Have you wondered why your spouse strayed and if your marriage can ever be good again? You don't want to miss this episode.

Show guest Elisa Fucci shares, with transparency and honesty, her experience with infidelity and how her marriage is now better than it ever was before. She shares why she strayed and how she had to go through the difficult work of understanding herself and why she was prone to getting attention outside the marriage.

For those of you who want to stay, but wonder if it's possible to really feel happy in your marriage, this one is for you. Yes, trust can be re-built. Yes, marriages can thrive after infidelity, even if the marriage was never great to begin with. Listen to this episode to learn what it takes to get there.

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What kind of home did you grow up in? Were you allowed to speak your mind, be your own person and choose how you wanted to spend your time? How you related to your family as a child largely affects what kind of adult relationships you have.

In this episode, I'll be talking about a concept called differentiation which is all about our ability to keep hold of our own thoughts and feelings around those we care about without getting sucked into their thoughts and feelings and making them our own.

You'll hear many examples of what high-level and low-level differentiation homes look like, which will help you gain a deeper awareness of your own patterns in relating to others. This will also help you understand your own unique response to infidelity and why certain parts of it are harder or easier for you than for others.

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Clear, open communication can be a hard skill to learn for anyone, but can be especially difficult for someone who has felt betrayed by their spouse. Yet it is a vital skill to learn, regardless of if you choose to stay married or not.

In this episode, we'll go into detail about why it can feel so unsafe to communicate with your partner, and how to help yourself feel safer. We'll also discuss ways to enter the conversation, and when to shut it down.

You'll learn how to be a better advocate for yourself in any relationship, but especially in the one with your partner/spouse/ex-spouse. There is no downside to learning this skill, and this episode will help you grow in your ability to communicate effectively.

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How do we know if our spouse is taking responsibility for their infidelity? How do we know if we are really moving forward or just doing the same things we have always done? How long do we wait for something to happen before we make something happen ourselves?

These are questions I hear a lot, and ones that are important to answer. Part of re-building trust after infidelity is knowing that our partner is not only being transparent with the facts, but also holding themselves accountable for the choices they made.

Another big piece in moving forward is understanding where we are taking too much responsibility upon ourselves for the actions of others, and where we are not holding ourselves accountable for our own growth.

In this episode, you'll learn the difference between taking responsibility and passing it off to someone else, and specific markers to look for in evaluating the progress of your partner. You'll also be able to see in yourself where you are passing off responsibility to someone else, waiting for them to change so you can feel better.

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What if making mistakes is not a problem? What if the real problem is what we make those mistakes mean, or what others make them mean that we then internalize?

In this episode, I'll uncover a few of the reasons we are so afraid to make mistakes, and how we can build our own tolerance and resilience to the things we judge ourselves for. When we understand the difference between using mistakes as weapons to punish ourselves with and as tools to help us grow, we can open up to taking risks, speaking up, and letting others judge us without it completely derailing us.

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In this episode, I'll uncover why it feels safer to avoid wanting, and teach you what avoiding this question is costing you.

You'll come away with some strategies to use to tap into your own desires and wants, along with a strong reason "why" for pursuing the answer to that question.

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Although many of my clients choose to stay with their spouses after infidelity, many decide to leave their marriages. Over time, some of them decide they want to start dating again. There is much fear, trepidation, and often self-doubt that can surface.

In this episode, I am interviewed by fellow coach and dating after divorce expert, Sade Curry. I share my personal story of dating my current husband and some of the challenges I dealt with.

To be sure, dating can be an opportunity to see what areas need looking at for growth, and to understand yourself more fully.

Even if you have chosen to stay married, I share how I had to navigate trust issues even though I was dating someone who did not break my trust. Wherever you are in your infidelity journey, listen to understand some of the issues that I dealt with and how I overcame them. You may find we have a lot in common!

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When life as we know it is turned upside down, it becomes very easy to believe we are alone, powerless, and a victim to what has been handed us. While we have been the victim of the deception of another, we tend to forget that in all things, no matter what, we still have choices.

In this episode I will share through powerful analogies how we can use our own strength and wisdom to harness the power of the brain. When we learn how to manage our own brain, we take control back in our lives and intentionally create the life we want.

Knowing what our choices are and that we can powerfully own the choices we make is key to healing and moving forward from infidelity. Ultimately our choices are what set us free. Listen to understand how this is true, and what choices you can make for yourself today.

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Is it love or attachment? Many of my clients want to stay in their relationships because they can't imagine life without the other. Or their spouse says they want to stay married but my clients don't feel safe or loved by their spouse. This can lead to a lot of confusion for everyone involved.

If you wonder if you are truly in love with your spouse or just the idea of him, this episode is for you. Or if you wonder if your spouse is attached to the idea of you or of being married, but may not necessarily love you, don't miss this episode.

You'll hear real examples of partnerships where both elements are present, and gain some awareness on where your relationship stands, as well as how to proceed.

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As parents, we naturally want to protect our children from hurt and pain. We want them to be happy and thriving, right? So when we are trying to make decisions like if we should stay married or not, or feel the pain of sending them to another parent's home, or deciding how much information to share with them, it can feel very uncomfortable.

In this episode, I will shed some light on new ways to think about your children. You'll hear client experiences, my own experience, and some perspectives that you may not have considered before.

What if the goal is not actually for our kids to be happy, but something much more meaningful? What if allowing them their experiences, even the really hard ones, will help equip them for a fulfilling life where they know how to bounce back?

Listen to this week's episode to challenge your own beliefs about what your kids "should" or "shouldn't" experience. You just may feel some relief.

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