Most guys who want to find unconditional love fall into the trap of self-help:

They think the only way they can earn unconditional love is by becoming the best version of themselves. 

But self-improvement is actually based on insecurities. And the longer a relationship based on insecurities continues, the more likely it'll implode. 

In this episode, you’ll discover why self-help is a big, fat lie that only leads to burnout. Not love. 

Listen now and I’ll reveal the true secret for unlocking unconditional love. 

Show Highlights Include:

• Why becoming more attractive won’t help you land more dates (1:09) 
• How self-help gurus dupe you into developing a ruthless sense of burnout (3:47) 
• The weird way needing to be more attractive reveals your deep-rooted insecurities (and how to overcome them) (13:33) 
• The sneaky way becoming more attractive will sabotage your relationship (15:56) 
• How your drive to achieve cripples any long-term relationship you get into (23:32) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Men these days think masculinity means one-upmanship and being the “alpha” of the group. Or worse - they think masculinity is inherently toxic. 

Both these views are flawed and lead to crippled self-worth. 

If you want to become a self-fulfilled man, it helps to reflect and observe others. Surprisingly, observing Top Gun teaches you valuable lessons on masculinity - if you view it through an educated lens. 

In this episode, you’ll discover how watching Top Gun lets you accept yourself and reach your full, confident potential. 

Show Highlights Include:

• How Tom Cruise teaches you how to pick up quality women (without pretending to be a high-energy alpha) (3:29)
• The “triangular gaze” technique that ramps up sexual tension between you and the object of your desire (8:28)
• The “weaponized vulnerability” method that disarms defensive women (11:46)
• A popular pick-up artist method that kills your chances of landing “the one” (even if every PUA tells you to do it) (13:14)
• How to become more attractive to the opposite sex by avoiding the “do more trap” (19:48)
• The “little sibling” strategy that lets you handle aggressive men with maturity (21:08)
• How to grow as a man without getting burned out by relentless “self improvement” (40:15) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at: https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Bad boys are nothing special in the looks department, they won't take care of her, and they’re hardly charming. 

They get girls because they don’t give a damn. 

In this episode, you’ll discover why non-neediness is the secret to attracting the woman of your dreams. Instead of obsessing over “alpha”, you’ll actually become one. 

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• Why asking about your attractiveness turns you into woman-repellant and messes up your mental health (2:28) 
• The “bad boy” principle that lets you attract women without turning into a jerk (8:26) 
• Become more irresistible to women than a Krispy Kreme donut, with the help of a 50,000 year old psychological hack (13:29) 
• The “neediness signals” that subconsciously repel women (21:33) 
• How to satisfy your need for connection by going out alone (32:52) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Guys who struggle with women often fall into the seductive (and lethal) “Alpha Myth” trap. 

They believe the only solution to their dating problems is becoming more of an alpha. But this isn’t true. It either leads you down a path of toxic self-improvement or hating your reflection in every mirror you see.

And the worst part? 

While becoming more alpha might work for short-term flings, it sabotages your long-term relationships, happiness, and mental health. 

What guys should focus on instead—which unlocks love, joy, fulfillment, meaning, and even makes you more attractive—is the “One Thing” I reveal in this episode. 

If your dating life makes you depressed, I reveal the antidote to your struggles in this episode. 

Listen now and discover how to “hypnotize” attractive women to fall for you. (But only if you use this newfound power in an ethical way!)   

Show Highlights Include:

• The “Higher Self” hack for oozing calm confidence when talking to attractive women (and how to harness your higher self at will) (0:55) 
• The one and only way to unlock true love, joy, meaning, and fulfillment (2:31) 
• How missing this one key ingredient forces your subconscious to sabotage even a perfect relationship (and how to prevent this before it crushes your heart) (3:32) 
• The insidious “Alpha Myth” that might help you attract a date—but at the expense of a long and prosperous marriage (4:28) 
• Why “alpha males” secretly turn you into a beta (or how to become more alpha by only studying women) (12:34) 
• 4 alpha characteristics that boost your sexual attractiveness (even if you’re a beta) (15:17) 
• Why making millions of dollars can only lead to being cuckolded if you don’t harness this one “power” (15:37) 
• The weird way spending too much time getting ripped in the gym repulses women (even if they hit on you) (26:18) 
• How the 4 alpha characteristics can sabotage your dating and sex life (even if they make you sexier than Brad Pitt) (28:38)  
• Why a weak, poorr, and ugly nerd can land more dates with beautiful women than a jacked, loaded, and attractive alpha male (37:06) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Dr. Strange 2 is deeper than an action-packed superhero movie. 

In fact, the main theme in the movie deals with grief. And there are several psychological lessons embedded in the movie which will help you attract and keep love. 

In this episode, you’ll discover the 3 most important ways watching Dr. Strange 2 will improve your love life, confidence, and self-esteem.

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• Why doing the exact opposite if Dr. Strange will magically reduce your anxiety with women (9:16) 
• How being naughty helps you find lasting love (even if it makes you feel uncomfortable) (10:06) 
• The subtle “Fear is Extra” mindset tweak for obliterating any worries lurking in your head (13:22) 
• Why following rules and authority figures makes you anti-seductive and repels women (15:36) 
• The real reason Wanda battled so much suffering (and how to prevent this when grief strikes in your life) (17:08) 
• 3 insidious ways men treat women like NPCs and sabotage an otherwise healthy relationship (without even realizing it) (20:36) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Most ultra successful people suck at relationships. Look no further than Will Smith or Johnny Depp. Despite their riches, their relationships are in shambles. 

