Beyond Success

Everyone has a shadow side. These are emotions and personality traits buried deep in your subconscious as a coping mechanism for your pain. 

While these “shadow parts” help you avoid traumatic experiences and memories, they also make you self-sabotage your relationships, happiness, and general sense of fulfilment. 

Why? 

Because they fill you with inner conflict, no different than Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. And they wreak havoc when they bubble up to the surface of your consciousness. 

In this episode, you’ll discover what your shadow self is, how it wrecks your joy, and the most common types of “shadow parts” men experience. 

Listen to the episode now so you can finally free yourself from your shadow self and become happier.

Show Highlights Include:

• How to stop sabotaging yourself for good (without relying on willpower or discipline) (0:46) 
• The insidious “Shadow Self” hidden deep in your subconscious that wrecks your life (and how to use it to attract loving relationships) (4:22) 
• The psychological reason why you get nervous before going on dates (7:12) 
• How your subconscious coping mechanisms “force” you to undermine your relationships (7:34) 
• The 3-part split in your personality that wreaks havoc on your mental health (17:23) 
• The brutal truth about why happiness always seems out of reach (and how to stop this cycle and experience long-lasting joy) (16:51) 
• How your “shadow parts” can creep into a healthy long-term relationship and rip it to shreds (20:08) 
• The 5 most common “shadow part” culprits and how to spot them before self-sabotaging (25:07) 
• Why being afraid of your own anger makes you worse with women (and more prone to rage-induced outbursts) (30:00) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Many people hate the idea of therapy. They think it’s a way to rattle off about your day without healing your traumas. Or worse yet, they think therapists will heighten their mental anguish. 

Most therapists are honest, helpful people. But there are many mistakes you can make when selecting a therapist that ruins your chances of healing. 

In this episode, I reveal the 5 key traits you need to look for in a therapist so you can build a strong relationship with them and heal your traumas. 

Listen to this episode now before you waste a bunch of money on a therapist who can’t help you with your unique circumstances. 

Show Highlights Include:

• How attacking your fears head on lets you experience a deep sense of joy and love (6:08) 
• Here’s how to get affordable therapeutic treatment if you can’t afford $300 an hour for a therapist (8:29) 
• The weird way venting about your feelings makes you wealthier (9:15) 
• Why “wasting” money on a 1-on-1 coach 10x’s your results compared to spending the same time in a group (10:14) 
• How treating yourself like your dog makes it easier to invest in your mental health (11:53) 
• Why psychiatrists won’t help you solve your traumas (and what kind of expert to go to instead) (12:58) 
• How picking a therapist with the same cultural upbringing as you helps you get better results (21:54) 
• Why many online relationship coaches sabotage your ability to find unconditional love (even if they’re not pickup artists) (27:11) 
• The “Experiential Therapy” method that blows talking to a therapist out of the water (31:23) 
• 4 simple steps to find a high-quality therapist by the end of the day (35:32) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

If you’re an entrepreneur, you might feel like it’s impossible to find love. 

Why does it feel like this? 

Because there’s a grain of truth in it. Entrepreneurs care about the value they bring to the world and the legacy they leave behind. 

Many of them try so hard to achieve status because that’s what they think will attract unconditional love. But this only repulses love away. Instead, you attract “value-love,” which is the culprit behind why entrepreneurs go through multiple divorces. 

That’s the bad news. 

The good news? 

You can be an entrepreneur and attract real love. But you need to unlearn many of the habits responsible for your success. 

In this episode, you’ll discover how to get rid of these toxic habits that keep love from coming into your life. Listen to the episode now.

Show Highlights Include:

• The insidious way working harder in your business only drives love further from your grasp (6:59) 
• How becoming more valuable as a man sabotages your love life (8:26)
• The ancient “end of life” exercise that helps you understand your purpose in life (12:04) 
• Why your legacy will be forgotten — and how this cold, hard fact helps you find unconditional love (24:28) 
• The “Worker Bee” trap many entrepreneurs fall into that erodes all pleasure in your life (26:39)  

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

I’ve worked with many high-level entrepreneurial clients and they all have one thing in common: 

Love eludes them. 

Deep down, these entrepreneurs create a wildly successful business because they think that’s their ticket to unconditional love. Only to discover after they’ve “made it” that love doesn’t care about the value they brought to the world. 

Nothing is more heartbreaking than having millions in the bank, but nobody to share it with. 

Whether you’re a high-level entrepreneur now or have that “entrepreneurial itch,” this episode can help you attract a loving partner. 

Listen to the episode now to unlock unconditional love in your life before it’s too late. 

Show Highlights Include:

• The “Comfort Zone” reason why it’s harder for entrepreneurs to find a loving relationship than anyone else (4:56) 
• The cold, hard truth about why billionaire business owners end up lonely (7:24) 
• Why most entrepreneurs are fear-driven and how this “taints” your dating life (11:09) 
• The “Entrepreneurial Curse” that haunts business owners and cripples their chances of finding unconditional love (12:57) 
• How entrepreneurs fall into the “value trap” that makes love elude them (16:58) 
• 4 childhood questions to ask yourself that explains your current love life in crystal clear detail (so you can fix it) (29:39) 
• How rebelling in your childhood tricks you into cheating on your partner when you get too intimate (and how to prevent this weird psychological “quirk” from destroying your relationship)  (39:09) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Most guys overcomplicate texting. They devour YouTube videos, buy texting scripts they can copy and paste to women, and even hire an agency to run their Tinder profile. 

But this backfires every single time and causes you to miss out on a long-term relationship. 

Why?

Because it stems from a lack of confidence and self-worth, which women see right through. On the off chance that you find a loving partner, when she finds out your relationship is based on a lie, she’ll never want to talk to you again. 

But don’t worry. There’s a secret to effortless texting in dating and relationships that builds attraction and your confidence. 

In this episode, you’ll discover this secret. And I’ll reveal the 3 steps that make texting as effortless as breathing. Listen to the episode now before you hit “send.” 

Show Highlights Include:

• The weird way establishing your moral values makes women chase after you more than sports cars, big muscles, and designer suits (11:30) 
• The dangerous “achieve to please” trap many guys fall into that cripples their confidence (15:54)
• Why telling too many jokesis a defense mechanism that sabotages your chances of finding a romantic partner (even if your jokes make women laugh) (16:30) 
• How being successful initially attracts women — but ruins a relationship 6 months later (and what to focus on instead to build a long and healthy relationship) (17:19) 
• Why therapy helps you lose weight and become a sexier version of yourself (22:52) 
• The 3-step process for effortlessly texting women and unlocking all your attractive traits (23:53) 
• The insidious way most self-help approaches poison your dating life (26:14) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Following dating app advice from online dating gurus only works if you want to attract superficial hookups. And if you’re even semi-successful in your career, you’ll drown in gold diggers looking for a free meal.

Not only does this suffocate your wallet, but it can make you lose faith in all women — even emotionally mature ones who are capable of unconditional love.

But finding a loving relationship through Instagram or dating apps is easy when you understand the inner game of using these apps.

In this episode, you’ll discover the 3-part recipe for using Instagram and dating apps to find suitable, long-term partners. Listen to the episode now before you repel too many of these emotionally mature women away.

Show Highlights Include:

• The sinister way using Tinder advice you find online ruins your chances of finding unconditional love (8:33)
• Why taking professional pictures for your Tinder profile drives away potential matches (even if you think they make you look more attractive) (13:03)
• The “Light and Fun” approach for your Tinder bio that makes you irresistible to the opposite sex (18:44)
• Why enjoying your life helps you get more Tinder dates than any sneaky pickup artist trick in the world (20:08)
• How being vulnerable helps you find unconditional love (and why leading with your vulnerability only lures women attracted to your weaknesses) (20:16)
• Why texting a girl “what’s up?” almost guarantees she ghosts you (and what to text instead to build rapport) (24:51)
• The “Snippet Secret” that “ethically forces” Tinder matches to reply to you (even if it’s been a few days since you talked) (26:43)
• How therapeutic healing transforms your insecurities into attractiveness (43:18)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Insecure guys look for texting and dating app tricks to help them get more dates. But these gimmicks only do two dangerous things:

1. They repel loving women that also want a long-term relationship
2. They attract emotional vampires who will cheat and lie 

Worse yet? 

They cripple your confidence and self-esteem. 

Truth is, any texting or dating app problems you have are just symptoms of a deeper issue. While fixing the deeper problem is harder than copying and pasting text messages, it attracts mature women ready for a long-term relationship. 

In this episode, I reveal how to fix your texting problems without using advice from greasy pickup artists. Listen to the episode now before you make this mistake again. 

Show Highlights Include:

• How to text the way you think instead of using tricks that heighten your anxiety and neediness (even if you think you’ll repel women) (2:54) 
• Why texting better won’t attract loving women into your life (3:41) 
• How copying and pasting text scripts from YouTube makes falling in love almost impossible (even when you get responses) (12:37) 
• Why pimping your Tinder profile with your Instagram ruins your chances of finding a long term partner (22:41) 
• The insidious way gimmicks from pickup artists sabotage your confidence and self-esteem (28:36) 
• The 3-part process for effortlessly texting women and making them swoon over you (30:27) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Nice guys who try bending over backwards to attract a partner will always get hurt in the end.

Why?

Because having a needy, codependent mindset attracts narcissistic emotional vampires who prey on your neediness. They will just use you in the end for their own ego validation. And they smell your fear and insecurities from a mile away.

It’s an ugly game, but you don’t have to play it anymore.

In this episode, I reveal the 3-step formula for becoming naturally attractive to the right women who will love you. Listen to the episode now to save yourself from future heartbreaks.

Show Highlights Include:

• Why bending over backwards and being “nice” repulses women (and how they see through this charade like Swiss cheese) (3:54)
• The counterintuitive way getting more vulnerable helps you become more laid back, adventurous, and easy to love (11:12)
• How to unleash your inner child that’s holding all your pain and suffering to magnetize a romantic partner (12:15)
• The weird way acting like a child heightens your sexual attractiveness (12:58)
• The “Hold The Line” method for being assertive (without Hulking out or becoming anxious) (16:18)
• The 3-step therapeutic process for making dating and relationships as natural and effortless as breathing (19:40)
• The brutal truth about why nice guys get dumped and cheated on more often than anyone else (23:47)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Many men think it’s impossible to be morally good and sexually attractive to women at the same time. They think they have to sacrifice one or the other. 

Why does this happen? 

It’s rooted in the myth of “Nice Guy Syndrome.” But being a “nice guy” and a “good man” are polar opposites. 

A nice guy fakes being nice to attract women. But a good man has morals that attract women with ease. In fact, having morals you believe in makes you more attractive to the opposite sex. 

In this episode, you’ll discover the 5 most important ways to become morally good and sexually attractive to women. Listen to the episode now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• Why the unconscious “nice guy strategy” repulses women and makes you bitter (3:47) 
• How bending over backwards for women is a recipe for loneliness (7:01) 
• The “Luke Bible verse secret” for becoming more sexually attractive to women (that works even if you aren’t religious) (8:48) 
• The weird way studying Nietzsche and Kant helps you attract more women into your life (even if it makes you feel like a nerd) (9:44) 
• How shaming your sexual desires puts attracting women into your life on “difficult mode” (18:18) 
• Why being laid back and stress free makes you sexier than Ryan Reynolds (25:33) 
• How to embrace your inner “bad boy” side (without sacrificing your moral values that make you a good man) (30:15) 
• The trick to being assertive without coming across as an arrogant jerk (32:02) 
• The counterintuitive way growing up with radical feminists heightens your toxic masculinity (and how to liberate your masculinity in a healthy way) (35:22) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Have you seen these two caricatures in the dating world?

One is the arrogant man whose obnoxious behaviour brings him attention from women. And the other is the nice guy, who believes that helping a woman will earn her affection.

These are two common roles that men play in dating. But these two extremes don’t create a solid foundation for a relationship. Instead of bringing you happiness, these behaviours manipulate and repel the right women.

But you don’t have to play these roles in order to find happiness with your ideal woman. 

Listen now to discover how living out your own values attracts the right women for you.

Show Highlights Include:

• Why being a “nice guy” isn’t the same as being a “good man” (3:36)
• How she sees through your attempts to trick her into bed (and why this manipulation always backfires) (4:19)
• Why you won’t find happiness in a relationship based on obligation (and what to build your relationship on instead) (5:15)
• How letting your morals shine naturally attracts women with similar values (8:05)
• Why doing good for others (without trying to spark sexual attraction) opens more women to your personality (19:35)
• How a deeper understanding of your own childhood lets you connect with your emotions so you can “live in color” (23:48)
• Ask yourself these 3 questions to discover what’s gone wrong in past relationships (so you can a create healthier relationship with your ideal woman) (33:47)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum