Beyond Success

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Beyond Success episodes

July 29, 2021What Values Are Best For Success In Dating And Relationships?
Most men haven’t thought about which values lead to a fulfilling life. And it’s hard to know which values are driving you now and which would give you the life you want.

Your values affect your relationships. And values that mask your vulnerabilities will make you feel unworthy of love.

But when you discover the values that open you to your higher self, your life opens up to loving, trusting relationships.

Find out which values attract love into your life in this episode of The Masculine Psychology Podcast.

Show highlights include:

Why designer clothes, exotic cars, and gold credit cards prevent you from finding unconditional love (1:07)

Striving to be your “best self?” Why it may be sabotaging your relationships (3:33)

How to use the the “goodness filter” to find people who enrich your life — and remove those that don’t (6:19)

Why your “I Can Fix It” mentality prevents you from building strong connections (7:09)

How do you spot a psychopath on your first date? (8:13)

The “I’m gonna cry” moments (that you usually hide) which instantly deepen your romantic relationships (11:10)

The “C&E” practice that improves your intimacy (especially if you’re a “bad boy”) (15:47)

Why revisiting long-held beliefs accelerates your emotional growth (23:07)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum
34 min
July 22, 2021Why Your Values Are The Key To Your Success In Dating & Relationships
Money, power, women. Popular dating advice tells you to chase these things until you’re happy. And while they make for entertaining YouTube videos, they lead to miserable relationships and crushing insecurities.

True happiness and love don’t come from shallow ideals. Chasing these obscures the real, attractive parts of you that women love. The parts that make you unique, empathetic, and loved.

But you don’t have to chase superficial goals. When you gain clarity around your values, you become your own authentic self and magnetically attract women to your true self.

Want to discover your authentic values and attract the women you desire? Listen now!

Show highlights include:

Why you can have better chances of finding a relationship by sitting at home alone than partying at a singles bar. (2:10)

How trying to build a business empire and getting rich can repel beautiful women from you. (8:57)

Why most men are inherently needy — and the secret to eliminating you own neediness (14:35)

Why following your role models can make you miserable — even if they’re married, happy, and rich. (23:43)

How “living in the gray” gives you the opportunity to instantly change long-held limiting beliefs. (29:15)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum
46 min
July 15, 2021The 4 Steps To Your Success With Women & Life
Imagine you’re at a coffee shop, waiting for your black coffee with extra espresso shot. Across the room you catch an attractive woman glancing your way. How do you respond?

Weirdly enough, this makes many men uncomfortable. They enter “freeze or flight” mode and look back at their phones. Why do they shy away from beautiful women? The reason for this runs deep: Many men have an unconscious feeling of being unworthy of love. They protect themselves by avoiding interactions like this.

But no one is unworthy of love. And those parts of yourself trying to protect you are actually preventing you from finding a loving and passionate partner.

Tired of your fears sabotaging your relationships? In this episode, you’ll discover how to love and trust yourself to develop self-confidence that naturally attracts women to you.

Listen now as David Tian shares the 4 steps to improving your self confidence, relationships, and life.

Show highlights include:

Why the 4 steps of “IFS” are your most powerful weapon to conquering your shame and unleashing your true self. (3:56)

The two types of protective parts that sabotage your love life while they run your life. (6:11)

Why accessing your true self can be more painful if you’re a high achiever (and why you should do it anyway). (10:25)

The long-term fix that eradicates neediness that you won’t hear in Alpha Male forums, books, or courses. (12:26)

How to discover your true self by checking the “8 C’s” when you’re feeling nervous or anxious (17:51)

How accepting your deepest, darkest emotions makes you more playful, happy, and free (26:54)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum
38 min
July 08, 2021What's truly holding you back from success in dating and relationships?
The internet is overflowing with dating tips that can keep you stuck as a hopeless single. While they sound nice (and might seem to work for others), these dangerous tips and tactics sabotage your relationships - even if they “work.”

Success with pickup lines, scripted routines, or body language “hacks” only make lasting relationships more difficult because you’re not being your true, attractive self.

But many men still use these tactics to compensate for their underlying, core insecurities - the real cause of their problems with women.

To find a loving, respectful partner, you have to face uncomfortable truths about yourself. But after you do this, you magnetically attract loving women with your true confidence.

In this episode, you’ll discover how popular dating advice sabotages your relationships - and how to get rid of its toxic influence and live as your true self.

Show highlights include:

Overwhelmed with dating advice online? Why ignoring them attracts more beautiful, loving women than any pickup tips ever could. (1:27)

Why learning more about women, dating, and relationships can keep you from finding a great relationship (2:26)

How to fix your core insecurities by facing toxic shame from your childhood. (5:51)

Why working out and getting a 6-pack can reinforce your feelings of unworthiness (13:44)

Does the “brute force” method work when applying dating advice? (19:58)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum
29 min
July 01, 2021Why Dating Tips Don't Work
Have you wondered what you’re doing “wrong” when attracting women? Have you dove down the rabbit hole of YouTube dating advice looking for answers? If you have, you’ve realized the tactics from popular videos often don’t work for you.

That’s because these tips don’t address the real reasons women may not want to date you. The truth is, people are more complex than most dating advice assumes. To really succeed with women, you need more than smooth lines and batting practice.

In this episode of The Masculine Psychology Podcast, host David Tian explains why you need to move beyond dating tips to attract the right relationships in your life.

Listen now to discover why “dating tips” might be holding you back in life and love.

Show highlights include:

Why popular “dating tips” won’t improve your dating results — and why the “lazy way” to meet women works against your happiness (1:13)

How the WebMD approach to self-improvement barricades access to your true, attractive self (7:59)

The “dangerous” dating practices that can hook you like heroin and destroy your relationships (9:09)

What to do if your anxiety level approaching women is above 2 of 10 (11:07)

How to stop creating barriers in your mental “self” to naturally attract women (18:23)

Why success with tips and tactics keeps you from connecting with the right women (23:13)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at: https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum
30 min
June 01, 2021 Masculine Psychology Intro
Want to transform your interactions with women and improve your intimate relationships? You don’t have to become macho or a people-pleaser.

In the Masculine Psychology Podcast, world-renowned therapist, life coach, and global educator David Tian explores masculinity, psychology, dating, and relationships.

Ready to discover your true self, attract the right woman for you and radically improve your relationships? Listen now!
1 min

About Beyond Success

From the publisher's feed

Beyond Success is the podcast for founders and high achievers asking the bigger questions behind what they're building.

You've built a career, maybe a company, perhaps a solid portfolio, and by most measures that's gone well. What brought you here is probably something more specific: a decision you can't make, relationships that keep ending the same way, or a business you're still building at full speed without being sure what it's for. Maybe you exited, and everyone assumes you'll start another one. Maybe you want a marriage and children but keep postponing both. Maybe you have more freedom than you've ever had before but no idea what you should do with it.

The usual advice is to get clear on what you want and go after it. But that treats the getting as the hard part.

Actually, the hard part comes earlier. A strategy can be excellent and still rest on assumptions you've never examined: needing to stay relevant, needing to prove something, worrying about who you'd be if you stopped. Left alone, they'll keep you working for another decade toward a life you never truly wanted.

Then there's a question most advice skips: whether the thing you want is worth wanting, what your way of getting it costs the people dearest to you, and who you're turning into while you go after it. You can succeed at everything you set out to do only to find you've become someone you wouldn't have chosen.

Most advice takes the goal as settled and helps you get there faster. This show takes up the goals themselves.

I'm David Tian, private adviser to founders, leaders, and high achievers on the bigger questions behind what they're building. My background is in philosophy, psychology, and deep therapeutic work. I was a tenure-track philosophy professor at the National University of Singapore, with a Ph.D. from the University of Michigan and fellowships at Harvard and Princeton. I'm also a Certified IFS Therapy Practitioner (Level 3) and a Brown University Certified Leadership Coach.

I draw on modern psychology, Asian philosophy, and two decades of work with accomplished people who have achieved a great deal but still aren't sure what comes next. We take up the questions that remain once ambition has done its job: what a good life asks of you, what's worth wanting, what love is and what it requires, how to hold power over other people without damaging them, what you want to have contributed to the world, and how to face death well. Working through them changes what you build next, and usually changes how you relate to the people you're building it with.

If the questions behind what you're building have gotten harder to ignore, this podcast is for you.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery/