Beyond Success

Vulnerable guys are ugly. That’s what women think at least. Millions of men around the world have been told to show off their vulnerable side. And when they do? Women judge them ruthlessly, making them get angry and frustrated. 

But it’s not because they’re vulnerable — it’s because they’re being vulnerable in the wrong way. 

Men feel like women don’t respect them for being vulnerable. So if being vulnerable isn’t the answer, then what is?

The right way is definitely not the  “redpilled” crowd or dating gurus. They are fearful of women not responding positively to their vulnerability. 

So it begs the question.

How do you get respect - while still being vulnerable?

In today’s episode, you’ll discover a “gateway” concept that’s required for deeper connection and intimacy but can sabotage your relationship and leave you lonely if you get it wrong. This episode also reveals the 2 greatest myths surrounding vulnerability. 

Listen now!

Show Highlights:

• How getting this “gateway concept” right is required for a successful relationship but if you get it wrong can sabotage your relationship (and leave you bitter and lonely) (0:39)
• Why listening to the “redpilled” crowd and dating gurus leads to a hostile and bitter relationship (1:55)
• How adopting a machiavellian approach prevents you from finding love and happiness (and why adopting this approach attracts unconditional love) (2:59)
• Understand the 2 greatest myths surrounding vulnerability and automatically attract the woman of your dreams (4:05)
• Why seeking empathy from women violates their boundaries (and leaves you miserable) (9:52)
• A “healing way” to be vulnerable that’s required for a growing and loving relationship (15:02)
• How to destroy the cycle of pain and loneliness by getting dumped (16:06)
• The counterintuitive way to destroy your hidden childhood trauma by getting dumped (16:06)
• How spending money on cars, jewelry, watches, and nice cars can actually repulse women (19:16)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Work hard, play hard. 

It’s one of the most dangerous attitudes to adopt if you want a strong, fulfilling, and sexually active relationship. Many men try to party well into their 40’s, leaving their wife and child behind. They think their problems will disappear, and they can live the lifestyle of their 20’s.

But this only causes despair, anguish, anxiety, loneliness, and depression. 

In this episode, you’ll discover an ethical way to get your girlfriend to beg to go out on date nights, dress up for you, and have lots of passionate sex. You’ll also discover the counterintuitive way your tormenting family can actually unlock a longer lasting, deeper, and stronger relationship.

Listen now!

Show highlights include: 

• How single guys rob themselves of love, respect, and a 50 year long relationship by hyperfocusing on the next thing (1:45)
• Why falling for the “one-and-done” myth repulses every woman you meet (3:42)
• How working hard and playing hard leaves you depressed, lonely, and full of anxiety (and why slowing down unlocks unconditional love) (6:10)
• An obvious coping mechanism that triggers your wife into an aggressive, nagging, and shrill person (14:53) 
• Why you’ll never have a loving relationship with a woman if you continue living a “Peter Pan Lifestyle” (17:23)
• Why conventional coaching represses your inner most wants wants and desires (and leaves you miserable) (19:56)
• How to “ethically force” your girlfriend to beg to dress up for you , go out on date nights, and have lots of passionate sex (22:41) 
• How you’ll slip into an unconscious pattern by moving back in with your parents (31:05)
• The counterintuitive way your tormenting family can actually unlock a longer lasting, deeper, and stronger relationship (34:24)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Can you remember the last argument you had with your partner or a past partner? Most couples can’t remember the specifics of why they fought. Instead, they only remember the emotional baggage from it. 

Here’s why I bring it up:

A listener recently wrote in and asked me to dissect two different types of fights: one with a couple who haven’t gone through the therapeutic process, and one who has. 

In this episode, you’ll discover how therapized couples argue, so you can argue in a healthy way that makes your relationship stronger instead of tearing it apart. 

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• The deadly myth single guys believe which sabotages their chances of having a success, long-term relationship (6:23) 
• Why getting rid of triggering situations in your relationship prevents your love from growing (8:31) 
• How characteristics which attracted you to your partner can quickly morph into potentially relationship-ending triggers (and how to avoid this) (14:00) 
• The “exile your partner’s parts” trap which causes relationships to end prematurely (19:16) 
• Why seeking a couple’s therapist before an individual therapist could cause you to break up (21:08) 
• How to argue like a therapized couple and prevent fights from devolving into breaking up (28:03) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Self-help seems like a viable way to get rid of your neediness or insecurities. But it actually heightens these feelings — and makes you miserable. 

Why?

Because most self-help gurus, courses, and books promote toxic growth. Fetishizing growth is a recipe for depression, anxiety, and shame. 

That’s the bad news. 

The good news?

You don’t need “growth” to be happy. In this episode, you’ll discover how self-help leads to toxic growth. And 3 simple ways avoid the “Toxic Growth Trap” many men fall into. 

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• How personal development leads to toxic growth (and how to experience happiness, fulfillment, and love now) (0:25) 
• The insidious way growth makes you needy, unattractive, and miserable (even if it seems like its improving your life) (0:59) 
• Why buying into the “self-help lie” amplifies your neediness and insecrutites instead of minimizing them (3:00) 
• The “Toxic Growth Trap” which fills you with anxiety, depression, and shame (and 3 ways to avoid this trap) (4:320 
• How to create happiness out of thin air today (without hiring a life coach, going through personal development courses, or finding a girlfriend) (9:19) 
• The “Flow” secret for unlocking a state of human existence more pleasurable than having sex (13:52) 
• The weird way accepting more challenges unleashes joy through your veins (14:02) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

As many as 90% of loving relationships transform into cold indifference. This is true even in intimate, long-term relationships. 

