Figuring Sh!t Out

Imagine the freedom of living unencumbered by the fear of others' opinions, feeling rooted, grounded, and connected to yourself, your truth, and your exploration of life - where your worthiness is not a question, but a statement. 

What would you do? 

How would you act? 

How would you move?

As we end 2023, many of us are thinking about what we want to release and leave behind, and what we want to take with us and transform into in the New Year. 

Today's episode is a beacon and an ode to that- illuminating how to recognize patterns of people-pleasing and survival mechanisms and step into who you want to become - with actionable steps to move forward.

The path to "confidence" is often misunderstood and misconstrued. Many of us think of confidence as a type of extroversion, being able to take up space and be heard, seen, witnessed. 

But many times, confidence can be quiet. It can be simple. Being magnetic is not about other people, it is always about you. How you hold your space, speak to yourself, show up for yourself - is how you move into the world and reflect and receive energy.

On this episode, I talk about: 

(00:00) - Reclaiming Power and Building Confidence - Holding space for yourself unapologetically, stopping people-pleasing, misconceptions of confidence, what "beauty" truly is.

(16:53) - Embracing Authenticity and Self-Confidence - Social Anxiety, Fear of being Perceived, Judgement, Projections of others, & Moving into Self-Acceptance

(26:47) - Choosing Authenticity and Letting Go - The importance of self-discovery, Looking back on the year, Looking inwards into yourself

(30:51) - Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth into the New Year - Finding Your Inner Alignment, Affirmations for your strength, and Journal Prompts/Questions for you to sit with if you feel called <3 (below)

Journal Prompts:

As we close out this year, sit with all of the evolutions of yourself that have been present in 2023. Take some time to connect to your experience of evolution, and send every version of yourself love. 

Ask yourself —

What can you leave behind?

What did you love about this year? What do you want more of?

How can you show up for yourself in ways you haven’t yet?

List three things that you can do. 

What does it look like to prioritize yourself? How does it feel when you do that?

Think about the love you give to other people. What does your love feel like? How would it feel like to receive that love? How can you give it to yourself in new ways?

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This episode is part of the December Mini-Series - 4 shorter episodes to close out the year and to end Season 1 of Figuring Sh!t Out.

This is the second to last episode of the season & the year of 2023!

There is so much coming in the New Year that I am so excited to share!!

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We've all been there: one thing goes wrong, then another, then another - and we feel like a slave to our conditions, a slave to our mind's negative thinking patterns, unable to wake ourselves up or shake ourselves out of the rut we're in, and sometimes, the rut we are falling further into.

How do you get out of that place? The one that feels so dark, so sticky, so dreary.

How do you go on and show up with presence for yourself, the people, the responsibilities in your life when your thoughts are so loud that you get lost in them, and when they feel so much more powerful than you?

The only way out is through.

But you must know a few things before you embark upon the process of moving through it:

1. You are not your thoughts, your feelings, or your life situation. We hear this a lot, but in this episode, I talk about the true meaning of this and explain the concept using the book "The Power of Now," by Eckhart Tolle with some references from "The Untethered Soul" by Michael J. Singer (Highly recommend both of these books!)
2. You must extend a kind, patient, and gentle hand to yourself as you go through the flux of life. To get mad at ourselves for being in a dark place, is just another mechanism to deepen that dark place. Treat yourself the way you would a loved one, connect with your inner child and give them what they need and what they are asking for, and treat yourself with love -- it will make it all the more easier to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
3. You are not stuck. You are never stuck. The only "stuck" that you can be is the endless loop of incessant worry and darkness that you feel trapped in. But you are not trapped. As counterintuitive as it sounds, we can be addicted to our suffering, addicted to the mind's stories about it and the need to justify our feelings - but we must create the space to see illusion from reality - and separate ourselves from the stories we no longer need to carry with us.
4. Sometimes, it takes time for us to wake ourselves up. Give yourself that time.

In this episode, I talk about how I woke up on the wrong side of the bed and wound up in one of these funks. And how I used it as an opportunity to see if I could move myself out of it.

And what do you know? It worked.

I give you my step-by-step guide for getting out of a funk, whether this be an hour-long practice that you use to just go about your day when the day feels too heavy to comprehend, or an extended process that you move through at your own rhythm.

Creating a practice to surrender to that brings you back to yourself, back to Earth, and allows you to have the patience to create space around your feelings - is sometimes all we need to get through the other side.

You are exactly where you are supposed to be. And sometimes, where you are doesn't feel good. Sometimes, it's not supposed to. We learn so much from darkness, so much to transmute into light.

More than anything -- we learn that we are far more powerful than we know in becoming conscious, aware, and getting ourselves out of feeling stuck.

Be patient with yourself as you learn.

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This episode is part of the December Mini-Series - 4 shorter episodes to close out the year and to end Season 1 of Figuring Sh!t Out.

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Episode 18 - Burnout, Toxic Productivity, & Radical Acceptance

Mentioned in the episode: Episode 24, A Guide to: Identifying Limiting Beliefs, Breaking Patterns, & Creating a New Self Concept

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This episode was recorded back in September of this year, but I found it in my audio-files and as I listened to it, I couldn’t help but know that it was never published for a reason.

It felt as though I spoke directly to myself in my current situation — in the space between this September & this December, I have found myself amid quite a bit of career confusion, not having any answers or knowing what to do, and how to move forward with the unknowing.

And it’s a reminder that sometimes - we have to remember how far we’ve come, how much we know, and how much we’ve forgotten as we get lost in the throws of life. 

You’ll never solve a problem in crisis mode — and taking a step back will always let you see a much bigger picture that you didn’t have before.

So, as we get into the finality of this year, it is time for reflection, for rest, and to allow ourselves to evolve. To sit with what we really want, balance it with what makes sense for us, and allow the path to be carved for when we know how to walk upon it.

On this episode, I give you the run-down on my experience through my educational studies and choices, college, and moving to New York City to figure the rest out. I had a very non-traditional experience through this part of my adolescence, and as hard as it was — it taught me more than I know to be grateful for. 

I’m still along the journey of Figuring Sh!t Out, as we all will be for the rest of our lives — and this topic is to likely be revisited when I find more answers I didn’t have before. But in the mean-time, I will have fun finding them — because in the end, 

If you spend your whole life trying to get your act together, you don’t have a life. You have an act. 

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So much news coming in the new year! Figuring Sh!t Out Season 2 & so much goodness to share very soon <3

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Are you brave enough to let yourself change?

To let yourself be taken out of the box of ideas and beliefs you cling onto, and gain clarity of consciousness, and the simplicity of presence? 

This episode is a note on allowing yourself to evolve, to expand, and holding space for the liminal space between where you are now, and where you are going.

To hold space for mystery, and find empowerment in letting old ideas, dreams, and beliefs that we no longer identify with, leave us as this year soon will.

And the true power of your unique, individual expression, with the connection of the collective world and magnetic landscape of humanity that we are inextricably apart of.

We often forget the shared universal human experience. We often forget that we all know confusion. We all know breakthrough. We all know love and heartbreak and pain and peace. We all know embarrassment and fear and comfort and joy. 

We forage in isolation, on our own, living in a dream world - squeamishly trying to find more air in our breath.

We sit on trains and planes and walk through the streets of the world, heads down, phone in hand - one million pulses and heart-beats around us, yet - we choose to be set apart from the beat of humanity. 

Our clarity of consciousness is our greatest superpower. It can be sharpened to be the lens that we live most of our lives through, but the consequence of humanity is that we will never have clarity, all of the time. 

The moments where we have the gift of reprieve from passing thoughts and extraneous worries, the moments where we are present enough to observe life happening, with or without us – is where we are able to sit in the liminal space between worlds, and know that our unfolding is inevitable. 

So, if your unfolding is inevitable, do you wish to live in your own isolated dream, unable to see the birth of that new world that you have created, unconsciously? 

Or do you wish to be conscious? 

Life will always be struggle. And yet, it will always be expansive. 

Your power, is not to choose whether your struggle or whether you expand, but to choose what you struggle for, what is worth expanding for, where you focus, and what influences you let into your waking life. 

The question is not - “Will you create?”

The question is always - “What will you create?” and

“What have you already created?”

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25 - Self Love & Self Discipline - Learning to Listen to your Intuitive Cycles of Rest & Action

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We all have a sense of timeless urgency. 

Are we running out of time? Should we be somewhere else at this stage of our lives? What’s left to do? What’s next to accomplish?

An urgency that we humanly attempt to fill with more material things, and more material dreams of material things.

The importance of integrating gratitude into our daily routines is something that’s been talked about time & time again. Having a gratitude journal, finding more to be grateful for, we hear it all the time -

But this isn’t about ticking off an item on your daily to-do list, it's about feeling and embodying gratitude.

Gratitude — true, sincere gratitude, expands your focus and retrains your neural networks to expand the scope of goodness in your life. It has profound impacts on our physical and psychological well-being. 

We often get tangled in the web of wants, the web of material possession & achievement, forgetting that life is transitory, fleeting, and our tendency to clutter our lives with material possessions and achievements keeps us from the feelings of true wholeness and abundance. 

It seems in every book or guide or how-to that complicates the simplicity of life - there is an underlying basis of shifting our mindset to the survival-state of lack and suffering, to that of abundance and light. 

But the shift will not happen by following steps or writing lists, attempting to emulate a wheel that has been created and recreated, time and time again. 

The shift happens in deep presence, where you realize - all that you have now, is all that you need, and somewhere in time – was all that you wanted. 

On this episode, we venture into a conceptual analysis of gratitude, and why it’s so hard to integrate fully into our lives, delving into the realms of our mindset, and evaluating our perceptions of abundance and scarcity. 

Uncovering how gratitude, from a psychological perspective, can forge stronger connections with others, with ourselves, reshape our narratives, and break us out of limiting beliefs. 

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Figuring Sh!t Out - Episode 6 - Law of Attraction (Part 2) - Romanticizing Your Life, Self-Fulfilling Prophecies, & Gratitude into Luckiness

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Referenced in this Podcast: 

On Gratitude | The Good Life Project | Anne Lamott, Janice Kaplan, & Jonathan Fields 

Huberman Lab | The Science of Gratitude & How to Build a Gratitude Practice

The Neuroscience of Gratitude - Positive Psychology

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Episode Chapters: 

(00:00) - The Power of Gratitude

(11:50) - Finding Gratitude and Presence in Life

(18:32) - Challenges of Gratitude and Integration, Holding Paradoxical Truths

(36:37) - Gratitude and the Power of Storytelling & Awareness, Building Positive Recall Bias

(53:42) - Gratitude's Power in Genuine Connection With Other People

(01:01:32) - Self-Realization & Limiting Beliefs

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When our lives begin to brim with chaos, when we are facing deadlines and urgency and getting ready for life's momentous next moments, we often feel endlessly confused, as if there is an incessant thought-loop that never ceases to let us know that we will never have the answers.

These are the moments when we need breath, perspective, and patience.

Knowing that there is an older, wiser version of ourselves holding our hands as we rise and fall through this life, and in the panorama of our confusion - there is the beauty of experience embedded into everything we have yet to know.

In the shortest episode to date of Figuring Sh!t Out, I give you context into the background of my life recently and share about my own journey regaining perspective, reflecting on how far FSO has come since it was created.

This podcast has become the space where I meet my higher self. I get on this microphone and I always find more clarity than I had before.

