Figuring Sh!t Out

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You do not have to adapt to the energy in the room -- You can influence it. 

A wise person once said: “How you do anything - is how you do everything,”

So how do you use your voice, your power, and your energy, to serve a purpose and live an aligned life? 

& How do you stay true to yourself while operating in systems or places that don’t feel aligned to you? 

How can you protect your peace and find alignment and power through surrender?

By knowing what is in your control vs what is out of it, and knowing the power of your energy and it’s ability to attract like-minded people, places & things is your most precious resource.

This episode pulls together themes of power + influence in a way that fuels our soul, rather than our ego. It re-examines our self-responsibility and pushes us to consider how we can use our voice + establish a connection to our energy to live lovingly, boldly, and proudly in this outside world. 

At the end of the podcast, I give you an overview of a daily practice to check-in with yourself and find your alignment, starting small, and starting in the here + now. 

(Questions for this down below + upcoming monthly meditation in the Community will be aligned to this practice!!)

Note: Apologies for the end being slightly different sounding in audio - finished recording the last part with different settings on my microphone :,) 

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Lots of love 

xx 

V

CHAPTERS:

0:00: You are Your Best Guide: Integrity in Holding Ourselves Accountable 

8:30: Reconciling the Ups & Downs, Physical + Spiritual, Freedom in Surrender

11:55: Jobs, Life, People: Life is not a Zero Sum Game

15:57: Our Energy: You Attract What You Are

17:00: Your Voice has Power - Ask for What You Want

22:10: "Fitting In," Finding Alignment in Relationships

26:40: Becoming Conscious of Misalignment. Releasing Shame of Poor Decisions, + Self & Life Nourishment

34:55: Practices for Alignment, The Power of a Daily Check-In

Journaling Practice:

Daily Inventory of how you feel with a journal + no judgement.

1. Physically
2. Mentally
3. Emotionally
4. Spiritually

How are the different aspects of how you feel -- impacting each other?

Based on how you feel - what do you need? (remember how "need" is defined from the episode!!)

& What do you want?

What can you do, right now, to bring what you want + need into alignment?

Deep-Dive Into Alignment:

1. What does it feel like to be aligned? How does your energy feel when you are aligned? To you + for others?
2. What are some things that make you feel good?
3. What can you do today to take action towards your alignment? How can you make a small choice for feeling good + a bid for who you want to be?

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SEASON TWO TRAILER

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38 - Unlocking Our Heart's Potential: Clearing Energetic Blocks & Accessing a Portal to Profound Love & Inner Alchemy

41 - The Mind-Body Connection - Emotional Regulation, Physical Well-Being, & Somatic Healing

We are part of nature. And there is never a time we are not changing.

As we navigate the seasons and embrace the Spring Equinox, this episode is a reminder to ignite a self-acceptance that allows us to truly flourish by embracing what we often reject about ourselves.

It is easy for us to like ourselves when we're doing well and easy for us to be happy on a sunny day --

But feeling a stability with ourselves and our lives comes from acceptance of the duality of who we are and the natural and inevitable cycles of birth, death, and rebirth.

We will always live in duality with both our soul and our ego.

As Winter is a Precursor to Spring, The Dark Night of the Soul is a often a precursor to change and self-renewal.

Can you embrace both?

Can you let yourself bloom?

CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - We are all Connected through Cyclical Change, Acknowledging Darkness & Insecurity

(5:21) - Overcoming Insecurities, What We Focus on Grows, Our Perception is not always Reality - but it is OUR reality

(11:25) - What "Confident" People Have

(16:00) - Unseen Growth Beneath the Surface, Death & Rebirth (Reading a Piece Written by Me)

(20:59) - ALLOWING is the key to Attracting: Release Resentment, Anger, Rejection -- Let that Sh!t Go!!

(26:00) - Steps to Self-Acceptance & Broadening your Perspective

(35:00) - You are the Artist of Your Life: Life is Too Short to Hate, Reject, & Judge Yourself

(40:00) - Focus your Energy & Let yourself Bloom

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GUIDED MEDITATION BY ME

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SEASON TWO TRAILER

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40 - Wake Up! Your Life is Meant to be Lived.

In this episode, we discuss the need for harmony among the wholeness of our full selves - mind, body, and soul.

The objectification and disconnection we often feel from our physical experience is the result of a fragmentation of our selves as a survival and defense mechanism -

But there is a vital connection between our physical health & our emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being.

If our bodies are what we explore this world through, the quality of our experience can be directly correlated to how we feel in our bodies and how much our bodies feel safe to --- feel.

Learning how to feel safe in our skin and pave the way for resilience begins with cultivating respect for all parts of ourselves.

A very simple question can probe a lot of insight into how balanced you are:

Are you taking care of yourself? Are you treating yourself well? What does treating yourself "well" even mean to you?

This can be a sensitive and complicated subject, but it starts small and very simply.

Tuning into our basic needs and honoring them with gentle care can help us identify our emotional needs, connect more deeply to our spiritual bodies, and allow our life experience to be greatly deepened.

I'm hoping to bring an expert into this discussion as a continued conversation, so let me know your thoughts on this episode + what you'd like to explore more of on this topic below if you feel called.

xx

<3 V

CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - The Foundation of a Mind-Body Connection, Why It Can be Hard to Establish, Judgement, EMDR

(13:09) - Questions to Ask Yourself, Mistaking Physical Distress for Emotional Distress, The Consequences of Burnout

(16:32) - Balance, Dopamine Dependence, Mental Clarity, Recommendations

(25:26) - Tuning into Your Body's Signals, Knowing Yourself

(32:01) - What Marathon Training has Taught Me about my Emotional/Spiritual/Mental Well-Being

(36:30) - The Power of Living Fully + Authentically In your Body

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SEASON TWO TRAILER

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Episode 25: Self Love & Self Discipline - Tuning into Your Intuitive Cycles of Rest & Action

Stop chasing happiness - it is a trap. Stop living your life for the future - it is a bigger trap.

If you treat your life like a means to an end, you will always be left with the same question:

"An end -- to what?"

The novelty of life is that it is both fleeting and the only thing we will ever know. & The relentless pursuit for the meaning of it will only lead you to eclipsing your right to live it.

So live.

Let this episode serve as your Wake Up Call to shift your perspective - from dreaming and reaching for a life of abundance to stepping into creation and experiencing the beautiful duality of every moment.

We are here to feel!! To live!! To be! To create! The only pre-requisite is that you are alive and well.

Stop letting your conditions control the narrative that you create.

CHAPTERS:

0:00 - 6:38: Updates: The Wisdom of Aging, Turning 24, How Physical Sickness can Be Spiritual

6:38 - 9:38 - We're Not Getting Any Younger, & We Never Have Been: A Secret Gift. (A piece written by me <3)

9:38 - 20:00 - It can be Simple - Riding the Waves, Releasing Addiction to Negative Emotions + Critical Inner Voice

20:00 - 30:00 - Relationships, Other People, Illusory Expectations

30:00 - 38:07 - What is worth your Energy? Life Can be Magic, Finding Novelty in Simplicity.

38:08 - 43:52 - The Secret to Peace

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SEASON TWO TRAILER

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Episode 15 - Looking for answers? Let them Find You. Stop, Look Around, & Enjoy the Process.

xx

<3 Vanessa

When you chose to heal, you chose to break cycles that have lived on for generations.

There is immense power in that choice. And immense transformation.

No one said it would be easy.

This episode is an exploration into the power of The Dark Night of the Soul, which occurs during transformation to burn away all that is not aligned with the growth you've chosen for yourself.

Like a Pheonix rising from the ashes, rebirth is inevitable.

The magic of transformation is not without a pursuit into a new darkness to bring you forth the truest light you've yet to know.

Remember why you started.

Let that carry you. Let love carry you. Let the light find you.

xx

V

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CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - The Power of Healing and Transformation

(04:12) - The Dark Night of the Soul

(14:39) - Embracing the Shadow, Healing Through Breaking Generational Cycles

(26:17) - Overcoming + Getting through Dark Night of Soul

If you liked this episode, you'll like this one too!

Episode 14: Do you Crave to Be Understood, but Fear Being Perceived? Who are you when no one is watching?

Topics Explored:

Self-discovery, Transformation, Dark Night of the Soul, Reparenting, Inner Child, Inherited Patterns, Spiritual Awakening, Enlightenment, Authenticity, Healing, Vulnerability, Bravery, Change, Personal Growth, Relationships

Life is vulnerability.

Time and time again we find that we are on this journey to find the strength that we didn't know that we had. To shock and surprise ourselves at the ability to get through the rough days, long nights, and find the bliss of sunshine again and again, even when we think it may be gone forever.

And to be a witness to our boundless ability to continue on loving when we feel loveless.

We have our hearts to thank for that -- the energetic pathway that lets our emotional energy in and out. The heart is a bridge to profound healing and to growth.

Our hearts hold the hands of our spiritual being and our physical being - weaving them together in a tapestry of energy that forms us into who we are.

Our greatest power is learning how to let what wants to flow through us, through us, so that we can have access to the authentic self that lies inside of our hearts.

Your heart is your portal to your intuition, to your wisest self, to your inner knowing and your inner magic.

Your heart holds experiences in the past, present, and future, and allows you to experience both the fullness and the emptiness of life.

When we hold onto pain, we are closed and we are blocked. We are clenched in the corners of fear and negativity, keeping our walls up, keeping love out, and keeping blessings, opportunities, and potential, out of our line of sight.

When we open, we are free. We allow the pain to come in, we allow it to be felt, we allow it to show us that it will always leave if we let it. And we make room for what is new to come in. We are able to see that every event that caused us to close up, was only to stretch our heart further open when we were ready.

Leading with an open heart is not a sign of vulnerability but a beacon of strength that guides us toward a more aligned, influential, and authentic existence.

In this episode, we explore the power of love's presence in our lives, how our heart center supports and protects us, and conscious brain-heart coherence with some readings from Joe Dispenza & Michael J. Singer.

To live, if not passionately, is a mistake. To buy into the fallacy that our days are not numbered and that love is not the most evident pulse beneath the footprints of our world, even the harshest of them, is to live with eyes closed. You cannot live untouchably - life is vulnerability.

I love you guys

<3

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SEASON TWO TRAILER

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CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Opening the Closed Heart

(14:31) - The Power of an Open Heart - How you Know you’re Open vs Closed

(31:12) - Are you Blocking Your Blessings?

(40:44) - The Power of Vulnerability on Inner Alchemy & How to Lead with an Open Heart

If you liked this episode, you'll like this one, too!

31 - Just Relax - You are Evolving! Giving Yourself the Grace to Meet Yourself as You Change & the Power of Your Unique Expression

This episode is part 3 of the 2024 Alignment Series. Not necessary to listen in order, but these episodes all build off of each other & ask you:

"What would my life look like if I showed up for myself fully? If I believed myself capable? If I argued with my limitations and went beyond them? What is your potential? "

Listen to: Part 1 (Episode 36) & Part 2 (Episode 37)

Integrating our Healing through Transformation + Finding Pure Alignment.

That is the theme of this month on Figuring Sh!t Out. 

It asks you to ask yourself: 

"What would my life look like if I showed up for myself fully? If I believed myself capable? If I argued with my limitations and went beyond them? How am I clipping my own wings? What is my true potential?” 

We find the answers to this through Shadow Work - bringing the dark to the light with loving awareness & curiosity.

Where the past self, the higher self, and the present self unite to bridge the gap between what we know and how we can move what we know into our lives, creating change. 

When we were young, we were all dreamers.

This episode asks you - "What did you dream about when you were young? When did you stop dreaming? And how can you start again?"

This episode is part of a Shadow Work Series, episodes that use Shadow Work in the focal point of discussion as a vehicle to self development & growth.

Linked below is part one, which covers the foundations of shadow-work and inner child healing. It’s not necessary to listen to this first if you haven’t, unless you have no idea where to begin when it comes to shadow work, but is encouraged! The first episode takes you through meeting your inner child and shares my experience with healing. 

Shadow-Work Series Episode One:

Episode 21: Shadow-Work Series, Part 1: A Beginner's Guide to Inner Child Healing, Forgiveness, and Self-Discovery

In case you missed it, listen to last week's episode on Igniting Transformation & Facing Discomfort to Break Cycles

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SEASON TWO TRAILER

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CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Overcoming Fear, Finding Alignment, Healing

(05:17) - Seeing the Results of Healing and Transforming Through Inner Work

(10:41) - Rediscovering Childhood Dreams, Overcoming Limitations

(23:53) - Shadow-Work + Inner Child Healing

(37:09) - Unlocking "Impossibility" + Opening Yourself to Miracles

A new chapter. A new beginning. Season Two.

A new theme:

Almost always done, because we never will be.

Never complete, because our wholeness isn't found outside of us.

And on this episode, we cover how to find more of that wholeness.

The only thing we should question -- is our limits.

Confronting our comfort zones with the courageous act of taking ownership of our lives and lovingly accepting self-responsibility is the only way to create lasting, actionable transformation.

This episode calls for an integration of all parts of ourselves - with wholeness, with love, with compassion, and with the strength of accountability.

For the last month and a half, that is the journey I've been on.

I intentionally stripped myself of all comforts and headed into the woods of Northern New Hampshire over this break to face shadows and feel the catharsis of letting go.

On this episode, I take you through my journey and give you insight into what I've learned - and how that expansion has led to enrich the path of self-exploration here - in V2 of Figuring Sh!t Out - the podcast AND the brand.

In our collective journey of self-discovery and growth, the topic of this new season and episode is evolution:

Fully stepping into newness through lovingly shedding layers of what we no longer need and being honest with ourselves about what it is that we do need.

I am so excited to be back. Thank you for listening.

If you liked this episode, please rate the podcast on your preferred streaming platform, let me know your thoughts below, & reach out over socials <3

With love,

Vanessa

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SEASON TWO TRAILER

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CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - What’s new for FSO - Season Two, Community, Guidebooks

(10:49) - New Themes of 2024

(24:34) - Facing Yourself, Self-Responsibility, Accountability

(36:20) - Breaking Cycles & Patterns - Becoming who you were meant to be

We are always changing. Whether we resist or allow. Change happens, with or without us -

But always within us. 

It is necessary to let ourselves let go of what we no longer need, bid farewell to what doesn’t serve us any longer, and step into an unknown future with bravery and hope. 

To all who have been on their journey of Figuring Sh!t Out in 2023, with or without me — give yourself credit, let yourself rest, and let your shedding skin & growing pains remind you:

That there is so much left for you to learn. 

There is so much left for you to love. 

There is so much more fun for you to have. 

& There are so many more realizations to come to you that will feel like homecoming moments of eye-opening clarity. 

On the last episode of Season 1, never done before & as a gift to all of you on this journey with me — 

I guide you through a visualization & meditation that allows you to shed burdens, trust the process, and trust in life’s serendipity - meeting your future self who has traversed the path you walk upon now. 

I ask you to do nothing, but listen and surrender to the divine timing ahead, slow down, savor the unfolding of life, and give grace to your resilience and unwavering spirit - which has always carried you through every moment of your life. 

Thank you for listening, thank you for being on this journey with me, and thank you for making this space so full and so bright. 

Figuring Sh!t Out was once a confused dream, and through this Season and this year, has become a precious space for my heart & soul. 

There is so much in store in 2024. All that you’ve asked me for is in the works & I am so excited to share with you more details when SEASON TWO (2!!!!!) launches in January. 

Kiss 2023 goodbye with strength, you brave, beautiful souls <3 

Can't wait to continue Figuring Sh!t Out together in the next season and in the new year --

I love you. So much. 

xx

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20 - It is Happening For You, Not To You: Building Resilience in a World of Change

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EPISODE CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Introduction & Themes of 2023

(7:22) - Guided Practice - Meditation & Visualization

(14:33) - How to Trust Your Unfolding Path & Call in What you Want

(25:52) - Claiming + Embracing your New Beginning & Goodbye to Season 1 of FSO