Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing

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June 25, 2024Does He Even Think Of Me?
When your partner has a sexual addiction, it can be confusing and incredibly painful. Join Amie and Alana as they tackle a listener’s question about whether their partner thinks about them during these acting out times.
While the answer to that question is painful either way and you may feel the impulse to try to micromanage and control your partner, there is a better way. Listen in to discover the transformative power of choosing yourself and your own healing regardless of your partner’s actions.
Listen to learn:
How compartmentalization comes into play during betrayal

What happens if you try to control your partner and their actions

Why you can feel more empowerment as you shift your focus to your own healing journey
Referenced in this episode:
Should I Stay Or Go? - past podcast episode

Should I Stay or Go? - Amie’s self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. Through reflective journal prompts you’ll explore your feelings, fears, and the values that are most important to you.

Choose Healing - Join this weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping. First four weeks are free!
More from Choose Recovery Services
Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.
Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.
Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it’s a recurring challenge or a one-time incident. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.
Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon
Amie Woolsey
Choose Recovery Services
31 min
June 18, 2024Should I Stay or Go?
One of the most agonizing questions after a betrayal is, “Should I stay or go?” In this episode, Amie and Alana delve into the complex process of determining the answer to that question.
Learn how to confront your fears and conscientiously choose the right path for you - whether that’s rebuilding the relationship or starting anew.
Listen to learn:
Why there is no inherent right or wrong answer when choosing whether to stay or go

How to explore your fears, hopes, and values as you make this critical decision

What your partner can do to support you in this process
Referenced in this episode:
Should I Stay or Go? - Amie’s self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. Through reflective journal prompts, you’ll explore your feelings, fears, and the values that are most important to you. Use the coupon code MYGUIDE for $5 off!
More from Choose Recovery Services
Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!
Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.
Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it’s a recurring challenge or a one-time incident. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon
Amie Woolsey
Choose Recovery Services
38 min
June 11, 2024Who Should I Tell and Not Tell?
When betrayal strikes, the question of “Who do I tell?” weighs heavily. In this episode, Amie and Alana provide a roadmap through this complex decision as they talk about finding emotional safety and trusting your intuition.
Whether you’re just beginning your journey or are further along, this conversation provides a compassionate and nuanced perspective on who to confide in during this vulnerable time.
Listen to learn:
Strategies for determining who is and is not emotionally safe to confide in

How to respond if someone can’t hold space for your full story

Ways to build a support system at different levels of intimacy

Why support groups and professionals are vital to healing
Referenced in this episode:
Intimacy Within Self Paced Course⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy to help you learn what healthy looks like.

Choose Healing - Join this weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping. First four weeks are free!
Register Now!
In-person Intensive: ⁠Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive for men led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on July 17-19, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!
Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.
Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it’s a recurring challenge or a one-time incident.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first.
Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon
Amie Woolsey
Choose Recovery Services
25 min
June 04, 2024Loving Yourself First and Through the Hard
How do you love yourself first AND do the hard things? In this episode, Amie shares personal experiences and offers powerful perspectives on truly nurturing yourself through life’s chaos. You’ll learn practical tips for self-compassion, setting boundaries, and making time for yourself. This episode will give you the courage to turn inward as you foster internal resilience and well-being in your healing journey.
Listen to learn:
Why real love requires freedom for authenticity

The link between self-love and secure attachment

How to shift from occasional indulgences to consistent self-respect
Referenced in this episode:
Intimacy Within Self Paced Course⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy to help you learn what healthy looks like.
Choose Healing - Join this weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping. First four weeks are free!
Register Now!
In-person Intensive: ⁠Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive for men led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on July 17-19, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.
Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.
Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it’s a recurring challenge or a one-time incident.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.
Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon
Amie Woolsey
Choose Recovery Services
31 min
May 28, 2024Separation - A Pathway to Healing With Luke Gordon
It can feel soul-crushing if your partner asks for a separation, but what if it’s actually an opportunity in disguise? This week Amie is a guest on Luke Gordon’s podcast. Luke is a men’s emotional health coach and cofounder at Choose Recovery Services.
Listen in as Luke and Amie talk about how couples can use separation as a catalyst for profound individual healing and growth which can bring about lasting change in their relationship.
Listen to learn:
How separation can be beneficial and even necessary for healing and reintegration

Why tension is needed to break old destructive patterns

What a separation aims to accomplish
Referenced in this episode:
Beyond the Facade - Subscribe to Luke Gordon’s new podcast Beyond the Facade. Each week Luke will delve into topics such as authenticity, vulnerability, and integrity. Learn how to unmask your authentic self to deepen connections to yourself and others.

Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.
Register Now!
In-person Intensive: ⁠Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive for men led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on July 17-19, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping. First four weeks are free!
Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors.
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Dating From Within - Workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.
Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon
Amie Woolsey
Choose Recovery Services
31 min
May 21, 2024Victim to Chooser - Part 2
Last week we learned the thought patterns of those who are in the victim and emerger stages of healing from trauma. Today Amie takes us through the final two stages - reclaimer and chooser.
In this episode you’ll learn how to reframe toxic thought patterns and reclaim your truth. Understand how to shed your victimhood, separate your worth from emotions and circumstances, and become the unapologetic chooser of the life you deserve.
Find Victim to Chooser Part 1 HERE
Listen to learn:
Thoughts that accompany the “reclaimer” and “chooser” stages

How to break free from the “victim” mindset

How the “chooser” beliefs can empower you in your choices and actions
Referenced in this episode:
Victim to Chooser Worksheet

Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group led by Morgan Ellsworth for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Register Now!
In-person Intensive: ⁠Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive for men led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on July 17-19, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping. First four weeks are free!
Believing in You - Learn how to work WITH your brain instead of against it by gaining tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy.
Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Dating From Within - Workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.
Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon
Amie Woolsey
Choose Recovery Services
48 min
May 14, 2024Victim to Chooser - Part 1
Do you feel stuck in the cycle of victimhood after betrayal, believing thoughts like, “I’ll never trust again” or “I’m not enough”? In this week’s episode, Amie walks us through the “Victim to Chooser” framework sharing the progressive stages she sees clients navigate towards healing and wholeness.
Listen in to see if you have thought patterns that are leaving you stuck in the first two stages, and be sure to tune in next week to learn more about the other two stages. Amie will help you feel seen, validated, and hopeful as you learn to move through the first two stages and onto the growth and healing found in the final two stages.
Listen to learn:
The four stages of healing from betrayal trauma

Disempowering thoughts that characterize the “victim” mentality

Mindset shifts that can occur as you move through the first two stages
Wanting another podcast to listen to?
Subscribe to Luke Gordon’s new podcast Beyond the Facade. Each week Luke will delve into topics such as authenticity, vulnerability, and integrity. Learn how to unmask your authentic self to deepen connections to yourself and others.
Register Now!
In-person Intensive: ⁠Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive for men led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on May 16-18, 2024 and also July 17-19, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping. First four weeks are free!
Believing in You - Learn how to work WITH your brain instead of against it by gaining tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy.
Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Dating From Within - Workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.
Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon
Amie Woolsey
Choose Recovery Services
38 min
May 07, 2024Will I Ever Heal? What Helps and What Hinders
Do you feel stuck wondering if you will ever heal from betrayal trauma? In this powerful episode Amie and Alana share their own experiences grappling with that exact question. They provide wisdom and practical tools for aiding your healing process whether you are just starting out or are further along the path.
You can and will heal - as you keep taking those crucial next steps.
Listen to learn:
How proper self-care can promote recovery

The importance of somatic/body-based healing work

How self-judgment and denial can hinder progress
Referenced in this episode:
REAL Self-Care: Burnout Is Not Your Fault & the Way Out with Dr. Pooja Lakshmin - episode on the We Can Do Hard Things Podcast

What Does “Get In Your Body” Mean?” - past episode about somatic healing

Two groups hosted by Morgan Ellsworth - Adult Children Uniting for Healing and Resilient Teens. These groups are for adult children and teens, respectively, to gain support as they navigate healing from parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage. Morgan has been there and is passionate about guiding others along their path to healing.

Should I Stay or Go? - Amie’s self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.
Wanting another podcast to listen to?
Subscribe to Luke Gordon’s new podcast Beyond the Facade. Each week Luke will delve into topics such as authenticity, vulnerability, and integrity. Learn how to unmask your authentic self to deepen connections to yourself and others.
Register Now!
In-person Intensive: ⁠Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive for men led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on May 16-18, 2024 and also July 17-19, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠.

⁠⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. New group beginning soon!
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!
Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it.
Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Choose Recovery Services
37 min
April 30, 2024"If He Would Just..." Why This Keeps You Both Stuck
Do you find yourself imagining all the ways things would be better “if he would just…”? If so, you’re not alone! In this episode Amie and Alana dive into this disempowering mindset and provide wisdom on shifting your thinking by focusing on what you can control. Gain clarity as they share candid examples and advice on how to take your next empowered steps regardless of the things your partner is or is not doing.
Listen to learn:
How to recognize when you’re stuck under the “if” umbrella

How to focus on personal responsibility

How to make clear requests in your relationship

How to reclaim your power
Exciting Resources Coming Soon!
Beyond the Facade Podcast - Subscribe to this new podcast by Luke Gordon. Learn more about authenticity and the struggle to be real. Subscribe now and watch for the first episode coming soon!

In-person Intensive: ⁠Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive for men led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on May 16-18, 2024 and also July 17-19, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠.

⁠⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. New group beginning soon!
Promo Code!
Resilient Teens is an ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage. Register by May 5, 2024 and receive $5 off weekly for the first month using code 5-OFF-TEENS. Register HERE.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience. Register by May 5, 2024 and receive $5 off weekly for the first month using code 5-OFF-ADULT-CHILDREN. Register HERE.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with trauma. First four weeks are free!
Believing in You - Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust and joy once again.
Healing Hearts - For couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy and integrity.
Help. Her. Heal - For men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - Betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.
Choose 180 for Men - Support group for men to gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery.
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.
Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.
Connect with us:
Alana Gordon
Amie Woolsey
Choose Recovery Services
31 min
April 23, 2024Stepping Into Authenticity - with Luke Gordon
We all wear masks at times, but hiding your true self is exhausting and inauthentic. In this week’s episode we welcome back Luke Gordon. Luke opens up about his personal battles with hiding behind false versions of himself. He describes how he was finally able to deepen relationships when he stepped into vulnerability, integrity, and authenticity.
Listen to learn:
What true authenticity is and isn’t

How authenticity is “earned and learned”

The reward in choosing short-term pain for long-term gains

How to reach sustainable growth and peace within yourself
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Connect with Luke Gordon and book a session with him HERE.
Exciting Resources Coming Soon!
Beyond the Facade Podcast - Subscribe to this new podcast by Luke Gordon. Learn more about authenticity and the struggle to be real with ourselves and others as you build meaningful relationships. Subscribe now and watch for the first episode in May!

In-person Intensive: Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity - This is a three-day live intensive for men led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held May 16-18, 2024 in Spanish Fork, UT. Learn more and register HERE.

⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. New group beginning soon!
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!
Believing in You - Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.
Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.
Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon
Amie Woolsey
Choose Recovery Services
23 min

About Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing

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Choose to Be is about healing, growth, and choosing recovery after betrayal trauma, sexual addiction, and infidelity. Hosts share insights on emotional healing, authentic relationships, and the journey of rebuilding trust. Learn tools for self-compassion, integrity, and trust-building as you heal from pain and reclaim hope, peace, and connection.