If you struggle with anxious attachment and relationships that feel like a rollercoaster… this episode will change EVERYTHING.
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Because no matter how hard you try, you can only attract what you believe you deserve and the Law of Assumption shows you exactly how to shift that.

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In this episode, I’m breaking down how your assumptions about love, connection, and self-worth create the relationship dynamics you keep ending up in - even the ones you hate.
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I’ll share the exact mindset and healing shifts that helped me go from anxious and overlooked… to engaged to a secure, loving partner.

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You’ll learn:✨ What the Law of Assumption actually is (beyond the “think positive” stuff)
.✨ How your subconscious beliefs are choosing partners for you
.✨ Why avoidants and pullbacks keep showing up (it’s not your fault)
.✨ How to reprogram your self-concept so secure love becomes your new normal
.✨ The exact approach I’ve used with clients to transform their relationship patterns

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This isn’t spiritual bypassing.
.This is trauma-informed manifestation - for people who grew up in survival mode.

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You are not at the mercy of old patterns or past.
.You can change your assumptions…
.and your entire relationship reality will change with them.

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Want to go deeper? My masterclass Stop Attracting Avoidants is now live.

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Break the cycle of chasing avoidant, emotionally unavailable love and become the secure version of you who only creates consistent, available relationships.This masterclass works whether single or in a relationship to stop avoidant patterns. 

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Have you ever noticed that every time you get closer to someone, emotionally or physically - they suddenly pull back?

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If you have an anxious attachment style, it can feel like a nightmare. You start wondering: Did I do something wrong? Were they just avoidant? Did I scare them off?

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In this episode, I’m breaking down the truth about why they pull back after intimacy - and how this pattern has nothing to do with them and everything to do with you, but not in the way you think.

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You’ll learn:
✨ What’s really happening when avoidants distance after intimacy
✨ How your inner state creates that push-pull dynamic
✨ Why anxious attachment gets triggered when things feel good
✨ The mindset shift that stops the cycle - so intimacy brings you closer, not apart

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This one’s raw, honest, and deeply freeing - because once you see that you hold the power to change it, you’ll never fear vulnerability again.

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Want to go deeper? My masterclass Stop Attracting Avoidants is now live.

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Break the cycle of chasing avoidant, emotionally unavailable love and become the secure version of you who only creates consistent, available relationships.
This masterclass works whether single or in a relationship to stop avoidant patterns. 

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If you live with anxious attachment, you might think anxiety only shows up in toxic relationships - but it can sabotage healthy love too.

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In this episode, I’m sharing three real moments when my own anxiety tried to push away the secure relationship I’d worked so hard to manifest.

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You’ll learn:
✨ Why certainty and consistency from a partner can actually feel unsafe to an anxious nervous system
.✨ How hyper-independence and fear of losing control can push them away when things get serious
.✨ Why big milestones (moving in, proposals, marriage) can trigger past trauma and make you want to run - even when love is good
.✨ Practical ways to regulate your nervous system, change the story in your head, and stop sabotaging the healthy love you deserve

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If you’re tired of overthinking, pushing good partners away, or testing people to see if they’ll stay - this episode will help you feel safe to receive love without losing yourself.

Want to go deeper?My masterclass Stop Them Pulling Away is now live.

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You’ll learn exactly how to shift the anxious energy that’s subtly pushing people away, so you feel secure, wanted, and deeply met in love.

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Struggling with anxious attachment and tired of avoidants pulling away?

This episode is not what you think. And it’s exactly what you need to hear.

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If you’ve ever spiralled after being ghosted, obsessed over why they suddenly pulled away, or questioned whether you’re too much, this is your wake-up call.

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But be warned:This isn’t the same surface-level advice telling you to “just act cool” or “don’t double text.”

.This is the truth that will set you free.

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In this raw, no-BS episode, I reveal 7 tough truths about avoidants that most people will never tell you - because they haven’t lived it, or they’re still stuck in the same patterns.

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Inside this episode:

• The real reason they pulled away (and how your energy shifted first)

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• Why it’s not about them abandoning you - it’s about you abandoning yourself

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• How anxious attachment manifests as self-rejection, not just “neediness”

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• Why even when you stop texting… you might still be energetically chasing

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• What it actually takes to stop attracting avoidants - for good

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Want to go deeper?My masterclass Stop Them Pulling Away is now live.

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You’ll learn exactly how to shift the anxious energy that’s subtly pushing people away, so you feel secure, wanted, and deeply met in love.

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If you’ve ever found yourself obsessing, “Will they come back?” after someone pulled away, ghosted, or ended things - this episode is for you.

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When you have an anxious attachment style, the loss feels unbearable. You replay every text, every moment, and convince yourself that if they came back, it would finally prove you’re wanted, chosen, and enough.

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But here’s the truth: chasing them only pushes them further away. In this episode, I share why your anxious patterns are manifesting abandonment, why no-contact rules and text tricks don’t work, and how to shift your self-concept and energy so that love - whether with them or someone better — has no choice but to come back to you.

Inside, you’ll learn:
★ Why anxious attachment makes you feel so desperate when they leave

★ The real reason chasing, texting, and overthinking never works

★ How to stop obsessing over them and rewire your self-concept

★ Why changing your energy makes love reflect back to you differently

★ How to embody being chosen, secure, and unforgettable

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Want to go deeper?My brand new masterclass Stop Them Pulling Away is now live.

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You’ll learn exactly how to shift the anxious energy that’s subtly pushing people away, so you feel secure, wanted, and deeply met in love.

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If you have an anxious attachment style and keep finding yourself stuck in painful push-pull dynamics, this episode is going to shift everything.

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You keep asking, “Why do they always pull away just when things are going well?”
.And the internet keeps telling you “They’re just avoidant.”
.But in today’s episode, I’m giving you the real reason they pull away and it’s not what you’ve been told.

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I’m walking you through:✨ The micromoment where your anxious energy subtly changes—and starts pushing them away
.✨ Why your nervous system is expecting abandonment (and how that expectation gets reflected back)
.✨ The reason love feels easy with people you don’t like, but chaotic with the ones you do
.✨ The subconscious identity that’s keeping you stuck in hot-and-cold relationships
.✨ How to stop abandoning yourself—so they stop abandoning you

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We’re not blaming them. We’re not blaming you. We’re taking your power back.
.And if you’re ready to finally end the cycle of people pulling away, this episode is your wake-up call.

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Want to go deeper?
My brand new masterclass Stop Them Pulling Away is now live.

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You’ll learn exactly how to shift the anxious energy that’s subtly pushing people away, so you feel secure, wanted, and deeply met in love.

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Click here to join Stop Them Pulling Away now

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This is a special bonus guided tapping session from my full conversation with Brad Yates (Episode 42).

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In this 10-minute video session, Brad leads us through tapping for:
.✨ Calming anxiety in love and relationships
✨ Releasing fear and overthinking
✨ Reconnecting with self-worth and peace

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For best results, use this tapping everyday for 21-30days for deep transformation.

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If you’re listening on Spotify, you can watch the full video here in the app.
.If you’re listening on Apple or another platform, this will play in audio - but if you’d like to watch and tap along, head to YouTube

For the full interview with Brad, go back to Episode 42.

Why do we keep sabotaging the very things we want most — love, success, money, and happiness?

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In this powerful episode of the F*CK TRAUMA podcast, I sit down with the legendary Brad Yates, the creator of over 1,600 tapping videos that have helped millions clear anxiety, fear, and self-doubt.

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Together, we dive deep into:💜 Why self-sabotage is actually misguided self-love
💜 How anxiety in love is your nervous system trying to protect you
.💜 The hidden ways fear blocks you from money, success, and being seen
.💜 The truth about self-worth (and why you’re already enough)
.💜 Why resistance shows up right before your biggest breakthroughs

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Plus - Brad guides us through a live tapping session for love and anxiety that you can join in real time. (If you can, watch this one on video to tap along with us!)

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This is more than a conversation about EFT. It’s a conversation about freedom, self-love, and reclaiming the life you deserve.

Connect with Brad Yates

Youtube: TAP WITH BRAD

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Try Brad's FREE: Tap Into Best Self Program

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In this deeply personal episode, I share the real story of how I went from anxious attachment and relationship anxiety to creating the secure, committed partnership I had always dreamed of.

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It’s a love story that starts with my beautiful cat, Bleu, and ends with meeting my partner - but more importantly, it’s a roadmap for how you can call in a healthy, lasting relationship without games, anxiety, or chasing.

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Inside, I share the three exact shifts I made and the practical tips, questions, and exercises you can use too to finally feel safe to love, be loved, and keep the healthy love you create.

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If you’ve been stuck attracting emotionally unavailable partners, overthinking every text, or wondering why “love” feels so unstable for you - this episode will help you change the patterns for good.

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This is Episode 4 of the Your Secure Era series - catch up on the other episodes to get the full experience.

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FREE MASTERCLASS: Becoming Secure You

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If you're tired of chasing love, overgiving in relationships, or settling for breadcrumbs - this episode is for you.

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In this episode, Candice dives deep into the real reason you feel stuck in love: low self-worth.

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You’ll learn:

✨ The sneaky signs you have a self-worth wound (you might not even realise it)
.✨ Why your relationships mirror what you believe you deserve
.✨ How the “fixer identity” keeps you manifesting people to fix
.✨ The #1 belief anxious attachers must shift to stop chasing love
.✨ 4 powerful ways to rebuild your self-worth from the inside out

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If you constantly feel too much or not enough, struggle to set boundaries, or stay in situations hoping to be chosen - this episode will open your eyes and give you practical steps to shift.

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Because when you believe you're worthy, everything changes - and love finally feels secure.

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Join the WORTH AS F*CK workshop to fully rewire your self-worth & become magnetic in love.

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💥 This is Episode 3 of the Your Secure Era series - catch up on episode 1 & 2 if you haven't already.

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FREE MASTERCLASS: Becoming Secure You

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→ Includes my signature inner child healing + secure self tapping method

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