Heal Your Relationships

If you are holding on to something from the past - a memory, an incident, a relationship hurt - it’s likely impacting the way you show up until the present.

Self-forgiveness is not about agreeing with your past decisions. 

It’s about processing the wound, so it can heal, instead of stay open and fester.

In this episode, I will share 3 ideas and 3 tools that have most helped me on my own self-forgiveness journey.

P.S: Reminder to register for our free “Relationship Success” seminar coming up soon (limited to 100 spots) —> https://go.healyourrelationships.com/opt-in

FREE tools:

• Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

• Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

After studying and helping people heal their relationships for over a decade, I’ve noticed THREE things that successful relationships have in common.

No, they are not: compatible values, attraction or even shared goals.

They are: Earned security, Micro-repairs and Inter-dependence.

Tune in to learn what these are, and how to build them into your own life.

Then, register for our FREE “Relationship Success Seminar” here.

—>See you there.

FREE tools:

• Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

• Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

Anything that’s worth having is going to require persistence and motivation.

But how do we keep up motivation when life gets in the way? It’s so easy to give up, or get distracted, right?

The solution is to find your North Star.

This is your deepest reason for being on the journey.

The thing that lights you up.

The WHY that will keep you going even when you stumble, or feel discouraged.

Tune in today to learn how you can find your North Star.

So you can stay committed to achieving your wildest dreams.

FREE tools:

• Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

• Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

Happy Thanksgiving to all who celebrate!

Thanksgiving is about family, good food, and gratitude.

But most people get the gratitude part wrong.

Gratitude is not just about remembering events or people that you are thankful for.

When done right, it can be a powerful way to heal our whole nervous system.

In this episode, I will share the most important part of gratitude, and a simple exercise you can do (and teach your kids!) that turns this cliche into an act of healing, connection, and growth.

Enjoy!

FREE tools:

• Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

• Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

When someone hurts our feelings, how can we know if our response is justified, or… if we are overreacting?

I used to spend hours ping-ponging between blaming someone else for being selfish/rude Vs. blaming myself.

If you can’t decide whether you are being taken advantage of by someone, or overreacting because of your own triggers….tune in.

This episode will show you how to discern the answer once and for all.

P.S.: Want access to my 5+ hour course to end repetitive conflicts in your marriage? Join our free FB group —> https://bit.ly/HYRFacebookGroup

FREE tools:

• Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

• Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

Your emotions are not a result of what's happening around you. They are an interpretation of what's happening around you.

Tune in to hear me explain this concept, plus a simple way you can use it to shift your mood anytime.

P.S.: Want to learn more about how you can use this to SOLVE ARGUMENTS??

Come join us for the free training! Register here --> https://bit.ly/ConflictCureChallenge

FREE tools:

• Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

• Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

Inside our “Heal Your Relationships” program, we promise to help you eliminate at least 2/3 of the recurrent, repetitive arguments in your marriage, in less than 90 days. So, what are those repetitive arguments?

There are 8 of them:

·     Sex

·     Money

·     Parenting

·     Chores

·     Affection/time spent together

·     Extended family

·     Past hurts

·     Trust

Every marriage has 2 to 3 of these that keep coming up over the years, slowly causing resentment and hopelessness. What most couples’ therapists miss though, is that the details of the argument itself does not matter.

What matters is something much deeper and poignant.

And if you get THIS right, only then will any communication tool work for you. Tune in this week to learn what it is.

P.S: Want to end 50% of your arguments using our 5+ hour mini-course? Get free access inside our FB group: https://bit.ly/HYRFacebookGroup

FREE tools:

• Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

• Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

A few months ago, I did an episode called “What’s Your F Type?” that you all LOVED.

We have been getting a lot of questions about those tools, so I’ve decided to do a LIVE training on them inside our free FB group next week (link below to join). Here is an encore, so you can come prepared with your own questions for our live session! Enjoy and see you soon!

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How do you react when someone cuts you up in traffic?

It’s annoying, right?!

What about when someone ignores you or roll their eyes at something you said?

How do you respond when somebody hurts your feelings or rejects your ideas?

The way you respond when you get poked or triggered is called your “F” type.

And knowing your “F” type is a kind of awareness that can be life-changing.

In this episode, I’m diving deeper into what triggers are, why they elicit a reaction from you, and the four types of reactions you can have to a trigger so you can learn how to deal with them more effectively.

When you discover which “F” type you fall into most commonly, you can start shifting the way you show up in the world.

As I said, it’s life-changing.

So listen closely, take notes, and bring your questions to our LIVE training inside our free FB group next week!

FREE tools:

• Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

• Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

Stonewalling can wreak havoc on a relationship. I have been on both ends of this, and know how hopeless it can feel. I want you to know there are simple steps you can take, whether you are the one stonewalling, or on the receiving end, that can begin to shift things.

In today’s episode, I will go over:

• What stonewalling is and why it happens. 
• The two types of stonewalling, and
• 3 Tips for solving this dynamic, even if you or your partner have been stuck in it for years. 

Come and join the conversation on this topic in our free FB Group (in depth trainings and live Q&A’s every Thursday) —> Heal Your Relationships

FREE tools:

• Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

• Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

Are you a Hailstorm or a Turtle?

Hailstorm = one who brings up complaints; Turtle = the one who shuts down/gets defensive and/or walks on eggshells.

To the turtle, the hailstorm seems like someone who is needy, clingy, demanding, and critical. --> "I can never satisfy her, so why try?"

To the hailstorm, the turtle seems like he/she doesn't care, is defensive, is not a team player, and maybe even selfish. --> "I'm on my own."

When we don't understand what is happening in someone's inner world, we jump to making character judgments of them.

"She is too needy."

"He is selfish."

But that's a misunderstanding at best, and a hurtful belief at worst.

On today's episode, I will be revealing what is *actually* going on underneath for each of these attachment styles.

Including, their core fears, behaviors, needs, and desires...

--> so YOU can stop going in circles, and start connecting in a deep and fulfilling way with the people in your life.

This will change the way you operate in the world.

Next week, I will be doing a DEEP DIVE into this topic with examples, as well as answering your questions, in our free FB group 'Heal Your Relationships.'

If you are not in the FB group yet, come join the conversation here:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/rm4wl 

FREE tools:

• Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter

• Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun