Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute

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02:06 Personal Story of Trying to Disclose

08:11 Active vs Passive Truth Telling

12:34 Fear of not being able to remember everything

14:10 Fear of imperfection in disclosure

18:55 Fear of overwhelming pain

19:36 Fear of losing control

Learn more about Luke here. 

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Take Back the Holidays Special Workshop - Choose Recovery Services is excited to sponsor this workshop presented by Sarah Morales. Learn strategies and tools to help you shift from feeling anxious and powerless to empowered and equipped to face holiday experiences with those who have a history of gaslighting. The workshop will be November 16th from 11am-1pm CST and costs $30. Follow sarahmoralescoaching on Instagram and register for the workshop HERE. 

Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.

Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community.

Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

Healing Hearts - 15-week self-paced course for individuals and couples to complete. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.

Listen to Part 1 and Part 2

Learn more about Amie Woolsey

Learn more about Alana Gordon

Tune in to Amie and Alana’s podcast Choose To Be

Treating Trauma from Sexual Betrayal - book by Kevin B. Skinner

03:34 Timing and Importance

13:29 Emotional Safety and Readiness

22:45 Mutual Respect

23:49 Entitlement and Secrets

28:04 Assessing Readiness 

34:55 Support Systems and Professional Guidance

44:51 Understanding the Impact of Betrayal

48:58 Courage to Thrive Intensive

Courage to Thrive Intensive - This four-day in-person intensive is designed specifically for women who have experienced the deep pain of betrayal and are ready to begin the journey toward reclaiming their lives. Over four transformative days, you’ll gain the tools, skills, and support you need not just to survive, but to truly thrive. The intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on October 23-26, 2024. Learn more and register HERE.

Learn more about Luke here. 

Schedule a complimentary consultation with Luke here.

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Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.

Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community.

Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

Healing Hearts - 15-week self-paced course for individuals and couples to complete. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.
Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com

Listen to Part 1 HERE.

Learn more about Amie Woolsey

Learn more about Alana Gordon

Tune in to Amie and Alana’s podcast Choose To Be

Episode on gaslighting with Sarah Morales

Episode where Amie and Luke talk about the ways a separation can bring healing

01:30 The Importance of Full Therapeutic Disclosure

04:24 Truth and Transparency in Healing

05:03 Understanding Informed Consent

14:33 The Role of Safety in Disclosures

22:48 Bringing Reality to Both Partners

24:22 The Impact of Full Disclosure

28:14 Safety Concerns

36:38 Challenges and Excuses in Disclosure

Courage to Thrive Intensive - This four-day in-person intensive is designed specifically for women who have experienced the deep pain of betrayal and are ready to begin the journey toward reclaiming their lives. Over four transformative days, you’ll gain the tools, skills, and support you need not just to survive, but to truly thrive. The intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on October 23-26, 2024. Learn more and register HERE.

Learn more about Luke here. 

Schedule a complimentary consultation with Luke here.

Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.

Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.

Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community.

Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

Healing Hearts - 15-week self-paced course for individuals and couples to complete. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.
Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com

Learn more about Alana HERE.

Listen to Alana’s podcast Choose To Be

02:04 Addressing Women’s Questions on Betrayal

07:15 The Emotional Impact of Betrayal

16:02 Rebuilding Trust and Honesty

21:44 The Risk of Losing Everything

28:55 Encouragement and Final Thoughts

30:53 Courage to Thrive Intensive Information 

Courage to Thrive Intensive - This four-day in-person intensive is designed specifically for women who have experienced the deep pain of betrayal and are ready to begin the journey toward reclaiming their lives. Over four transformative days, you’ll gain the tools, skills, and support you need not just to survive, but to truly thrive. The intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on October 23-26, 2024. Learn more and register HERE.

Learn more about Luke here. 

Schedule a complimentary consultation with Luke here.

Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.

Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.

Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community.

Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

Healing Hearts - 15-week self-paced course for individuals and couples to complete. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.

Learn more about Amie Woolsey

Learn more about Alana Gordon

Tune in to Amie and Alana’s podcast Choose To Be

02:16 Understanding Full Therapeutic Disclosures

07:05 Choose Recovery Services Approach

08:52 The Process and Benefits of Full Disclosure

11:42 Challenges and Misconceptions

17:31 Avoiding Botched Disclosures

32:34 Empowerment and Decision Making

Courage to Thrive Intensive - This four-day in-person intensive is designed specifically for women who have experienced the deep pain of betrayal and are ready to begin the journey toward reclaiming their lives. Over four transformative days, you’ll gain the tools, skills, and support you need not just to survive, but to truly thrive. The intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on October 23-26, 2024. Learn more and register HERE.

Learn more about Luke here. 

Schedule a complimentary consultation with Luke here.

Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.

Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.

Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community.

Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

Healing Hearts - 15-week self-paced course for individuals and couples to complete. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.
Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com

03:38 “I only have a problem if I get caught.”

09:58 “If my partner forgives me then we can go back to the way things were.”

13:33 “Looking at pornography isn’t a big deal.”

17:56 “At least I’m not _______.”

26:13 “Relapse means I’m back at square one.”

31:00 “I don’t need professional help.”

Listen to Part 1 and Part 2

Learn more about Amie Woolsey

Learn more about Alana Gordon

Tune in to Amie and Alana’s podcast Choose To Be

Courage to Thrive Intensive - This four-day in-person intensive is designed specifically for women who have experienced the deep pain of betrayal and are ready to begin the journey toward reclaiming their lives. Over four transformative days, you’ll gain the tools, skills, and support you need not just to survive, but to truly thrive. The intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on October 23-26, 2024. Learn more and register HERE.

Learn more about Luke here. 

Schedule a complimentary consultation with Luke here.

Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.

Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.

Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community.

Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

Healing Hearts - 15-week self-paced course for individuals and couples to complete. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.
Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com

The pitfalls that can come when you don’t involve professionals in your recovery

What is meant by “recovery capital”

What to look for in a professional

What recovery looks like as an ongoing process

Listen to Part 1 HERE

Learn more about Amie Woolsey

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Tune in to Amie and Alana’s podcast Choose To Be

03:54 The Importance of Professional Help

12:14 Balancing Safety and Accountability

16:34 The Myth of Relapse Prevention

23:41 Conclusion and Next Steps

Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive led by Alana and Luke Gordon designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Sept 18th-20th, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠.

Courage to Thrive Intensive - This four-day in-person intensive is designed specifically for women who have experienced the deep pain of betrayal and are ready to begin the journey toward reclaiming their lives. Over four transformative days, you’ll gain the tools, skills, and support you need not just to survive, but to truly thrive. The intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on October 23-26, 2024. Learn more and register HERE.

Learn more about Luke here. 

Schedule a complimentary consultation with Luke here.

Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.

Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.

Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community.

Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

Healing Hearts - 15-week self-paced course for individuals and couples to complete. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.

The difference between sobriety and true recovery

What “acting-in” behaviors are

The distinction between high sex drive and sexual addiction

Why hating your sexuality is counterproductive to recovery

Lust’s Roots in Trauma - Beyond the Facade podcast episode

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02:39 Discussion on Sex Addiction

04:35 Myth: Sobriety is Just Not Acting Out

12:07 Myth: Abstaining from Sex Cures Addiction

15:55 Myth: More Sex Solves the Problem

18:32 Embracing Healthy Sexuality

20:22 The Journey of Healing and Recovery

33:06 Myth: Acts of Service Don’t Heal Emotional Wounds

Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive led by Alana and Luke Gordon designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Sept 18th-20th, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠.

Learn more about Luke here. 

Schedule a complimentary consultation with Luke here.

Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.

Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.

Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community.

Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

Healing Hearts - 15-week self-paced course for individuals and couples to complete. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.

Creating new habits requires disrupting old pathways and consistently reinforcing new ones.

Perfection isn’t necessary.

Building a strong foundation and routines is crucial.

Personal growth is never truly complete.

Reframe failure as a learning opportunity.

Involve others in your journey.

01:14 Upcoming Event - Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity 

03:07 Lessons From the Farm

05:49 Building New Routines

07:58 Walt Disney’s Improvement Mindset

08:25 Edison’s Lessons in Staying Resilient

12:42 The Importance of Support Systems

Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Sept 18th-20th, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠.

Learn more about Luke here. 

Schedule a complimentary consultation with Luke here.

Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.

Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.

Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.

Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community.

Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

Healing Hearts - 15-week self-paced course for individuals and couples to complete. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.

01:07 Introduction of Gene Huneycutt

05:46 Gene’s Personal Story

08:56 Processing Trauma and Its Impact

11:59 The Role of Curiosity and Grace in Healing

14:02 Addressing Sexual Fantasies in a Safe Context

19:51 Desire and the Path to Personal Maturity

Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Sept 18th-20th, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠.

Learn more about Luke here. 

Schedule a complimentary consultation with Luke here.

Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.

Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.

Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.

Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community.

Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. We also have a NEW 15-week course for individuals and couples to complete at their own pace. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Find more info about the self-paced course here.

Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.