I thank you for being alongside me as we go on the endless journey of Figuring Sh!t Out, realizing again and again that to "figure" anything out -

was never the point at all.

I love you !! <3

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15. Looking for answers? Let them find you. Stop, Look around, and Enjoy the Process.

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To create true change in our lives, to become the version of ourselves that we wish to be, to shift our mindset from one of lack and scarcity to one of of abundance - it starts with the little actions we take every single day.

The minutes that compound into hours, the hours that compound into days, the days that compound to weeks, then months, then years.

If nothing changes now, then nothing will change.

And most often, it is not a radical shift -- we will not change overnight & we do not need to force ourselves out of where we are.

It is the act of one step at a time, one day at a time, and the willingness to be patient with oneself as we learn and evolve.

How do you enjoy the process of growth? And how do you consciously begin growing?

In this episode, I give you direction, guidance, and tips on how to create a daily practice of fostering connection with yourself, grounding yourself, and creating space for yourself.

Intentionally practicing self-care & self-preservation as you grow, accomplish, and achieve -- will allow you to be present in the experiences of your life - and save you from burn-out.

Having a practice that allows us to take a step back and see how far we've come, as well as evaluate how we are spending your time, and how we would intentionally like to move forward allows us to be a friend to ourselves.

To look at ourselves, without judgement, and create time and space to pour back into our own hearts, souls, and energy.

This is how you become aware - day by day, so that you are not controlled by the unconscious narratives in your mind.

You choose to see what you see -- but if you're not conscious of it, you will see what you have been programmed to see.

You do not have to live in a program anymore.

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EPISODE MENTIONS/LINKS:

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Guidebook mentioned in Episode 26 (Intuition vs anxiety), with my AM routine + tips for Meditation <3 FSO Guidebook, Episode 26 (More will be coming! Stay Tuned!)

333 Heart Oracle Book that I read from here.

If you liked this episode, you'll like this one too!

24 - A Guide to Identifying Limiting Beliefs, Breaking Patterns, & Creating a New Self-Concept

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EPISODE CHAPTERS:

(0:00:00) - Living and Thriving in a Changing World

(0:04:33) - Finding Balance and Enjoyment in Life, Mindset Shifts

(0:13:37) - Practices for Self-Reflection and Personal Growth

(0:19:57) - The Power of Journaling and Presence - Forming Habits to Build Self-Awareness & Assess Emotions

(0:24:05) - Creating Space for Connection and Gratitude - Accessing Inner Guidance

(0:31:53) - The Power of Daily Practices

(0:40:23) - Finding Redemption and Growth Within

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ABOUT THIS EPISODE:

How many times have you talked yourself out of an idea because “it didn’t make sense?” because it “never has been done”? 

What is a calling if we have silenced it for so long, we no longer know what calls to us?

What is intuition good for if we don’t learn how to use it? 

And how do you find your way home to yourself, believe in, trust yourself, and lead a life that makes both your inner child and wisest self proud?

On the first guest episode of Figuring Sh!t Out, we explore these topics.

Founder & CEO, Nya Jones shares her story on how she started and scaled a business by following her inner voice, leaving the corporate 9-5 tech world to take the bet on herself.

Graduating college in the midst of the Pandemic, Nya led a journey of introspection guided through a journaling practice she had since she was a kid. She committed herself to learning about who she wanted to show up as, who she wanted to be, and fully embraced it.

In order to “Dig Deeper,” she listed out intentional questions for herself to answer that would lead her to grow, heal, and eventually become the Founder of a company that empowers others to do the same. 

These questions, which led her to connect more deeply with herself, ended up being the blueprint of Inside then Out, a wellness brand providing tools for intentional modern living, including guided journals that allow self-care and introspection to be an effortless, connected experience in daily life.

This episode follows 

• Nya’s story and experience leaving her full time job to scale her business a couple of years post-grad
• How she learned to follow her intuition and believe in herself after dealing with overthinking and perfectionism
• How her journey of healing, growth, and introspection expanded her life and how she is now able to touch the lives of many others through it

I get questions about how to begin journaling, how to start the process of healing, how to get to know yourself, and the answers to those questions - are often questions themselves. Questions that you must ask yourself, and that only you can answer. 

Here is a binded book of many of those questions, that can help you begin and a conversation with the woman who created them. 

I hope this conversation will inspire you the way it did me. I hope this journal will open your heart the way it did mine.

Honored to welcome someone else into the space of Figuring Sh!t Out for the very first time, and honored to offer a resource for you alongside it. 

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We all have an intuition that is bravely, uniquely, and quietly our own.

An unexplainable inner wisdom, a sixth sense that can hardly be articulated.

Our acquaintanceship with our own intuition is deeply connected to how much we know and trust ourselves.

To listen to it - we must have a certain solitude with the self, a practice of discernment with our mental activity to know what is intuition and what is fear.

We must strengthen the muscle of listening to our inner wisdom, and understand the ways we have silenced the voice that softly protects us from danger, warns us from impulsive action, and guides us into our destiny.

This episode is a step-by-step guide for you to re-find your inner voice, and covers:

• The difference between Intuition & Anxiety
• The ways in which you may have silenced your intuition
• Practices to help you re-find & listen to your intuition
• The importance of intentional silence (meditation), and how a daily practice can help you feel centered in your knowing
• Deciphering emotional reactions, impulsive instincts, from an intuitive urgency
• Guiding questions (towards the end of the podcast) to help you remember your own intuitive compass, and reconnect you to the wisdom within you

Intuition whispers before it screams. In this episode, I ask you the question --

Where is your intuition starting to scream?

What are you not facing, not admitting, not acknowledging?

How often do you second-guess what you know, what you feel, what your knowing tells to you?

And how can you begin to practice listening?

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I decided to use this episode as a first test for upcoming guidebooks!

You can find it here:

FSO Episode 26 Post-Episode Guide-Book

It breaks down the episode with an introspective element to help you tap into your intuition, with guided practices towards the end, and prompts to help you connect with your intuition. Please let me know your thoughts on this one + if it helped you, as it is a first draft <3

Remember - these are suggestions - not directions! You know yourself best <3

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If you liked this episode, you'll like this one too!

Figuring Sh!t Out, Episode 12:

How to Trust Your Intuition & Step Into Freedom - You Already Have All The Answers

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This episode calls for redefining discipline in our external world and understanding when it's necessary to retreat in order to continue expanding.

What can you give when your natural energy stores are depleted?

Who are you when you have nothing left for yourself, because you've spent hours and days and weeks saying yes - against your natural knowing of what you need?

What sacrifices  do you make to be what you find "valuable" in the world, turning off the intuitive compass that calls you to rest, to joy, to surrender into calm solitude?

How do you find a balance?

We rush through this life, making moments a means to an end.

Self discipline as a form of self-love -- but not the discipline to do, to act, to force --

Discipline to rest, to say no, to set boundaries, and to take time to come home to ourselves when we feel the call to do so.

The importance of staying in sync with our inner selves while pursuing external goals is a harmonizing of listening to our inner voice and knowing how to find it.

To live an intentional life, we must align our intentions with our needs -- or we will lose ourselves along the way.

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Questions for you to reflect on if you feel called to do so <3 (Episode guidebooks will be created in coming episodes as requested!)

-  Where are you being intentional, without being intuitive? Where are your intentions not aligning with your needs?
- What sacrifices do you make to be what you think you’re supposed to be?
- What does balance mean to you?
- When was the last time you felt truly at peace? 
- What would it be like if you could set boundaries with your time, energy, and space that felt good to you? How would you show up differently in your life?
- What does "coming home" and finding refuge, mean to you - right now in your life?
 
Book References: Women who Run With the Wolves, Clarissa Pinkola Estes

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