Beyond Success

Every guy knows that neediness is the #1 most unattractive quality to women. But why then are so many guys still needy? 

Well, it’s hard for men to detect their own neediness. Women have evolved to detect neediness. And they’re experts at detecting it from your body language, your text messages, and even the tone of your voice. 

In this episode, you’ll discover the “hidden” neediness tells you’re using without even realizing it. 

Listen now and obliterate your neediness for good! 

Show Highlights Include:

• Why women can detect your neediness before speaking one word to them (5:46) 
• How the sound of your voice alone can either attract a horde of women or repulse them (7:34) 
• Why your body language and tone of voice make up 93% of your attractiveness to women (11:33) 
• How to land more dates with beautiful women by learning to read people better (14:30) 
• 3 “secret” ways women detect your neediness (without you even realizing you’re being needy) (16:42) 
• The weird way staying at your high-paying and high-static job demonstrates your neediness (18:59) 
• The insidious “Do More Trap” needy guys fall into at the bar which nukes their chances of attracting women (20:57) 
• How “red pill” dating tips actually make you needier (even if you think they make you more attractive) (24:13) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Many men transform themselves to become more attractive to women: They excel in their careers, drive flashy cars, dress well, and get fit. Yet they stay lonely and only attract women for short-term flings or one-night stands.

If you’re struggling to build successful, lasting relationships, you don’t need to upgrade your lifestyle, wardrobe, or career, though those can help.

What you need the most is to become less needy.

Once you stop being needy, 99% of your dating problems evaporate and pave the way for a long-term relationship with a loving woman.

In this episode, you’ll find out exactly how to remove neediness from your life and create a lasting relationship.

Ready to attack your relationship struggles at the root? Listen now!

Show highlights include:

• Why merely dressing better, getting fit, or growing your wealth won’t attract women if you’re still needy. (1:55)
• How pickup tactics and seduction strategies are based on neediness (and will never create loving relationships) (4:08)
• The evolutionary reason neediness is more unattractive than poverty, ugliness, and low status combined. (6:52)
• The “stone age” reason you only attract gold diggers and shallow women (12:55)
• Why pickup artists try to “bypass” neediness by pretending to be attractive (and how to eradicate neediness for good) (18:08)
• How you signal your neediness to attractive women without saying a word (21:18)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Most men believe they’ll finally be worthy of love if they achieve more. It’s easy to believe you’ll find love once you get that promotion, once you drive that fancy car, or once you’re only wearing luxury brands. 

But if that were true, why are there so many rich, high-achieving people with failed relationships, while there are “normal” people with regular cars but happy, loving relationships? Here’s the truth: No amount of achievement “unlocks” self-worth and love.

Those things only happen when you can take care of your own needs. In this episode, you’ll find out exactly how to do that. And once you’re emotionally self-sufficient, you’ll attract more loving women than you can imagine. 

Want to take care of your own needs and feel deserving of love, no matter which car you drive? Listen now!

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• Why being richer, higher status or better looking doesn’t make you more worthy of love (2:25)
• The self-development lie that makes you dislike yourself and keeps you unhappy (and the simple way to fix it) (7:01)
• How a hidden fear of failure makes you chase achievement and keeps you away from love and connection (14:31)
• Feel like you’re burnt out? How to respond to build a healthier emotional life (22:02)
• The “Conan the Barbarian” analogy that makes you work endless hours in pursuit of love. (27:29)
• How leaving a lucrative tech job for a low-paying culinary career can make you more confident and attract more loving women. (31:28)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

We treat our exiled parts of our psyche like an untrained puppy: 

When we’re young, we love them and play with them—until they pee on the couch, chew our mom’s shoes, or tear up the furniture. Then we shame, scold, and neglect them. 

But you can never be complete without accepting these exiled parts of yourself. Not to mention, accepting them unlocks more happiness, fulfillment, and love than anything else you could try. 

In this episode, you’ll discover how to know, understand, and heal parts of yourself you disowned in the past. 

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• How to feel love, worthiness, and happiness every single day (without running the endless treadmill of self-improvement) (10:42) 
• The insidious way self-improvement creates a background level of anxiety you always feel (12:20) 
• The “Untrained Puppy” secret that explains why you shame your most vulnerable parts (and how accepting them makes you as happy as a loved puppy) (14:30) 
• How your parents accidentally brainwashed you into loathing parts of yourself (even if they did so out of love) (14:49) 
• Why making more money won’t fulfill you like you think and actually leads to a wicked form of depression (19:50) 
• How self-therapy sabotages your confidence and happiness (especially if you think you’ll be successful with it) (26:36)
• Why hanging out with toddlers makes you more attractive to women than years of self-improvement work (35:29) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Most guys who want to find unconditional love fall into the trap of self-help:

They think the only way they can earn unconditional love is by becoming the best version of themselves. 

But self-improvement is actually based on insecurities. And the longer a relationship based on insecurities continues, the more likely it'll implode. 

In this episode, you’ll discover why self-help is a big, fat lie that only leads to burnout. Not love. 

Listen now and I’ll reveal the true secret for unlocking unconditional love. 

Show Highlights Include:

• Why becoming more attractive won’t help you land more dates (1:09) 
• How self-help gurus dupe you into developing a ruthless sense of burnout (3:47) 
• The weird way needing to be more attractive reveals your deep-rooted insecurities (and how to overcome them) (13:33) 
• The sneaky way becoming more attractive will sabotage your relationship (15:56) 
• How your drive to achieve cripples any long-term relationship you get into (23:32) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Men these days think masculinity means one-upmanship and being the “alpha” of the group. Or worse - they think masculinity is inherently toxic. 

Both these views are flawed and lead to crippled self-worth. 

If you want to become a self-fulfilled man, it helps to reflect and observe others. Surprisingly, observing Top Gun teaches you valuable lessons on masculinity - if you view it through an educated lens. 

In this episode, you’ll discover how watching Top Gun lets you accept yourself and reach your full, confident potential. 

Show Highlights Include:

• How Tom Cruise teaches you how to pick up quality women (without pretending to be a high-energy alpha) (3:29)
• The “triangular gaze” technique that ramps up sexual tension between you and the object of your desire (8:28)
• The “weaponized vulnerability” method that disarms defensive women (11:46)
• A popular pick-up artist method that kills your chances of landing “the one” (even if every PUA tells you to do it) (13:14)
• How to become more attractive to the opposite sex by avoiding the “do more trap” (19:48)
• The “little sibling” strategy that lets you handle aggressive men with maturity (21:08)
• How to grow as a man without getting burned out by relentless “self improvement” (40:15) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at: https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Bad boys are nothing special in the looks department, they won't take care of her, and they’re hardly charming. 

They get girls because they don’t give a damn. 

In this episode, you’ll discover why non-neediness is the secret to attracting the woman of your dreams. Instead of obsessing over “alpha”, you’ll actually become one. 

Listen now!

Show Highlights Include:

• Why asking about your attractiveness turns you into woman-repellant and messes up your mental health (2:28) 
• The “bad boy” principle that lets you attract women without turning into a jerk (8:26) 
• Become more irresistible to women than a Krispy Kreme donut, with the help of a 50,000 year old psychological hack (13:29) 
• The “neediness signals” that subconsciously repel women (21:33) 
• How to satisfy your need for connection by going out alone (32:52) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Guys who struggle with women often fall into the seductive (and lethal) “Alpha Myth” trap. 

They believe the only solution to their dating problems is becoming more of an alpha. But this isn’t true. It either leads you down a path of toxic self-improvement or hating your reflection in every mirror you see.

And the worst part? 

While becoming more alpha might work for short-term flings, it sabotages your long-term relationships, happiness, and mental health. 

What guys should focus on instead—which unlocks love, joy, fulfillment, meaning, and even makes you more attractive—is the “One Thing” I reveal in this episode. 

If your dating life makes you depressed, I reveal the antidote to your struggles in this episode. 

Listen now and discover how to “hypnotize” attractive women to fall for you. (But only if you use this newfound power in an ethical way!)   

Show Highlights Include:

• The “Higher Self” hack for oozing calm confidence when talking to attractive women (and how to harness your higher self at will) (0:55) 
• The one and only way to unlock true love, joy, meaning, and fulfillment (2:31) 
• How missing this one key ingredient forces your subconscious to sabotage even a perfect relationship (and how to prevent this before it crushes your heart) (3:32) 
• The insidious “Alpha Myth” that might help you attract a date—but at the expense of a long and prosperous marriage (4:28) 
• Why “alpha males” secretly turn you into a beta (or how to become more alpha by only studying women) (12:34) 
• 4 alpha characteristics that boost your sexual attractiveness (even if you’re a beta) (15:17) 
• Why making millions of dollars can only lead to being cuckolded if you don’t harness this one “power” (15:37) 
• The weird way spending too much time getting ripped in the gym repulses women (even if they hit on you) (26:18) 
• How the 4 alpha characteristics can sabotage your dating and sex life (even if they make you sexier than Brad Pitt) (28:38)  
• Why a weak, poorr, and ugly nerd can land more dates with beautiful women than a jacked, loaded, and attractive alpha male (37:06) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Dr. Strange 2 is deeper than an action-packed superhero movie. 

In fact, the main theme in the movie deals with grief. And there are several psychological lessons embedded in the movie which will help you attract and keep love. 

In this episode, you’ll discover the 3 most important ways watching Dr. Strange 2 will improve your love life, confidence, and self-esteem.

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• Why doing the exact opposite if Dr. Strange will magically reduce your anxiety with women (9:16) 
• How being naughty helps you find lasting love (even if it makes you feel uncomfortable) (10:06) 
• The subtle “Fear is Extra” mindset tweak for obliterating any worries lurking in your head (13:22) 
• Why following rules and authority figures makes you anti-seductive and repels women (15:36) 
• The real reason Wanda battled so much suffering (and how to prevent this when grief strikes in your life) (17:08) 
• 3 insidious ways men treat women like NPCs and sabotage an otherwise healthy relationship (without even realizing it) (20:36) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Most ultra successful people suck at relationships. Look no further than Will Smith or Johnny Depp. Despite their riches, their relationships are in shambles. 

Why? 

Because of a trap many achievers fall into. Achievers dedicate decades of their lives sacrificing their weekends, relationships, and happiness for success. 

And you know what? 

Once they achieve massive success, they realize that’s not what their soul was searching for. 

In this episode, you’ll discover how to have success without sacrificing everything else which brings you joy and love. 

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include:

• The “Rainbow Trap” achievers fall into which gives you financial success at the cost of sabotaging your relationships (2:54) 
• How getting good grades in school can repel women instead of attract them (4:10) 
• The insidious way only relying on your romantic partner for love, intimacy, and connection leads to soul-crushing breakups (6:20) 
• How to experience immense love and joy from the mundane things in your life (even if you don’t have career or dating success) (10:42) 
• Why Will Smith and Johnny Depp are in traumatic relationships despite their success (and how to prevent attracting deranged women in your life) (17:26) 
• How to overwhelm yourself with happiness by acting like a baby (24:38) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum