Earn Your Happy

Today we’re talking about who you have to become in order to start creating, manifesting and maintaining relationships in your life. Not long ago, I had a desire to hang out with higher-level friends. Now, don’t get me wrong, the friends I had at the time were great friends, but I was looking for something a little deeper.

I wanted to have a true tribe of people who had a more expanded mindset, financial thermostat, bigger goals and no limits on their beliefs or possibilities. And it wasn’t just about fitting in because we already know how awesome we are.

“What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as who you become by achieving your goals.”  – Zig Ziglar

It’s about adding value and contributing to the relationship on equal levels. If you’re someone who has already up-leveled, you’re no stranger to people contacting you and wanting to “pick your brain” or have coffee and talk business. While it may be flattering, you know it’s not something you want to commit to until you see what they can bring to the table to. It’s not personal when you politely decline (or someone declines your invitation), It’s about finding those people who expand your mindset, don’t question what’s possible and cheer you on.

“Be someone who they want to connect with.”

One important distinction… don’t change who you are at your core to fit in with someone who isn’t a great match. Just be the most authentic version of yourself! At first, I honestly thought I had to be an expert on the science of self-development principles, but I found that it wasn’t true. Depending on the group or situation, I actually added value in a variety of ways, such as being goofy, holding space, listening or giving advice. So just do YOU! Be authentic, find out who you are and be a person who adds value.

I know it’s not always easy to put yourself out there to new groups of people. OK, it can be downright scary sometimes. But do it anyway, because the things that bring you the most joy are often hidden underneath fear and resistance.

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In This Episode Lori talks about:

• Who you have to become in order to hang with higher-level friends
• Bringing value to the table (50/50)
• Stepping into your truth and authenticity

Resources:

Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest on Lori’s book tour and join the world’s biggest tribe book club

A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder

Now available at loriharder.com/amazon or ATribeCalledBliss.com

Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/

Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

It’s always a good day when my friend, Mastin Kipp, is on the show because I always learn something – and our recent conversation was no different.

Today we’re talking about how trauma – of all kinds – can hinder the building of tribes (love that we both believe in the power of tribe) and how we can take the steps to build a life and business without anxiety. You know the saying, “your vibe attracts your tribe?” Well, Mastin and I discuss on how even your tone of voice, facial expressions and hand gestures can do the same.

Mastin is one of the most authentic, value-offering people I know because he loves his work and isn’t afraid to dive deep and get to the root causes that are often times emotional. I resonated with so many of things Mastin talked about and I can’t wait to hear what you think.

Be sure to check out what his amazing Claim Your Power Live event is all about in the resources section (special discount for my listeners)!

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Questions Asked in This Episode:

• What does “trauma” mean to you?
• What happens when people isolate themselves?
• What are you having people do after they’ve pinpointed who they are?
• What are some of the tools you use as a high performer?
• And more!

In This Episode We Talk about:

• Different types of trauma
• Why emotional trauma work is so important
• Different defense mechanisms (mend & attend and withdrawal/evolutionary impulse)
• Why regulation is necessary and why you can’t self-regulate
• How trauma disrupts the building of tribes
• Channeling anxiety into high performance
• Being calm in the presence of threat
• Adaptive survival behavior
• How facial expressions, hand gestures and tone of voice impact marketing
• Mastin’s three primary modalities vital for stress-free high performance (functional medicine, energy medicine, and functional coaching)
• Why Mastin believes in events
• De-traumatizing through emotional experience
• Mastin’s “Claim Your Power Live” event
• And so much more…

Quotes:

“Name it, claim it, heal it and feel it – then you can start to rise.”

“There’s no such thing as bad behavior, it’s just adaptation behavior.”

“Environment trumps belief.”

“The issues are in our tissues.”

“Environment produces possibility.”

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Mastin Kipp is an American entrepreneur, best-selling author, and renowned public speaker. Mastin is the creator of Functional Life Coaching™, an innovative, unique and accelerated approach to creating lasting personal and business change.

Mastin is recognized by coaching industry contemporaries and luminaries like Oprah Winfrey, Tony Robbins, Arianna Huffington, Caroline Myss, Marianne Williamson, Dr. Aviva Romm, M.D. (Yale Integrative Medicine) and Georgetown Professor Cal Newport as a thought leader in accelerated life transformations and personal development.

Mastin’s company, under his own name, is a successful international personal development company that helps people create rapid change, discover and connect to their life’s purpose, and live their lives to their fullest potential.

Mastin’s methodology, Functional Life Coaching™, differs from his peers and predecessors in that it focuses not just on rapid behavioral change, but uses a systems approach to efficiently identify and dissolve the root cause that is impeding optimal human progress and success.

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Resources:

Claim Your Power Live Event

July 12-15, 2018 in Orlando, FL

Get a discounted ticket at ClaimYourPowerLive.com/lori

mastinkipp.com

IG: @mastinkipp

FB: facebook.com/mastinkipp

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Today I’m in Phoenix for the last stop of my book tour, but I recently decided that I may attempt another round later this year because I’m having so much fun with them. Sure, we talk about some pretty serious stuff, but we get to laugh with each other while we do it – and that is SO fantastic! It’s so gratifying to see another dream of mine come true. And if you’ve been following me for a while, you know this dream didn’t happen overnight.

Speaking of which, while going through some of my social media posts the other day so I could get a feel what’s resonating most with people lately, I found a post about dreams that hit a major chord.

“When you ask for something, when you really want something, you gotta know that it’s not getting delivered in its final form. It’s like going to IKEA, picking out your favorite kitchen and furniture to fill your house and saying, “Yeah, that’s pretty! I love it! I want it! I’ll take that!” Then going home to a pile of confusing parts you have to put together yourself only to realize you don’t own any tools and your dog ate the instructions. Yup, that’s how your dreams get delivered – they show up one day at your door as a pile of lessons that you do not yet have the skills or tools to navigate. That pile of lessons, tough relationships and lack of skills serve as your opportunity to figure out how to be resourceful and become the person who can handle building and maintaining the dream. Yup, I have a love-hate relationship with IKEA and building my dreams, but I sure enjoy who I’ve become as a result of figuring out the messes and overwhelm when I realize it’s all gonna be beautiful on the other side.”

Dreams don’t just magically appear – as much as we wish they did. It’s about getting resourceful and finding others who can help you toward them.

“The only thing you need to do is take the action.”

You don’t have to have all the answers right away. You don’t have to be “ready.” But when you’re shooting for your dreams you’re also going to be in a constant state of testing and figuring out what works…and what doesn’t. It’s not going to feel good all the time and you may feel a little crazy at times, but that’s not a bad thing. Experiencing the bad helps us appreciate the success that much more.

So support your dream. For me, I love my podcast. I love talking with other amazing humans and learning new things. However, I don’t love the scheduling, editing, posting, and that’s why I have an incredible team that helps me with it. So if you’re saying, “I love this, but not this,” find a way to change your perspective about your dream. How is this not-so-fun part helping you achieve your dream?

“Be willing to feel lost on a daily basis. Security is not real.”

You’re never going to feel ready, but keep reframing, changing your perspective and never give up. Me personally?

“I don’t stop until I create what I wish existed.”

Just go with it! Take action (big or small) and make your wildest dreams come true!

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In This Episode Lori talks about:

• What dreams look like when they’re delivered
• How to support your dreams (get resourceful)
• Taking action before you’re ready

Resources:

Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest on Lori’s book tour and join the world’s biggest tribe book club

A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder

Now available at loriharder.com/amazon or ATribeCalledBliss.com

Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/ 

Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

It is such a massive honor to have today’s guest, Andy Frisella, on the show today. He is such an inspiration to me and I encourage you to listen and hold onto each and every single raw and honest word he speaks.

As a successful entrepreneur in the sports supplementation industry as well as a wildly successful podcaster, Andy LOVES what he does every day because he’s changing people’s lives. But this wasn’t always the case. A once self-professed fat kid eating Dorito’s who never completed anything, Andy realized he needed to make a change ­– even if that meant getting uncomfortable to do it.

Andy shares his journey with us and opens up to tell us how being stabbed radically changed his perspective on the world and how it also accidentally got him into business. Now he’s able to use his business and platform to make an impact and help others.

While you won’t hear Andy mincing words over any naysayers, you will hear him telling it like it is. If you’re looking for permission to do the same and also cut out the negativity in your life, look no further – Andy is walking permission to be REAL.

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Question Highlights:

• What do you tell people whose backs aren’t against the wall… How do they get there?
• How does the Law of Attraction work for you?
• What do you do when you feeling like you’re going downhill (fear, doubt etc.)?
• Growing up, did you feel like there was more?

In This Episode We Talk about:

• Andy’s journey from a fat kid eating Dorito’s and not finishing anything to the success he is today
• The “zero option mentality”
• Getting uncomfortable to continue growing and evolving
• How Andy is driven by negativity/the dark side
• Being resourceful with your energies and motivators
• Transferring negativity and pain into productive things that help other people
• How Andy came back after being stabbed in the face and how it helped him connect and boost his business
• The Law of Attraction
• Looking for miracles
• Building a business around purpose vs. making money
• The Powerless Method (ep. 107 of The MFCEO Podcast – https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/win-the-day-with-andy-frisella-mfceo107/id1012570406?i=1000377906163&mt=2)

Quotes

“Even though it feels good now, it’s not going to feel OK 10-15 years down the road.”

“Creating progress takes a conscious effort to be uncomfortable.”

“I store the negative stuff inside and turn it into productive action.”

“It’s not about having all the resources. It’s about being resourceful with what you have, and that includes your energies and motivations.”

“Almost everything can be turned into something good.”

“It’s not something we choose to happen, it’s something that’s happening to everybody – they’re just not realizing it.”

“If you want to be great at what you do, make a business built around a purpose vs. being built around making money.”

“Fill your boat with propellers – not anchors.”

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One of the world's leading authorities on customer loyalty and company culture, Andy is a proven expert at building both brick and mortar and online direct-to-consumer retail businesses from the ground up. He has made a career out of creating over the top customer experiences. In addition to serving as CEO of 1st Phorm International, Andy founded and runs five other businesses; Supplement Superstores, Alpine Sports Products, Carbon Fire Nutrition, Paradise Distribution, and 44Seven Media. Andy is also an author (for both adults and children), speaker, and the host of The MFCEO Project, a top-rated personal development and business podcast.

Resources:

AndyFrisella.com

IG: @andyfrisella

The MFCEO Project Podcast

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My book tour is coming to a close with one event left in Phoenix, and I have to say that I’ve fallen in love with being in rooms surrounded by so many amazing people and learning from them as well. As you’ve heard in other episodes, I’ve found new takeaways from each stop – but so many reoccurring themes as well.

Another overarching topic is about taking things personally. Getting through this, of course, has a lot to do with mastering our mindset, but it helps to understand what it feels like before you get there.

Question: If you didn’t take things personally, what could you do in your life? I’ve asked this question at my book tour stops and the answers are endless, but the most common response? “I could be happy.” Whoa!

You see, when we worry about what other people think we’re putting ourselves in our own form of prison. Don’t stifle your truth just to please someone else. I highly encourage you to ruffle feathers, share your opinions and share who you authentically are at your core.

“If you’re not upsetting people, you’re not living in your truth – you’re living in fear.”

Be yourself. Stop people pleasing. Make some waves. I know this is a hard thing to do, but it feels SO good. Trust me, I’m a people pleaser through and through, but by sparing other people pain, you’re only adding more pain to your life.

“Freedom and truth are the opposite of suppression and resentment.”

Does this mean you’ll never take something personal again? Heck no. It is a constant practice of self-love and you will learn how to release it more quickly. It’s also one of our best teachers in life that helps us develop more compassion and understanding from where other people are coming from.

So the next time someone offers their opinion and you take it personally, make a conscious effort to release, forgive and move on…and live a happy life.

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In This Episode Lori talks about:

• Why we need to stop taking things personally
• Living authentically and in your truth
• Why it’s an ongoing self-love practice to not take things personally

Resources:

Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest on Lori’s book tour and join the world’s biggest tribe book club.

Join us at the Phoenix book tour stop! Head to LoriHarder.com/phoenix and grab a ticket before it’s sold out!

A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder

Now available at loriharder.com/amazon or ATribeCalledBliss.com

Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/

Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

I am so excited to have my good friend, Gabby Bernstein back on the podcast today along with my husband Chris! We are talking all about how's Gabby's courses have impacted my life and how you could get the same coaching from her. 

I am also giving away some seriously amazing bonuses when you join Gabby's Spirit Junkie Masterclass! Get all the details and learn more at www.Loriharder.com/Gabby

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I’m still on my book tour, and it means the world to me to share the room with so many amazing women. And while it’s a massive dream come true, it’s also forced me to make some massive perspective shifts when it comes to traveling, speaking, signing books and taking pictures. I’ll be honest, it can be a lot for this introvert who is prone get to getting anxiety! But once I’m able to slow down and change my perspective on it all – there’s no way I wouldn’t do what I’m doing. It’s just all about changing the way we view things.

One question I pose to my book tour audiences is, “what’s stopping you from connecting in different relationships?”

“In order for things to change, we have to change how we’re viewing things.”

Whether it’s your body, career or relationships, it is imperative that we shift our perspectives before anything can happen. We need to shift into how we want to feel.

It’s amazing how this small little thing (OK, not always the easiest task), can give you tons of energy back. No matter what you’re feeling anxiety around, change the lens you’re viewing it through and see how you can make it easier. There could be a different (and better) way.

Do this, and you’ll be on the fast track to changing your life.

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In This Episode Lori talks about:

• Shifting your perspectives
• Why the way we view things may be preventing connection
• What Lori’s book tour is teaching her

Resources:

Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest on Lori’s book tour and join the world’s biggest tribe book club

A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder

Now available at loriharder.com/amazon or ATribeCalledBliss.com

Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/

Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

My interview with Heather Askisone and Timmi Jandro, the founders of Energy Muse, was a conversation that was meant to happen. In recent years, I’ve become super intrigued with the use of crystals and it was incredible to dive deeper, learn some new things and also receive validation on some crazy coincidences in my life that involved crystals.

Best friends since the 1st grade, Heather and Timmi weren’t always interested in crystals. In fact, both were in different careers (business and high-end real estate) up until they founded Energy Muse 17 hears ago. With their combined experience of healing and business, they are now taking the woo-woo out of crystals and empowering people to make change starting today.

I know there will be some skeptics out there, but I have a feeling they’ll feel differently after listening. It’s all about good energy! I highly recommend taking their crystal test on their site to see which stones you’re drawn to – they may just help you through your next challenge. (And if you feel called to do so, I would love it if you shared which ones you chose and what they mean!)

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Question Highlights:

• How did you both start out on this journey?
• Who do you typically give the amethyst stone to?
• When did you realize there was something there for you with crystals? What made you dive deeper?
• Do you keep different crystals throughout your house or through different times?
• What was the main reason you decided to write your book, Crystal Muse?
• How does energy alignment with the moon relate to crystals?
• Do you have any rituals in your book that help people feel grounded or rooted when they’re at a tipping point?
• What is the most exciting thing that’s coming up for you with your book release?

In This Episode We Talk about:

• How Heather and Timmi first met and their backgrounds before founding Energy Muse
• How energies/stones resonate with people differently
• The innocence of picking a crystal for the first time
• The shift that took place when Heather gave Timmi a prosperity necklace
• How crystals can help us feel and serve as a reminder to slow down
• Energy Muse’s internal challenge to pick one stone and work with it for 21 days
• Their new book, Crystal Muse, and why it’s a book of secrets that offers rituals done in 11 minutes or less to render results
• Emotional moon in Scorpio
• Why humans are looking to reconnect with each other more than ever
• What it means to “energetically cut the cord”
• And so much more…

Quotes

“When you feel, you start healing.”

“The more I stopped and slowed down, the more my life moved forward.”

“There are so many juicy concepts and conversations that one stone can help you evolve into and unearth.”

“The beauty of finding out who you are and where you are at that time is powerful.”

“The more we plug into the light right now, the more we are going to be able to get out of the chaos and confusion.”

“We, the people, are the bridge between the worlds – the earth and the sky.”

“You’re going to feel the pain, but it doesn’t have to last forever.”

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Having known one another since the age of six, Energy Muse co-founders, Heather Askinosie and Timmi Jandro are each other’s yin to their yang. Heather Askinosie is a leading influencer on the power of crystals, Feng Shui, and holistic healing. For over 25 years, she has had the privilege of studying with the best healers from all over the world, who have passed down ancient teachings on how to utilize energy technology. In 2000, Heather co-founded Energy Muse with business partner Timmi Jandro. Timmi’s background in sales and operations, making them a dynamic duo in this industry. Energy Muse is a conscious lifestyle brand, providing tools of empowerment, inspiration, and hope in the tangible form of jewelry and crystals. Together, Heather and Timmi are helping people reconnect with the energy of the Earth to align with their highest self, realize their true calling, and tap into their own personal magnificence.

Resources:

EnergyMuse.com

IG: @energymuse

Get their book, Crystal Muse here!

 Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

I’m in New York this week having just wrapped up my stop in Boston for the book tour and it was another magical night. It’s so great having conversations with other women – especially those who have or are reading the book and are looking to connect with other women, too! It’s also super interesting to see what common questions are popping up between book tour stops.

One common theme that’s coming up, both at the book events and online, is how people are afraid to take leaps and try new things – they feel stuck. Personally, I know I’m wasting time when I start asking myself a lot of questions and stop taking action. All of the what if’s, stalling and procrastination – anything to prevent me from doing anything that might bring me some sort of pain. Does that sound familiar to you at all?

“We get stuck focusing on the pain instead of the motivation.”

But here’s the thing (and I have to remind myself of this daily), we don’t come out of the womb knowing what to do. Take riding a bike… can you imagine if as a child, we just kept thinking about the pain of the fall, scraping our knees or bumping our heads? We would have never ditched those training wheels! Instead, we imagined how free it would feel to cruise around.

So, take back your power. Quit focusing on the fall. Focus on the freedom. And don’t look back.

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In This Episode Lori talks about:

Resources:

Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest on Lori’s book tour and join the world’s biggest tribe book club

A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder

Now available at loriharder.com/amazon or ATribeCalledBliss.com

Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/

Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

I am utterly fascinated at the diverse background of today’s guest and fellow podcaster, Luke Storey. With a journey that began as a high school dropout, Luke has hit career stops along the way as a musician, fashion stylist and now health and wellness podcaster. I honestly wish we would have had more time to delve into each avenue of his journey, but we were able to touch on so many inspiring topics the led him through each one.

A self-professed work in progress, I love that Luke focuses on staying teachable. He’s not afraid to examine each aspect of his life to find out what’s in alignment and what isn’t in order to live in his highest purpose day in and day out. Luke has committed to maintaining a balance of talent and passion, but that often means keeping his ego in check.

Tune in to hear how Luke manages to keep just the right level of humility without sacrificing his gifts or self-worth – all while staying true to who he is. This was such an insightful episode – I cannot wait to hear what you took away from it, too!

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Question Highlights:

• What brought you to do what you’re doing now?
• What did the journey feel like when you discovered that living in your potential soothes you?
• What were some of the biggest things you pulled from each of your career stops?
• What does it look like, on a daily basis, when you’re working through something while also being humble and still being fully you?
• How can you practice being in a relationship when you’re not in a relationship?
• What are you most excited about?

In This Episode We Talk about:

• Luke’s diverse background in music, fashion, speaking, health and wellness and how it led him to the present moment
• The balance of talent and passion
• How Luke got his start in fashion styling
• Living in different purposes throughout one’s life
• The need for significance and one’s interpretation of humility
• Integrating the ego with one’s endeavors and work
• Not attaching worth to one’s gifts
• The importance of staying teachable
• The pursuit of pleasure
• How Luke is getting clear on who he is and what he has to offer
• Relationships – romantic and platonic
• Gratitude work
• And so much more…

Quotes

“Once you figure any area of your life out and get some help, the only key to true fulfillment is passing that on to other people and living a life of service.”

“It’s owning that I’ve worked my ass off and learned a lot, but there’s also plenty left to learn.”

“Don’t believe everything you think.”

“Build a relationship with whatever it is that makes your heart beat all day, every day.”

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Luke Storey is a former celebrity fashion stylist and entrepreneur, public speaker, podcaster, and lifestyle design coach who has spent the past 21 years relentlessly searching the world over to design the ultimate lifestyle through his extensive, personal research and development.

Using The Life Stylist Podcast as his delivery platform, Luke continues to share his strategies for healing, happiness, and high-performance living each week so that listeners can use this knowledge to design their ultimate lifestyle. 

The Life Stylist Podcast features the biggest experts in the fields of health, spirituality, and personal development. Past guests have included experts like Dave Asprey, David Wolfe, Sharon Salzberg, John Gray, Neil Strauss, Russell Simmons, and Daniel Vitalis.

Luke’s show covers an ever-expanding range of topics including sex and relationships, yoga, meditation, smart drugs, health myths and medical conspiracies, spirituality, food and supplementation, herbalism, alternative medicine, and biohacking technologies and tactics.

As a public speaker, Luke has appeared on stage with current thought leaders such as Marianne Williamson, Tim Ferris, and Neil Strauss. He is known for his raw, down to earth delivery, and ability to excite minds, and open hearts.

Luke currently works one on one with private clients and continues to act as Founder and CEO at School of Style, the world’s most prominent school for fashion stylists, which he founded in 2008.

Resources:

LukeStorey.com

IG: @lukestorey

The Life Stylist Podcast

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-life-stylist-podcast/id1121467751?mt=2

Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.