Heal Your Relationships

By Kavetha SundaramoorthySociety & Culture Health & Fitness Mental Health Education Self-Improvement Relationships

Heal Your Relationships episodes

May 02, 2024The 10 Habits of a SECURELY Attached Person
Securely attached people have 10 universal habits.
Once I figured this out, I wrote them down to carry with me at all times.
Because it helps me figure out exactly what to do when I feel hurt, annoyed, or at odds with someone I care about.
It took me 15 years of trial and error to compile this list. I hope to save you that time.

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FREE tools:
Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun
23 min
April 25, 20248 Oddly Specific Signs of an Anxious Attachment
Do you have an anxious attachment style?
Here are 8 oddly specific traits that you might be struggling with, and what you can do right away to begin healing.
FREE tools:
Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun
27 min
April 18, 2024Why Counting to 10 Doesn't Work and What to Do Instead?
For years, I would get hurt, triggered and worked up easily.
And I tried everything that my therapist suggested.
Counting to 10, using I-statements, deep breaths….nothing worked.
It took a couple years, but I finally figured out why.
It was because I was not engaging my frontal lobe. When my frontal lobe is not online, I can’t stop the triggering thoughts and feelings.
But how do you switch your frontal lobe on?
That’s what I will share with you in this episode.
This can change your life if you use it.
FREE tools:
Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun
16 min
April 11, 2024What to do if You Struggle to Pause Before Reacting
Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is the power to choose our response..." - Viktor Frankl.
We know that we should pause when we are triggered, so we can choose a different response. A healthier one, that is more aligned with our values.
But it’s so hard to do at the moment, right??
In today’s episode, I will show you HOW to actually pause, even if you’ve tried and failed a million times before.
And in next week’s free challenge, I will share the entire system to find and heal your triggers, so you can stay calm in any storm. Register here —>
https://bit.ly/BetheCalminAnyStormChallenge
FREE tools:
Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun
11 min
April 04, 2024How to be Calm in Any Storm (Plus Free Workshop Invite!)
Most couples therapy goes in circles because they jump straight to communication tools.
The problem is, without building a foundation of inner calm and confidence, no amount of communication tools will work in the heat of the moment!
But, how do we build inner calm and confidence??
There are 3 parts to it - Emotion Regulation, Know and Meet Your Needs, Honor Your Boundaries
Emotion regulation includes being able to heal your own triggers and wounds from the past, so they don’t keep holding you hostage in the present.
This is vitally important.
In this episode, and in my upcoming free workshop, I will share 4 simple steps to healing your triggers.
Here is the link to register for our upping workshop (it’s free, and replays will be sent to all those who register)—> https://bit.ly/BetheCalminAnyStormChallenge
FREE tools:
Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun
18 min
March 28, 2024How to Make Your Dreams a Reality (Using the Three Calendar System.)
Do you postpone your dreams and aspirations to “someday” in the future?
I've been there.
The bummer was that the future always seemed….well, in the future lol.
Just out of reach.I finally realized that what I had was a wish, not a plan.So I went to work trying to bring my future self into my present.
After many many failures, I stumbled onto a 3 calendar system that has truly changed my life.
We now teach it in great detail inside Mastery (our monthly membership program).
In today’s podcast, I share an overview of this system, so you can run with it and make it your own!
Enjoy!
FREE tools:
Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun
20 min
March 21, 2024Arguing with your spouse? This is how you can solve it.
After working with hundreds of clients, I’ve noticed that there are two types of marital arguments.
The day-to-day kerfuffles; and the big repetitive arguments.
Most therapists approach both as communication problems.
But each type stems from a different core issue, and thus they require very different solutions.
In this episode, I share the two things you can do to shift daily irritability in the home, and the one BIG thing that can solve the repetitive arguments that go nowhere.
Enjoy!
FREE tools:
Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun
17 min
March 14, 20243 Step Formula to Shift Contempt to Connection
Contempt is a feeling of disgust and moral superiority over someone else.
It usually stems from loneliness, and years of resentments, mixed with feeling helpless to change the dynamic.
In today's episode, I share the 3 steps to shifting contempt to connection.
If you or someone in your life struggles with contempt, please share this episode with them.
It may have a huge ripple effect on their lives.
FREE tools:
Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun
42 min
March 07, 20248 Ideas that Govern my Life.
I am a collector of good ideas.
Over the years, these ideas have helped me hone my intuition, repair relationships, honor my boundaries, and take brave action even when it was a bit terrifying.
I would not have the life I have now without these guiding principles. They are my North Star.
In today’s episode, I share the top 8 ideas (+1) that have changed my life.
Enjoy!
FREE tools:
Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun
15 min
February 29, 2024Interview with Dr. Erica Bove Fertility Coach
Today, we are speaking with one of my fav people in the world - Dr. Erica Bove! She is a renowned OBGYN doctor, and now also a fertility coach!
She shares a wealth of information for anyone who is themselves or knows someone who is, going through the long winding road of fertility treatments.
In 2019, Erica did our programs as a client, which sparked her interest in coaching. She went on to become a certified coach herself (and worked in our company as head coach for a while!) before making the leap into creating her own unique offering for the world.
Her unique 3 step process to help you navigate the world of infertility, is so comprehensive and thoughtful. I myself went through IVF 6 years ago, and would have given an arm and a leg to have this kind of information and support available to me then.
Enjoy, and please share with someone in your life if you feel called to do so.
Dr. Bove's website: loveandsciencefertility.com
FREE tools:
Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun
43 min

About Heal Your Relationships

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This is a show about marriage, Unlike other shows about marriage, Heal Your Relationships is for women whose partners refuse therapy. If that is you, please know that you can still have the marriage you want, and we can help you get there.