Figuring Sh!t Out

People can only see you as far as they see themselves, and maybe that’s not their fault. Why do we attract the same people, the same pain, the same dynamics, over and over again? Why do we feel we need to strive for, work for, or sacrifice for love? Why is it so hard to walk away when you know you’re being hurt? This pain that can follow us through our relationships seems to be a right of passage in living life. 

Does it have to be?

How do we navigate love in all of its various forms - family, friends, romance - when love is what drives us, hurts us, and ignites us? 

This episode, 1 hour and 11 minutes long, spans how to move through relationships as a conduit to loving yourself. 

In it’s entirety, it covers: 

• Why we attract the same people & relationships over and over again 
• How your self worth influences your relationship choices & decisions
• Building trust in yourself & becoming empowered
• How your upbringing & parents influences your relationships as you grow up
• How forgiving & understanding your parents may help to heal your current relationships
• The power of our subconscious mind in relationships
• How we look to actively perpetuate our own pain without even knowing it
• Forgiveness towards those who’ve hurt you
• Co-dependency
• Twin Flame & Karmic Relationships
• Attachment Styles (Book referenced - Attached, the New Science of Adult Attachment by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller)
• Loving people at a distance - setting boundaries
• How to move through challenging friendships
• Heartbreak 
• How walking away from a toxic relationship will deepen your connection to yourself if you let it
• Infatuation Vs Love & The Roles we Play in relationships (Book Referenced - A New Earth, Eckhart Tolle) 
• How embodying love and learning to love yourself will allow love to flow more easily to you in all of your platonic, romantic, and familial connections 

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To decide what kind of life you want to live and to step into who you want to be - start backwards. 

Who are you living for? Where was this born? What is your ego? Why is acknowledging and accepting it a necessary part of growth? Why do you want the things you want? What's holding you back from loving yourself? 

In this episode, there are a lot of moving parts, a foundational escrow of understanding the influences that made you, your ego, and what the ego even is in its various enigmatic definitions. 

How do you begin transmuting the pain and letting your ego move you into consciousness? How do you use your ego as a tool?

Life, in many ways, is a mirror. And so are people. Why you can recognize love, is because you know love. You are love. Why you can recognize the opposite - is because that too, is also within you. Love is the most infinite presence in the world - and if you look for it, you will find it. But that is also true for the opposite. 

There is a dynamic polarity to everything. And with that, a radical acceptance in realizing that you live what you are. You become who you want to become, by embodying it - with full breadth.

In this episode, I talk a bit about my journey in discovering that I was living my life out of alignment with what I truly wanted and some of the learnings I've gathered from literature on the Ego, Mimetic Desire, & Generational Trauma. I talk about how you can break out of the conditioning and understand what is holding you back to be empowered in strength to overcome it.

Book Recommendations Mentioned in this Episode:

1. Power of Now - Eckhart Tolle

2. Wanting: The Power of Mimetic Desire in Every Day Life - Luke Burgis

2. Untethered Soul - Michael J Singer

3. It Didn't Start with You - Mark Wolynn

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How do we overcome the existential nature that is so much of this life? How do we find meaning in the presupposed meaninglessness? 

Know that, the point is, most of the time - to simply not know. 

Welcome to Figuring Sh!t Out - a podcast born out of a desire to conversationalize navigating the human experience. In this episode, the room is warmed for the dialogue to follow - soul consciousness, law of attraction, the inseparability of love & pain, forgiving yourself, trusting yourself, generational trauma, overcoming heartbreak, finding yourself - the whole fun lot of it all. 

If we can accept that it is all one - the love, the pain, the fear, the joy, the truths that we know and the truths that we uncover - how can we make peace with the inherent oneness? 

What can we do with the teeny tiny bit of this life that we have control over? 

How can we step into our power and forge our own way?

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To every light, there is darkness. An equal and an opposite balance that transmutes the most harrowing experiences into the ones filled with invariable growth. To embark on the journey of healing, we must ask ourselves - what needs to be healed? Where did it all start? 

In this episode, I talk about what an inner child is - the deepest parts of ourselves, yet the most pure, which shoulder all of the limitations born out of early experiences that inevitably hold us back from attaining our highest inner truth. 

To heal, to grow, to face yourself - I believe this is where it begins. Knowing yourself, accepting yourself, understanding yourself - all parts of yourself. And along the way, you may realize - it's not as scary as it seems. 

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