Building Resilience

**Trigger Warning: This episode contains mentions of suicide.**

Have you ever found yourself unsure of how to approach the serious and stigmatized topic of suicide? You're not alone. So many of us want to talk about this issue with someone we care about, but sometimes can’t find the words.

In this vital episode of Building Resilience, we are peeling back the layers on suicide awareness, facilitating an open dialogue that is both respectful and compassionate.

Together with my remarkable guest (and wonderful daughter-in-law), Rachael Clement Fiore, we are sharing stereotypical myths on this episode today, and hoping to eradicate these myths surrounding suicide and encourage open conversations as a potential lifesaver. Rachael not only is a third year nursing student with QPR Gatekeeper training for suicide prevention, but she tragically  lost her older brother to suicide a short time ago. Through our heartfelt conversation, we aspire to forge a community where individuals feel safe discussing their feelings without judgment.

Listen in to hear compelling statistics that bring to light the gravity of the issues as we strive  to correct common misconceptions and urge society to take perceived cries for help seriously. Our aim is to foster a space where those grappling with suicidal thoughts can express their distress openly and seek the assistance they need.

If you need help, reach out—call the suicide hotline at 988 (US) and 1-833-456-4566 (Canada).

Links/Past Episodes:

• QPR gatekeeper training: https://qprinstitute.com/individual-training
• The Mayo Clinic
• The Samaritans Organization
• The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention
• The Canadian Association for Suicide Prevention

Resources:

• The Advanced Nervous System Resilience training—Join me for an enriching training experience, focusing on personal and professional integration in your coaching journey.
• The "Memory Matters" course---In the end, our memories are really all we have left, so protect them.
• My video series, "The 30 Second Burnout Solution"—A resource created to help you cope with stress and burnout, focusing on compassion fatigue and secondary traumatic stress.

Eager to join us in this crucial conversation? Visit me on Facebook or Instagram. You can also find me on my website and book a mini session with me.

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The state of your nervous system could be the key you’ve been looking for to a flourishing marriage!

This week on the Building Resilience Podcast, we venture deeper into the realms of nervous system resilience and its profound impact on marriages and romantic relationships. We debunk the myth of 'completing each other' and advocate for the beautiful union of two whole individuals creating something magnificent together.

With personal anecdotes and evidence-based knowledge, we explore how nurturing our nervous system can lead to healthier relationships characterized by authenticity, safety, and better communication.

Links/Past Episodes I Mentioned

• Ep. 138: The Importance of Nervous System Resilience in Parenting
• Ep. 121: The Three Stories You Tell (Story Follows State)
• Ep. 120: The Drama Triangle and The Empowerment Dynamic

Resources:

• The Advanced Nervous System Resilience training—Join me for an enriching training experience, focusing on personal and professional integration in your coaching journey.
• The "Memory Matters" course---In the end, our memories are really all we have left, so protect them.
• My video series, "The 30 Second Burnout Solution"—A resource created to help you cope with stress and burnout, focusing on compassion fatigue and secondary traumatic stress.

Feel free to connect with me on Facebook or Instagram. You can also find more resources and book a mini session with me on my website.

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Have you ever felt like a ship lost in a stormy sea? In this episode, I reflect on the powerful metaphor of lighthouses and how they resonate deeply with our life's journey. Lighthouses aren't just historical landmarks; they serve as warning signs and guiding lights.

In this episode, I explore personal stories of our family visits to the Outer Banks and my son Zach's poignant quote on light. Join me today to talk about the importance of being a beacon of hope, especially in turbulent times.

Resources:

• The "Memory Matters" course---our memories are treasures, so protect them.
• The Advanced Nervous System Resilience training! Discover all things nervous system, both personal and professional, and how to integrate it into your coaching.
• My video series, "The 30 Second Burnout Solution", a resource I curated to assist those grappling with stress and burnout---particularly compassion fatigue and secondary traumatic stress.

Reach out and connect with me on Facebook or Instagram. Dive deeper into resilience and personal growth on my website and even book a mini session with me!

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Following last week's episode featuring the first half of my conversation on The Concussion Coach podcast, we continue the conversation in part 2.. Hosted by neurological Occupational Therapist and certified life coach Bethany Lewis, we dive into the importance of the nervous system, techniques for calming and relaxation, and the significance of self-compassion and tracking progress during recovery.

In this part of the conversation we discuss the importance of self-awareness when dealing with dysregulation and the need for repeated practice to build resilience. We also talk about strategies to promote relaxation and regulation, such as the "rag doll" technique and physical activities. We'll also talk about the function of the vagus nerve, and the concept of recovery as an opportunity for growth.

This is an enlightening conversation—don’t miss it!

Links:

• Cognitive FX
• Andrew Huberman's research

Resources:

• The "Memory Matters" course---in the end, our memories are really all we are ever left with, so protect them.
• The Advanced Nervous System Resilience training! It's all things nervous system, personally and professionally, and how to integrate it in your coaching.
• My video series, "The 30 Second Burnout Solution", a resource I created to help those dealing with stress and burnout---particularly compassion fatigue and secondary traumatic stress.
• You can reach Bethany Lewis at theconcussioncoach.com

Visit me on Facebook or Instagram. You can also find me on my website and book a mini session with me!

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In this special episode of Building Resilience, you’re going to hear Part 1 of my conversation with Bethany Lewis that was on her podcast The Concussion Coach. Bethany is a neurological Occupational Therapist and a certified life coach. We delve into the world of concussions, trauma, and nervous system resilience.

From understanding the roles of Team Hyper and Team Hypo, to diving into the five crucial pillars for healing and growth, we'll take a journey that combines science, mindfulness, and real-life insights. We talk about how to grow your 'zone of safety,' deal with stress, and emerge stronger.

Whether you're recovering from physical injuries or just seeking ways to strengthen your mental resilience, this episode promises a wealth of wisdom.

Links/Past Episodes

• Cognitive FX
• Andrew Huberman's research

Resources:

• The "Memory Matters" course---in the end, our memories are really all we are ever left with, so protect them.
• The Advanced Nervous System Resilience training! It's all things nervous system, personally and professionally, and how to integrate it in your coaching.
• My video series, "The 30 Second Burnout Solution", a resource I created to help those dealing with stress and burnout---particularly compassion fatigue and secondary traumatic stress.
• You can reach Bethany Lewis at https://theconcussioncoach.com/

Visit me on Facebook or Instagram. You can also find me on my website and book a mini session with me!

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Whether it's an episode of "This is Us" or a commercial with a sad-looking dog, one thing's for certain—I'm a crier.

Tears have a language of their own—a way to communicate with our body and the nervous system. In this episode of Building Resilience, we're diving deep into understanding the emotion behind our tears and the science that accompanies them.

From the essential basal tears that keep our eyes lubricated to the deeply emotional tears that provide a much-needed release, tears play a crucial role in our lives. But what's often overlooked is the societal pressure that surrounds crying, particularly labeling it as a sign of weakness. We're breaking down those misconceptions and exploring the benefits of crying.

From offering stress relief by releasing oxytocin and endorphins to fostering relationship strengthening through vulnerability, tears have far-reaching benefits. For those who might find themselves seldom shedding a tear, we'll delve into the reasons behind this emotional response.

So whether you're a crier or not, this episode promises to offer an emotional roller-coaster filled with self-discovery, acceptance, and the therapeutic benefits of a good cry.

Links:

• Episodes 123 and 124: Breathing Techniques

Resources:

• The "Memory Matters" course—in the end, our memories are really all we are ever left with, so protect them.
• The Advanced Nervous System Resilience training—it's all things nervous system, personally and professionally, and how to integrate it in your coaching.
• My video series, "The 30 Second Burnout Solution", a resource I created to help those dealing with stress and burnout—particularly compassion fatigue and secondary traumatic stress.

Visit me on Facebook or Instagram. You can also find me on my website and book a mini session with me!

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Ever question how your nervous system impacts your role as a parent? The resilience of our nervous system, its ability to contract and expand, significantly influences our parenting journey. From the womb to young adulthood, the dance of connection between caregiver and child lays the foundation for regulation and resilience.

In this enriching episode, we delve into the pivotal role of co-regulation in early developmental stages, the profound impact of caregivers in modeling and teaching self-regulation and strategies for parents to foster emotional understanding in children, from toddlers to teens.

Links:

• Episodes 72, 74, 75: Diving deep into connection and communication.
• Episode 129: An exploration of executive function skills.
• Episode 98: Cultivating resourcefulness in children by probing instead of problem-solving.
• "Hold Onto Your Kids" by Gabor Mate and Gordon Neufeld: An essential read on the significance of parental presence during the tumultuous teen years.

Resources:

• The "Memory Matters" course—in the end, our memories are really all we are ever left with, so protect them.
• The Advanced Nervous System Resilience training—get on the wait list! It's all things nervous system, personally and professionally, and how to integrate it in your coaching.
• My video series, "The 30 Second Burnout Solution", a resource I created to help those dealing with stress and burnout—particularly compassion fatigue and secondary traumatic stress.

Visit me on Facebook or Instagram. You can also find me on my website and book a mini session with me!

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Have you ever been struck by the sheer wonder of a sunrise or the overwhelming beauty of a piece of art? That's 'awe' at work.

In today's episode of Building Resilience, I dive deep into this powerful emotion. We discuss its simplicity, the numerous benefits it offers, and how it can help lead us to a more joyful, fulfilling, and purposeful life.

From the Northern Lights to architectural wonders, the world is full of awe-inspiring sights. I also touch upon 'thin places'—spots where heaven and earth seem to intertwine.

But awe doesn’t have to come from a place we go— I share some actionable ways you can cultivate and experience more of this incredible emotion in our day-to-day lives.  It's about being present-minded, enhancing creativity, and inviting more joy into our lives.

Links/Past Episodes I Mentioned

• My appearance on “Better Than Happy” with Jody Moore
• Episode 83: The Five Channels

Resources:

• The "Memory Matters" course—in the end, our memories are really all we are ever left with, so protect them.
• The Advanced Nervous System Resilience training—get on the wait list! It's all things nervous system, personally and professionally, and how to integrate it in your coaching.
• My video series, "The 30 Second Burnout Solution", a resource I created to help those dealing with stress and burnout—particularly compassion fatigue and secondary traumatic stress.

Visit me on Facebook or Instagram. You can also find me on my website and book a mini session with me!

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No life is going to be perfect—but the kicker? We wouldn’t want a perfect life even if we could get it!

In today's episode, we dive deep into life's 50-50 mix of good and bad times, illustrating it with two poignant real-life tales: a European trip gone awry and a client's emotional journey with a loved one's health.

We’ll talk about the work of positive psychology pioneer Martin Seligman, psychotherapist Deb Dana, and the moving memoir "Everything All at Once" by Steph Catudal, which masterfully showcases resilience in the face of profound loss.

Much like the Japanese art of kintsugi, we can create a complete life, full of beauty and resilience from our broken pieces.

Links/Past Episodes I Mentioned

• Ep. 94: The Gap and the Gain
• Ep. 16: Post-Traumatic Growth
• My "Guide to Adversity"
• "Everything All at Once"

Resources:

• The "Memory Matters" course—in the end, our memories are really all we are ever left with, so protect them.
• The Advanced Nervous System Resilience training—get on the wait list! It's all things nervous system, personally and professionally, and how to integrate it in your coaching.
• My video series, "The 30 Second Burnout Solution", a resource I created to help those dealing with stress and burnout—particularly compassion fatigue and secondary traumatic stress.
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Visit me on Facebook or Instagram. You can also find me on my website and book a mini session with me!

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How many times have we overlooked the beauty in our lives because we were simply viewing it through the wrong lens? In this episode, I share my husband Rob's and my quest to witness the breathtaking Northern Lights in Norway, and the parallel quest my son undertook at the same time—and the unexpected lessons we all learned about perspective, patience, and faith.

Just like our quest for the Northern Lights, our lives are filled with uncertainties, apparent failures, and changes in perspective. But, by applying the lessons learned from our journey, we can open ourselves up to new ways of seeing and experiencing the world.

Links/Past Episodes:

• Episode 20: Growth Mindset
• Episode 25: Stress Mindset

Resources:

• The "Memory Matters" course---in the end, our memories are really all we are ever left with, so protect them.
• The Advanced Nervous System Resilience training—get on the wait list! It's all things nervous system, personally and professionally, and how to integrate it in your coaching.
• My video series, "The 30 Second Burnout Solution", a resource I created to help those dealing with stress and burnout---particularly compassion fatigue and secondary traumatic stress.

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