There is a true self somewhere locked inside your psyche. Accessing this true self is the key to being your most attractive self.

But what if your true self still isn’t attractive? 

A lot of guys ask me that question because they’re worried their true self isn’t attractive. But you know what? 

If you think your true self isn’t attractive, that means you don’t know your true self yet. And this is great news — because you can still tap into this true self. 

In this episode, you’ll discover how to tap into your true self and attract love and joy with ease. Listen now and unlock your true self. 

Show Highlights Include:

• How you can attract unconditional love into your life (without giving up video games) (1:29) 
• Why your inner psyche organizes like a family (and how to use this fact to magnetize love and happiness) (5:51) 
• The “8 C’s” which characterize your higher self (and how to tap into them at will) (9:29) 
• The insidious “Protector Parts” of your psyche which can lead to full-blown addictions (15:40) 
• How the “Unburdening Process” nukes your neediness, worthlessness, and insecurities (18:05) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

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When men try to make their personality more attractive, they make a fatal error. They think that incorporating more attractive qualities “cancels out” their true self. 

But this isn’t the case. Personality traits can be developed like skills — like learning math or shooting a basketball. And when you make this mindset shift, you can become more attractive without sacrificing your true self. 

In this episode, I reveal how to boost your attractiveness without losing yourself. Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• How to fuse with a more attractive personality type without sacrificing your true self (3:31) 
• The weird way a divorce in your 20s “forces” you to become good with women (5:48) 
• Why shaming your quirky parts of your personality make finding love harder (8:41) 
• The insidious way pickup artist advice can work in the short term, but sacrifices your chance at finding true love later (13:40) 
• Why it’s flat-out impossible to have a long-term relationship without confronting your repressed parts of your psyche (14:45) 
• The “LASAE Method” for becoming as attractive as Brad Pitt (even if you look nothing like him) (20:57) 
• How being assertive and easy-going at the same time makes you the most attractive man in any room you walk into (22:32) 
• 21 scientifically-proven personality traits that make women swoon over you (23:32) 
• The counterintuitive reason women prefer introverts over extroverts (39:12) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

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Are you an achiever? Do you dream about being the wealthiest person in your family and unlocking the best possible life? 

Well, you’re probably making a lethal mistake: 

Achievers put off their present enjoyment for future fulfillment. But when you do this, you get neither. 

In fact, laziness can help you tap into your natural flow state, attract love into your life, and experience joy every moment you’re awake. 

In this episode, I reveal how to cultivate your laziness so you can become happier. 

Listen to the episode now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• The weird way being a lazy bum makes you happier, more fulfilled, and more successful (9:29) 
• How your drive to achieve is a sneaky cope that suffocates your love life (10:09) 
• The toxic belief ingrained into achievers which makes it impossible to find love and happiness (10:40) 
• The “Fulfillment Formula” for detonating your destructive habits that repulse love (11:48) 
• 3 major and proven ways to guarantee your fulfillment according to psychologists (13:42) 
• The counterintuitive reason becoming stinkin’, filthy rich makes you miserable (13:52) 
• The “State of Flow” secret for creating unlimited happiness in your life (and how to harness is by doing nothing) (19:42) 
• Why approaching an intimate relationship like its a business is a surefire way to get dumped (37:11) 
• How losing more than 3x your salary makes you happier and more fulfilled (39:11) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Taking up martial arts, business, or anything else that takes you out of your comfort zone can be one of the best things you do. 

But it also has a dark side that sabotages all joy and love in your life. 

In this episode, you’ll discover the danger of being too driven in fighting, business, and life. And some easy tweaks you can make to ensure your happiness and fulfillment. 

Listen to the episode now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• The insidious way your subconscious passes down your deepest, darkest fears to your children (4:37) 
• How turning off your empathy sabotages the joy in your life (even if you need to turn it off to thrive) (11:05) 
• Why having an alter ego for your job can cripple your self-esteem (18:21) 
• The toxic “Method Acting” psychological glitch that nukes your happiness (20:49)
• The poisonous “Psychic Separation” trap that leads to burnout and addiction (and how to prevent it) (22:14) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

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Training martial arts can make you more attractive, more confident, and help heal many of the childhood traumas you faced. Especially if you were bullied in the past.  

Being bullied in childhood makes you vulnerable, afraid of confrontation, and worse with women as an adult. Training in the martial arts can show your inner child that you can handle the tough situations life throws at you. 

In this episode, I reveal the 4 surprising therapeutic benefits you’ll unlock by training in the martial arts. 

Listen to the episode now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• The weird way martial arts frees you of your childhood fears that sabotage your confidence and courage today (4:38) 
• The biggest therapeutic benefit of martial arts (and how it makes you more attractive to women) (6:45) 
• How martial arts prevents you from “Hulking out” when you’re fuming with anger (7:22) 
• The “Assertiveness Approach” that puts your confidence on steroids (15:28) 
• How being a one-dimensional stereotypical person plunges your attractiveness (and how adding contrast to your persona makes you as attractive as James Bond) (17:12) 
• The simple “Both And” method for becoming safer, sexier, and happier (18:31) 
• How martial arts helps you land more dates than someone more naturally attractive than you (28:36) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

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There’s only one way to experience lasting fulfillment, love, peace, and joy. 

The problem is that most men get this backwards. They think they have to make a bunch of money or achieve status in order to be worthy. But this causes burn out, an awful love life, and a relentless sense of depression. 

The antidote? 

Realizing you’re worthy of love right now. Not only does it unlock happiness, but you’ll have more success in your career too. 

In this episode, I share how you can transform your life by believing you’re worthy of love with three separate and contrasting stories. 

Listen to the episode now and unlock this “cheat code” for life in yourself. 

Show Highlights Include:

• Why achieving your “best self” to attract unconditional love is an impossible feat that makes you unhappy and spiteful (5:02) 
• The “Internal Attractiveness” secret that destroys your neediness (9:33) 
• How repressing your sexual feredom when you’re younger increases your chances of having a mid-life crisis (12:22) 
• Why picking a wife for her “arm candy” value skyrockets your chance of divorce (and how to save your marriage if you fell into this trap) (17:23) 
• The dangerous “Power Couple” lure many entrepreneurs fall into that makes their spouses cheat on them (23:28) 
• How joy, peace, and inner freedom in your romantic life catapults your business growth (even if you're already massively successful) (25:53) 
• The counterintuitive way being enough today helps you accomplish more in life (34:10) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

A lot of young men looking for love fall into a dangerous trap: 

They think their value—whether social, economic, entertainment, sexual, or otherwise—is what attracts women to them. But if you build a relationship based on value, you will never find true, unconditional love no matter what pickup artists tell you. 

In fact, building a relationship based on value is a sign of neediness. 

Why? 

Because unconditional love can’t be earned, by definition. It’s not based on value, hierarchies, or anything else. 

In this episode, you’ll discover how to attract unconditional love without relying on your value. 

Listen to this episode now, obliterate your neediness, and find unconditional love. 

Show Highlights Include:

• The 2-second mindset flip that instantly eradicates your neediness (0:57) 
• The shocking reason why most people never experience real love (even when they think they’re in a loving relationship) (5:38) 
• How men searching for unconditional love sacrifice their present happiness for future pain (and how to prevent this) (6:19) 
• Why becoming more valuable makes finding true love harder (8:18) 
• 13 scientifically-backed ways to become more attractive to women (15:05) 
• The weird way seeing a sex surrogate can help you find unconditional love (22:14) 
• The insidious way waiting for unconditional love makes you needier than a spoiled two-year-old (35:18) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Neediness beheads your attractiveness. Many people already know this, but they don’t understand what causes neediness or how to reduce it in a healthy way. 

Instead, they take an unhealthy approach and pretend they don’t have any needs. But this creates even more neediness. 

Here’s the truth: 

Your neediness stems from one fundamental problem. And once you obliterate this, you can harness your natural attractiveness. 

In this episode, you’ll discover the fundamental cause of neediness and how to eliminate it. 

Listen to the episode now and unlock your true attractiveness. 

Show Highlights Include:

• The dangerous “earn myth” that’s sabotaging your love life (3:23) 
• The counterintuitive way improving yourself becomes a toxic trait that cripples your life (4:59) 
• How relaxing and doing nothing opens more career and relationship opportunities than hustling 24/7 (9:33) 
• Why becoming less needy instantly boosts your sexual attractiveness (and how to become less needy) (12:23) 
• The real reason why your physical attractiveness isn’t as important as you’re making it (13:22) 
• The “Twin Terrors” problem that’s the fundamental source for your neediness (18:29) 
• The subtle “Existence Value” mindset tweak that helps you harness your natural attractiveness with ease (44:02) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Tuning into your “dark side” seems scary. It forces you to smash the persona you’ve worn for your whole life. And it feels like exposing yourself for the world to see. 

But nothing gives you more happiness, success, and love than integrating your dark side. 

In this episode, I share 3 different success stories of former clients doing this and becoming more fulfilled. 

One was a “tough guy” who tapped into his femininity. The second embraced more feminine traits and unlocked his masculinity. And the third was a conservative Chrstian who only kissed one girl who freed his sexual side. 

Listen to the episode now and discover how to embrace your dark side. 

Show Highlights Include:

• Why disowning your inner femininity makes you attracted to wild and promiscuous women (7:53) 
• How your shadow parts can sabotage your life (even if you’re ripped, rich, and have a girlfriend) (8:52) 
• The counterintuitive way tough guys feel happier and more fulfilled by tapping into their feminine energy (12:43) 
• Why growing up in an anti-male home stunts your career growth (15:40)   
• The “Road Trip Method” for unlocking your masculinity (17:31) 
• How growing up in a conservative Christian family hides your inner attractiveness (21:21) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

In childhood, many of us were forced to repress our energies because someone shamed us for it. 

The two most common examples include shame over sexual desires and anger. But these are two important energies that unlock creativity, vulnerability, passion, and love. 

In this episode, you’ll discover how to integrate these repressed energies into your overall self, so you can experience more happiness and success. 

Listen to the episode now and free yourself from your inner shame. 

Show Highlights Include:

• How uncaging your deepest pains magnetizes love to you (even if it feels like it makes love harder to obtain) (11:58) 
• The 2-step unmasking process for discovering and integrating your shadow parts into who you are so you become more attractive (14:28) 
• How to unburden your repressed sexual shame and become confident with your natural desires (18:47) 
• The “True Self” filter that puts healing your traumatic memories on “easy mode” (20:27) 
• The weird way becoming comfortable with your sexual desires improves your sense of style (21:07)
• How mixing practical coaching with introspective therapy fast tracks your healing process (22:12) 
• Why designer clothing doesn’t help you land more dates (and how to look more attractive in a $7 plain, white T-shirt by healing your sexual shame) (24:44) 

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum