【聊了什么 The What】

本期是福娃唠嗑第二期，从药师照顾父母的经历中，我们反思了照顾和权力，被低估的照顾工作，照顾他人之前要先照顾自己。本期含有死亡提及。

我们最近也在探索更多与听众互动的形式！大家如果有什么想听我们聊的话题、想问的问题、想分享的事情，都欢迎你在我们的社交媒体账号或播客平台留言！

In this episode, we discuss the often-overlooked labor of caregiving and explore the importance of prioritizing self-care before tending to others. Trigger warning: This episode contains mentions of suicide and death.

We’ve also been exploring more ways to engage with our listeners! If there’s a topic you’d like us to discuss, a question you’d like to ask, or something you’d like to share, feel free to leave us a comment on our social media accounts or podcast platforms!

【时间轴 The When】

05:08 在东亚家庭里身体的知情权属于谁

08:33 五年没见的妈妈，见面就给我安排工作，替我回避情绪

15:57 从被父母照顾到照顾父母的角色转变

17:15 提供照顾的人是权力更大的一方（吗）

18:30 孩子不应该是投资品，而是耐用消费品

21:30 孩子是一种订阅服务

26:10 有需要照顾的人，是我们和死亡之间的一个屏障

31:33 作为照顾者的崩溃，失去自我、失去名字

38:03 最累的是待机

38:28 我们总是低估照顾别人是一份全职工作

41:25 给妈妈上课，照顾他人之前要先照顾自己

44:36 照顾自己没有标准答案

05:08 Who have rights to know one’s diagnosis in an Asian family

08:33 My mom avoids emotions and acts like my boss

15:57 Transitioning from being cared for to caregiving

17:15 Does caregiving imply greater power?

18:30 Children aren’t investments but durable goods

21:30 Children are like a subscription service

26:10 Caregivers shield us from death

31:33 The caregiver’s collapse: losing self and identity

38:03 The hardest part is being on standby

38:28 Caregiving is a full-time job, often underestimated

41:25 Teaching my mom: self-care comes first

44:36 There’s no single answer to self-care

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【我们是谁】

大波福娃是一档出梗下饭的女子脱口秀节目，这里聚集了一群在海外生活的女权主义者，我们通过嬉笑怒骂的方式观察世界，调侃父权。我们希望通过播客的形式鼓励更多的酷儿、女性讲述自己的故事，用笑声对抗禁忌，用幽默消解规训。

Dat Beauvoir is a podcast centered around female and queer joy. Our mission is to challenge outdated stereotypes about feminists and feminism through thoughtful and lighthearted conversations. We hope to empower our listeners to share their stories, own their truth, and channel their rage at the patriarchy into something they can laugh about.

Hosted by 小苕, 药师 and 蕨菜—members of the Chinese diaspora living abroad—we bring fresh perspectives and unapologetic laughs to every episode. While we don’t take ourselves too seriously, we’re fully committed to delivering stories that're bold, thoughtful, and refreshingly disruptive.

本期我们的主播和嘉宾：

小苕 (it/its)：一颗泛薯类，最近的自我认同是夜市上的旋风大土豆

蕨菜 (it/its)：长白山区野生蕨菜，喜生于浅山区向阳地

药师（they/them)：精通家庭妙招一千例，身手灵活，可以倒立和劈叉，目前热衷的事业是研发广东北菜。

Our hosts and guests:

Shao (it/its): A potato with Chinese characteristics. Can’t be fried or smashed.

Fern (it/its): A baby fern, grows along rivers or in mountains.

Huang Yaoshi (they/them): The Eastern Heretic who aims to be self-sufficient in everything.

本期节目由Yaoshi制作，Hazel进行音频编辑。Ruby 设计封面，跑跑制作音乐。

This episode was produced by Yaoshi, edited by Hazel. Logo design by Ruby. Music produced by Runrun.

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【聊了什么 The What】

本期我们尝试了新的节目形式，由身边话题聊起，从回国的反向文化冲击聊到美国大选后心灵的灾后重建，从教父母如何表达爱聊到回归到自然里摘菜摘果子。依然是两个东北银和一个南方薯仔，东北笑点满满的一期！

我们最近也在探索更多与听众互动的形式！大家如果有什么想听我们聊的话题、想问的问题、想分享的事情，都欢迎你在我们的社交媒体账号或播客平台留言！

In this episode, we are experimenting with a new format, chatting freestyle about topics from our daily lives: from the reverse culture shock of returning home to the ways of recovery after the U.S. election; from teaching parents about love language to reconnecting with nature. As always, it’s two Dongbei homies and a Southern potato—this time with plenty of Dongbei jokes!

We’ve also been exploring more ways to engage with our listeners! If there’s a topic you’d like us to discuss, a question you’d like to ask, or something you’d like to share, feel free to leave us a comment on our social media accounts or podcast platforms!

【时间轴 The When】

【关注我们 Our Socials】

大波福娃 Dat Beauvoir Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dat.beauvoir.pod

【我们是谁】

大波福娃是一档出梗下饭的女子脱口秀节目，这里聚集了一群在海外生活的女权主义者，我们通过嬉笑怒骂的方式观察世界，调侃父权。我们希望通过播客的形式鼓励更多的酷儿、女性讲述自己的故事，用笑声对抗禁忌，用幽默消解规训。

Dat Beauvoir is a podcast centered around female and queer joy. Our mission is to challenge outdated stereotypes about feminists and feminism through thoughtful and lighthearted conversations. We hope to empower our listeners to share their stories, own their truth, and channel their rage at the patriarchy into something they can laugh about.

Hosted by 小苕, 药师 and 蕨菜—members of the Chinese diaspora living abroad—we bring fresh perspectives and unapologetic laughs to every episode. While we don’t take ourselves too seriously, we’re fully committed to delivering stories that're bold, thoughtful, and refreshingly disruptive.

本期我们的主播和嘉宾：

Our hosts and guests:

本期节目由药师制作，Hazel进行音频编辑。Ruby 设计封面，跑跑制作音乐。

This episode was produced by Yaoshi, edited by Hazel. Logo design by Ruby. Music produced by Runrun.

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【聊了什么The What】

While the Paris Olympics was three months ago, do you still remember the female boxers Imane Khelif and Lin Yu-Ting, who were caught up in a gender controversy at the time? In this episode, we’ve invited two friends who have conducted in-depth research on this incident and have personal insights to share. Together, we’ll discuss the challenges faced by women and LGBTQ people in competitive sports throughout history and envision a more gender-inclusive environment for sports.

【时间轴 The When】

【拓展链接 The Links】

【我们是谁】

Who We Are

We want to create a safe space, encouraging more conversations led by women and LGBTQ+ communities, shedding light on the right path for the universe's future with laughter and satire!

本期我们的主播和嘉宾：

Our hosts and guests:

Shao (it/its): A potato with Chinese characteristics. Can’t be fried or smashed.

本期节目由小苕制作，Klynn 进行音频编辑。Ruby 设计封面，跑跑制作音乐。

This episode was produced by Shao, edited by Klynn. Logo design by Ruby. Music produced by Runrun.

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【聊了什么 The What】

To cut or not to cut, to shave or not to shave, that is the question. In this episode, we will give it a ‘head’ start to talk about all types of hair: colorful jungles, wild bushes, fancy gardens, the vast Hulunbuir grasslands, and the Sahara desert. We discuss the various landscapes and distribution of vegetation on our bodies. As we have interanlized certain beauty standards for body hair, how do we find comfort in coexisting with our hair?

【时间轴 The When】

【拓展链接 The Links】

【我们是谁】

Who We Are

We want to create a safe space, encouraging more conversations led by women and LGBTQ+ communities, shedding light on the right path for the universe's future with laughter and satire!

本期我们的主播和嘉宾：

Our hosts and guests:

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【聊了什么The What】

In less than two years since ChatGPT's release at the end of 2022, many artificial intelligences—whether it is language models, software, or productivity tools—have become integral parts of the lives and work of many people. In this issue, we invite two friends from the field of artificial intelligence and language models to use ChatGPT as a starting point to chat about the intimate and complex relationship between each of us and artificial intelligence from dimensions such as emotions, mysticism, ethics, power, and more.

【时间轴 The When】

【拓展链接 The Links】

【我们是谁】

“Dat Beauvoir” is a Chinese feminist comedy podcast. We aim to combat taboos with laughter and dissolve patriarchal norms with humor. Here gathers a group of diasporic feminists residing overseas. Together we observe the world, mocking male supremacy through playful banter.

We want to create a safe space, encouraging more conversations led by women and LGBTQ+ communities, shedding light on the right path for the universe's future with laughter and satire!

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Our hosts and guests:

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【聊了什么The What】

***本期节目会聊到电影当中与自我伤害相关的情节，也涉及抑郁症和进食障碍等个人经历的讲述，请大家关照自己的情绪状态并选择是否继续收听

Recently, director Jia Ling's film YOLO sparked plenty of discussions on Chinese social media, with both sides holding strong opinions. Two of our plus-size hosts and two plus-size guests come together to look at this film through the lenses of our own body and stories. This is a plus-size episode about love and desire, rage and peace, pain and self-healing of plus-size girls. Please remember to bring your belly, double chin, and flabby arms while you listen!

***This episode will discuss scenes in the movie related to self-harm, as well as personal stories related to depression and eating disorders. Please decide whether to continue listening with care for yourself.

【时间轴 The When】

【拓展链接 The Links】

【我们是谁】

Who We Are

We want to create a safe space, encouraging more conversations led by women and LGBTQ+ communities, shedding light on the right path for the universe's future with laughter and satire!

本期我们的主播和嘉宾：

Our hosts and guests:

本期节目由小苕制作，Hazel Tang进行音频编辑。Ruby 设计封面，跑跑制作音乐。

This episode was produced by Shao, edited by Hazel Tang. Logo design by Ruby. Music produced by Runrun.

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【聊了什么】

Growing up as a lesbian in China - what's that like? In this episode, we've invited three Chinese lesbians, each from a different age group, sporting diverse looks, and boasting unique love stories. Sure, the world is full of stereotypes, and Chinese lesbians living abroad are no exception. But hey, we've got the knack for turning the mundane into magic. From navigating parental visits while cohabiting with our girlfriends to expert tips on choosing mattresses, and standing up against homophobia even in our Christian high school circles – we're all about smashing stereotypes, promoting feminism, and fostering unity in diversity. Nothing can faze the fearless Chinese lesbians!

【时间轴】

【我们是谁】

“Dat Beauvoir” is a Chinese feminist comedy podcast. We aim to combat taboos with laughter and dissolve patriarchal norms with humor. Here gathers a group of diasporic feminists residing overseas. Together we observe the world, mocking male supremacy through playful banter. We want to create a safe space, encouraging more conversations led by women and LGBTQ+ communities, shedding light on the right path for the universe's future with laughter and satire!

本期主播和嘉宾：

Our hosts and guests:

本期节目由桃子制作，Ruby Yang设计封面，Hazel进行音频编辑。

This episode was produced by Sis Peach, Ruby Yang designed the logo. Hazel Tang edited the episode.

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【聊了什么The What】

2024 年伊始，三位接受唯物主义教育的福娃聚在一起聊聊星座、迷思、现代巫术，以及玄学实践对于女性和性少数社群的重要性。我们聊了聊女巫的历史——从中世纪的迫害，到现代流行文化之中的演绎，最后落回那些发生在我们自己身上的奇妙时刻。

At the beginning of 2024, three atheist feminists gathered to chat about astrology, myths, modern witchcraft, and the significance of occult practices for women and queer communities. We delved into the history of witchcraft, from the persecution in the Middle Ages to their reinterpretation in contemporary popular culture, finally landing on the magical moments that have occurred in our own lives.

【时间轴 The When】

【拓展链接 The Links】

【我们是谁】

“Dat Beauvoir” is a Chinese feminist comedy podcast. We aim to combat taboos with laughter and dissolve patriarchal norms with humor. Here gathers a group of diasporic feminists residing overseas. Together we observe the world, mocking male supremacy through playful banter.

本期我们的主播和嘉宾：

Our hosts and guests:

本期节目由张波儿制作，Valerie 进行音频编辑。Ruby 设计封面，跑跑制作音乐。

This episode was produced by Boobor, edited by Valerie. Logo design by Ruby. Music produced by Runrun.

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【聊了什么The What】

有人说Bottoms 垫底俱乐部是一部高校性转版的《搏击俱乐部》，但其实远远不止如此。它荒诞离奇，充满暴力和一些隐藏的不算太深的讽刺和哲思，是适合我们这个时代的美国高校喜剧电影。

Some say "Bottoms" is a high-school-themed, gender-flipped version of "Fight Club," but it's far more than that. It's a bizarre and whimsical journey, filled with violence and some blazen satire and not-so-subtle philosophical musings— a perfect update of the high school comedy genre fit for our times.

The story revolves around Josie and PJ, a dynamic duo situated at the bottom rung of the American high school social ladder. Their struggles extend beyond being lesbians; in their own words, they're "gay, ugly, and untalented." In their final year before graduating high school, this determined pair sets out to break free from their constraints to date the two most popular cheerleaders in the school. Their unconventional method? Accidentally forming the first all-female fight club in the high school.

【时间轴 The When】

【拓展链接 The Links】

【我们是谁】

Who We Are

We want to create a safe space, encouraging more conversations led by women and LGBTQ+ communities, shedding light on the right path for the universe's future with laughter and satire!

本期我们的主播和嘉宾：

Our hosts and guests:

本期节目由小蓝制作，Ruby Yang设计封面，Valere Chen进行音频编辑。

This episode was produced by Xiao Lan, Ruby Yang designed the logo. Valere Chen edited the episode.

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【聊了什么】

这期节目，我们想聊聊世界十大未解之谜的第十一个问题：为什么潘一同学作为一个女权主义者，在性中却总是希望被别人夺走一点自主权？擅长在性中夺走别人自主权的桃子和杂食动物小苕对此有话要说。

In this episode, we are about to unpack a juicy unresolved mystery: Why does Pan Yi, as a feminist, gets turned on by having some of her agency taken away? Taozi, a girl with a special set of skills, and Xiao Shao, a girl with a special set of kinks, have something to say about this.

【时间轴】

【拓展链接】

【我们是谁】

Who We Are

We want to create a safe space, encouraging more conversations led by women and LGBTQ+ communities, shedding light on the right path for the universe's future with laughter and satire!

本期我们的主播和嘉宾：

Our hosts and guests:

本期节目由小杨制作，Ruby Yang设计封面，Hazel进行音频编辑。

This episode was produced by Xiao Yang, Ruby Yang designed the logo. Hazel Tang edited the episode.

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