Why? 

Because of a trap many achievers fall into. Achievers dedicate decades of their lives sacrificing their weekends, relationships, and happiness for success. 

And you know what? 

Once they achieve massive success, they realize that’s not what their soul was searching for. 

In this episode, you’ll discover how to have success without sacrificing everything else which brings you joy and love. 

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include:

• The “Rainbow Trap” achievers fall into which gives you financial success at the cost of sabotaging your relationships (2:54) 
• How getting good grades in school can repel women instead of attract them (4:10) 
• The insidious way only relying on your romantic partner for love, intimacy, and connection leads to soul-crushing breakups (6:20) 
• How to experience immense love and joy from the mundane things in your life (even if you don’t have career or dating success) (10:42) 
• Why Will Smith and Johnny Depp are in traumatic relationships despite their success (and how to prevent attracting deranged women in your life) (17:26) 
• How to overwhelm yourself with happiness by acting like a baby (24:38) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Dr. Strange gives you a masterclass in human psychology. Stephen Strange was the classic narcissist who tied his entire identity to his career. 

So when he lost his surgical hands, he was ready to give up on life. 

But instead of sulking, he redeemed his narcissistic characteristics by becoming selfless. 

In this episode, we’ll dissect Stephen Strange from the first Dr. Strange movie, so you don’t make the same mistakes he did. 

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include:

• Why basing your self-worth on everything you achieve like Dr. Strange drives everyone you care about out of your life (9:00) 
• The fatal psychological flaw in all superhero movies which can cripple your relationships if you take it literally (9:49)
• The insidious way “nice guys” are doomed in relationships (even as they become more confident with women) (19:47) 
• Why striving for success at all costs makes you miserable (even if you think it fulfills you) (30:55)  

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Everyone has an inner critic who beats up on your mental health. And the worse your trauma is, the harsher your critic becomes. 

But everyone approaches this problem backwards: 

They think criticizing their inner critic will scare it away. But this only makes your inner critic double down and create more agony for you. 

In this episode, you’ll discover why accepting your inner critic will actually lift its control over your mental health. 

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• Why celebrating your inner rebel when it pops into your psyche skyrockets your happiness (1:56) 
• 3 simple ways to detect your inner critic before it sabotages your mental health (3:42) 
• Why criticizing yourself into the best version of yourself only creates more mental anguish and anxiety (4:26) 
• How acting like a toddler fast tracks your healing process (4:54) 
• The insidious “Legacy Burdens” your parents passed down to you and you’ll pass onto your children if you don’t heal from your trauma in time (6:18) 
• The simple “No Wonder” trick for accepting your inner critic and jumpstarting the healing process (7:07) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

There are two paths to transformation: The Fixing Method and The Acceptance Method. 

The former is what you’ll get from any self-help book or life coaching. And while it might work for a short burst of time, it creates even more mental chaos down the road. 

The latter is the approach IFS therapy uses. And it creates lasting change through radical self-acceptance (even aspects of your personality that humiliate you). 

In this episode, you’ll discover how radical self-acceptance leads to more success with women, a happier life, and a more fulfilling career. 

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• The 3-step process for making your inner critic shut up (5:05) 
• The “Allowing Approach” to self-improvement (without secreting despising aspects of your personality) (6:58) 
• The counterintuitive way listening to your inner critic helps it go away faster (7:12) 
• How self-help books actually slows down your journey to self-improvement (7:42) 
• The weird way saying “hello” to yourself helps you heal from your traumatic past (13:11) 
• Why self-therapy sabotages the benefits of real therapy before you even begin (20:09) 
• How having more willpower and discipline backfires and slows your healing process to a grinding halt (27:04) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

The self-help industry is a multi-billion dollar industry which feeds off your insecurities like a poisonous leech.

And while they promise to boost your confidence, attractiveness, and happiness, it actually does the exact opposite. Especially over the long term.

The self-help industry lures you into a trap which leads to burnout, misery, and even self-contempt.

In this episode, you’ll discover why self-help is toxic and how to improve your life without relying on shady self-help tactics.

Listen now and you’ll learn to accept yourself by the end of the episode.

Show Highlights Include:

• The insidious “Toxic Trap” you learn from self-help and life coaches which obliterates your happiness and confidence (1:03)
• The “Radical Self-Acceptance” secret for being content no matter what curveballs life throws you (9:47)
• How self-help weaponizes your biggest insecurities and sabotages your long-term fulfillment (14:31)
• Why trying to exile your shyness or social awkwardness actually steals your confidence instead of building it (16:58)
• The counterintuitive way attending Tony Robbins events can cripple your self-esteem (22:58)
• Why playing video games and watching porn reveal a deep psychological part of you that’s unsatisfied (37:20)
• How studying Loki can instantly make you satisfied with your life right now (even if you haven’t accomplished everything you want yet) (42:28)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:
https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:
https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum