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February 06, 2024Attachment Theory - When It's Helpful and When It's Not
Do you crave deep connection but struggle to let partners in? Have you ever accused loved ones of being distant when they simply needed space? These behaviors could stem from your attachment style. Join Amie and Alana as they delve into attachment theory and how our attachment styles formed in childhood become blueprints for our relationships throughout our lives.
Listen to learn:
What the four styles of attachment are

Ways in which trauma and inconsistent parenting can breed anxiety

How your attachment style impacts the ways you show up in your relationships

How understanding your attachment style can help you connect deeper to those around you
Referenced in this episode:
The Attachment Project - Find out your attachment style

Believing in You - In this course Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn key principles, tools, and concepts that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again. Learn more HERE.
Coming Up!
Help.Her.Heal - This course helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills needed to begin healing a broken relationship. Two sessions will be beginning soon. Learn more about the course and register HERE.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.
Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn key principles, tools, and concepts that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Choose Recovery Services
32 min
January 30, 2024Can Trust Be Restored After Infidelity?
Trust is essential in healthy relationships, yet it is shattered by betrayal. Rebuilding that broken trust can feel impossible. In this episode, Alana tackles head-on the messy complexities around trust after betrayal. She offers insight into power imbalances, avoiding the dangerous “floating saint” trap, boundary setting, embracing imperfection, and more. With patience, help, and healing, you can learn to trust again.
Listen to learn:
How power differentials play into trust

How an understanding of betrayal violence can give you a framework for thinking about trust

What a “floating saint” is and how this can unintentionally create more mistrust

The role of authenticity when working to cultivate trust
Referenced in this episode:
Past episodes on trust: Trusting Yourself First and Building Trust in the Relationship

What is Betrayal Violence? - Past episode with Hope Ray from the Betrayal Violence Institute

“Are You On the Coaster?” - YouTube video from Dr. Jake Porter

Past episodes on boundaries: Beginning Boundaries Starting With Me, Boundaries and Why I Must Own My Reality, and Boundaries and Non-Negotiables
Coming Up!
Help.Her.Heal - This course helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills needed to begin healing a broken relationship. Two sessions will be beginning soon. Learn more about the course and register HERE.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.
Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn key principles, tools, and concepts that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Choose Recovery Services
27 min
January 23, 2024Are You Self-Rejecting?
If you’ve experienced betrayal in a relationship then you know what it’s like to feel rejected by your partner. But are you aware of ways you may be rejecting YOURSELF? In this episode, Amie sheds light on the topic of self-rejection. Learn what self-rejection is, how it shows up in our thoughts and actions, and what you can do to overcome this barrier to healing and connection.
Listen to learn:
How self-rejection may stem from childhood patterns

The many ways that self-rejection can manifest

How to use the three pillars of self-coaching to combat self-rejection

Why it’s important to shift your mindset to self-acceptance
Referenced in this episode:
Deconstructing Gaslighting Podcast with Sarah Morales

Believing in You - In this course Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn key principles, tools, and concepts that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again. Learn more HERE.
Intimacy Within Self Paced Course- Connecting back towards YOU after betrayal . One step at a time. Amie walks you through all 7 levels of intimacy and how to cultivate within yourself FIRST.
Coming Up!
Honoring Our Bodies Through Awareness and Nutrition - Join this FREE webinar hosted by Jori Pena to learn more about nutrition and how trauma affects the body. Gain insight on connecting to your body, nutrition, body scans, meditation, and more! Webinar will be on January 23, 2024. Register HERE.

Help.Her.Heal - This course helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills needed to begin healing a broken relationship. Two sessions will be beginning soon. Learn more about the course and register HERE.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Choose Recovery Services
26 min
January 16, 2024Unraveling Shame with Jess Kovic
Am I enough? Am I worthy of connection? Am I worthy of love? If you have found yourself asking these questions, then you will want to listen in as Amie and Alana and their guest, Jess Kovic, talk all about shame. Jess is a certified life coach, APSATS trainee, Brainspotting practitioner, and fellow team member at Choose Recovery Services. Jess helps us dive deep into the shame surrounding betrayal - how it shows up, why it sticks around, and most importantly, how you can shed it.
Listen to learn:
How to identify misplaced shame

How perfectionism and shame are connected

The distinction between keeping things private vs hiding

Tools to use as you work to leave shame behind
Referenced in this episode:
Connect with Jess Kovic at Choose Recovery Services or on Instagram @itsjesskovic
Coming Up!
Honoring Our Bodies Through Awareness and Nutrition - Join this FREE webinar hosted by Jori Pena to learn more about nutrition and how trauma affects the body. Gain insight on connecting to your body, nutrition, body scans, meditation, and more! Webinar will be on January 23, 2024. Register HERE.

Help.Her.Heal - This course helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills needed to begin healing a broken relationship. Two sessions will be beginning soon. Learn more about the course and register HERE.

Believing in You - In this course Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn key principles, tools, and concepts that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again. Learn more HERE.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Intimacy Within Self Paced Course - A Guide to learning how to connect back towards you through 7 levels of intimacy. Discover how to take up space, trust your instincts, honor your emotions, connect with your higher self, and gain a deeper understanding of yourself than ever before.
⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Choose Recovery Services
38 min
January 09, 2024Don't Dance With WALTER!
Although he’s always eager to take you for a twirl on the dance floor, Walter isn’t the dance partner you want. His toxic tango can cause you to constantly trip up in your relationships. So who is this Walter guy? WALTER is an acronym representing the unhealthy communication behaviors we often fall into despite our best intentions.
In this week’s episode, Amie and Alana share examples from their own lives of times they’ve danced with Walter, and they give you ideas of how you can ditch Walter for good and learn to relate to others in healthier ways.
Listen to learn:
What WALTER stands for

Examples of dancing with Walter to avoid

What the window of tolerance is

The benefits of staying in the window of tolerance

What to do when Walter keeps asking you to dance
Referenced in this episode:
Window of Tolerance PDF

Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman

Believing in You - In this course Amie teaches you how to work with your brain instead of against it. Learn key principles, tools, and concepts that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again. Learn more HERE.
Coming up!
Honoring Our Bodies Through Awareness and Nutrition - Join this FREE webinar hosted by Jori Pena to learn more about nutrition and how trauma affects the body. Gain insight on connecting to your body, nutrition, body scans, meditation, and more! Webinar will be on January 23, 2024. Register HERE.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Help. Her. Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills needed to begin healing a broken relationship.
⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey hosts this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Choose Recovery Services
39 min
January 02, 2024Why Does Betrayal Trauma Hurt So Bad?
Betrayal cuts deep, and that wound causes intense pain and heartache. In this episode, Alana talks about why betrayal is so traumatic. She walks us through the three main areas that betrayal attacks and outlines the six stages of healing. Listen to understand more about the strong emotions you may feel as you’re recovering from betrayal and how that’s a normal and expected part of healing.
Listen to learn:
Why betrayal is so traumatic

How betrayal trauma impacts your attachment, your emotions, and your intimacy

The results of experiencing “betrayal blindness”

The importance of healing individually and relationally

How to understand the six stages of healing and where you are in those stages
Referenced in this episode:
The Betrayal Bind - book by Michelle Mays

Diving Into Full Disclosures - past podcast episode

Polygraphs Better Understood - past podcast episode
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Help. Her. Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills needed to begin healing a broken relationship.
⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey hosts this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.
Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Choose Recovery Services
44 min
December 26, 2023Laughing With Us, At Us; Blooper Time!
Happy Holidays! Alana and I are so grateful to all you listeners and feel so blessed to hear from all of you and the support you feel from this podcast.
Many of you will write in and kindly assume that we have it all together, so today we thought we'd show you just how much we don't!
Head over to our YouTube channel to watch Alana and I listen to our blooper reel as well. We hope this gives you a much needed laugh in the middle of your hard.
We know you do hard things and know that you can continue to do hard things and we are here to support you along the way.
Keep CHOOSING YOU!
xo
Amie & Alana
Referenced in this episode:
Choose Recovery Services YouTube channel
Don’t Miss Out!
Help. Her. Heal for Men⁠⁠⁠ - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Next session starts January 8th. Register ⁠HERE⁠.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Help. Her. Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills needed to begin healing a broken relationship.
⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey hosts this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.
Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Choose Recovery Services
30 min
December 19, 20236 Practices Your Grief Needs From You; With Kim Brown
When you have experienced trauma or betrayal, grief and sadness feel like constant companions. Kim Brown, a grief educator, APSATS candidate, and certified betrayal trauma coach at Choose Recovery Services joins Amie and Alana this week to help us understand more about grief and its significance in our healing journey. If you find yourself constantly trying to ignore your grief or push it aside to deal with later, listen up to learn about what you can do to actually integrate grief into your life in healthy, healing ways.
Listen to learn:
The six things grief needs from you

How to live in grief while healing

The importance of feeling and expressing emotions as they arise

The things grief can teach you if you let it
Referenced in this episode:
Connect with Kim at Choose Recovery Services

Follow Kim on Instagram @kimbrown.coach

Find Kim in the grief.com directory
Intimacy Within Self Paced Course⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. This self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through all 7 levels of intimacy. As you practice the tools and skills offered you will not only gain awareness around what healthy looks like, but what healthy looks like for YOU! Come back towards you today.
Don’t Miss Out!
Help. Her. Heal for Men⁠⁠⁠ - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Next session starts January 8th. Register ⁠HERE⁠.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey hosts this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.
Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Choose Recovery Services
30 min
December 12, 2023When Doing More Means Doing Less
“I have to do it all! I have to BE it all!” If you often find yourself thinking these things, then this episode is for you! Amie and Alana share practical tips for finding balance amidst the seasonal chaos. If you feel overwhelmed and pressured to make the holidays (or any days!) picture-perfect, this episode will give you permission to do less of what doesn’t matter so you can do more of what does.
Listen to learn:
How to determine what traditions really matter this year

The perils of overscheduling

How to avoid the urge to give up and do nothing

How to embrace modifying or skipping traditions if necessary

The importance of seeking help without embarrassment if you need support
Referenced in this episode:
Intimacy Within Self Paced Course⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. This self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through all 7 levels of intimacy. As you practice the tools and skills offered you will not only gain awareness around what healthy looks like, but what healthy looks like for YOU! Come back towards you today.
Don’t Miss Out!
Help. Her. Heal for Men⁠⁠⁠ - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Next session starts January 8th. Register ⁠HERE⁠.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Help. Her. Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills needed to begin healing a broken relationship.
⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey hosts this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.
Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Choose Recovery Services
15 min
December 05, 2023Surviving the Holidays: Road to Recovery Webinar
The holidays can be a tricky time under the best of circumstances, but in the aftermath of a betrayal, they can feel impossible. This week’s episode offers a no-nonsense guide to surviving the holiday season. If you’re tempted to run and hide during these upcoming weeks, listen in on this Road to Recovery webinar as Alana and Luke throw you a lifeline. The tools they share can help you navigate through this season of triggers and turmoil and give you hope as you launch into the new year.
⁠Road to Recovery webinars⁠ are held on the last Sunday of each month and are FREE! Click ⁠HERE⁠ to register for the next webinar.
Listen to learn:
Ten practical tips to put into practice today to set you up for success

How to manage expectations vs. reality this holiday season

Tools for handling in-laws and family gatherings

Mindset shifts that can accelerate healing
Referenced in this episode:
YouTube video - ⁠Conversations: Enmeshment with Ken Adams⁠

⁠Love sculpture by Alexander Milov ⁠

Past podcast episodes - Four-part series on therapeutic separation - ⁠Part 1⁠; ⁠Part 2⁠; ⁠Part 3⁠; ⁠Part 4⁠

⁠Dr. Omar Minwalla’s work⁠ on the secret sexual basement
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⁠Help. Her. Heal for Men⁠⁠ - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Next session starts January 8th. Register HERE.
⁠⁠Intimacy Within Self-Paced Course⁠⁠⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. This self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through all 7 levels of intimacy. As you practice the skills offered, you will not only gain awareness around what healthy looks like, but what healthy looks like for YOU! Come back towards you today.
⁠Choose Healing⁠ - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma. Free for the first 6 weeks.
⁠Healing Hearts⁠ - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
⁠⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠⁠ - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
⁠Choose 90 for Men⁠ - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step toward recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and behaviors.
⁠Choose 180 for Men⁠ - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠Choose 360 for Men⁠ - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
⁠Choosing to Stay Webinar⁠ - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠Should I Stay or Should I Go?⁠ - Amie Woolsey hosts this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.
⁠Empowered Divorce Q&A⁠ - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Connect with us on Social Media:
⁠Alana Gordon⁠ - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
⁠Amie Woolsey⁠ - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
⁠Choose Recovery Services⁠
54 min

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Choose to Be is about healing, growth, and choosing recovery after betrayal trauma, sexual addiction, and infidelity. Hosts share insights on emotional healing, authentic relationships, and the journey of rebuilding trust. Learn tools for self-compassion, integrity, and trust-building as you heal from pain and reclaim hope, peace, and connection.