Beyond Success

For men struggling to get a date, dating techniques do nothing but:

• Batter their self-worth
• Make them feel ashamed for not living up to “expectations” of what a man should be
• Ruin their self-confidence
• And sabotage their chances of finding true love

As these men apply dating techniques in the real world…

Their hands tremble, their knees quake, their lips shake, they choke up, and they sweat bullets when talking to a girl.

Why?

Because dating techniques are a bandaid over a gaping wound — the gaping wound being your own subconscious mind. And the only way to overcome your severe anxiety and nerves is through the therapeutic process.

In today’s episode, I reveal why most dating problems are indeed therapeutic problems. I also reveal how to uncover your pre-installed wit, charm, and humor.

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• Feel like a “fake” when trying to appear confident in front of girls? Use the 8’Cs of true-self to melt away your nerves, fears, and anxiety (2:29)
• How to uncover the pre-installed witty, charming, funny, and sexually attractive parts of you by “tricking” your subconscious (works even if you’re a shy or nerdy guy) (4:08)
• Why you’re subconsciously ignoring the parts of you that enjoy being sexy, taking risks, and likes experiencing adventure (5:43)
• “You don’t get to experience your full potential until you go through (this)” (5:59)
• Think dating’s all about good looks, money, or status? Here’s the “martial arts” secret that debunks this popular myth (and enables you to become — at least — a 7/10) (6:18)
• Why you should never listen to the advice of a fat, ugly, short janitor who picks up 9’s and 10’s at the club every weekend (8:20)
• The difference between a “cup of coffee” at her place and sleeping alone is the use of “DT” at the end of your questions (15:27)
• You’re already naturally talented at flirting, banter, humor, and wittiness. You just need to know how to access it (17:55)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

In order to find a loving relationship, you need to become somebody you’re not.

You need to rock a new haircut, fill your wardrobe with designer clothes, and hit the gym 24/7. You need to morph into Sean Connery’s James Bond.

Charming, handsome, seductive, and irresistible to modern women.

Here’s the thing: If you’re seeking a long-term relationship, this is easily the worst advice you could ever listen to!

Now, if you're optimizing your life for a short-term fling, have at it. Be the “player.”

But I’m assuming you're reading this because you want a long-term relationship. And if you are, then what you need to do is unburden the already naturally attractive parts in you.

In today’s episode, I reveal the 7 steps to unleashing the already naturally attractive parts within you.

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• The “BSYANA” myth that sabotages your chances of finding a loving relationship with the “one” (3:28)
• How to unleash the naturally attractive parts of yourself with these 7 steps (9:03)
• Why most men fail to be the man that modern women desire most (hint: it’s not being a macho man like Sean Connery’s James Bond) (16:23)
• The “LASAE” strategy to be sexually attractive in the eyes of hetrosexual women (21:01)
• How to form deeper emotional connections with women by teleporting back to your teenage self (23:33)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

There are 3.9 billion women in the world.

And trying to attract every single one of them is damn near impossible. But when men optimize their Tinder profile for short-term hookups, that’s what they’re trying for — they’re making themselves “mass-market” to attract women.

And this never works.

Instead, they become a commodity — “just another player.” And when their potential soulmate sees them…

She’s physically repulsed — and doesn’t want anything to do with them.

So, if being “mass-market” doesn’t work, then what does?

I propose you “niche down” your personality to attract the ONE girl that truly matters. And in today’s episode, I reveal how to create a loving long-term relationship by being more of who you already are.

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• The “always growing” lie propagated by the so-called “self-help” world (and how it cripples your ability to be unconditionally loved) (1:36)
• Why “shrinking the pool” of women you speak to amplifies your chances of finding “the one” (8:08)
• How clicking pause on an Andrew Tate video ensures a beautiful future with your wife, children, and grandchildren (9:52)
• Why Tinder feeds your inner beast (and makes your soulmate seem irrelevant) (12:28)
• The sobering reality behind your chances of success on Tinder, as explained by The Jordan B. Peterson Podcast (14:00)
• How to get your ex back with the “Intense Connect” strategy (18:15)
• The “Long Tail” method Amazon uses to be positioned as the most successful option (and how you can copy this exact approach to find the love of your life) (22:26)
• Why appealing to every woman’s innate sexual desires is the best way to ruin your chances with the one that truly matters (23:36)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ 

Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Do you want to be ‘the man’, a ‘player’, or a so-called ‘bad boy’?

I’m going to assume a big, fat no. Most guys aren’t looking to bed 50 women every week. They’re looking to settle down with a beautiful, attractive, and mature wife — not endless one-night-stands with club bimbos. 

And this is where Andrew Tate, Fresh and Fit, and other pick up artists are steering you in the wrong direction. Their approach is optimized for these club bimbos. It’s great for when you’ve just left a divorce, and want to make up for lost time, but…

If you’re looking to have a 50-year long relationship, start a family, and feel fulfilled, then this approach is near suicidal to your happiness. 

The pick up artists from the 2000’s are single and unsatisfied. And if they’re married? They often resort to cheating or visiting prostitutes — their marriage has no passionate sex! 

So if listening to these YouTube dating gurus isn’t the answer, then what is?

In today’s episode, I reveal how to optimize your dating life for a long-term relationship. I also reveal why you need to give her the chance to cheat on you. Unconventional thinking, I know, but hear me out.

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• How “being yourself” turns her off before you even open your mouth (0:43)
• Why 50-year long relationships (full of passionate, steamy sex) require you to give her a chance to cheat on you (1:05)
• How to unlock unconditional love with an amazing girlfriend by taking off the “BS mask” (2:09)
• Why participating in “hookup culture” automatically sabotages your chances of finding unconditional love with a beautiful wife (3:23)
• Why the majority of attractive women are immature (22:11)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ 

Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Men feel like they lack true purpose and meaning in their relationships.

Why?

Dating apps and most dating advice promote short-term dating strategies that only work on immature women. These strategies leave men without meaning, purpose, and true connection when they try to settle down. That’s if they can even settle down at all…

When you’ve spent years programming these short-term strategies into your mind, it’s near impossible to break these habits.

When that happens, you become a repellant for women who are seeking a long-term relationship.

Now, if you don’t care about having a 50-year long relationship, true life partnership, or unconditional love in a committed relationship, then this episode isn’t for you. But if you are, then what I’m going to share will be the most exciting podcast you’ve ever listened to.

In today’s episode, I reveal how to be in a loving and committed relationship by deleting this specific app off your phone (it’s not Facebook, Instagram, or Tik Tok.) You’ll also hear my take on Andrew Tate (and how he’s actually battling sexual shame in himself.)

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• The counter-intuitive reason why having poor self-image makes you more attractive to women who are in it for the long haul (4:50)
• Why you have a greater chance of finding meaning and purpose in a relationship compared to that kid in middle school who got girls whenever he wanted (15:28)
• How showing up to the bar dressed in tattered clothes, a spluttering 94’ Honda Civic, and a wingman who looks like Brad Pitt will help you find unconditional love (16:24)
• This secret technique allows you to tap into the mind of women (and get her turned on by your mere presence) (22:16)
• Why receiving a text saying “I’m not into you” is actually a surefire sign that she’s into you (23:09)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ 

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Women.

Can’t live with them, can’t live without them.

This is definitely true, and there are certain types of women you must avoid like the plague (unless you like dealing with suffering, feeling helpless, and an empty bank account.)

Before you think, “Oh yeah, I’ll just avoid the clubs and meet someone with morals,” I have to stop you right there.

There’s proof that shows there are women who are “fake, good”, and merely pretend to be moral. And there’s also proof that women who hit up clubs are the best option for a long term relationship.

So how do you avoid wasting countless years of your life speaking to toxic bimbos?

On today’s episode, I reveal how to find the exact type of woman who’s a perfect fit for a successful, long term relationship. 

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• How to only date women who’ll make you happy (and avoid draining countless years of your life speaking to toxic bimbos) (0:39)
• Why dating insufferable women establishes negative programming into your brain (3:19)
• How Andrew Tate and FreshandFit deceive you into pursuing unsuitable, immature women who are not ready for long term commitment (10:44)
• Why executing your inner nice guy with a 12 gauge shotgun will open up your mind to the reality of how women think (especially the reality of how women are with their sexuality) (13:48)
• Think you should protect your little sister from “bad boys”? Think again! Your little brother is at more risk of being taken advantage of from predatory single women (15:23)
• How to live a life of sexual abundance by not being a blatant hypocrite (18:55)
• 3 key traits every woman must have if you want to seriously consider a long term relationship (if your pursuing a woman, and she doesn’t have these 3 key traits, move on) (21:56)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ 

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

There are two big myths most people believe—my former self included—about therapy which sabotage their results. Especially over the long-term. 

Even if you have initial success on your therapeutic journey, believing in one of these myths can undermine your progress. The result? You're back to square one, and believe therapy just can’t work for you.

But it’s the myths, not the therapeutic process itself, responsible for you snapping back into your old patterns. 

That’s why in this episode, I’m peeling back the curtains and revealing more about my personal therapeutic journey, so you can duplicate my success. Plus, I reveal three examples of how my early IFS therapy process (as a client) fills me with joy to this day. 

It won’t be easy, especially at first. But nothing worthwhile ever is. 

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• Why therapy feels impossible for you (and how to make it feel effortless) (5:02) 
• The cold, hard truth about why people revert to their old patterns after leaving therapy (and the single best way to prevent this) (7:24) 
• Why picking a therapist who has a therapist themselves enhances your success with therapy (8:25) 
• The “Here and Now” secret for unlocking the best results from therapy (10:04) 
• How having a heated argument with your wife can actually improve your experience with the therapeutic process (11:54) 
• Why resisting your extreme emotions unleashes pain throughout your body (and how to feel extreme emotions without pain) (16:46)
• How focusing too much on the model of therapy can sabotage your results (and how to succeed with any model you use) (24:28) 
• The sneaky way you can neglect your parts even after unburdening them (35:08) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ 

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Sadness is something most guys struggle with. But it’s the one emotion they repress the most. And this repression leads to increased stress, anxiety, and depression. Not only that, the increase in cortisol associated with stress can lead to changes in heart rate, motivation and sleep. 

Worst part?

Men who repress their emotions are more likely to visit McDonalds, drink Jack Daniels on a Wednesday, and smoke a pack a day — which leads to women finding them unattractive. 

This creates a vicious cycle. 

In today’s episode, you’ll discover exactly how to deal how to overcome your sadness (even if you’ve tried everything before.) You’ll also discover why getting a girlfriend or wife won’t make you happy. 

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• If your answer is to disown, repress, or wish away your sadness, then you’ll never be able to feel happy (2:20)
• Why integrating your sadness unlocks fulfillment and satisfaction (and why you’ll be finally able to experience the love flowing from within you) (3:14)
• How embracing your sadness is the one key to opening up your natural attractiveness and start magnetizing attractive women (4:20)
• Feel like getting a girlfriend will solve all your problems? Here’s why that’s not the case (and what will provide fulfillment, satisfaction, and happiness) (4:53)
• Why feeling lonely isn’t sadness (and how the “loneliness text” that’s biologically programmed within you forces you to reconnect with your friends) (7:12)
• How to win friends and influence people (8:36)
• Under 30 and didn’t have sex in 2022? Don’t worry, at (10:21) you’ll discover how 1/3rd of people (men and women) under 30 didn’t have sex for the whole year

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Last week we covered how “pain is not an emotion.”

Ok, great. But what do you do about an emotion that feels painful?

In today’s episode, you’ll discover exactly how to deal with painful emotions (even if you’ve been to an IFS therapist before and it didn’t work.) You’ll also discover three emotions that immature people consider to be painful. 

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• How to murder the feelings of anger, fear, shame, inferiority, and anxiety by mastering these 4 emotional skills (our society and schools actively avoid teaching 95% of men these critical skills) (3:10)
• Why standard therapy is a great way to flush $5,000 of your precious cold, hard cash down the toilet if you can’t be “present with your emotions” (5:28)
• The most common pitfall affecting most intellectuals when going through the therapeutic process that sabotages their progress (6:57)
• Sick of feeling paralyzed with fear? Check out this free, gentle meditation that instantly soothes stress, anxiety, and calms your nerves (works even if you’ve tried other “traditional” meditation exercises) (11:42)
• The “float-back” secret that eliminates your fears (19:08)
• Why listening to this piece of advice from Jordan Peterson could make your son feel isolated, excluded, and left out of society (28:32)
• How “guru-worshiping” stunts your intellectual capability (and in a sneaky way, turns you into a snowflake who can’t disagree with other people's opinions) (29:55)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Pain is not an emotion. 

Bold statement, I know, but emotional pain actually comes from resisting the emotion that you consider to be painful.

In other words, it’s not the pain that’s hurting you, it’s the emotion you find painful. And only when you locate the specific emotion will you be able to achieve emotional resilience, endurance, control, regulation, and become an antifragile man.

Locating the specific emotion is obviously easier said than done.

But you’re in for a treat.

In today’s episode, you’ll discover how to make a simple shift in your thinking that makes you stronger as a result of your pain (or what you consider to be negative emotions.) You’ll also discover how to locate the specific emotion which is causing you pain. 

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• How thinking “it’s just pain” chokeholds personal growth and maturity (which leads to a vicious cycle of women not wanting to be around you) (5:57)
• You’ll be able to heal and unburden yourself only when you specify exactly which emotion you’re feeling (7:23)
• Debilitating anxiety before a date? Here’s why your “unconscious repression” forces you to become nervous and awkward before a date (11:07)
• The effortless way to “flip-the-switch” and enjoy a pump at the gym (or approach women) (13:34)
• How Elon Musk lives with inner conflict on a day-to-day basis (and explains why the myth of Genius doesn’t exist) (16:38)
• You have philosophical parts, a part that loves to sing, a part that loves to be with your kids, and sexy parts. Knowing how to balance them is key for a happy life (22:05)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum