Beyond Success

Dr. Strange gives you a masterclass in human psychology. Stephen Strange was the classic narcissist who tied his entire identity to his career. 

So when he lost his surgical hands, he was ready to give up on life. 

But instead of sulking, he redeemed his narcissistic characteristics by becoming selfless. 

In this episode, we’ll dissect Stephen Strange from the first Dr. Strange movie, so you don’t make the same mistakes he did. 

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include:

• Why basing your self-worth on everything you achieve like Dr. Strange drives everyone you care about out of your life (9:00) 
• The fatal psychological flaw in all superhero movies which can cripple your relationships if you take it literally (9:49)
• The insidious way “nice guys” are doomed in relationships (even as they become more confident with women) (19:47) 
• Why striving for success at all costs makes you miserable (even if you think it fulfills you) (30:55)  

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Everyone has an inner critic who beats up on your mental health. And the worse your trauma is, the harsher your critic becomes. 

But everyone approaches this problem backwards: 

They think criticizing their inner critic will scare it away. But this only makes your inner critic double down and create more agony for you. 

In this episode, you’ll discover why accepting your inner critic will actually lift its control over your mental health. 

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• Why celebrating your inner rebel when it pops into your psyche skyrockets your happiness (1:56) 
• 3 simple ways to detect your inner critic before it sabotages your mental health (3:42) 
• Why criticizing yourself into the best version of yourself only creates more mental anguish and anxiety (4:26) 
• How acting like a toddler fast tracks your healing process (4:54) 
• The insidious “Legacy Burdens” your parents passed down to you and you’ll pass onto your children if you don’t heal from your trauma in time (6:18) 
• The simple “No Wonder” trick for accepting your inner critic and jumpstarting the healing process (7:07) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

There are two paths to transformation: The Fixing Method and The Acceptance Method. 

The former is what you’ll get from any self-help book or life coaching. And while it might work for a short burst of time, it creates even more mental chaos down the road. 

The latter is the approach IFS therapy uses. And it creates lasting change through radical self-acceptance (even aspects of your personality that humiliate you). 

In this episode, you’ll discover how radical self-acceptance leads to more success with women, a happier life, and a more fulfilling career. 

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• The 3-step process for making your inner critic shut up (5:05) 
• The “Allowing Approach” to self-improvement (without secreting despising aspects of your personality) (6:58) 
• The counterintuitive way listening to your inner critic helps it go away faster (7:12) 
• How self-help books actually slows down your journey to self-improvement (7:42) 
• The weird way saying “hello” to yourself helps you heal from your traumatic past (13:11) 
• Why self-therapy sabotages the benefits of real therapy before you even begin (20:09) 
• How having more willpower and discipline backfires and slows your healing process to a grinding halt (27:04) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

The self-help industry is a multi-billion dollar industry which feeds off your insecurities like a poisonous leech.

And while they promise to boost your confidence, attractiveness, and happiness, it actually does the exact opposite. Especially over the long term.

The self-help industry lures you into a trap which leads to burnout, misery, and even self-contempt.

In this episode, you’ll discover why self-help is toxic and how to improve your life without relying on shady self-help tactics.

Listen now and you’ll learn to accept yourself by the end of the episode.

Show Highlights Include:

• The insidious “Toxic Trap” you learn from self-help and life coaches which obliterates your happiness and confidence (1:03)
• The “Radical Self-Acceptance” secret for being content no matter what curveballs life throws you (9:47)
• How self-help weaponizes your biggest insecurities and sabotages your long-term fulfillment (14:31)
• Why trying to exile your shyness or social awkwardness actually steals your confidence instead of building it (16:58)
• The counterintuitive way attending Tony Robbins events can cripple your self-esteem (22:58)
• Why playing video games and watching porn reveal a deep psychological part of you that’s unsatisfied (37:20)
• How studying Loki can instantly make you satisfied with your life right now (even if you haven’t accomplished everything you want yet) (42:28)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at: https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Many guys ask me if it’s possible to be vulnerable and sexually attractive women. 

And while this answer may shock you: Yes you can. In fact, you can become more attractive by becoming vulnerable. 

But here’s the problem: 

Most guys confuse vulnerability with the notorious “Attraction Killer.” This “Attraction Killer” poisons every single attractive quality you have and makes love impossible as long as it haunts you. 

In this episode, you’ll discover what this “Attraction Killer” is and how to decapitate it from your psyche. 

Listen now and you’ll become more attractive by the end of the episode. 

Show Highlights Include:

• The single most important factor for determining if women find you attractive (0:29) 
• The insidious “N-word” which pollutes your attractive qualities and scares women away faster than Freddy Krueger (6:17) 
• Why relying on your partner for your happiness will sabotage every relationship you ever have (10:39) 
• How to become more sexually attractive to women by picking your nose (12:25) 
• The cold, hard truth about why ugly, broke, and stupid losers get more ladies than you (13:46) 
• The common “turn your partner into your therapist” trap nice guys fall into which makes their girlfriend cheat on them (18:00) 
• How to become happier and more attractive by embracing sadness (21:05) 
• How to bounce back from your girlfriend cheating on you in public and becoming suicidal (even if your situation isn’t as dire) (23:31) 

For more on the Emotional Mastery program, go here: https://www.emotionalmasteryapp.com/ 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Matt Reeves’s new movie, The Batman, is a case study in psychology. 

Both Batman and Riddler have deep psychological trauma. They both handle it in immature ways. And it reminds me of almost all guys who are trying to do better with women. 

Batman, Riddler, and many single guys who can’t get women create a false self, disown their shadow parts, and exile their inner child out of fear. But they don’t realize this cripples the healing process. 

In this episode, you’ll discover what Batman and Riddler should’ve done instead to heal their traumatic lives. And how you can heal yourself from any wounds you picked up. 

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• Why the “False Self” depicted by both Batman and Riddler sabotages your happiness (even if you think it’s helping) (8:31) 
• The insidious way men trying to get better with women become like the Riddler and ruin their chances of succeeding in a long-term relationship (10:56) 
• The dangerous “Superhero Psychology” trap that fools you into believing you’re better with the ladies while making long-term love impossible (11:11) 
• Why using your anger and rage to do good in the world like Batman actually makes you feel worse (18:53) 
• Mr. Roger’s “anti-superhero” method for magnetizing love to you like honey does bees (21:18) 
• Why Spiderman and Batman are not as psychologically strong as Iron Man (and how to be the “Iron Man” in your life) (22:56) 
• Batman’s “Shadows Secret” for confronting your shadowed parts and unlocking peace and harmony in your psyche (32:57) 
• How suppressing your shadow parts causes chaos like Riddler’s armed goons in your personal life (34:39) 
• Why big muscles won’t help you find a girlfriend (and what to build instead) (40:52) 

For more on the Emotional Mastery program, go here: https://www.emotionalmasteryapp.com/

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Most men think their emotions are a sign of weakness. Then they wonder why attracting love seems impossible. 

Here’s the truth about attraction: 

It’s an emotion, just like happiness and sadness. And when you repress your emotions, you supress your attractiveness to the opposite sex. Yes, even the “bad” emotions. 

But don’t worry. 

In this episode, I share 3 powerful stories about men who repressed their emotions and sabotaged their love lives. And how they took back control of their emotions and now have flourishing love lives. 

Listen now and master your emotions so you can find true love. 

Show Highlights Include:

• Why embracing sadness and even crying boosts your attractiveness to women (even if you think it’ll scare them away) (5:19) 
• How to be vulnerable with women (without coming across like a needy, desperate, and hopeless romantic) (7:06) 
• Why fake bravado “nukes” your chances with the ladies and makes having a long-term relationship impossible (7:41) 
• The insidious “Abundance Trap” men fall into after diving down the self-help rabbit hole which can ruin even the healthiest long-term relationships (10:07) 
• How to feel “okay” after a heart-crushing breakup (even if you still love them) (11:12) 
• Why dating more women after a tough breakup only prolongs your suffering and heartbreak (11:15) 
• The bizarre “heart-to-heart with a stripper” technique which heals your breakup wounds (12:24) 
• How “Emotional Mastery” transforms you from a shy and anxious man afraid of your own shadow into someone who can strike up a conversation with a celebrity at a bar and get her number (18:11) 
• The wicked way not being the breadwinner in your family leads to divorce (and how to prevent divorce when your wife makes more money than you) (21:55) 

For more on the Emotional Mastery program, go here: https://www.emotionalmasteryapp.com/ 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Most men struggle with their emotions. They either suppress them and pretend they don’t exist. Or they let their emotions overwhelm them and turn them into a helpless victim. 

Both of these strategies backfire. They ruin your success with women. Sabotage your happiness. And even kill your gym gains. 

That’s the bad news. 

The good news? 

Controlling your emotions is easier than you think. In this episode, you’ll discover 3 proven strategies for taking control of your emotions. And then using your emotions to give you everything you want in life. 

Listen to the episode now and master your emotions. 

Show Highlights Include:

• The empirically proven way to increase the intensity and frequency of positive emotions (and decrease the intensity and frequency of negative emotions) (2:48) 
• The counterintuitive way reaching your big financial or fitness goals can actually make you more miserable (4:06) 
• How to “tap into” your emotions at will so you can make more money, attract more loving relationships, and even become sexier (6:18) 
• The weird, almost unbelievable way to attract an intimate, long-term relationship by meditating (even if you have no idea how to do it) (11:10) 
• The insidious way toxic repression of your emotions make lengthy relationships impossible (and how being present reverses this) (13:46) 
• Why repressing your emotions is like slapping band-aids on a wound while it rots underneath and poisons your whole body (18:53) 
• How to become physically, mentally, and emotionally stronger by embracing sadness and vulnerability (22:30) 
• The powerful “Titration Technique” for taking complete control over your emotions like you can for hot and cold water faucets (24:46) 
• 3 “emotional skill workouts” you can practice right now to master your emotions (26:48) 
• How your thoughts morph life-threatening fears into blissful moments of joy (and how applying this fact gives you control over your emotions) (29:11)  
• Why repressing your emotions kills your gym gains (34:21) 

For more on the Emotional Mastery program, go here: https://www.emotionalmasteryapp.com/

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Men fall into two categories when it comes to emotions: 

They either think it’s a sign of weakness. Or believe emotions are everything. 

In both cases, this causes your emotions to control you, instead of the other way around. You either repress your emotions and let them haunt your psyche. Or you’re so overwhelmed by them that you can’t do anything. 

The answer to both of these problems is to master your emotions. Emotions are a skill, like riding a bike or shooting a basketball. When you get better at emotions, you improve in relationships, attract love, and become more fulfilled in life. 

In this episode, you’ll discover how to better control your emotions before they ruin your life. 

Listen now and play life on “easy mode.” 

Show Highlights Include:

• The sneaky way your discipline devours your power and enjoyment of life (even if you think it helps) (1:08) 
• Why repressing your emotions is the culprit behind your chronic exhaustion (1:47) 
• How success blinds you of your deep-seeded emotional baggage which subtly cripples your happiness (3:50) 
• The “Changing Goalposts” trap achievers fall into which keeps happiness forever out of reach (6:03) 
• The “emotions mean weakness infection” which poisons your joy from the inside out (14:01) 
• How toxic shame can make you happier, healthier, and sexier (26:36) 
• Why treating your emotions like your biceps helps you attract unconditional love and joy (33:38) 
• The weird way repressed masculinity disguises itself as toxic masculinity and imprisons pleasure (35:14) 

To learn more about the Emotional Mastery program, go here: https://www.emotionalmasteryapp.com/

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Most self-help and personal development books, courses, and coaches are toxic. They teach that you need to become your “best self,” otherwise you’re unworthy of love. 

That’s not true. And it’s also dangerous. 

Why? 

When you build a relationship based on this idea of your best self, you eventually suffocate all love in that relationship. This is why many guys who follow this advice get cheated on when they don’t live up to their mythical best self. 

But you don’t need to become your best self to attract unconditional love. In fact, this concept of your “best self” gets in the way of true self-worth and unconditional love. In this episode, I reveal why this is so and what you can do about that to create real love in your life. 

Listen now and attract a relationship based on love. 

Show Highlights Include:

• How to unlock joy, love, and fulfillment by being you (even if you’re not the best-looking or most confident person you know) (2:04)  
• The insidious way self-help and personal development books, courses, and advice creates toxic shame (3:38) 
• Why “rah-rah” life and dating coaches actually lower your self-esteem and confidence (11:24) 
• How to use your crippling insecurities to become more attractive to women (13:38) 
• The sneaky way your best self rips out and expunges love in your relationship (17:06) 
• How building a happy and healthy relationship makes you live longer (18:09) 
• The “Radical Self Acceptance” secret for attracting a loving relationship (even if you’re not your best self) (26:54) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum