you from experiencing unconditional love and inner peace (1:51)
• How preventing your girlfriend from putting a knife in the toaster sabotages your relationship with her (2:26)
• If you have (this personality trait), discover how dating your mom could be more satisfying than dating Dua Lipa (7:07)
• How dressing up like Jack Black unlocks a harem of women (and why dressing up like James Bond mutilates your chances with the exact same women) (16:53)
• Why adopting the opposite of “Machiavellian gameplay” magnetizes women and worthiness (21:38)
• Why consuming self-development content on YouTube eliminates passionate lovemaking sessions from your life (29:51)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Here’s a true story: James was at a party with his girlfriend. There was a hilarious, tall, and handsome dude who kept making her laugh — obnoxiously loud. 

She was giving him attention and practically ignoring James. And the jokes he made? They fell flat on their face — she didn’t laugh at all.

At first, he started to think, “Damn, I suck.” But after a while, his mind began to race with questions:

Is he actually funny, or is she laughing way too hard to get his attention? Should I bring this up with her? Should I work on my own humor and social competence? Should I let go of my jealousy somehow? Or maybe I should just hit the gym and become a 21st-century Arnold?

Stop.

There are 3 big issues with this type of thinking. These issues potentially lead to you being emotionally manipulative — and sabotaging your relationship because of it.

On today’s episode, you’ll uncover why sharing your insecurities is actually a subtle form of emotional manipulation. You’ll also discover how falling madly in love with an ugly French bulldog matures your attitude towards women (and magnetizes unconditional love.)

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• An exclusive Facebook group where you’ll uncover the biggest sexual complaints women have about men (1:41)
• Discover the 23 “telltale signs” required for a passionate and loving relationship full of steamy lovemaking (and avoid countless years in a dead end and lifeless relationship) (3:40)
• When is it just a lack of physical attraction or just your jealousy? (not knowing could leave you blind to potential cheating and flirting with other men behind your back) (5:34)
• The harmful vulnerability mindset 95% of men possess that sabotages your relationship by forcing her to “do all the dirty work” (11:34)
• Adopt the “Marlboro Man” attitude to unlock a sensuous bond with your girlfriend (and why seeking praise, approval, and motivation is a surefire way to ruin to a relationship) (13:56)
• How drinking “old wine” may result in a 50-year marriage with 2 kids and 4 grandchildren (14:42)
• Why looking like Brad Pitt and owning multiple Ferraris betrays your loved ones for momentary pleasures (17:00)
• The insidious way trying to be funny creates relationships cursed to fail from the very beginning (22:42)
• Insecure about your attractiveness? Here’s how to flip the narrative on its head — in your favor — by asking her, “are you slutty enough?...” (31:23)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Have you wondered what you’re doing “wrong” when attracting women? Have you dove down the rabbit hole of YouTube dating advice looking for answers? If you have, you’ve realized the tactics from popular videos often don’t work for you.

That’s because these tips don’t address the real reasons women may not want to date you. The truth is, people are more complex than most dating advice assumes. To really succeed with women, you need more than smooth lines and batting practice.

In this episode of The Masculine Psychology Podcast, host David Tian explains why you need to move beyond dating tips to attract the right relationships in your life.

Listen now to discover why “dating tips” might be holding you back in life and love.

Show highlights include:

• Why popular “dating tips” won’t improve your dating results — and why the “lazy way” to meet women works against your happiness (1:13)
• How the WebMD approach to self-improvement barricades access to your true, attractive self (7:59)
• The “dangerous” dating practices that can hook you like heroin and destroy your relationships (9:09)
• What to do if your anxiety level approaching women is above 2 of 10 (11:07)
• How to stop creating barriers in your mental “self” to naturally attract women (18:23)
• Why success with tips and tactics keeps you from connecting with the right women (23:13)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

From a young age, attractive women become masters at sniffing out neediness. Most men don’t discover this fact about life until they’ve sabotaged their dating lives and relationships.

But here’s the good news:

There’s a proven system for overcoming your neediness. It won’t happen overnight, but it will free you from the sadistic grip neediness has over you. 

In this episode, you’ll discover the 7 steps to obliterate your neediness for good. 

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• How your fear about relationships dupes you into making relationship-ending mistakes (even if you don’t realize it) (2:40) 
• The counterintuitive reason becoming wealthy skyrockets your neediness (3:04) 
• Why women can see through your inauthentic attempts to get to know their personality like Swiss cheese (4:41) 
• The fundamental human needs that help you exterminate your neediness (9:03) 
• Why having an agenda of picking up women when you go out subconsciously repels them from you (13:27) 
• The 7 experiential steps to meet your own needs and obliterate your neediness (20:30) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

While sexual attractiveness is important for a healthy relationship, most men overvalue how important it is. This, as a result, makes them more likely to sabotage their relationships. 

Why?

Because it directly violates the one “trump card” for sexual attractiveness to women. Women have a sixth sense at identifying whether you have this “trump card” or not—and caring too much about your sexual attractiveness is a tell-tale sign you don’t have it.

The solution? 

Well, first you must realize that sexual attractiveness is not the end-all-be-all. In fact, it’s not even at the top of the list of ingredients that make a healthy relationship. Then, you need to listen to this episode, where I reveal what this “trump card” is, and how you can cultivate it if you don’t have it already. 

Want to not only become more attractive to women, but improve your chances of succeeding in a healthy, long-term relationship? 

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• Why sexual attractiveness isn’t even at the top of the list of factors that build successful, long-term relationships (2:51) 
• The weird way your sexual attractiveness can hinder the success of a long-term relationship (3:21) 
• How developing your emotional maturity will do more for your relationships with women than getting a 6-pack (9:21) 
• The single most attractive quality that women crave in men (10:08) 
• The 3 most important books to read to obliterate your neediness (11:45) 
• The 5 most common ways men practice neediness (and how eliminating these behaviors instantly boosts your attractiveness) (14:44) 
• How leaking neediness in your personality prevents you from being attractive to women (even if you’re fit, wealthy, and handsome) (17:010 
• Why thousands of years of evolution prove that women find THIS more attractive than material possessions (28:06) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ 

Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Here’s the unfortunate truth for most men dating in our modern society: 

They’re not emotionally mature enough to sustain a successful long-term relationship. When they’re not mature enough, sexual temptation will sabotage their relationships—almost as soon as they exit the honeymoon phase. 

The solution? 

Well, first you need to understand that sexual temptation comes from sexual shame when you’re younger. Then, before you’re ready for a long-term relationship, you need to learn how to handle sexual temptation without repressing your sexual desires. 

It may not be easy, but it’s the only way to predict whether your relationship will last 50+ years or fall apart. 

In this episode, you’ll discover how to know with certainty if you’re ready for a long-term relationship. And some steps you can take if you’re not ready, so you can fast track your way to a healthy and fulfilling marriage. 

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• How prematurely entering a long-term relationship creates a world of heartache (0:51) 
• Spoiler alert: If you’re in a new relationship without having this, your relationship is destined to fail (1:48) 
• An easy litmus test that reveals if you’re ready for a long-term relationship or not (2:30) 
• The insidious “Biggest Loser” effect that can sabotage your relationship as soon as you exit the honeymoon phase (3:22) 
• Why bringing your girlfriend into a nightclub surrounded by hot guys can instantly tell you if your relationship will last or crumble (7:40) 
• The weird way sexual shame during your adolescent years stunts your ability to have a successful long-term relationship today (14:01) 
• How to predict with near perfect accuracy if your long-term relationship will survive depending on if you visit this particular website (19:55) 
• The only indispensable requirement for success in a long-term relationship (hint: it’s not attraction or even love) (24:50) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ 

Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Many men are ignorant about how attraction actually works.

Because of this, they’re forever destined to stay single (and alone.)

While attraction definitely involves muscles, good looks, and money, it has more to do with:

Where you rank on the “Provider Vs. Lover Distinction Ladder.”

And what I mean by this is: even the most chiseled, 6-foot hunk of a man can fall into the “Provider” category within a heartbeat. A category with:

• No respect
• No sex
• And you’re treated like a doormat

Likewise, a fat, nerdy, IT programmer can be in BOTH categories — lover and provider — which means both short-term and long-term dating success.

And if any of this interests you, then you’re going to love today’s episode.

In this new episode, you’ll discover what women are actually attracted to in a man. 

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• The secret to attracting women effortlessly isn’t about fancy one-liners or tactics, but this: What are women actually attracted to in the first place? (0:56)
• Think the answer to being friend-zoned is to voice “intent” you want to date her earlier on? Here’s why that’s completely wrong (and why the answer will blow your mind because of how simple it actually is) (1:37)
• How do I tell her I like her (without sounding like a creep)? (1:45)
• The most sophisticated, accurate, and effective resources that explain how attraction actually works (and is far superior than dating advice from YouTube) (2:59)
• How to find “the one” by applying long-term mating strategies instead of short-term mating strategies (4:32)
• Turn a woman on instantly by using nothing but this technique (and it’s got nothing to do with looks, status, muscles, or even what you say) (5:19)
• Where do you rank on the “Provider Vs. Lover Distinction Ladder”? Women make their mind up about a man before he even opens his mouth according to this ladder (5:50)
• In the friend-zone with an attractive woman? There’s still a chance you can date her (and marry her). You just need to know how, and we discuss the answer at (6:43)
• Who’s more likely to succeed in the dating arena? A chiseled, 6-foot hunk of a man, or a fat, nerdy IT programmer? The answer might surprise you (33:54)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ 

Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Most of the events and decisions that cause you psychological issues today happened in your early childhood years. This is actually one of the main culprits behind why it’s so difficult for you to attract women now.

Being needy, a push-over, or having no assertive bones in your body require that you “reparent” yourself, especially those inner child parts of yourself that lash out or cause self-sabotage when they get triggered. 

But you know what? 

Even though the concept of “reparenting” might sound difficult, especially if you’re single with no kids yourself, it’s actually much easier than you think. 

In this episode, you’ll discover how to reparent yourself to get rid of neediness, learn how to set boundaries, and create a safe space for your inner child, so every relationship you’re in—yes, even intimate relationships—improves. 

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• How almost all of your psychological issues have their roots in childhood (and how to parent your kids—or yourself—so they grow up without these issues) (1:45) 
• The “Reparenting” technique for fast tracking your therapeutic journey and ditching the micro traumas you experienced as a kid (3:43) 
• Why becoming your own inner parent can extinguish your neediness for good (4:24) 
• 3 examples of parenting boundaries (and how they help you set healthy boundaries with your girlfriend or wife) (11:17)
• How validation and empathy can calm any triggered inner child parts of you before they undermine you (13:55) 
• Why it’s necessary to feel good inside before making positive changes (even if your favorite self-help book preaches otherwise) (21:51) 
• The 13-word sentence to say to yourself in the mirror to instantly boost your assertiveness (23:15) 
• The counterintuitive way ruptures in a relationship are the greatest source of deepening connection and love (30:46) 
• How punishing bad behavior actually makes it more likely to happen again (and what to do instead) (46:40) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ 

Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Your parenting style can either make your son an easy, compliant pushover in life or a strong, confident, and assertive man. 

How so?

For example, when parenting largely centers on behavior rather than the underlying reasons why your child feels a certain way.

And if you continue to focus on behavior, it could to lead to this for your child:

• Being bullied at school by kids who had “strong” parents
• Losing his job because he fails to fit in and click with his team
• He’ll struggle to talk to girls 

Sounds bad, but there’s a relatively “easy” fix.

And in today’s episode, I reveal exactly what you should do to make sure your son is strong, confident, and knows how to stand up for himself. 

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• The 7 classic psychotherapy books which allow you to live a fulfilled and happy life (without seeing a therapist) (1:01)
• We have all been shown examples of sub-par parenting, but what exactly is the correct model to emulate? I discuss the answer at (2:30)
• Why you’ll feel forever feel triggered by your spouse or partner’s minor indiscretion because of a “misinterpretation” of the therapeutic process (3:03)
• How to tap into the higher version of yourself that’s naturally confident, courageous, and attractive to women by “re-parenting” yourself (4:33)
• Want to be the best father you could ever be? At (8:46), I reveal how to have an amazing interaction with your child (even if he or she is throwing a tantrum)
• Why modern parenting “advice” forces your kids to rebel against you when they grow up (10:59)
• How to get your kids to love you as a father — and have an amazing family life — without having to play “good cop, bad cop” (21:19)
• Jordan Peterson’s parenting methodology which subconsciously develops your child to be an easy, compliant pushover in life (and what you should do instead) (27:35)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ 

Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Many people sabotage their relationships because they’re so nervous about getting it right, or saying the “wrong” thing.

And the reason for this?

Their parents subconsciously taught them the harmful concept of “Frustration Intolerance.” 

And if you have it, you’re more likely to have fights with your spouse, be triggered by small indiscretions your wife makes, or noisy kids in the car. 

Worst part?

Most guys have no idea whether they suffer from “Frustration Intolerance.” And if they do, it only bubbles to the surface after months and months of intense therapy.

So, if the concept of “Frustration Intolerance” intrigues you, then read on.

In today’s episode, you’ll discover why you fear saying the “wrong” thing when talking to your girlfriend, wife, or tinder date. I also reveal why your wife or girlfriend triggers you for seemingly no reason. 

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• Does your wife or girlfriend trigger you for seemingly no reason? It might be because of a common circumstance known as your “family of origin” (1:42)
• “A good therapeutic process helps you to ‘reparent’ yourself” (8:34)
• Struggle with rejection from dates on tinder? It might be because your parents didn’t know how to deal with “Frustration Intolerance” (11:54)
• How to hack your brain to tap into as much information in as little time as possible (essentially becoming a super computer) (15:59)
• Feel nervous when talking to your partner or spouse, out of fear you might say something “wrong?” I reveal the answer at (23:36)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ 

Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery