If you’ve ever found yourself obsessing, “Will they come back?” after someone pulled away, ghosted, or ended things - this episode is for you.

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When you have an anxious attachment style, the loss feels unbearable. You replay every text, every moment, and convince yourself that if they came back, it would finally prove you’re wanted, chosen, and enough.

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But here’s the truth: chasing them only pushes them further away. In this episode, I share why your anxious patterns are manifesting abandonment, why no-contact rules and text tricks don’t work, and how to shift your self-concept and energy so that love - whether with them or someone better — has no choice but to come back to you.

Inside, you’ll learn:
★ Why anxious attachment makes you feel so desperate when they leave

★ The real reason chasing, texting, and overthinking never works

★ How to stop obsessing over them and rewire your self-concept

★ Why changing your energy makes love reflect back to you differently

★ How to embody being chosen, secure, and unforgettable

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You’ll learn exactly how to shift the anxious energy that’s subtly pushing people away, so you feel secure, wanted, and deeply met in love.

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If you have an anxious attachment style and keep finding yourself stuck in painful push-pull dynamics, this episode is going to shift everything.

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You keep asking, “Why do they always pull away just when things are going well?”
.And the internet keeps telling you “They’re just avoidant.”
.But in today’s episode, I’m giving you the real reason they pull away and it’s not what you’ve been told.

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I’m walking you through:✨ The micromoment where your anxious energy subtly changes—and starts pushing them away
.✨ Why your nervous system is expecting abandonment (and how that expectation gets reflected back)
.✨ The reason love feels easy with people you don’t like, but chaotic with the ones you do
.✨ The subconscious identity that’s keeping you stuck in hot-and-cold relationships
.✨ How to stop abandoning yourself—so they stop abandoning you

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We’re not blaming them. We’re not blaming you. We’re taking your power back.
.And if you’re ready to finally end the cycle of people pulling away, this episode is your wake-up call.

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Want to go deeper?
My brand new masterclass Stop Them Pulling Away is now live.

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You’ll learn exactly how to shift the anxious energy that’s subtly pushing people away, so you feel secure, wanted, and deeply met in love.

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This is a special bonus guided tapping session from my full conversation with Brad Yates (Episode 42).

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In this 10-minute video session, Brad leads us through tapping for:
.✨ Calming anxiety in love and relationships
✨ Releasing fear and overthinking
✨ Reconnecting with self-worth and peace

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For best results, use this tapping everyday for 21-30days for deep transformation.

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If you’re listening on Spotify, you can watch the full video here in the app.
.If you’re listening on Apple or another platform, this will play in audio - but if you’d like to watch and tap along, head to YouTube

For the full interview with Brad, go back to Episode 42.

Why do we keep sabotaging the very things we want most — love, success, money, and happiness?

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In this powerful episode of the F*CK TRAUMA podcast, I sit down with the legendary Brad Yates, the creator of over 1,600 tapping videos that have helped millions clear anxiety, fear, and self-doubt.

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Together, we dive deep into:💜 Why self-sabotage is actually misguided self-love
💜 How anxiety in love is your nervous system trying to protect you
.💜 The hidden ways fear blocks you from money, success, and being seen
.💜 The truth about self-worth (and why you’re already enough)
.💜 Why resistance shows up right before your biggest breakthroughs

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Plus - Brad guides us through a live tapping session for love and anxiety that you can join in real time. (If you can, watch this one on video to tap along with us!)

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This is more than a conversation about EFT. It’s a conversation about freedom, self-love, and reclaiming the life you deserve.

Connect with Brad Yates

Youtube: TAP WITH BRAD

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Try Brad's FREE: Tap Into Best Self Program

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In this deeply personal episode, I share the real story of how I went from anxious attachment and relationship anxiety to creating the secure, committed partnership I had always dreamed of.

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It’s a love story that starts with my beautiful cat, Bleu, and ends with meeting my partner - but more importantly, it’s a roadmap for how you can call in a healthy, lasting relationship without games, anxiety, or chasing.

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Inside, I share the three exact shifts I made and the practical tips, questions, and exercises you can use too to finally feel safe to love, be loved, and keep the healthy love you create.

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If you’ve been stuck attracting emotionally unavailable partners, overthinking every text, or wondering why “love” feels so unstable for you - this episode will help you change the patterns for good.

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This is Episode 4 of the Your Secure Era series - catch up on the other episodes to get the full experience.

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FREE MASTERCLASS: Becoming Secure You

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If you're tired of chasing love, overgiving in relationships, or settling for breadcrumbs - this episode is for you.

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In this episode, Candice dives deep into the real reason you feel stuck in love: low self-worth.

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You’ll learn:

✨ The sneaky signs you have a self-worth wound (you might not even realise it)
.✨ Why your relationships mirror what you believe you deserve
.✨ How the “fixer identity” keeps you manifesting people to fix
.✨ The #1 belief anxious attachers must shift to stop chasing love
.✨ 4 powerful ways to rebuild your self-worth from the inside out

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If you constantly feel too much or not enough, struggle to set boundaries, or stay in situations hoping to be chosen - this episode will open your eyes and give you practical steps to shift.

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Because when you believe you're worthy, everything changes - and love finally feels secure.

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💥 This is Episode 3 of the Your Secure Era series - catch up on episode 1 & 2 if you haven't already.

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→ Includes my signature inner child healing + secure self tapping method

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What if I told you your breakup wasn’t random… you manifested it?

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In this vulnerable (and wildly eye-opening) episode, I share the story I’ve never told publicly before - the exact moment I realised I had manifested my own heartbreak… word. for. word.

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And how it taught me the truth about anxious attachment, self-concept, and why you keep attracting people who can’t choose you.

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And before you panic - this isn’t a “it’s your fault” kind of story.

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This is a “your trauma has been scripting your love life and no one told you” story.

I’ll walk you through:
✨ How your self-concept is shaping your relationships
✨ Why ghosting, breadcrumbs, and rejection aren’t coincidences
✨ The moment I flipped my story—and manifested my dream relationship instead

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If you’re tired of heartbreak, patterns, and being “too much” for love - this is for you.

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💥 This is Episode 2 of the Your Secure Era series - catch up on episode 1 if you haven't already. coming up next: why self-worth is everything, and the real story behind manifesting secure love.

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FREE MASTERCLASS: Becoming Secure You

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→ Learn your exact chasing archetype & the root of your anxious patterns

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→ Includes my signature inner child healing + secure self tapping method

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If you feel stuck in the same relationship patterns—ghosting, breadcrumbing, over-giving, fixing, or chasing emotionally unavailable people—this episode will change everything.

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In this powerful season opener, Candice Tamara shares her raw story of anxious attachment, abandonment wounds, and the childhood trauma that shaped her love life. But more importantly, she reveals the deeper truth: your love life is not random—it’s a mirror of your subconscious beliefs.

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This is the beginning of Your Secure Era—a groundbreaking new podcast series that blends self-concept, Law of Assumption, and trauma healing to help you rewire the patterns keeping you stuck.

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You’ll learn:
✨ Why your dating or relationship life feels like a loop

✨ What your childhood taught you about love—and how it’s still running the show

✨ The truth about manifesting avoidants, ghosting, rejection, or one-sided relationships

✨ How to stop fixing, proving, or people-pleasing in love

✨ How to shift your self-concept (and your relationships) from the inside out

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Whether you're dating, in a situationship, or in a long-term relationship that leaves you anxious, this is your first step to becoming secure.

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💥 This is Episode 1 of the Your Secure Era series—coming up next: how you’re (unconsciously) manifesting breakups, why self-worth is everything, and the real story behind manifesting secure love.

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If you keep attracting emotionally unavailable people… if you're stuck in the same relationship patterns… if you constantly feel unseen, unchosen, or not enough—this episode is for you.

Today, I’m joined by self-concept coach Courtney in Savannah for a raw, powerful conversation about the real reason you feel anxious in love. Spoiler: It’s not about them—it’s about your self-concept.

We dive into:
✨ How your childhood wounds shape who you believe you are in love
✨ Why your self-concept creates a loop of rejection, abandonment & chasing
✨ How Courtney transformed her marriage by healing her beliefs about being chosen
✨ What it actually takes to stop outsourcing love and validation
✨ Practical tools you can use today to shift your identity and feel secure in yourself

This conversation is everything I wish I’d known years ago—and I know it’s going to change the way you see your relationships forever.

Because you were never unworthy—you were just taught to believe you were. And it’s time to take your power back.

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Anxious attachment makes boundaries feel impossible—but your body is already telling you when you need one. If you feel guilty saying no, over-explain yourself, or feel resentful after helping others, this episode is for you.

You’ll learn:
✅ The #1 sign you need a boundary (and why most people ignore it)
✅ How to trust your body’s signals instead of self-abandoning
✅ Why anxious attachment makes boundaries feel so hard
✅ A simple 4-step method to set boundaries without guilt

💡 Boundaries don’t push love away. They protect it. Let’s dive in.

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