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August 27, 2024Betrayal Trauma Myths Part 2
Join us for part two of our series on debunking trauma recovery myths. In this episode, Amie and Alana tackle MORE common myths that can hinder healing such as "if the addict stops acting out, the betrayed partner will automatically get better," "separation always leads to divorce," and "boundaries shame the acting out partner." They provide insightful explanations for why these beliefs are inaccurate and offer healthier perspectives to support genuine healing and recovery.
Find part 1 HERE.
Listen to learn:
Why sobriety doesn’t equal recovery

Why stopping the behavior doesn’t automatically heal the betrayed partner

The benefits of separation

Why early couples counseling isn’t always the best first step
Referenced in this episode:
Separation - A Pathway to Healing - Past podcast episode with Amie and Luke Gordon

Choose Renewal - Support group for women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it’s a recurring challenge or a one-time incident. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.
Watch us on YouTube.
Coming Up!
Dating From Within - This three-day workshop hosted by Amie teaches you how to date yourself FIRST. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again, what a healthy relationship looks like, tips and tricks to dating, and more! The next workshop will be August 29-31, 2024. Learn more and register HERE.

Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive led by Alana and Luke Gordon designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Sept 18th-20th, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it.

Healing Hearts - Self-paced, 15-week course for individuals and couples to complete at their own pace. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.

Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.

⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community.

Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.

Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first.

Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon
Amie Woolsey
Choose Recovery Services
56 min
August 20, 2024Betrayal Trauma Myths Part 1
In the world of betrayal trauma, sometimes it can be hard to distinguish fact from fiction. In this week’s episode, Amie and Alana strive to do just that. They debunk common misconceptions about forgiveness, trust, moving on, and the roles of both partners in recovery.
Tune in to hear valuable insights that challenge your beliefs and guide you in navigating the complex landscape of betrayal trauma with greater confidence and understanding.
Watch us on YouTube.
Listen to learn:
What myths you may believe that are keeping you stuck

Why moving on isn’t as simple as just deciding to do so

Common myths around sexual activity after betrayal

What forgiveness means when there has been infidelity
Referenced in this episode:
Does He Even Think of Me? - past podcast episode on compartmentalization

Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!
Coming Up!
Dating From Within - This three-day workshop hosted by Amie teaches you how to date yourself FIRST. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again, what a healthy relationship looks like, tips and tricks to dating, and more! The next workshop will be August 29-31, 2024. Learn more and register HERE.

Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive led by Alana and Luke Gordon designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Sept 18th-20th, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.
Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.

Healing Hearts - Self-paced, 15-week course for individuals and couples to complete at their own pace. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.

Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.

⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed.

Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.

Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors.

Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it’s a recurring challenge or a one-time incident. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.

Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.

Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon
Amie Woolsey
Choose Recovery Services
37 min
August 13, 2024The Power of Healthy Self-Talk
Are you struggling with negative self-talk after experiencing betrayal? You are not alone! This week Amie and Alana explore the importance of healthy self-talk in your healing journey.
Join them as they share personal experiences and practical strategies for recognizing negative thought patterns and replacing them with empowering beliefs that will help you cultivate a kinder, more positive inner dialogue.
Listen to learn:
Why healthy self-talk is foundational to healing

Where negative self-talk stems from

Common disempowering thoughts you may have

How to rewire your brain to embrace positive self-talk
Referenced in this episode:
Intimacy Within ⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy to help you learn what healthy looks like.
Watch us on YouTube.
Coming Up!
Revive and Thrive: Betrayal Trauma Intensive for Women - This four-day retreat offers a sanctuary for those healing from betrayal trauma, combining expert-led classes, somatic practices, and supportive community connections. Immerse yourself in powerful healing modalities including brainspotting, breathwork, mindfulness, meditations, and so much more all designed to nurture your mind, body, and spirit. Learn to reconnect with your body, process your trauma, and build resilience. Join us August 21-24, 2024 in Spanish Fork, Utah.

Dating From Within - This three-day workshop hosted by Amie teaches you how to date yourself FIRST. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again, what a healthy relationship looks like, tips and tricks to dating, and more! The next workshop will be August 29-31, 2024.

Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠ - Three-day live intensive led by Alana and Luke Gordon designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Sept 18th-20th, 2024.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it.

Healing Hearts - NEW self-paced, 15-week course for individuals and couples to complete at their own pace. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.

Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.

⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed.

Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.

Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors.

Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it’s a recurring challenge or a one-time incident.

Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon
Amie Woolsey
Choose Recovery Services
34 min
August 06, 2024Acceptance When They Aren't Doing the Work to Heal
In the aftermath of betrayal, some partners commit to the hard work of healing and change, while others fall short. This episode speaks directly to those grappling with the realization that their partner isn’t doing the necessary work.
Amie and Alana explore the stages of grief that often accompany this reality, and they offer practical advice on moving through grief toward awareness, acceptance, and agency.
Listen to learn:
What mindsets will keep you stuck when your partner isn’t doing the work

The role grief plays in this process

How to focus on what you can control

Tools for moving from grief to acceptance
Referenced in this episode:
Past podcast episodes: Victim to Chooser Part 1 & Part 2
Watch us on YouTube
Coming Up!
Revive and Thrive: Betrayal Trauma Intensive for Women - This four-day retreat offers a sanctuary for those healing from betrayal trauma, combining expert-led classes, somatic practices, and supportive community connections. Immerse yourself in powerful healing modalities including brainspotting, breathwork, mindfulness, meditations, and so much more all designed to nurture your mind, body, and spirit. Learn to reconnect with your body, process your trauma, and build resilience. Join us August 21-24, 2024 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Register HERE.

Dating From Within - This three-day workshop hosted by Amie teaches you how to date yourself FIRST. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again, what a healthy relationship looks like, tips and tricks to dating, and more! The next workshop will be August 29-31, 2024.

Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive led by Alana and Luke Gordon designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Sept 18th-20th, 2024.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.

Healing Hearts - NEW self-paced, 15-week course for individuals and couples to complete at their own pace. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.

Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.

⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed.

Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.

Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors.

Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it’s a recurring challenge or a one-time incident.

Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon
Amie Woolsey
Choose Recovery Services
35 min
July 30, 2024What Does "Consistency Over Time" Mean?
It’s hard to know what you can expect from your partner when trying to repair a relationship that has been affected by betrayal. However, one thing you CAN look for is consistency over time. But what does that really mean?
This week Amie and Alana explore the topic of consistency over time and give you six main areas where you can watch for that consistency as you and your partner work to rebuild trust and safety in the relationship once again.
Listen to learn:
What the six elements are where you can expect to see your partner making consistent efforts over time

How to listen to your body during this process

The essential role professional help plays for both partners
Watch us on YouTube!
Coming Up!
Revive and Thrive: Betrayal Trauma Intensive for Women - This four-day retreat offers a sanctuary for those healing from betrayal trauma, combining expert-led classes, somatic practices, and supportive community connections. Immerse yourself in powerful healing modalities including brainspotting, breathwork, mindfulness, meditations, and so much more all designed to nurture your mind, body, and spirit. Learn to reconnect with your body, process your trauma, and build resilience. Join us August 21-24, 2024 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Register HERE.

Dating From Within - This three-day workshop hosted by Amie teaches you how to date yourself FIRST. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again, what a healthy relationship looks like, tips and tricks to dating, and more! The next workshop will be August 29-31, 2024. Learn more and register HERE.

⁠Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠ - This is a three-day in-person intensive led by Alana and Luke Gordon designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Sept 18th-20th, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!
Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it.
Healing Hearts - NEW 15-week course for individuals and couples to complete at their own pace. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors.
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it’s a recurring challenge or a one-time incident.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon
Amie Woolsey
Choose Recovery Services
41 min
July 23, 2024Trusting Too Soon?
Are you struggling with trusting your partner after betrayal? This week Amie and Alana discuss where to even begin when it comes to trusting again. They give valuable insight on recognizing patterns, establishing safety, and taking wise steps toward healing.
If you find yourself trusting too soon or wondering why it’s taking so long for you to trust again, this episode is for you.
Listen to learn:
Why trusting too early can be harmful

The importance of rebuilding self-trust

Understanding how the abuse cycle relates to trust

The concept of “consistency over time”

How to take the next wise step
Referenced in this episode:
The Betrayal Bind by Michelle Mays

Worthy of Her Trust by Arterburn and Martinkus
Coming Up!
Revive and Thrive: Betrayal Trauma Intensive for Women - This four-day retreat offers a sanctuary for those healing from betrayal trauma, combining expert-led classes, somatic practices, and supportive community connections. Immerse yourself in powerful healing modalities including brainspotting, breathwork, mindfulness, meditations, and so much more all designed to nurture your mind, body, and spirit. Learn to reconnect with your body, process your trauma, and build resilience. Join us August 21-24, 2024 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Register HERE.

Dating From Within - This three-day workshop hosted by Amie teaches you how to date yourself FIRST. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again, what a healthy relationship looks like, tips and tricks to dating, and more! The next workshop will be August 29-31, 2024. Learn more and register HERE.

In-person Intensive: ⁠Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive led by Alana and Luke Gordon designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Sept 18th-20th, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!
Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it.
Healing Hearts - NEW 15-week course for individuals and couples to complete at their own pace. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors.
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it’s a recurring challenge or a one-time incident.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon
Amie Woolsey
Choose Recovery Services
37 min
July 16, 2024Trauma on the Brain and Body - With Jody VanDrimmelen
When we experience trauma, our brains and bodies react in complex and automatic ways designed to protect us. In this episode, we revisit a conversation we had in 2022 with Jody VanDrimmelen, a licensed clinical social worker. Jody breaks down the science behind trauma responses and offers practical strategies for healing.
Learn how to listen to and appreciate your brain and body’s unique responses to trauma and how your recovery can lead to resilience and personal transformation.
Listen to learn:
The trauma responses you may experience (including two new ones!)

Top-down vs. bottom-up healing strategies

Practical techniques for managing triggers

The beauty of resilience and post-traumatic growth
Referenced in this episode:
Learn more about Jody here.
Coming Up!
Revive and Thrive: Betrayal Trauma Intensive for Women - This four-day retreat offers a sanctuary for those healing from betrayal trauma, combining expert-led classes, somatic practices, and supportive community connections. Immerse yourself in powerful healing modalities including brainspotting, breathwork, mindfulness, meditations, and so much more all designed to nurture your mind, body, and spirit. Learn to reconnect with your body, process your trauma, and build resilience. Join us August 21-24, 2024 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Register HERE.

Dating From Within - This three-day workshop hosted by Amie teaches you how to date yourself FIRST. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again, what a healthy relationship looks like, tips and tricks to dating, and more! The next workshop will be August 29-31, 2024. Learn more and register HERE.

In-person Intensive: ⁠Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive led by Alana and Luke Gordon designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Sept 18th-20th, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping. First four weeks are free!
Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it.
Healing Hearts - Group for couples seeking healing after betrayal. We have a NEW self-paced, 15-week course for individuals and couples emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Find more info about the self-paced course here.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it’s a recurring challenge or a one-time incident.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.
Connect with us:
Alana Gordon
Amie Woolsey
Choose Recovery Services
35 min
July 09, 2024First Steps to Healing When Your World Shatters
Are you reeling from the discovery of your partner’s betrayal? This episode offers a lifeline for those newly facing the storm of infidelity. Join Alana as she explores common emotional reactions, debunks self-blame myths, and offers practical advice on stabilization and self-care.
Whether you’re experiencing betrayal or supporting someone who is, this episode provides valuable insights and compassionate guidance for the challenging road ahead.
Listen to learn:
Common emotional reactions to betrayal

Why self-blame is misplaced

The importance of stabilization and self-care

The value of finding proper support
Referenced in this episode:
Diving Into Disclosures - past podcast episode
Coming Up!
Revive and Thrive: Betrayal Trauma Intensive for Women - This four-day retreat offers a sanctuary for those healing from betrayal trauma, combining expert-led classes, somatic practices, and supportive community connections. Immerse yourself in powerful healing modalities including brainspotting, breathwork, mindfulness, meditations, and so much more all designed to nurture your mind, body, and spirit. Learn to reconnect with your body, process your trauma, and build resilience. Join us August 21-24, 2024 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Register HERE.

In-person Intensive: ⁠Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Sept 18th-20th, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!
Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.
Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. We also have a NEW self-paced, 15-week course for individuals and couples to complete at their own pace. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Find more info about the self-paced course here.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors.
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it’s a recurring challenge or a one-time incident.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first.
Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon
Amie Woolsey
Choose Recovery Services
33 min
July 05, 2024 BONUS: Join Us At Our Revive and Thrive Women's Intensive!
Are you seeking solace, healing, and transformation from betrayal trauma in ways you’ve never felt before? If so, join us August 21-24, 2024 in Spanish Fork, Utah at our Revive and Thrive Intensive.
This four-day retreat offers a sanctuary for those healing from betrayal trauma, combining expert-led classes, somatic practices, and supportive community connections. Immerse yourself in powerful healing modalities including brainspotting, breathwork, mindfulness, meditations, and so much more all designed to nurture your mind, body, and spirit.
This intensive is for women in any stage of their healing journey who are seeking a holistic, nurturing environment to heal through somatic interventions and experiential activities. Learn to reconnect with your body, process your trauma, and build resilience.
Join us for this life-changing experience and leave feeling rejuvenated, empowered, and equipped with tools for continued growth and healing.
Learn more and register HERE.
4 min
July 02, 2024Tips for Healing After Betrayal - With Laura Fisher
Lace up those dancing shoes because there’s a new acronym in town - SHAWN B! In a past episode we talked all about NOT dancing with Walter. In this week’s episode we introduce you to the partner you SHOULD dance with - SHAWN B.
Join Alana and our guest, Laura Fisher (a fellow Choose Recovery Services coach), as they talk about the betrayed experience and give you a helpful framework for navigating relational challenges. Discover how this acronym can give you practical tools to use as you navigate your healing journey.
Listen to learn:
The limitations of the “Don’t Dance with WALTER” approach

How SHAWN B can empower you to act when you may feel frozen

Techniques for widening your window of tolerance

Why actions matter more than words in recovery
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Learn more about Laura and schedule a consultation

Don’t Dance With WALTER - past podcast episode

Deconstructing Gaslighting - past podcast episode

Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it’s a recurring challenge or a one-time incident. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.
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In-person Intensive: ⁠Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive for men led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Sept 18th-20th, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!
Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.
Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.
Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.
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Choose Recovery Services
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Choose to Be is about healing, growth, and choosing recovery after betrayal trauma, sexual addiction, and infidelity. Hosts share insights on emotional healing, authentic relationships, and the journey of rebuilding trust. Learn tools for self-compassion, integrity, and trust-building as you heal from pain and reclaim hope, peace, and connection.