.What would you guess is the #1 thing people want help with when they go to see a therapist or a coach? Here’s a hint…whether you’re dealing with betrayal, trauma, or just simple disruptions in a relationship growing apart, all these roads lead to a need for better communication. 

We are hard-wired for connection, and a core part of connection is communication. Join Alana on this episode for the first step to better communication in your relationship – learning the difference between communicating in a way that is passive, aggressive, passive aggressive, and assertive. 

A few topics covered on this episode include:

Don't miss these new groups by Choose Recovery Services:

❤️‍🩹 Choose Recovery for Couples - A comprehensive support group for couples to get the support they need to work through the pain of infidelity and betrayal and begin rebuilding their relationship. Taught by Luke and Alana Gordon. Learn more.

👩 Choose Betrayal Trauma Healing for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there with this accessible group that is free for the first 12 weeks. Learn more.

🧑 Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from addiction, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. Learn more.

💕 YSA Healthy Dating & Empowerment Course - For young, single women who are navigating the dating scene, Amie Woolsey from Choose Recovery Services educates and empowers women with the knowledge to understand boundaries, self-care, red flags, 7 levels of intimacy, and so much more! Learn more.

💪 Believing in You - Program to help you work with your brain rather than against it with Amie Woolsey. You’ll learn tools and concepts to gain a better awareness of your thoughts and emotions and how to gently push back on automatic thoughts. Learn more.

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🎙️ We’re closing out the last episode of a 3-part series on the topic of adult children of sex addicts featuring Dr. Kenneth M. Adams Ph.D., CSAT-S, and author of the new book, A Light in the Dark: The Hidden Legacy of Adult Children of Sex Addicts.

This week, we respond to listener questions such as:

Amie and Alana are excited about the questions this book has brought up for you, and they encourage you to keep asking questions as you heal. Your path to healing will be filled with pain and fear, but as you do this difficult work, there is healing, beauty, strength, and post-traumatic growth to be found along the way.

Amie and Alana referenced Vicki Tidwell Palmer’s Bill of Rights in this episode. You can find the full list here.

Don’t miss these new groups offered by Choose Recovery Services:

❤️‍🩹 Choose Recovery for Couples - A comprehensive support group for couples to get the support they need to work through the pain of infidelity and betrayal and begin rebuilding their relationship. Taught by Luke and Alana Gordon. Learn more.

👩 Choose Betrayal Trauma Healing for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there with this accessible group that is free for the first 12 weeks. Learn more.

🧑 Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from addiction, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. Learn more.

💕 YSA Healthy Dating & Empowerment Course - For young, single women who are navigating the dating scene, Amie Woolsey from Choose Recovery Services educates and empowers women with the knowledge to understand boundaries, self-care, red flags, 7 levels of intimacy, and so much more! Learn more.

💪 Believing in You - Program to helps you work with your brain rather than against it with Amie Woolsey. You’ll learn tools and concepts to gain a better awareness of your thoughts and emotions and how to gently push back on automatic thoughts. Learn more.

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Join the conversation today as Amie and Alana interview Dr. Kenneth M Adams, Ph.D., CSAT-S and author of the new book, Alight in the dark, The hidden legacy of adult children of sex addicts co authored with Mary E Meyer, Ph.D., LMFT, and Culle L Vande Garde, LCSW where they detail the unique issues experienced by adult children who grew up with a sexually addicted parent. 

We are thrilled to share this powerful conversation with you in hopes that as a child of a sexually addicted parent, you will find the pieces that you have been carrying and find hope and healing. We also hope that for those who are the addicted parent or betrayed parent, this book will help you to understand your children's experiences so you can be a source of healing for them as well. 

If this book brings up any questions or concerns in your personal journey please reach out to Alana, Amie or Luke. 

NEW Support Groups available starting in April. For more information or to register click HERE

Ready to take your healing to the next level? 

Choose Recovery for couples is for those who are ready to lean into the relationship and do that next level work. This comprehensive support group is designed to provide you and your partner with the tools and support you need to work through the pain and begin rebuild your relationship. Alana and Luke tag team teaching and support to guide you through the healing process and help you communicate effectively, regain trust, and begin to move forward.

Click HERE for more information and to see if you are ready.

Believing In You Coaching Program starts April 5th! This group is for women who are ready to take their individual healing up a notch. Learning to trust yourself, love yourself and believe that you can truly create the life you want. We do that by digging into more awareness and leaning into more acceptance so that you can experience the life in the way you choose. 

To find out more information on that or get your spot click HERE

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Join Amie and Alana today as the first part of a three part series around adult children of sex addicts. Todays episode preambles the much anticipated interview with Dr. Kenneth M Adams Ph.D., CSAT-S and author of the new book,  A light in the dark, The hidden legacy of adult children of sex addicts co authored with  Mary E. Meyer, Ph.D., LMFT, and Culle L. Vande Garde, LCSW  where they detail the unique issues experienced by adult children who grew up with a sexually addicted parent.

This book offers a path to unburden their shameful legacy and embrace sexuality and intimacy without the intrusion or constraints from the past.

Today Amie and Alana share thoughts to help prepare you for next weeks episode with Dr Adams and help those of you who are ready to gain more awareness and curiosity around this piece of your healing journey both for the addict, and the betrayed, and your children.

Mentioned in todays episode:

A list in the dark, The hidden legacy of adult children of sex addicts

NEW FREE WOMENS SUPPORT GROUPS with Choose Recovery Services starting in April. These are for those who are navigating their betrayal journey and staying in the marriage and those who are leaving the marriage or divorced.

For more information around these groups and to see if they are a right fit for you at this time Click HERE

Believing In YOU Membership or those who are ready to take their healing to the next level and practice tools that will help you move forward after betrayal, abuse and or around divorce. This new membership now comes with 2 free 2:2 sessions with Amie every 12 weeks and at least 20 hours of coaching every 12 week cycle. You will now have access to Marco Polo for coaching around stuck points in between sessions, Facebook support group, worksheets, recorded sessions and more. To see if you are ready for this group feel free to book a consultation with Amie or email Vanessa at [email protected]

Interested in the Mens support groups and addiction recovery groups? Get on the interest list and find out more information by emailing [email protected] 

The Body Love Course- to help you lean into the awareness of you body and become more at ease in it.

The Empowered Divorce Podcast- for those who are leaning towards divorce

Should I Stay Or Should I Go- for those who feel stuck in making the decision. This groups coaching session can help you gain clarity around your thoughts and help you make the decision that is most wise for you.

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Do you feel fear, shame, insecurity, or pressure when you think about your sexuality? Join Amie and Alana as they help you consider if you’re ready to lean back into your sexuality after betrayal, and why it’s okay to embrace your sexuality.

Tune into the episode to think about:

Resources mentioned in todays episode

Healthy Sexual Dimensions:

Nurturing: The capacity to receive care from others and provide care for self

Sensuality: Mindfulness of physical senses that creates emotions, intellectual, spiritual and physical presence

Self Image: A positive self-perception that includes embracing your sexual self

Self Definition: A clear knowledge of yourself, both positive and negative, and the ability to express boundaries as well as needs

Comfort: The capacity to be at ease about sexual matters with oneself and with others

Knowledge: A knowledge base about sex in general and about one's own unique sexual patterns

Relationship: A capacity to have intimacy and friendship with both same and opposite gender

Partnership: The ability to maintain an interdependent, equal relationship that is intimate and erotic

The Body Love Course- to help you lean into the awareness of you body and become more at ease in it.

The Empowered Divorce Podcast- for those who are leaning towards divorce

Should I Stay Or Should I Go- for those who feel stuck in making the decision. This groups coaching session can help you gain clarity around your thoughts and help you make the decision that is most wise for you.

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Valentine’s Day is meant to be a day for celebrating romance, but for those who have experienced betrayal, this day can serve as a reminder of what you’ve lost. We want to hold space today for the triggers, the pain, and the hard you may be feeling around this holiday.

Whether you’re in a relationship, divorced, or single, you may find yourself grieving the expectations that were never realized in your romantic relationships. But perhaps you can take a minute this week to think about how you might be able to create a new tradition of loving you.

On this episode, Amie and Alana share:

You get to decide on this day that celebrates love IF you want to celebrate love, and you get to decide how that looks.

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Have you seen yourself swing from a submissive role to a strong, independent perspective as you've begun the work of healing from betrayal trauma? Maybe you've found yourself feeling stuck and a little confused as you've tried to find the right balance of independence and interdependence? 

Think through some of these questions with Amie and Alana on this week's episode:

Get the answers to all of these questions and more this week on the Choose to Be Podcast!

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Join us this week as we tackle the topic of letting the old relationship die after infidelity, betrayal, cheating, or compulsive acting out. We have with us Luke Gordon, men's mental health coach. Together we dive into why its recommended to let the old relationship die, what the looks like in real life, and how to move forward as a couple. 

New Courses:

Transforming Your Triggers -  A 6 week course taught by Hali Roderick about dealing with triggers from Betrayal Trauma

Next session starts March 13th, Mondays at 10am PT

Choosing to Stay | Choose Recovery Services - Are you choosing to stay, but still find yourself struggling to find your individual worth and identity?  12 weeks of coaching in a small group setting (3-4 women or 3-4 men) where you will have the opportunity to receive individual support as well as connect with a few other women (or men) who are going through similar experiences.  Starts March 13th

Ongoing Groups and Classes:

Road to Recovery - Join Luke and Alana Gordon, Founders of Choose Recovery Services and Director of The Worth Group for a free monthly couples webinar. Navigating the relational aspects on the road to recovery can be complex and confusing.

Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - Free, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags that might be showing up in your relationship.

Choose 180 Male Support Group - Led by Luke Gordon

In 180 we help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with other men, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deep self respect.

Did you miss the FREE BODY LOVE class? no worries you can get the recording HERE

Upcoming Events:

Believing In You- Group Coaching Program -Led by Amie Woolsey

Take your healing to the NEXT LEVEL in Amie's group coaching program where you will gain more awareness that will help you heal in ways you didn't even know you needed. For more information on what this class entails click the link to find out more.

Should I Stay or Should I Go - Held on the FIRST THURSDAY of every month. Come join this FREE group coaching with Amie for those who are feeling stuck in making a decision around their marriage. Come and get coached in a safe space to help you shift through not so helpful thoughts that are keeping you stuck

**Follow Amie and Alana on social media for daily content and messages of healing and recovery.

Do you feel yourself leaning towards divorce? Head over to The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey to get support.

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It's a great question. Why are you doing the work right now and being aware of that why, will help you more than you perhaps realize. Today we discuss the fears, the concerns and the rewards of continuing on in the journey of healing for both the betrayed and the betrayer. 

Ongoing Courses:

Road to Recovery - Join Luke and Alana Gordon, Founders of Choose Recovery Services and Program Directors for the Men of Moroni and The Worth Group for a free monthly couples webinar. Navigating the relational aspects on the road to recovery can be complex and confusing.

Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - Free, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags that might be showing up in your relationship.

Choose 180 Male Support Group - Led by Luke Gordon

In 180 we help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with other men, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deep self respect.

Did you miss the FREE BODY LOVE class? no worries you can get the recording HERE

Upcoming Events:

Transforming Your Triggers- Led by coach Hallie Roderick

Believing In You- Group Coaching Program - GET YOUR SPOT FOR NEXT ROUND

Take your healing to the NEXT LEVEL in Amie's group coaching program where you will gain more awareness that will help you heal in ways you didn't even know you needed. For more information on what this class entails click the link to find out more.

Should I Stay or Should I Go - Held on the FIRST THURSDAY of every month. Come join this FREE group coaching with Amie for those who are feeling stuck in making a decision around their marriage. Come and get coached in a safe space to help you shift through not so helpful thoughts that are keeping you stuck

**Follow Amie and Alana on social media for daily content and messages of healing and recovery.

Do you feel yourself leaning towards divorce? Head over to The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey to get support.

We are thrilled to have joining us in todays conversation Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT

He is one of the leaders in the field of addiction and betrayal, host of the podcast, From Crisis To Connection, Geoff joins our conversation today to discuss an important topic, sexual consent. Most importantly, sexual consent in marriage. 

This is a powerful episode for both the betrayed and the betrayer to understand, and gain more awareness around. If you feel there is further work to do around this topic personally, please reach out to one of our trained coaches and seek help. You have a right to a healthy sexual experience. 

To learn more about Geoff check out his website HERE

Ongoing Courses:

Road to Recovery - Join Luke and Alana Gordon, Founders of Choose Recovery Services and Program Directors for The Worth Group for a free monthly couples webinar. Navigating the relational aspects on the road to recovery can be complex and confusing.

Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - Free, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags that might be showing up in your relationship.

Choose 180 Male Support Group - Led by Luke Gordon

In 180 we help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with other men, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deep self respect.

Did you miss the FREE BODY LOVE class? no worries you can get the recording HERE

Upcoming Events:

Transforming Your Triggers- Led by coach Hallie Roderick

Believing In You- Group Coaching Program - GET YOUR SPOT FOR NEXT ROUND

Take your healing to the NEXT LEVEL in Amie's group coaching program where you will gain more awareness that will help you heal in ways you didn't even know you needed. For more information on what this class entails click the link to find out more.

Should I Stay or Should I Go - Held on the FIRST THURSDAY of every month. Come join this FREE group coaching with Amie for those who are feeling stuck in making a decision around their marriage. Come and get coached in a safe space to help you shift through not so helpful thoughts that are keeping you stuck

**Follow Amie and Alana on social media for daily content and messages of healing and recovery.

Do you feel yourself leaning towards divorce? Head over to The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey to get support.