In fact, the more intimate your relationship becomes, the more likely you are to sabotage it. 

Why?

Because intimacy triggers your buried inner child parts—and they wreak havoc when they surface. 

But don’t worry. In this episode, you’ll discover the 3 requirements for a successful long-term relationship. 

Want to be one of the lucky 10% whose relationship grows each day, year, and decade? Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• Why only 10% of people can succeed in a long-term, modern relationship (and how to join the 10%) (3:54)
• How to increase the hot, sexy passion in your relationship over time instead of watching it fade (8:26)
• The counterintuitive way intimacy in your relationships triggers your exiled neediness buried deep in your psyche (15:27)
• How heated arguments with your significant other are a good sign for your relationship (16:23)
• Why most loving marriages transform into cold friendships (and how to prevent this) (17:47)
• The insidious “Tor-Mentor” trap long-term relationships fall into which can poison them from the inside out (18:56)
• The weird way to ensure the success of a long-term relationship by playing with toddlers (34:22) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Finding a healthy, intimate relationship isn’t as easy as downloading a dating app or watching pick-up artists on YouTube. In fact, these routes can lead you down a dark path which amplifies your neediness. 

But you know what? 

Finding a healthy, intimate relationship isn’t as difficult as you’re making it either. There are simple steps you can follow which help you magnetize love, happiness, and fulfillment into your relationships. 

In this episode, you’ll discover 4 simple steps that will help you naturally find a loving relationship. 

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• Why becoming more masculine and successful doesn’t mean you’ll attract a loving relationship (1:26) 
• How your desire to become more masculine backfires and feeds your neediness (2:43) 
• The 10 universal human needs you must meet or you’ll sabotage ant relationship you get into (7:42) 
• How to find women with similar interests in a natural and organic way (even if you’re shy and awkward) (9:23) 
• The cold, hard truth about why red pill guys get cheated on (and how to avoid making this mistake) (20:48) 
• Why long-term healthy relationships trigger your burdened, exiled parts which can ruin it (30:56) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Most men who are unsatisfied with their dating lives turn to online dating gurus to fix them. But this is a fatal mistake. 

Why? 

Because the advice peddled by online dating gurus actually fill you with insecurities and anxiety. In other words, it makes you needier and less able to find true love. 

And you know what? 

The vast majority of online dating gurus don’t even have good relationships with the women in their lives (even if they’re married). 

In this episode, I’m exposing the truth about online dating gurus, so you don’t fall for their lies. 

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• The counterintuitive way online dating gurus heighten your insecurities and anxiety (without you even realizing it) (1:05) 
• How following advice from pickup artists gives you a robotic personality (even if it helps you pick up women) (5:44) 
• Why approaching women like they’re numbers in a video game repels true love (11:35) 
• The insidious “Reality TV” effect used by dating gurus that ruins your chances of finding a loving relationship (29:57) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Most dating advice for men is not only incorrect, but it’s downright lethal to your happiness, fulfillment, and dating life. 

Why? 

Because other insecure men prey on your insecurities. And their “advice” actually makes you needier — which repulses women even further. 

Here’s the truth: 

You don’t need to be “masculine,” a pickup artist, or a social butterfly to attract a loving relationship. And you don’t even need a relationship in order to be happy. 

In this episode, you’ll discover the most effective solution for finding unconditional love. 

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• The weird way being “good with women” actually makes it harder to find a loving relationship (0:23) 
• How red pill culture brainwashes you into repulsing women away (5:42)
• Why simply having fun is the single best way to attract more women (and how to have fun if you’re socially awkward) (9:28)
• The insidious “Fetishizing Masculinity” trap men fall into which wrecks their relationships (12:29)
• How to save a marriage from the brink of divorce by becoming selfish (18:35) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Since females were a young age, they’ve become masters at sniffing out neediness. Most men don’t discover this fact about life until they’ve sabotaged their dating life.

But here’s the good news:

There’s a proven system for overcoming your neediness. It won’t happen overnight, but it will free you from the sadistic grip neediness has over you. 

In this episode, you’ll discover the 7 steps to obliterate your neediness for good. 

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• How your fear about relationships dupes you into making relationship-ending mistakes (even if you don’t realize it) (2:40) 
• The counterintuitive reason becoming wealthy skyrockets your neediness (3:04) 
• Why women can see through your inauthentic attempts to get to know their personality like Swiss cheese (4:41) 
• The 9 fundamental human needs that help you exterminate your neediness (9:03) 
• Why having an agenda of picking up women when you go out subconsciously repels them from you (13:27) 
• The 7 experiential steps to meet your own needs and obliterate your neediness (20:30) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Most guys don’t know what true love is. This warps their ideas about love and morphs them into a needy, unattractive version of themselves.

That’s the bad news. 

The good news?  

Thor: Love and Thunder, despite its silliness, teaches you about true love — and helps you become the most attractive version of yourself. 

In this episode, you’ll discover 3 ways watching Thor: Love and Thunder will help you attract more women. 

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• Why labeling your enemies as “evil” makes it harder to attract women (8:27)
• How Thor’s understanding stopped Gorr’s revenge tour in its tracks (and how to give yourself Thor’s level of love) (11:23)
• The insidious way demonizing your parts imprisons you in anxiety, depression, and self-disgust (and how to break free) (14:08)
• The weird way having a comfortable life stunts your emotional maturity which can sabotage even the healthiest relationships (17:35) 

Why resisting sadness transforms you into a misery-manufacturing machine (and how to accept sadness — even after something as heartbreaking as a divorce) (22:25) 

How learning love from romantic relationships distorts your meaning of love and wrecks your future relationships (30:23) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum